08-19-2005, 12:37 PM | #81 (permalink) |
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Well, I hope next time you dont just walk away. Do something about it. Perhaps call the security people over... embarrass him (atleast!)
The other day I was walking along Pier 39... (San Fran Awesome) and 3 teenage kids came running right by me, hands out.. smacking my rear quite hard. I was in shock for a good minute or so. If they weren't running, they would have been laying flat very quickly. I would have grabbed the nearest man available and kindly asked the favor. |
08-19-2005, 05:49 PM | #82 (permalink) |
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I dont think hitting him would be the best answer. I wouldnt take being hit too well, but then again there is NO WAY IN HELL I would ever even consider doing that to someone! I have a little more respect than that (okay, a lot more).
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08-19-2005, 06:45 PM | #83 (permalink) |
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That sounds like a punching, speaking from someone who spends time in a comic book shop thats over the line. I know there are ALOT of socially inept and awkward people in there buts that no excuse or free inventation to grope you. In ANY situation thats not even cool, so you should have just laid him flat acrossed the face..
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08-19-2005, 07:01 PM | #84 (permalink) |
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This happened to me when I was 15. You know how teenaged boys can be. I turned around and slapped him so hard I thought I heard something snap. It was in front of his friends and I think it was enough to embrass him into never doing something like that again. Being prepared to be aggressive in a situation like that helps. And I also think it can help cut these petty "men"down to size.
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He also suggested, as Grace and Sissy have, that I try to transfer my attitude from my classes to other situations. Treat a boy like this as if he were on of my seventh graders, most of whom are bigger than I am. I'm just not in a place where I'm able to do that right now. Gilda
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In addition to which, doing so whould have garnered the attention of everyone nearby, which is the opposite of what I want. It's embarrassing enough that it happened at all without advertising it to everyone standing nearby. Gilda
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08-19-2005, 10:10 PM | #88 (permalink) |
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One last note.
I got into to see my therapist today and talk about what happened, and he had much the same advice as many of the people in the thread were giving me--don't behave like a victim, erect firm barriers, try to project an aura of confidence even if you don't feel it, etc. He also gently pointed out that several of the things I'd done in response--retreat to a place of safety, obsessive cleaning, getting my hair cut short--are all common reactions in women who've been sexually assaulted. The weird thing is that I knew this, but didn't realize that that's why I was doing these things. I have "homework" now. I'm supposed to go back to the store, by myself if possible, find the manager and tell him what happened and give a description of the boy who fondled me so that he can watch for this in the future, and tell him about my decision not to patronize his store any more as a result. Grace can come with me, but if she does, she's supposed to wait outside in the concourse. My hairdresser, by the way, wouldn't let me get a butch hair cut, so I ended up with something a lot like in my profile picture. Gilda
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08-20-2005, 08:49 AM | #91 (permalink) |
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I think the way you described yourself...knee lenght skirt, canvas shoes, normal shirt gives off the impression of a more "weak" woman..Walking in that store, you probably felt unconfortable, seeing all those scary geeks, and it showed that you weren't so confident...
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08-20-2005, 11:10 PM | #92 (permalink) |
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Biznatch: I appreciate your advice.
If you are referring to Grace, she is my wife, and doesn't have a short temper, quite the opposite, in fact. The difference is that she has a great deal of physical confidence that I lack. -------------------- I went to the hobby store today. Grace came along to help boost my confidence. We arrived, and decided to get something to eat first. On the way to the hobby store, I saw an end of summer sale on summer dresses, and decided to stop in and see if I could pick up a bargain or two. Then I remembered that I wanted to get the new Astaire/Rogers dvd collection, so we headed over to Suncoast, to see what their price was compaed to Target. When I suggested maybe checking at Egghead to see if there were any new expansion packs for the Sims 2, Grace accused me of stalling. I was indignant. We were, after all, in the mall. Did she seriously expect me not to do any shopping? I wasn't stalling, I was just . . . prioritizing other activities. Finally, finished with my other activities, about an hour later, I went to the store. I had rehearsed with Grace what I was going to say, so I went up the clerk at the counter, and asked for the manager. The clerk went in back, and a guy who looked about 20 came out. I told him what I had rehearsed, that I had been groped in his store, described the boy who did it, and told him I wouldn't be patronizing his store any more as a result. His reaction when I described the guy who touched me seemed to indicate that he knew who I was talking about. He said maybe it would be better if I talked to the owner, who would be in the shop on Monday, and asked for my name and phone number. I gave him a business card. So that's where it stands. I now get to go back Monday, if I decide to, to talk to the owner, and tell still another person what happened to me. This just keeps getting better and better. Gilda
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08-21-2005, 06:17 AM | #94 (permalink) | |
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You may not see the reasons why certain kids get made fun of more than the others, but there are reasons.
I'm sure as a kid you knew the reasons why "Zeke" got made fun of all the time. Maybe he farted one time in class? Someone started a rumor his first day of school? He walks funny? There are reasons for all that stuff. Adults generally dismiss the rumors and forget about them, kids do not, they need to feel better than other kids, schools don't help this, gym class makes it even worst most of the time, no dress code is the worst of all that will cause this. I was, and still to this day more than likely, am one of those people who makes fun/bullies people I feel I am superior to. Although I hardly act on my feelings like that anymore, I still feel that I'm better than certain people. As for the groping, I think you read into it way too much, That's not to say that it was an "accident", of that I can't be sure. But I don't think you should believe you're being singled out for this type of thing
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I also am glad you went back to the shop, and think you SHOULD follow up with the owner. What that guy did was COMPLETELY inappropriate, to the point of actually being criminal. Obviously it is not your fault AT ALL that he did it, but possibly you speaking up and coming forward will prevent him from doing it again, or worse. Wow.....what really goes through the mind of a guy who does that?!?! I've caught myself stealing glances at a cute girl somewhere or something, but to even CONSIDER touching them? No way............
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08-21-2005, 12:07 PM | #96 (permalink) |
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Anyway, whatever you do, never back down..As others said, don't even look down. Be aware that your body is not a public groping receptacle and let it show. Cursing the guy out really loudly helps a lot. a huge "what the fuck??!?!?" would be great.
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08-21-2005, 08:00 PM | #97 (permalink) |
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Stand strong - you definitely did the right thing by going back into the store and telling the worker there your story. An asshole like that deserves whatever he can get.
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08-22-2005, 12:58 PM | #98 (permalink) |
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From the short amount I've read, you broadcasted the fact that there would be little or no consequence for his actions. Not wanting to be seen,i.e. liking the invisibility factor should always be outweighed by personal preservation. Fight, not flight (or in this case, reporting the little freak to the owner) is the appropriate response.
To answer why some kids get picked on while others don't? The targets for bullies usually back down, or attempt flailingly to fight; they get really mad when picked on. I fixed this in school by becoming something of a comic; if the bully pushed me from behind, I'd flow with the direction, tumble forward and roll into a standing position again, then thank them for helping me demonstrate my agility. I would laugh at the insults they threw at me. Eventually they picked someone else who didn't have "fun" being picked on. My brother took bullies out because he was head and shoulders above them all, and he's my younger brother. We both dealt with it the only way we could, I with my humor, him with his power and size. Everyone has the strength to defend themselves in some way, you just need to look for yours, Gilda. Let them know you aren't a target, and you won't put up with anyone harrassing you in any way. P.S. I know I'm small, but even as small as I am, if someone had decided to grab my balls or somethin', they would have gotten hurt. I have a sense of humor and everything, but that is my knee-jerk reaction when people invade my personal space without asking or having permission, dammit.
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08-22-2005, 10:35 PM | #99 (permalink) |
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I went by the hobby shop today, and talked to the owner.
I was wearing typical summer clothes, a straight tan cotton skirt, a bit short of the knee, with a white camisole top and matching tennies. I mention this because it came up in the conversation. He seemed irritated at me, and asked what I expected him to do about it. I told him that perhaps he could look out for the guy who groped me, or keep an eye on the female customers who come into the store. He said they don't get many girls in there and asked how old I was. I told him, 28, and he said maybe if I dressed and acted my age this kind of thing wouldn't happen, but he'd keep an eye out. The manner in which he said this left me doubting that much effort would be put forth, and I got the impression that he'd be happy if women never came in his store. I left. I don't know what he meant by "acting my age," and I don't think I was dressed any differently from most of the 20-something women in the mall, and in any case, neither of those things has anything to do with what happened. I serously doubt the guy thought, "That woman is dressed like a college student, therefore it is acceptible for me to touch her in an intimate way. However, if she were dressed like a woman her age, that would make such behavior offensive, therefore I will restrain myself." I don't know if any good came of this at all, but I do feel a lot better now that it's over. Gilda
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As it turns out, reporting him would have produced little consequence. What doesn't make sense to me is that if he found me attractive, why do something that is likely to produce only a negative result? In this case, I left the store. Others might have hit him. If what some have been saying about bullies here is true, maybe he wanted me to hit him so that he'd have an excuse to hurt me. If he found me attractive, and it's hard to tell from his behavior, what he did was the worst possible thing he could have done for him. I left the store. He drove me away. Maybe he saw me as invading his turf, and wanted me to leave? It's still confusing. Maybe I should just go with Sissy's explanation of why people do things like this. "Some people are jerks. The act like jerks because that's what they are. You can't change or predict them, all you can do is protect yourself. Don't expect them to act in a reasonable way or even do what is best for themselves. Assholes act that way because they enjoy it. It isn't reasonable or logical, it's just the way it is." Gilda
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08-22-2005, 11:51 PM | #102 (permalink) |
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Gilda - Sissy got it right. The guy figured he could cop a feel without you fighting back, so he did. I wish I could say that all men are gentlemanly, but unfortunately it's just not so.
And the problem with trying to be invisible is that unless you're Sue Richards and not telling us (if you are, Reed deserves an explanation) you can't actually turn invisible. When or if somebody does notice you, you come off as timid by trying not to call attention to yourself. I'm not trying to preach here, just explaining what you didn't seem clear on. In any case, best of luck and I hope you're feeling better.
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08-25-2005, 06:14 PM | #103 (permalink) |
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So the jury seems pretty solid on this now Gilda- you did nothing to invite the attention of this embarrassment to mankind except be you. That doesn't mean that you should change who you are... well with the exception of take some of the advice you've received and be encouraged by the support- especially from us blokes who are outraged by this kind of treatment of women. It's an unfortunate thing that predators can sense those who are less likely to fight back, so wherever you are turn on your spidey senses, work on that 'don't mess with me motherfucker' look and learn how to punch/knee a bloke in the nuts while screaming. Law of the jungle stuff. And find out exactly what to say and do from a legal perspective. Leave the arsehole in no doubt that you can/will fuck him up with the law too, something to think about while he's nursing a bruised ego and balls. My sociopath profiler skills come from TV, but maybe it might make a difference for him to have a record of assault.
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08-25-2005, 10:14 PM | #104 (permalink) |
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There's an old Shaolin saying: "Avoid rather than check, check rather than hurt, hurt rather than maim, maim rather than kill." Even kung fu masters know that violence is never the first answer. While Gilda didn't confront the creep, she didn't get herself into more trouble either, and I think everyone who suggested violence should stop and consider that. None of us can know what the guy's state of mind was, so none of us can know with utmost certainty what would've happened if Gilda clocked the guy or even just yelled at him. Her instinct was to move away. It's the most natural to her and the one she can choose most easily.
My suggestion, should an unfortunate situation like that happen again in a public place, would be to move away (not leave the store) and seek out staff. She wouldn't need to report the guy, just ask a random question about something. If she notices the guy still lingering, then she can either leave the store or point him out. At that point, she would be aware of the situation (not as surprised as she was before) and hopefully more able to deal with it. I understand Sissy's comment about both Gilda's confidence at school and her dependance on Grace. Since a teacher requires enough self-confidence to MAINTAIN the authority given by the school, one would expect that kind of person to have the same behaviour/self-confidence outside. However, talking to kids one sees everyday, and going through one's teaching routine, isn't the same thing as dealing with some random person who SUDDENLY invades one's personal space. I was a teacher in Japan for 2 years and I still get rattled if I get accosted by some punks on the street. As for dependance on Grace, well that's just the dynamic of the relationship. If Grace disappeared tomorrow and never came back, then Gilda would most certainly be affected. Would she develop her self-confidence more? Would she find another strong person to protect her? Who knows? The point is that she can count on Grace NOW. Only Gilda knows how to empower herself further and if she needs that power. Once she finds herself truly needing it, she'll get it.
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Agreed. There are a LOT of nuts out there these days. That's why it always floors me when people yell shit at me while I'm driving or walking around. They don't have any idea that I'm not a psycho with a gun - they're begging to die when they pull shit like that. If Gilda had smacked him or kicked him in the crotch, for all she knew he had a knife or gun and would have used it. No matter what the harm to your dignity, it's not worth the risk of getting hurt or killed over. You have to keep in mind when stuff like this happens that it's not your fault, and it does NOT degrade you as a person in any way whatsoever. The guy is the sleazeball here - you cannot have your "purity," for want of a better word, compromised by the smarmy actions of others. |
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08-26-2005, 10:42 AM | #106 (permalink) |
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I've read this thread from the start now, and not commented, simply because I had nothing new or unique to say. I find at the moment that is no longer true. You deserve to hear the same thing repeated again if it is true, and so I shall... 1: an individual is responsible for their own actions, not those of another. You did nothing wrong. 2: There is no excuse for a predator that makes this okay, and I am sure you know it, but I will say as well, not all men, not all sci-fi or comic fans are lousy worthless people... you had the misfortune to have encountered at least 2 of them in this single incident.. 3: There are ways to help protect yourself, and you may be well advised for your own security and safety to adopt some of the techiques.. being observant, looking people in the eye and being prepared for possible confrontations, projecting confidence, etc. It's unfortunate that you may need to do this, but also reality. None of this is your fault. Dressing and acting your age??? does that indicate that the manager thinks that it is appropriate to molest a teenage girl with a midriff baring shirt? probably not, she'd prolly kick him in the nuts. Idiots don't THINK before they form the stupidity that came out of his mouth. I'm really sorry that you have to deal with this at all. Bob Biter made a good statement in reference to the kung fu ideology, and I have a bit to add to that.. My thoughts on it are that I simply wish to ensure that is does not ever happen again. If that can be accomplished with a word, then so be it. If it must be taken to the next level, or to an extreme, I am willing to do that to defend my rights, my person and my property. If I perceive that I am unable to do so, I may elect not to, or to involve others. I hope this helps in some small way. (or large, I dunno.) I hate that a nice person gets shat upon and abused.
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09-01-2005, 02:28 AM | #107 (permalink) |
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So I've skimmed the thread, and like, WTF?!!!!
Isn't this like sexual assault or something. You should at least scream very loud, get the guy apprehended, and let the police deal with it! At the very least, women that get groped should report it to the police. What's all this "self-defense", "punch-him-in-the-face" crap. "Send-him-to-jail" sounds more like it... |
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09-01-2005, 04:46 PM | #110 (permalink) |
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For your safty. DO NOT punch or kick a guy in the balls. I am 6'2" and weigh 215 pounds. I've trained in martial arts for 4 years and can take a punch in the balls. I gotten in some fights and when someone punches me in the balls, I will not hesitate to beat their head into a wall. Most men can take even the hardest hit(or wear a cup) and then harm you severely. Just walk away.
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09-02-2005, 08:53 AM | #111 (permalink) |
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Wow! I could never imagine just walking over to a girl a grabbing her boob. I mean, I'm a guy, and I personally LOVE boobs... but still. Wow! Personally, the number one reason why I wouldn't do such a thing is because it's a disgusting lecherous thing to do. A close second would be fear of the girl slapping the crap out of me. Third would be her boyfriend kicking my ass.
Honestly, I'm stocky and the military has helped keep my strength up over the years. I have short buzzed hair and look more like a jock than the geek I really am. I go to hobby shops and gaming stores on a semi-regular basis and when I do, often my wife will go in and browse about to prevent boredom. If some dweeby guy sidled up next to her and grabbed her boob, he would be in for the fright of his life, I assure you. As for what to do about it? Be more assertive. You have it in you if you're able to use the "hello" defense, which is basically a mild scare tactic. You could use the Gaz tactic (from Invader Zim) and just ooze personality. That'll scare all but the staunchest pervert away. Also it may attract people of a similar mindset, which isn't a wholly bad thing. |
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Attracting attention to myself is absolutely the last thing I'm going to do in a situation like this. Having a dozen people turning to watch us had I hit or slapped, or yelled or otherwise made a scene would have been as bad as what happened in the first place. I have learned how to handle it. I left the situation, and wasn't harmed further. It won't happen again because I won't go back there. I play it safe whenever I can by avoiding potentially dangerous situations and by not going out by myself the vast majority of the time. Gilda
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09-02-2005, 05:19 PM | #113 (permalink) |
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I'm very glad that you feel better about it, and that you got up the courage to speak to the store owner about it, even if he is a weeb who may not take any actions based on your complaint. I hope such things never happen to you again. In fact, I hope such things never happen to anyone, but sadly I know otherwise.
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09-02-2005, 07:20 PM | #114 (permalink) |
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As people have said you were in a comic book store, in their territory so to speak, a woman in a comic book store is an unusual sight and this guy probably didn't know how to handle it >_< I'm not defending him, this definetly shouldn't have happened, you should have stood your ground and made a scene. By succumbing to such an act you let him acheive what he wanted over you and that was power. He made YOU feel small and that's what he wanted. If this ever happens again stare at him and yell out for him to get his hand off your breast, let the world know what he's just done. Make him feels small.
I would also talk to your friend Grace about what she trains in, ask her if it's not too much trouble to teach you some basic techniques that will disable a person quickly. You would be suprised how much just bending back a single finger in the wrong direction causes someone to submit. If you are of a smaller frame and don't wish to do anything violent, I would suggest looking into a style like Aikido, I personally have practiced this style and can tell you that there is basically no effort required on the person defending themselves, it is based on using a person energy against them (Going with the flow and bending joints the way they aren't supposed to go). This choice I leave purely up to you Take Care
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10-11-2005, 06:13 AM | #115 (permalink) |
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Gilda. Good has come from your courage to share your experience- I learnt stuff, some of which I'll pass on to my own daughter when she's old enough to be in public by herself. Thank you and may your world be a safer place despite the idiots.
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10-11-2005, 06:55 AM | #116 (permalink) | |
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I'm a little angry. I was a petite, blonde, blue eyed boy and nobody groped me. I was a damn hot little boy. In my teens, I did get groped by girls a couple of times. I'm sure it's entirely not the same as having a tenth ton hobby store geek grope an adult woman. Unlike shoolyard bullies, this groper most likely didn't want any noise made whatsoever, so it would be a great time to yell. It would embarass him, hopefully enough so that he doesn't do it to others. I wouldn't recommend any violence. Adult altercations tend to end up in court. If he's slimy enough to get his jollies out of groping, he'd no doubt take it to court if you knee'd him. The owner? an unbelievable asshat. As posted above, people who own these kinds of stores are pretty much like the clients - aka Comic Book Store Guy - worst. social graces. EVER.
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well as a man our so called kryptonite is the balls. for some reason women cant comprehend how much it hurts to be hit here. all it would take was a fist to them to make me crumple on the ground. also as a man sex or women come into our mind about every thirty seconds or so. we may fantasize about doing somthing like this, but in any way shape or form it is not appropriate and can be very damaging. i do see thaat you had a very emotional reaction to it, i think that is this guy so what it did to you he wouldnt have. but the world is so fucked up today who knows.
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10-16-2005, 01:08 PM | #119 (permalink) | |
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10-17-2005, 07:31 AM | #120 (permalink) |
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Not only is that assault, it's sexual assault. You could complain to the comic store owner, or have the police investigate. As a man and comic lover myself, I feel completely degraded that someone would pull such a thing. I have seen the number of girls looking at comics rising lately, especially with manga and anime. My fiance is an avid comic reader. I feel that any guy who thnks a cute girl looking at comics (or anything considered "male territory") is out of place or inviting guys to look at her are idiots. A man who assaults a lady in any way, especially sexual assault, has lost his right to be called a man, and is not a monster/animal. Seriously, that guy should be in jail. Maybe his new room mate "Bubba" will scare it out of him.
I really feel sorry for you. I've known another friend who was felt up in public and it is a hard thing to get over. It is easier to console in a loved one. As for the size problem... I am a martial artist and I know that it is very very easy for a small, gentle girl to control a large strong man, without having to resort to his "package". By pulling back on his middle finger and twisting his hand, you can bring him to the ground with extremem ease. Be careful though, if you go too far, you can break his hand and arm, and that can lead to other problems. Take it a step at a time and remember you are a good person, and he was merely scum. |
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