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Originally Posted by match000
You should at least scream very loud, get the guy apprehended, and let the police deal with it!
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Originally Posted by denim
As soon as he blamed the victim (you) for not DRESSING PROPERLY, your volume should have gone through the roof as you excoriated his sorry ass for his attitude.
Of course it attracts attention. What, you think you literally disappear? The only way you're going to be invisible in some location is to NOT BE THERE. If you're there, you're going to be visible. You've GOT to learn how to handle this. I'm sorry.
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When I say "be invisible," I mean that in a figurative sense. There's a reason Shrinking Violet is my avatar. My goal when I'm in a public place is not to be noticed until it's time for me to be served, or I'm ready to buy. I avoid shopping in places where they "pride themselves on customer service," as I'd just prefer to pick out what I want and bring it to the cashier when I'm done shopping.
Attracting attention to myself is absolutely the last thing I'm going to do in a situation like this. Having a dozen people turning to watch us had I hit or slapped, or yelled or otherwise made a scene would have been as bad as what happened in the first place.
I have learned how to handle it. I left the situation, and wasn't harmed further. It won't happen again because I won't go back there. I play it safe whenever I can by avoiding potentially dangerous situations and by not going out by myself the vast majority of the time.
Gilda