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Gilda · 08-22-2005, 10:35 PM

I went by the hobby shop today, and talked to the owner.

I was wearing typical summer clothes, a straight tan cotton skirt, a bit short of the knee, with a white camisole top and matching tennies. I mention this because it came up in the conversation.

He seemed irritated at me, and asked what I expected him to do about it. I told him that perhaps he could look out for the guy who groped me, or keep an eye on the female customers who come into the store. He said they don't get many girls in there and asked how old I was. I told him, 28, and he said maybe if I dressed and acted my age this kind of thing wouldn't happen, but he'd keep an eye out. The manner in which he said this left me doubting that much effort would be put forth, and I got the impression that he'd be happy if women never came in his store. I left.

I don't know what he meant by "acting my age," and I don't think I was dressed any differently from most of the 20-something women in the mall, and in any case, neither of those things has anything to do with what happened. I serously doubt the guy thought, "That woman is dressed like a college student, therefore it is acceptible for me to touch her in an intimate way. However, if she were dressed like a woman her age, that would make such behavior offensive, therefore I will restrain myself."

I don't know if any good came of this at all, but I do feel a lot better now that it's over.

Gilda

08-22-2005, 10:35 PM	#99 (permalink)
Gilda 32 flavors and then some Location: Out on a wire.	I went by the hobby shop today, and talked to the owner. I was wearing typical summer clothes, a straight tan cotton skirt, a bit short of the knee, with a white camisole top and matching tennies. I mention this because it came up in the conversation. He seemed irritated at me, and asked what I expected him to do about it. I told him that perhaps he could look out for the guy who groped me, or keep an eye on the female customers who come into the store. He said they don't get many girls in there and asked how old I was. I told him, 28, and he said maybe if I dressed and acted my age this kind of thing wouldn't happen, but he'd keep an eye out. The manner in which he said this left me doubting that much effort would be put forth, and I got the impression that he'd be happy if women never came in his store. I left. I don't know what he meant by "acting my age," and I don't think I was dressed any differently from most of the 20-something women in the mall, and in any case, neither of those things has anything to do with what happened. I serously doubt the guy thought, "That woman is dressed like a college student, therefore it is acceptible for me to touch her in an intimate way. However, if she were dressed like a woman her age, that would make such behavior offensive, therefore I will restrain myself." I don't know if any good came of this at all, but I do feel a lot better now that it's over. Gilda __________________ I'm against ending blackness. I believe that everyone has a right to be black, it's a choice, and I support that. ~Steven Colbert