Mad_Gecko

I just got the big fuck you from my neighbours, because I was too loud.

How do you define too loud?

(bear in mind it is 10pm where I live and I will shut the system down b4 12)..

I really want to entertain my guests till 12am, before closing the party down. The police say it's allowed for me to be loud till midnight.

How do you keep all parties happy?

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Peetster

When I was living at a fraternity, we'd always do stuff for the neighbors like shovel walks and rake leaves. It's amazing what a little help like that will do to improve their tolerance levels.

Lebell

Most people think that relatively loud music is ok until 9 or 10, but after that, courtesy suggests you turn it down.

Not everyone shares your musical taste, nor does everyone want to "Rock 'n Roll" all night long.

Some people like to sleep after 9 or 10

Have you actually talked to your neighbor? Did you tell them about the party? Did you ask them how late they stayed up?

Like most things, communication followed by friendly compromise is the best course of action.

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Mael

keep the music up, tell your neighbors to fuck off. more people at the party who will be upset than neighbors. go for making the greater number of people happy.

Mad_Gecko

They were invited.. I did stick a notice up explaining this was gonna be the solstice party before the days got shorter...

And this flat would be havin' a party.. Argh.. I don't wanna be unreasonable, but I don't wanna bend to their rules either.. Where is the middle ground?

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LittleOralAnnie

I think Kiss said it best with, "I want to rock n' roll all night, and party everyday!" I find it strange that the police would say 12 is the appropriate time to turn things down. Around 10pm here is usually what most people go by.

WhoaitsZ

mad, first thing i wanna say is ignore the above advice. things like this is why people hate other people so often.

I think it great that you actually care.

my suggestion is to try to talk to them about i t during the day, when its calmer. if they just insist on it being o loud ask what exactly was it that was too loud. and why, too.

some people, like my mom, gets outrageously sick when under extreeme stress... so it wouldn't hurt to find out.

if they refuse to compromise, in the end, i'd just ignore them. if they call the police, explain it to them.

and like someone else mentioned, maybe pick up a chorse like raking leaves without being asked.

people can be pleasant at times.

then if they aren't, do what Bones said

tinfoil

Ya, but you have to live beside the neighbours.

I had the same problem with my old neighbours. They were constantly fighting and she was a screamer. It wasn't fun. If I had my music up to a reasonable level they would bitch and pound on the walls. I would turn it down easily if they would call and say, hey cuold you turn it down a bit, but they instead were rude about it so I was as well.

krwlz

The problem is this, we are all very self centered. If everyone (including the neighbors) was to say,
"you know what? They seem like they are having fun, and it doesnt happen all the time, so fuck it, Ill make the small sacrifice today"
or
"Hey I know I play my music loud a lot, maybe I ought to make the sacrifice and keep it down most of the time"or whatever makes someones life just that much easier.

gov135

Holy Smoke. Beat me by twenty minutes. I was just about to say the exact same thing.

The girlfriend has neighbors that are younger than we are... sometimes it gets out of hand and sometimes (most times) we just grin and bear it. We figure, "they are young, wtf."

You are so right about people being self-centered, krwlz. Take a pill, chill out, and realize others are living lives, too. Some nice, old-fashioned(?), give-and-take goes a long way.

uncle phil

as long as the bass isn't tearing my eardrums out, party on...

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VirFighter

We face this a lot on the hall at school. We try to be civil as much as possible and most of the time it works out.

The general rule of thumb for us was usually, if it's during day and you don't like their music then turn it up louder, whoever's got more power wins

At night it was expected to respect each other by using headphones or keeping it at reasonable level. Also, playing Dance-Dance Revolution at 2 am is not a good idea when there are people below you.

But being polite went a long way. Sure there was the occasional asshole but one the whole things went well. So, like others have said, have a talk with your neighbors and get their input and work something out that will please all parties as much as possible. If they are assholes... then see my rule for daytime noise

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MacGnG

turn volume UP and bass DOWN

if u turn the bass down then neighbors cant hear the thump and wont know, and it'll still be at party volume.

another thing is to tell your neighbors that u are having a party just to give them a heads up, that way you'll both be considerate, adn invite them if its that kinda party.

guthmund

So....you want to get along with your neighbors????

I've never gotten along with any set of neighbors I've ever lived by. I pay the rent; I get the privileges thereof. As long as I'm not breaking the law, I tell 'em to go home - or better yet, come on in and join the party

The world would a much better place if everyone would pull their underwear out of their ass sometimes and get along.

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BoCo

You're an ass. I hope your neighbors cause all kinds of problems for you in the future to teach you a lesson. Not everyone has the same schedule as you, and you need to be considerate of that. I used to have an asshole who liked to play his tuba at 10pm on Sunday nights when I had to be up by 5am to go to work on Monday. After a few weeks of this crap, I just went to his door, punched it until he opened it, and told him to knock it off (only I used the word "fuck" multiple times to get my point across). I never heard that dude's horn again...ever. Just be glad I don't live next to you or that party would have been over before 9:00.

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dim5

If this is a once in a blue moon thing, then the neighbors are full of shit. But if you're doing this every single weekend, I could see how that might get annoying. Back in college I was ready to kill the guys down the hall. Coming in on Saturday night and seeing a vomit-filled bathroom is not fun. The low point was when they had a keg party at 9:00 AM. Argh, memories.

LewisCouch

How do you define too loud?

Simple. Get an inexpensive dB meter (RadioShack) and measure the level at the street. I'm assuming you live in a single residence home rather than an apartment. In most cities the acceptable level is a paltry 65 dB, however, usually there is a cutoff time such as 10pm as well.

Remember, you have to live with your neighbors, your friends can come and go.

"Beware the fury of a patient man"

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sierra2774

Live on 6 acres, then you don't have to worry about noise.

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when i hook up a jam at my place,i always let the neighbours now i'm havin' a party and that the instruments will be LOUD.but ,i usually tone it down around 11 or 12 and that's when we bring out the acoustic guitars and mellow out a bit.

been doin' that for years and have never had a prob with the cops or neighbours.

thrown some wild parties too,and sometimes the guy next door wants to play as well.

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eyeseepeedude

too loud = being able to hear someone on the first floor when you're living on the third floor...

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denim

Sounds like you've got a good system.

The worst I remember dealing with was in my first year of college. I and a roommate were in a double. One weekend, some asshole in ANOTHER BUILDING was blasting Lionel Ritchie "Sexual Healing" (IIRC, it's been literally 20 years) so loud it kept EVERYONE up. Whaddya do in that situation? We just gritted our teeth and hoped that someone beat the shit out of that guy the next day.

Daval

This is the best suggestion on the board.

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shalafi

I used to have downstairs neighbors from hell. The first people down there were great. I never even met them. Then these assholes moved in. Actually the guy was alright but his wife was a bitch (not just my opinion, the complex manager and the cops agreed). They used to call the cops on us for being to loud when someone walked to the bathroom. I finally unhooked the tv and stereo and piled them by the door so i could show the cops the shit wasnt even hooked up when they made their nightly visit. Once they even called the cops when we werent even home. We got home just as he was ariving and followed him up the stairs and when he went to our door asked him if we could help him he said he had a noise complaint about our appartment. He wasnt ammused when one of my roomies made a crack about how we must have been REALLY loud if they heard us from the bar across the street. Another time when they called the cops the deputy that lived in the complex went to their appartment and hung out for half an hour and listened. He told them he wished his neighbors were as quiet as us and if they couldnt handle living in an appartment they needed to move to montana or something.

Moral of the story......bitchy neighbors suck ass.....im inclined to take Mad_Gekos side on this.....but then im biased

Troublebot

Denim, Hope I don't sound like a dick, but Marvin Gaye recorded "Sexual Healing," not Lionel Richie. Plus Marvin Gaye never had that bad geri curl that Lionel was known to sport.

I play drums and when I've set them up in the basement before, I usually go around to my neighbors homes with a letter. I tell them who I am and that I'll be practicing on occasion. If the drums get too loud, or I'm playing them at a bad time, just give me a call. Never had a complaint and I've been plenty loud.

For parties, I agree with sierra, go out to the country. You can be loud as hell and there's always the possiblity of lighting stuff on fire.

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denim

No, I was expecting a correction if I got it wrong. So it was Marvin Gaye. All I know is that I was left wanting the person responsible for the noise to encounter serious pain.

Cynthetiq

as a host of parties with hundreds of people, I've done some odd things. First I didn't drink at my own party, why? Because I didn't want to wake up with the house TOTALLY thrashed. I wanted to be able to monitor what's happening and throw people out accordingly.

Second, when its' 11pm, I'd call the cops on my own party. Why? Because I threw a party to party, not just worry about my shit getting thrashed, so I'd tell a small set of people to leave when the cops show up to get the crowd to leave also, and to return 20 minutes later.

Then we'd party with the noise levels at a reasonable level until 6am....

as soon as I woke up, I'd go out with a bunch of the people who spent the nigt and walked the neighborhood and picked up all the cigarette butts/packs, beer bottles, emtpy six pack holders, and in general clean up the neighborhood.

enjoy.

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Bill O'Rights

Ha!! I did the same thing, only I bought a CD of various Scottish bagpipe music for about $4.95. Set it for repeat and went to work.

If you're having a party, set a reasonable time to cut the volume and let the neighbors know about it. Don't throw noisy parties every single weekend. Be considerate of the others that you live around and it goes a long way.

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Polka! what a grand idea!

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MSD

I'm stil not seeing the objection to Polka and Bagpipes. Maybe it's bad really loud and prolonged, but Polka is great to dance to, and I just don't see the problem with bagpipes.

My definition of "too loud" was the time I thought someone on the next street had their music up too loud outside, preventing me from sleeping. I found out the next day that it was a concert at a local university, 4 miles away. That's too loud.

denim

What would you suggest as the proverbial Bad Music? Barbara Streisand? Rap? Englebert Humperdink? Big Band?

Who said "If it's too loud, you're too old"?

slant eyes

i lived in an apartment where the neighbors upstairs would like wrestle every night/morning. i'm a guy, wrestling is a god given right, but at 3 am? c'mon. i walked up there half naked, knocked on the door and asked if they could tone it down, no problems since.

at my parents house, my neighbor threw a huge party once. we were told of it, and we told them that it was cool, but that we had to get up at 4am to open the family run business). they partied loud til midnite and we bit the bullet since we had an understanding. they then partied loud until 2am. at that point, we called the cops to have the party dispersed. the neighbor's kid that threw the party never spoke to us again, but in my opinion, it was his own damn fault.

it's always good to be courteous but don't abuse any compromises you've come to.

2 weeks ago, some african american neighbors (live 4 houses down) threw a monster ass get together. although it's not their fault, their guests were the lamest ass rude bitches ever. they idled in their cars in the middle of the streets, blockin traffic and just chatted with other idling cars of the same party. they hung around my driveway even while i was trying to back out with my car and just stood there, blocking me. the next morning, there was trash all over my lawn and all over the neighborhood. i haven't said anything to the hosts of the party yet as it wasn't all their fault, but rest assured if it happens a second time, they'll hear from me.

on another note, speaking of noise. some kids have those go-peds and love riding it around my house. i let them be, let them have their fun. but there's a girl they want to impress next door to me, so what do they do? they fuckin gun it right at my house with me sleeping in the front room. normally, i tolerate this, but they do it til 11:30 at nite. makes me want to break out the pellet gun and shoot them assholes. oh yeah, they're cowards too, they pick on the kid across the street and many of my neighbors have gotten out chasing them before.

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Mad_Gecko

UPDATE:

Well, I spoke to my neighbours last week and all is well.

They were ok with the noise except for the Bass and the choice of music (2 Live Crew). MacGnG n Duval were right. So all's well that ends well.

I don't have these parties every weekend and next time I will check the Bass levels.

It was good to see people's different tolerance levels and the experiences they had, thank you. Although to the intolerant I have a particular dislike and would probably increase my noise levels and general annoyance factor just to see you lose your rag.

I generally want to get along with everyone but asshats.

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