streak_56

well.... I've recently been threatened with my life, but I just laughed at it. The person who threatened me was my ex best friends gf, and I'm afraid that I have failed to grasp the seriousness of this situation. Shes 15, my friend is 19, and I don't know whether I should be serious about this. Shes threatened to have me killed a couple times before, but this time the police got involved. Another question I have is... whether death threats are more prevailent in like a city setting or in the boonies.... because I've lived in the country for most of my life, and I have never heard of people telling other people they want to kill another. But my friends gf, is from the city and I don't know if thats a factor.

And the reason for this is really quite stupid, I've tried resolving it, but nothing good has come from it.

Thanks for your help


STREAK_56

f6twister

The answer to this really depends on how much you know about her and if you think she really has the means to carry out her threat. Since people say crap like, "I'll kill you" or "I'll kick your ass" on a daily basis, it is usually hard to tell how serious the threat really is.

City or country doesn't make much of a difference. They have access to the same deadly methods.

If she said it in a serious manner then I would treat it as a possibility.

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thinktank

She's 15. It's all talk. I've had my life threatened plenty of times, but i'm typing right now. Your best bet is not to hang out with people who date the severly underage... this guy is obviously a little off dating a child, so it's not too suprising that the person he's dating is off too.

guthmund

I've been threatened with a beating many times, but only once has someone given me a death threat. It wasn't all that serious. Just some young guy and his testosterone working overtime.



Since she's young and hot headed, chances are it's all talk. If you're worried about, go the cops. If you're not, well, fuck it. Next time she threatens you tell her "if you strike me down, I shall become more powerful than you can imagine." and do the Jedi thing with your fingers. If she didn't want to kill you before, chances are the embarassment from your response will take her the rest of the way.

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JumpinJesus

You say that the police got involved. What's the situation with that? Was it a result of her threat or something that contributed to it?

If she's off her rocker, then she very well may be serious. It might be all talk, but is this something you really want to chance? Like F6twister said, it doesn't matter if she's from the city or not...if she's serious.

Someone needs to know about this, someone in the position to do something about it.

Good luck.

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Suave

I don't know by statistics, but I'd say the larger the population, generally the likelier things like death threats will be. In very small communities, where everyone is all up in everyone else's business, it would have great ramifications to make a death threat against someone else. In larger populations, the relative anonymity of it makes it easier.

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Rlyss

That's crazy, you don't need to deal with that, whether it's real or just talk. Call the police, tell them about it and mention any other illegal stuff she might be doing and let them deal with it. If the police have been involved with her before, particularly if it involved death threats, then I'd say they'll investigate this.

I can see why this guy might be your ex-best friend, dating a litle girl who makes death threats, he sounds like a real winner.

Grancey

Report this to the police. You never know what someone might do for some stupid reason. It happens all the time. You should get a restraining order against this person.

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Arroe

well, yeah, it really depends how she said it.

I tell my friends all the time "I'll kick your ass," or "I'll kill you, mothafucka!" but I say it in a joking way.

Sometimes when they are being assholes I'll tell them to shut up and if they don't stop I'll threaten to hurt them but again, I'm not really being serious, and I think they know that too, it just gets the point across that they are being annoying.

They do the same stuff back too, yesterday a girl said she'd castrate me in my sleep... obviously I would have flipped out if I thought she was serious, but when someone is laughing when they say something like that they reallly mean it.

I would never talk that way with someone who isn't my friend though, because I know my friends can tell when I'm kidding but a stranger might not know if I am serious or not. I don't think my friends would do that either.



Now, if this girl came at your with a knife or gun and said "I'm going to kill you," then I'd take it serious. But if she said it playfully I don't think it was a real threat to your life.

Justsomeguy

If she is 15, she will probably kill herself before she kills you. Also, continue to let the police get involved.

Young teenagers often really do have issues that get overlooked. But, damn, I'm surprised by how many bitch and moan about how bad life is when they have a computer, an x-box, a tv/dvd player, and mommy and daddy constantly give them money. What a depressing life!

Mephisto2

I have nothing more to add than say Rlyss has hit it on the head.

Not only should this be reported to the police, but this girl needs to realize that threatening to kill someone is wrong, is stupid and is a crime. Sounds like she's a real fuck-up.

The issue of whether you are concerned for your own safety is a personal one. But this girl needs to be punished.


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Schwan

Death threats, especially coming from a young person like her, are a sign that she's out of touch with the basic rules that govern the society. This might be due either to background problems (problems in the family, etc.), or a sickness (schozofrenia can attack young people, and this might be one of it's effects). Anyhow, the thing to do is to inform the police. If its just anti-social behaviour, then there's a chanse she & her family will get the message and stop this. If its a sickness, then the only people that can help are proffesionals. Now it all depends how much you care for that person - if you don't, stay away. If you do, have a chat with her family & proffesionals to see how to get her help.

Halx

I've received death threats before. From a dude who I used to play games online against. His son, daughter and wife also played. I used to beat them down like nothing else. Then laugh at them. They all lived up in San Jose, which is more of a suburban area.

It went like this: I received an invitation to join a server to play some Unreal Tournament. I join and there are 5 members of this clan [MK] (with names from Mortal Kombat video games) and.. me. I had a friend of mine join the server with me, so it became 4 on 2. Now, for posterity, this server was located in northern california, while I still lived near LA, so these [MK] guys obviously had better connections than me. That didn't matter though. We whooped their asses so fucking hard, it was the start of a long, hated rivalry. (oh wait.. rivarlies actually include competition)

To make a long story short, though, they started practicing... and specifically went after me and my other team members when they found them in public servers. It was suspicious how they went from 'sucky' to 'competent' so fast, but never the less, I continued to dominate them. In fact, I played better against skill than I do against crap, so it only pissed them off further. Eventually, it got personal and I received many insults and threats from these people. One was specifically that this guy would come to my house and beat me to death with a baseball bat.

I would say, "Parents, don't let your kids game unsupervised," but when it's the parents who are flagrantly INSANE - something is fucking wrong.

In conclusion, death threats are not a phenomenon, they are a product of irrational hate. Many times it equates to insanity.

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Squishor

If you even suspect that she wasn't joking, then it might be worth taking seriously. I'm not the type to run to the cops over every little thing, but your post kind of strikes a chord because in my (medium-sized) town we recently had an incident where a 13-year old girl stabbed another girl in some disute over a boy. In the week or two since then, I've seen several other reports of stabbings involving teenagers. It seems to be some sort of trend, and we all know stabbings can be fatal.

L.A. Kief

Report her to the cops and report your friend for having sex with a minor.

Painted

Minors can't have sex at all (legally, at least), so you could charge her with battery (or whatever yelling death threats at someone is) and underage sex (probably .5-2 years imprisonment) and you can charge him with having sex with a minor (2-5 years and register as a sex offender).. that is if the court even takes in this case.

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MSD

I've gotten enough death threats that even if someone held a gun out and threatened to kill me, I would probably laugh as they shot me. Give me another two months fo paperwork to go through and I'll laugh until I shoot back.

Journeyman

One of my room mates liked to joke about killing me in my sleep (he's small, I'm big, so it makes sense). Then over time they've come to realize (as I've always known but not really payed attention to too much) that I often talk in my sleep and occassionally move and do shit. The current joke is that I'm going to kill them in my sleep.

basmoq

I say you take the simple way out and just have her killed first...JK

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You can say, "she's a 15-year-old, she doesn't mean it," but we had a case a year or two back in my town where a high-school-age girl, 15 or not much older, took a shot and somebody and wounded her. It wasn't a gang thing either; some high school girl clique turned on a girl they didn't like, pushed her around, one of them hauled out a gun and threatened her with it as part of the fun, and then it suddenly seemed like a good idea to shoot her with it.

It sounds like you've already reported this to the cops. Be sure that the cops, her parents, and her school knows what's happening. Go on the record officially. And stay away from her. If _she_ seeks you out, especially if she continues the threats, report them to everybody including the cops. Threats of physical harm are illegal.

streak_56

Well, my ex friend has threatened me too, and hes the person I'm the most worried about. Considering the week before he got into a fight at a local bar. He has anger issues, big ego, and hes very condescending (sp?). Thats pretty much why I don't hang out with him anymore. Oh, and for informations sake, hes had a gf that was 14. His current gf, also, from what I've been told has serious connections to the Slovakian mafia in Calgary. Which I think it total crap, theres also rumors that she had a hit on someone, he had the tips of his fingers burned with a cigarette lighter. But she has a history of lying, and thats pretty much why I think I'm not taking this that seriously.

I pretty much don't talk to them, I sent him an e-mail trying to tell him what I think, how I feel, and to generally get this whole thing over, but to no avail, it only made things worse. So, I told him that I wasn't going to say anything to him for a little while, to let him and his gf figure things out. And with me, I talked this all over with my gf and my dad, and they both said I've dealt with this in a good way. So, I'm just going to enjoy my time with my other friends and gf.

The police thing was weird. First she threatened me, I thought nothing of it, because shes 15, and well.... maturity isn't her strong point. He threatened me, I called the police and told them all about the situation, they said there wasn't much they could do other than to warn him. Then she told his ex-gf, who I am somewhat good friends with, that she (the current gf) was going to kill me the next time she sees me. So after that I sent a final e-mail saying that I'm not going to do anything with either of them, nor will I say anything.

Thank You for all of the replies

STREAK_56