10-24-2005, 05:21 PM | #1 (permalink) |
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Oral Sex and Sexually Transmitted Diseases: What risks?
Hi people. I wanted to know if there were any risk in practising fellatio/cunnilingus on your partner when either one is infected with a sexually transmitted disease. Do you have any info on that?
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10-24-2005, 05:29 PM | #2 (permalink) | |
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A quick google search on "STDs from oral sex" turned up a variety of results, with this being one of them. The website has a variety of information on the risk of transmission and also how to have oral sex with protection - and goes into a variety of protection methods. If you don't know much about it, it's worth a read.
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10-24-2005, 05:54 PM | #3 (permalink) |
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Yes, there is a risk, as Pragma explained. If you are suspicious, I highly recommend using a dental dam when going down on her, and using a condom for when she goes down on you. There's no other way to be sure that you are safe, if you don't know each other's sexual histories, haven't been tested, etc. (Do you know each other's history, and have you been tested?)
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10-24-2005, 06:01 PM | #5 (permalink) |
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hoooo boy. No, I mean tested for every STD that they can test you for. When I've done it, I just asked them to run all the tests they had... it's a good habit to get in to. Keep in mind that not all STD's are testable... many don't even manifest themselves, even if you are infected... so you can still transmit them without knowing it. (HPV is a good example, and it can be transmitted even when using condoms.) I suggest you educate yourself on all sexually-related matters as quickly as possible, for your own good as well as your partner's. Also, to talk over everything with her as openly as possible.
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10-24-2005, 06:02 PM | #6 (permalink) | |
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In terms of casual sex, that's just not practical, which is where the rubbers/dental dams come into play. They do make flavoured condoms, y'know.
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10-24-2005, 06:20 PM | #8 (permalink) | |||
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I mean what is the purpose of testing each other? Is it to have unprotected sex? Quote:
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10-24-2005, 07:42 PM | #9 (permalink) | |
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Secondly, if your partner does not know you have HepB, you need to tell them, NOW. Do not wait. Then you need to see about getting her a HepB vaccination, pronto, in case of accidental exposure (she should have one anyways, they're always a good idea). The point of communicating about sexual histories is not necessarily to have unprotected sex. Condoms do break; dental dams slip. STDs and pregnancy are risks that need to be discussed. Besides, if you can't talk about these things with a partner, you probably shouldn't be having sex with them. Frank discussion is ESSENTIAL to good, healthy sexual relationships, and if you can't do it, you should seriously consider celibacy. Good luck.
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10-24-2005, 08:03 PM | #11 (permalink) | |
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Sex is SERIOUS business. Sorry to be dramatic, but sex can eventually kill or seriously damage a person from a single moment of carelessness, where something got transmitted because you or she didn't want to take a moment to think ahead. Obviously I don't advocate repression or waiting till marriage, but jesus man, take a cold shower and realize how dangerous sex can be... then proceed with caution, EVERY ** SINGLE ** TIME. I say these things not to be harsh, but to provide a wake-up call for a situation that could do you or your partner serious harm. There is no such thing as "heat of the moment" if you are both mature enough to be having sex.
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10-24-2005, 08:08 PM | #12 (permalink) | |
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"Carried away in the moment" is how people get pregnant, get STDs, and a lifetime of misery. Stop. Think. Have safe sex.
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10-24-2005, 08:29 PM | #13 (permalink) |
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Yeah, I agree. But don't get me wrong. I am not thinking about unprotected sex. Of course, sex should be safe all the time. I'm just thinking, what if you don't know your partner well enough, but you want to have sex, you plan on using a condom, everything is fine, things are heating up. Should you just stop and say "Hey, did you take STD tests?"
Another point. What if all is going well, and your partner suddenly starts to motion towards giving you oral sex. Is it that risky as to prevent her from doing it? Last edited by iblade; 10-24-2005 at 08:31 PM.. |
10-24-2005, 08:47 PM | #14 (permalink) |
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iblade - As a healthy carrier it's easy for you to forget the potential consequences of the disease you carry, but they can be very serious. Any sexual partner needs to know about the infection; if you can't trust them with the information you probably shouldn't be having sex anyway.
Nobody's advocating abstinence here. If you use proper protection and everyone knows the risks involved, there's no reason for you not to have sex. There should be no sexual contact, be it vaginal, oral or anal, without proper protection. Again, there's a reason they make flavoured condoms and no, she does not have taste buds down there. With proper care, the risk is small. Unprotected, it's huge. You owe it to her and yourself to be safe every time.
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10-24-2005, 09:05 PM | #15 (permalink) |
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I think that from now on, I will always mention the problem beforehand. The thing is, when I went to see a specialist for HBV, he told me that all I needed to care about was using a condom when having sex. That is why, since I always make sure we're using a condom, I didn't feel the need to tell it. We talked about it because she had a problem recently. But still, I don't think the risks are that high for transmission through oral sex.
How many of you always check everything before moving on to oral sex, or use protections for oral sex? |
10-24-2005, 09:42 PM | #16 (permalink) | |
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I think if you keep yourself clean and well maintained below the belt, you should be good to go. I'll bet most people are concered about smell during oral sex and not a dread disease.
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10-24-2005, 09:57 PM | #17 (permalink) | |
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As an aside, I'd rather have a handjob than receive oral sex wearing a condom... |
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10-24-2005, 10:02 PM | #18 (permalink) | |
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I agree I do not meet these requirements. If I did not pay attention to it, it is because a hepatitis specialist (gastro anterologue in French) told me I only needed to make sure about using a condom when having sex. I consider asking my dad (whose a doctor) soon about the dangerosity of oral sex. Now in my situation what do you think is the best course of action? |
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10-24-2005, 10:44 PM | #19 (permalink) | |
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Nobody knows for certain whether or not they have an infection. Nobody knows for certain whether they have cancer or a potentially fatal heart defect either. Anyeurisms can happen instantaneously and be quite fatal. Life is controlled risk. I get my tests done and take my chances. That has no bearing on your situation; you absolutely know that you are a carrier for this illness, you know it can be transmitted orally. Turn the tables around; would you want to go down on a girl with HPV or herpes without knowing? I'm guessing not. The risk may not be huge orally, but lets not forget the potential consequences. Scirrhosis springs to mind, which can be fatal. I don't know if I can stress that enough. She can die by contracting this from you. Do you really want to take that chance? If it's a long-term relationship, vaccination is a viable option. Hell, even if it's not it might be worth looking into on her part. Until and if she gets that vaccine, you cannot take any chances.
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10-24-2005, 11:04 PM | #20 (permalink) |
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Hum. Yeah, I know. I agree with you that she needs to know if there is a risk. I already told her.
If I didn't before, it was because a specialist told me that I only needed to be careful with the sex part, and use a condom. I thought the rest was risk free. Now I'd like to have a specialist's point of view on the matter of Oral sex before taking any other decision. |
10-24-2005, 11:09 PM | #21 (permalink) | |
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I was checking out the web on hepatitis B this morning and I found this:
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10-24-2005, 11:54 PM | #22 (permalink) |
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After making some research on the net, I notice that most sites with information about HBV do not mention oral sex as being a factor of transmission. Neither did my doctor who took care of my HBV case.
However, most sites that deal about oral sex do claim that there is a risk of transmission for STD. So my question is what should I do from now on? Should I stop considering oral sex as a whole? Personnaly, I don't consider oral sex using condoms or protection... Should I only consider it once my partner gets vaccined (which takes 6 months)? Is the risk low enough to allow me to do it? I don't really know what do do... |
10-25-2005, 05:40 AM | #23 (permalink) |
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You know, you could probably ask your doctor about this.
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10-25-2005, 06:47 AM | #24 (permalink) |
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Yeah. Thing is, my dad's a doctor. I'll ask him.
My question was more like: ok, I know that even if very very small there is a risk that I can transmit HBV to my partner through oral sex. That means next time I'm with a new partnet and she goes down on me, will I have the strength to tell her stop? |
10-25-2005, 07:20 AM | #25 (permalink) | |
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When it says "unprotected sex" in the literature, that means oral, vaginal, anal, etc.--ANY kind of contact where your penis makes contact with another person. Here is a worst-case scenario for you adminstering oral sex to another person: You go down, decide not to use a dental dam, and have a cut in your mouth or on your lip. While going down, the cut comes open and you start to bleed a little. Your partner, in turn, has an abrasion on her vulva she hasn't told you about. Voila, you just gave your partner HepB. Another scenario: You touch yourself while giving your girl oral. You go to finger her, and you still have your own precum on your hands. There is an abrasion in her vaginal wall you don't know about. Good job, sport--you just gave her HepB. Shoot, you share a toothbrush and one or both of you has gingivitis...you just gave her HepB. Vaginal and vulvar injuries and abrasions are not uncommon, and the vagina is a pretty welcoming environment for outside predators at times. These are worst-case scenarios, but they ARE NOT OUTSIDE THE REALM OF POSSIBILITY. And won't you feel great when your girlfriend or a former sex partner comes to you and says, "Thanks for giving me HepB"?
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10-25-2005, 11:17 AM | #26 (permalink) | |
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It took me less than ten seconds to find this: How Is Hepatitis B Transmitted? The Hepatitis B virus is transmitted by blood-to-blood contact such as through blood transfusions, semen donation or through sexual intercourse with an infected person. Today with excellent screening of blood and semen, the most common route of blood-to-blood contact is through the sharing of needles by injecting drug users, who may not know they are infectious. Health workers are also at risk through accidental needle stick injuries. There are a number of other less obvious ways the virus can be transmitted: * Oral sex, especially swallowing semen from an infected person, may transmit hepatitis B. * Sharing toothbrushes or razors with an infectious person may spread the disease. * Women who are carriers may infect their babies before or at birth. http://www.well-net.com/STD/HepatitisB.html How long have you been typing the replys in here. If indeed you neglected to tell her you were infected, and she becomes a carrier....You are going to be so freakin Karmically impaired as to be cursed. I would also like to point out one thing....if by chance, this was my Daughter you had infected....HepB would be the least of your worries.
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10-25-2005, 11:29 AM | #27 (permalink) | |
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You didn't have the strength (integrity) to have an open, honest conversation with your current SO before you had sex with her, and you use the excuse that it's because a specialist told you it was safe. Even if it was safe, that is no reason for avoiding the discussion in the first place. I damn well hope that if you have sex with someone else in the future, you'll have the strength to talk about EVERYTHING before you even have to "stop" in the moment. That means not getting INTO the moment until everything is on the table. And if you do get into the moment without talking first, YES, by god, it means having the balls to tell her to STOP, because you care about that person. Sorry if this is harsh, but sex is SUCH an incredibly dangerous thing to undertake in this day and age. I can only try to scare the shit out of people who don't realize what damage they can inflict on others... the rest is up to them. And by the way, waxmax, I think a LOT of people care about "dreaded diseases," far more than the smell of oral. Dental dams or even saran warp ARE effective measures; don't rule them out for someone else just because you haven't worried about diseases.
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10-25-2005, 03:55 PM | #28 (permalink) | |
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Thanks for all your replies.
I understand. Of course from now on, I'll always talk about it first. I am honest when I say I didn't think about stoping her because of what the specialist told me. Since there is a risk (even the slightest one), I will always warn my partners from now on. Still on the very fact of transmission of STD through Oral, I remain dubious. I've found statistics that show that the transmission rate through Oral Sex is very low. Plus I know that Health Organizations try to scare people with exaggerated statistics to prevent the disease. I'd really like to talk to a specialist about this. Quote:
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Hepatitis B & HIV Infection Gay Men's Health Crisis: Treatment Issues - Volume 5 no. 4, May 15, 1991 Gabriel Torres, M.D. http://www.aegis.com/pubs/gmhc/1991/gm050404.html From the FAQ of the Hepatitis Foundation International: Quote:
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As said in the first quote, HBV is 100x more transmittable than HIV. You are, essentially, a loaded gun. Put the safety on. Please.
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10-25-2005, 05:22 PM | #30 (permalink) |
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Okay, there's a risk, I know. I do not want to transmit HBV to anyone. In my case, what should I do? Next time I want to receive a BJ, should I wait until my partner gets vaccined?
I mean this is kind of scary. Knowing that there are a lot of silent HBV carriers out there is everyone taking his precautions? I mean oral sex seems just as dangerous as normal unprotected sex here. Do we have figures? Taking the posts of snowy, I just understand there is a great risk. But how big is it? |
10-25-2005, 05:36 PM | #31 (permalink) |
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Let's put it this way...if you were told there's a 2% chance of your partner getting sick within 5 years of engaging in oral sex, would you risk that? Do the odds truly matter or are you just that selfish to want a BJ over and above whatever numbers come up?
Sorry if that sounds crass, but as a potential partner, I'd want to know you cared enough to NOT take that chance with my health.
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10-25-2005, 05:51 PM | #33 (permalink) | |
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Here is a good article about transmission of HBV rates amongst various groups in Canada:
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Here is also a link to a PDF regarding the epidemiology of STDs in Manitoba. I'm sure if you take a look at it you'll find a specific figure somewhere. http://www.gov.mb.ca/health/publiche...ance/desti.pdf I could dig up some more case studies for you, but I'm tired of saying the same things over and over again in my posts, since obviously this is like talking to a wall.
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10-25-2005, 06:04 PM | #34 (permalink) |
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No not at all. You did make me realize that oral sex is dangerous. Thanks for your posts, I have grown wiser. Thing is I have been addicted to porn for some time as a teen, and kept thinking "Wow, BJ must be the damn best good things on earth." In never thought there could be a possibility of transmission to my partners. Keep in mind that for many people, oral sex is safe. So I was like "WTF, now that I'm getting some, I can't anymore?" Yet, my partner's safety comes first.
You have at least made me consider that it is dangerous for my partners. I do not want to take any risk for my partner that is why I'll stop oral sex from now on, and with all my future partners, until they are vaccined. But the internet being what it is, I think I need to hear it directly form a specialist to be convinced or to completely make it permanent in my head. I don't know, it's psychological. If possible, if you could find studies with figures related directly to Oral Sex and STDs, in terms of risk, that would be nice... Last edited by iblade; 10-25-2005 at 07:48 PM.. |
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