ShaniFaye

I did a search and didnt see this particular thing covered so....

Dave and I are trying to decide which way to go....Im 36 and have had my one and only child...Dave is going on 32 and has had no children...does not want any. He is perfectly happy with being the stepfather to my daughter and decided a long time ago that procreating was not for him. While I cringe at the thought of him being cut "down there" and feel extremely selfish for it even being a consideration, it IS still an option that he is open to. ha ha his main question, after all the reading we have done on it, is will he taste any different and will that affect me and my desire to give him a bj....I've tried to assure him that I have indeed given bj's to vasectomized (new word?) men and I didnt notice any difference hehehehehe

I would like to hear from people (if there are any) that weighed the options of each one and what decision they went with and why.

I have read that the tubal carries higher risks, since it is a more invasive surgery, and that it "can" do things to a woman, for example lessen the sex drive, or increase the sex drive, cause continued problems with gas etc.... that a vasectomy doesnt do to a guy.

I would also like to hear from any woman that have had it done and how life has been for them since they did it.

Thanks in advance for any advice

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Dale Kemp

1. The vassectomy surgery doesn't hurt as much as a tooth filling, so pain isn't an issue.

2. Some men will react psycologically to knowing they can't impregnate. Some be feeling hornier, some by feeling impotent. Most will probably not have any issue over it.

3. The quantity and taste of the syrup seem just the same, so that's not an issue.

4. I'm suspicious that over time it can result in a lessening of testosterone levels, making a man a little less horny, or that may just be aging, or something else.

5. If a man has a vasectomy to bless his wife, who can then stop taking the pill, with all its side effects, he has given her a great gift, which she should appreciate. If she then divorces him, he will feel cheated in a very significant way. At least I did.

rukkyg

everything i've ever heard about the two procedures says the male one is better, as long as he's willing to do it (a lot don't like the idea). My mom has her tubes tied and has never complained about it or anything, but they've been tied since my brother was born when I was only a year and 6 months old, so I don't remember anything before.

Charlatan

Go with the vasectomy... I had one over a year ago and have experienced no side effect. I am still the same old horny guy I've always been, only now I don't need a condom.

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ShaniFaye

For you guys that have had one...do you mind telling me how old you were when you had it done? A LOT of my hesitation in letting him do this is his age....he will be 32 in December.

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Cynthetiq

I've been comtemplating a vasectomy myself since I don't think I ever want to bring any children into the world.... but I do have to differ on the hurting point. You can read Clavus' experience the master story teller...

http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/showthr...sectomy+clavus

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TurbineSlut

Well, I was going to post a question about how one can decide that they don't want any children later in life (especially at a younger age, like ShaniFaye's Dave), but after some googling found out that reversing a vasectomy is apparently a routine procedure with 84 to 90% success rate in restoring sperm release.

So I guess that that is probably a good option if you are reasonably sure that you won't want children in the future. There are ways to reverse your decision if you regret it later. I'm not sure if tying tubes can be reversed... haven't looked that up. But I would agree that tying tubes is a lot more invasive.

ShaniFaye

I was honestly trying to forget about Clavus' story hehehehe I work with 3 men that have had it done and none of their experiences were like that hehehehe bless his heart....unfortunately for us...Clavus' story IS becoming a factor in the decision hehehehe

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lurkette

I've not had a tubal ligation, but I have had a laparoscopy, which is a similar procedure. They cut several incisions (belly button, just above the pubic line, and over to the side of the abdomen, by your hip bone), fill the abdominal cavity with air, and then go in with various instruments (including a camera). A ligation is more complicated because they are actually cutting things, but I did have my appendix out while they were in there looking for endometriosis. Bonus!

It was agony for about two days because of the air in the abdominal cavity - basically hurt like hell to be in any position besides standing or lying propped up on a pillow, and getting between the two positions was very painful. They gave me good drugs (percoset) but it was 3-4 days before I was able to move around comfortably. The incisions themselves were fairly minor and didn't hurt much, although the one at the pubic hairline left a visible scar. The other two incisions are hardly noticeable.

A vasectomy is MUCH less invasive, and has a higher chance of being reversible if Dave does change his mind in the next 3-5 years. Pain's gonna vary based on individual sensitivity, and the kind of procedure they do, but I've heard it's usually much less painful than Clavus's experience.

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absorbentishe

Had a vas over a year ago, I was 32, but I had 4 children already. The pain was almost nil and back on my feet in a day or so. Never needed any pain meds.

billwood

I too had the VAS 20 years ago and never had a problem.Every thing stell works just fine today. Oh by the way I was 32 when I had it done.

unoaman

I won't say there was nothing to it, but by far most of the "something" was psychological. We had had our kids, my wife was having trouble with birth control pills, I hate rubbers...no decision to make really. My little procedure was far less invasive than hers would have been. It ended up being quite a bit of worry on my part, very little pain, and a rapid recovery. Worst thing about mine was when I had to take a sperm sample to the lab, I was met by an old high school girlfriend who worked there...when she took the sample from me, she just had to ask what I had been up to!

Almost forgot...mine was a number of years ago, and I can't tell one iota of difference in anything...

MXL

I had a vasectomy 7 years ago at the age of 28, right after my second child was born. After all those years of my wife managing the birth control and having 2 kids to boot, I felt that it was my turn to take some of the responsibility. Sex is better than ever, although ironically about a year after the vasectomy my wife had to get back on the pill because PMS which was never been a real problem before the children, was really affecting my wife. So now we are double protected.

clavus

I sincerely hope that my post does not prevent anyone from having a vascetomy. You must keep in mind that I am a big wussy. Vascetomy is a far easier, less risky, less painful, and less invasive than tubal ligation. Even if it weren't, what kind of a guy would assign pain and danger to his wife when he could take it on himself?

I got clipped at 34 years of age. I have two kids. Honestly, I have no regrets. As for the spunk, my wife hasn't noticed any difference and neither have I.

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PDOUBLEOP

I got my vas. done almost 2 months ago. It was relatively painless. I'm 32.

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viejo gringo

Had a vas 32 years ago, in the out patient portion of the hospital...no pain..no meds...
she had 3 and I had 3, so 6 kids was enough..
just a hard time waiting several days to take a shower.....

---and NO it does not make you any LESS horny...

joecool69

I'm 35 and had a vasectomy almost 2 years ago. The surgery was a bit uncomfortable in that the tugging on the vas deferens was very strange, but otherwise, the nicks I had from shaving "the boys" in preparation for the surgery was actually worse. That and the sutures poking in strange places until they fell out.
More or less horny? I'd say MORE since I no longer worry about timing issues, etc. regarding pregnancy. That makes for more peace of mind as well.
Taste? Can't answer that one, but I'd hypothesize that it would not alter the taste much, if at all as the amount of actual content of the ejaculate is only reduced by a tiny amount.

I'd recommend the vasectomy.
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Charlatan

I was 35 when I had mine done last year and have two kids.

The thing to remember is that if you are even thinking about the possibility of having the vasectomy reversed you shouldn't be having a vasectomy.

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iamnormal

He can have sperm frozen for later use. The doc doing the vasectomy should know a place to get it stored.

Charlatan

I feel the same way about this... if you are even thinking that you want kids, don't get the vasectomy. Wait until you are really ready.

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Impisheye

I had my tubes tied as my husband at the time would not consider a vasectomy. The procedure itself was fine with minimal discomfort afterwards but...and there is a but. From then on in my usually heavy periods became even worse. I mentioned it to my GP who blithely remarked...oh yes that's a common side effect. Nodody mentioned that to me at the time and I was furious because I wouldn't have had it done if I'd known. I haven't researched this as I felt at the time it was too late so I don't know if it was generally accepted wisdom or just my GP's experience. Might be worth asking your gynaecologists view on this before you decide.

joeb1

I am 35. My wife and I have 4 children. The last one just about killed her. (4 months ago)I was really concerned that she not have another one. So I had the vasectomy done this year.

I have had no problems with mine. The actual process was a little strange. I agree with the pulling on the Vas. I think at one point I was ready to cuss at the Doctor, but it only hurt for a sec. I don't have any regrets. I find I want it more. Of course this does not mean I get it.

Taste I have no Idea. I would ask my wife. But she has no idea either. If he is ready for that step. 32 yrs old... Hmmm. It just depends on how mature he is. I would have to agree with clavus on the invasiveness of the tubal. And my old fashoned opinion is: Hell..she has given birth to four wonderful children. What the hell have I done? What is my contribution? SO I had it done. Still doen't match what she has been through.

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xxSquirtxx

I had a tubal. For one, my husband said, "Hell no!" to anything sharp down there. But, I knew I didn't want anymore kids, and I was tired of the pill. So, I had a tubal. No sweat...outpatient surgery. Painful for a few days, no biggie. (I do have a high pain threshold, though). LOL Ummm...sore shoulders from the gas and being blown up for the surgery. Other than that, not a problem. No scarring -- only a teeny tiny one in my bellybutton area, not noticable, and one in the pubic area, also not really noticable.