healer

We've been together for almost 3 years and while the frequency has dropped off some, the quality is only getting better. It's been pretty sporadic the last few months because I'm living so far away and we only get to see each other once or twice a week.

But I've gotten some the last two nights in a row, and I'm seeing her later tonight again.

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nmm

15 to 20 times a week and we have been together for 8 months... It used to be more a bit more tho...

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doncalypso

You lucky mofo...

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Lady Sage

Hes 38 i'm 29... 2-4 times a week due to the shifts we work(i work 9-8pm he works 4-midnight) *pout* otherwise it would be more.

noodle

We've been together on and off for two years. Since we live together again it's about 2-10 times a week. We're so sporadic. He recently injured his back in a motorcycle accident and then I ruptured two ovarian cysts during my cycle, so thank goodness that 10 day drought was over today. We were both about to lose our minds. Usually we go no more than three or four days without, but both of us have intensely stressful jobs. Though it is a nice stress management tool..

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aJ2718

my $.02: If you want sex, stick your head between her/his legs while s/he's watching TV. Pretty soon s/he'll want it too.

the best way to kill a good sex life is talk (unless it's steamy)

nmm

Yer I know

But before when I was married had sex barely once a week, so need to make up for it now

thespian86

Ranges from once every three days (when we are both really busy) to 3 times a day (when we do have time on our hands)

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MoonDog

Well, I've been married for about 14 years now...and if I had my way, we would be every day! However, I've been told that my wife has a say in the frequency of said interactions, so it is usally more like 2-3 times per week. 2 kids and various other activities leave her pretty tired, which makes her want to sleep. For me, the tiredness takes a back seat to sex.

leftwingx

After being married for seven years it's about 1-2 per week. We're at the point were schedules have siginificant influence on the frequency, unfortunately.

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opus123

TOCOTOX, actually, but here is the basic short answer.

I personally like quality sex rather than quantity. Sex everyday seems too much, as it seems like it would become a habit. My favorite is randomness I guess..... I like sex 5 times a month, but I like sex to take 2-3 hours or so with about 15 minutes of chatting in the middle. Ya know, sexy banter and catch up on important relationship issues and stuff and giggling. *smile*

But last summer was the best ever, I had my wife and she had two boyfriends and I had 3 girlfriends and I think sex was super awesome about 7 times a month. Sleepovers and breakfast in bed and just amazing sex and trying new things. Now I have only one girlfriend and my awesome wife and she has one last boring boyfriend that travels too much. Anyway, before marriage we also had the open relationship/polyamory going on, so I don't think the frequency of sex has changed over the ten years of marriage. My wife and I were together 6 years before marriage and the sex was so new that it blew my mind away, but now it is a little more challenging to find new things to try and sometimes we find we don't want anything new to try. *grin* Just a relaxing sex I guess.....

That said, I have a few friends that I kiss occasionally and sometimes that is so hot, that I don't really need sex after it. Other friends I have flirt heavily with me, but we are not sexual. We sit on each other's lap at monday bowling league or sleep at each other's houses, but the heavy flirting is so fulfilling that I really don't want more from them. They may or may not want more from me, but I am waiting for them to ask me I guess. LOL

One gal that flirts with me is monogamous and her husband seems fine with the flirting, but it is cool that they are secure in their relationship to handle it. I've known her for 4 years or so.

Another gal I date once every 6 months, as she is in graduate school. The orgasms are pretty damn hot after waiting that long inbetween. She has a teenager and owns a horse, so that eats into any free time she has. I've known her for 5 years or so.

I am on the verge of starting to date a couple. Going slow. Kissing and snuggling only so far. (^:

(Everyone mentioned above knows and has met my wife and knows all about our open relationships.FYI)

Jonathan

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billege

I can only tell you I'm laughing so hard my sides hurt becuase I'm seeing the truth to this statement.

Married 2.5 years, she's 26 I'm 27.

We're currently at a once (barley) a week, and it's boring as hell. Fuck if I know the reasons.

I fondly remember oral sex. That was fun.

There's this bell curve that seems to peak before marriage...

Thing is, I don't get understand the reasons at all.
If you asked me, I'd say we're pretty darn happy with each other, and still as in love, if not more so than when we got married.

She's supportive and wonderful, and she says awfully nice things to me too. Far as I can tell, we should be naked a lot more often.
But we're not, and it sucks. Very frustrating.

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Moyaboy

Almost hit a year now and it is about 2-3 times a week.

But that is also due to conflicting schedules.

I am 3rd Shift and he is 2nd Shift.

Prior relationships had sex a few times a month.......

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rmarshall

Interesting! I wrote that 2.5 years ago and it hasn't changed much. The kids are 12 and 16. They're old enough to leave alone so we leave them at home and go into the city and sleep on the boat. We keep our boat in a marina in Kingston. Even more opportunities for sex!

hotzot

If I'm a good boy and mind my "P&Q's" I'll get it twice a month..maybe. It's been that way for 26 years of marriage.(Yes I am pussy whipped)

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Irishsean

I know this one because my dear wife has been keeping track because were trying to have kids. Over the last 6 months we average 1.83 times per day.

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tycho_brahe

Been married 10 years. I'm 40. My wife is 38. First year, about 5 or 6 times a week. Now, still about 5 times a week. There was about one year in there early on where it was almost twice a day - she made a deal with me where if she didn't have to work, she'd gladly have more sex, and I said "yay !"

When it's that time of the month, we have 'other' types of sex, but it's still about 3 or 4 times a week then. Suffice it to say, I really love her !

We both still enjoy sex a great deal, but at 40 years old, 5 times a week is fine ! If I didn't come home tired from a job, I would probably want more. Work kills. Obviously, the more you are around someone the more you want to have it. Vacations and weekends I seem to want more, and so does she.

What I'm getting at is, we have no children and of course this gives us more free time and maybe this has something to do with it ?? I've been 'fixed', so they'll be none in our future. Kudos though to the married with children people who posted here about still having sex with great frequency - you rule.

Tophat665

Mrs. Hat and I have been married 11 years and 50 weeks and we're both in our late 30s. Used to be we'd make the beast with two backs nightly except when her aunt Flo was visiting, and that was still good for about 3 sex-like acts a week.

These days, we're sharing space with two insomniac chaos elementals cleverly disguised as small girls. This means that the oportunities for becoming horizontal and superimposed are limited to when the spawn are engrossed in a video, or after they hit the sack.

What with Mrs. Hat's pedagogical career, waiting for the kids to slumber tends to be a perscription for faux necrophilia. (She wakes up with the birds, and toddles off to the land of Nod with the sun.) I'd say the average sexage is about weekly, but it certainly goes in cycles. Some weeks it's nightly or more, and some weeks it's zippo.

(Given my druthers, it'd be thrice daily at a minimum: once to wake, once to sleep, and once to try something new. Then again, I'm a bit sex-pated.)

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maestro62371

O.K., any of you posting that you do it more than once a month are definitely not married. I'm lucky if it happens once a month. Twice a month if its a blue moon, and that's not sex, that's any sexual activity whatsoever...hey, I'm married, I have to take what I can get.

sweetcha0s

Everytime me and my girlfriend see each other =)

Been like that sense we started dating and a little before that

But theres also times were we usually couldnt or had to keep it discreet as f*ck and maybe quick heh

But basically everyday unless i dont see her....then itd be the next day

Val_1

I found this to be very true, even though I was married for 10 years, and only dated for 2 before hand.

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Peladinho

On a normal basis 3-4 times a week but there is times though that we go crasy and do it 2-3 times a day for 3-4 times a week.
Married 5 years lived together 9 years.
No difference from then vs now except i last longer and take longer between

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Blackthorn

Trust me...being single aint no walk in the park in terms of frequency. Work on it with your spouse and your frequency can increase. Work on it when you are single means a lot of time spent getting to know yourself.... I'd much rather be drawing beans out of the jar than looking for a jar to put them in in the first place.

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Gilda

Married going on four years now, together for five. I'm 29, soon to be 30, she just turned 25.

We do something an average of 3-4 times a week.

Gilda

xepherys

Hmmm... Is it cheating if I have a herum of my own wife?

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TotalMILF

*blushes*

I feel so loved

Average_Joe

Before marriage: 10X per week
After 8 years of marriage + 4 kids: 1X per week

joofoo

Before marriage and the first few years, about 14 times a week. years four thru eleven (up to today) Maybe 1 time a week, if I ask nicely. Oh well...

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insidious_machinae

New Answer: zero.

We haven't had sex in over a month.

Andy_

Me and the good lady tend to go through trends as opposed to a constant value. I have bone problems so when I'm bad...nothing for a week, maybe more. A normal working week would probably be around 3-4 times, but depending on what we're spending our free time on can often go for 10-15 times a week for a couple of weeks - though that tends to get kind of sore after a while.

opus123

Don't have sex for a month and you will be more fertile.

Jonathan

It also should be noted that both men and women decrease in testosterone as they age. So having less sex is not always mental.

http://www.askmen.com/sports/health_...ns_health.html

Jonathan

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Sp00n

2/3 times a week, used to be at least once a day but the mrs is always so tired after running around at work looking at children!

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bt925

Once a month tops....on a good month twice (typically missonary only...clasify it as a quicky). Have had dry spells last for at least 3 months. We've known each other since high school (lots of activity), married 14 years, 37 & 37 with 2 kids. I even got snipped to reduce the fear of having another (so she could relax), no change.

Like most on here I would prefer at least 3 times a week and sprinkle in a few sex-like acts. I work typically 10 hour days (+hour to decompress), she has a business and takes the kids where they need to go so being tired plays into it. I subscribe to the philosophy of I'll get enough sleep when I'm dead. My drive is always available, her drive is practically nil.

Wow to write that and read it...now I feel sad.

Prince

We've been married for 3 years. We have sex about 3-4 times a month, I'd estimate.

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Daniel_

First Marriage - when it got to 3 months of no sex, I stopped counting and stopped asking.

When it sudenly went to sex twice a day and a shouting match when I asked why the sudden change, I realised she was having an affair.

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Fast forward to the present day.

Some days none, some days several - generally not more than a couple of days go by.

We've been together for 2 1/2 years, and maried for 5 1/2 months.

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ktthequeen

around 20 times a week...well, for last week that is.

long distance relationship will do that to ya...this is gonna last us at least a month, hopefully not anymore than that, but who knows

(yeah, i know, I'm bragging, but my god, it had been almost 2 months!!)

essendoubleop

10x a week before I broke up with my g/f. Our record was 6x in one day. I haven't since.

American

This is untrue. Testosterone levels rise at the age of 18 and fall at age 70. The ability to utilize it is what changes.

If your wife is displeased with you, you almost never get it. This only serves to worsen the situation.

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Paq

Doesn't everybody

before gf moved away, 3-7 times a week for the past 20 months...

can't wait to see her again.


and yeah, i've heard that sudden changes from your partner are indications of affairs...so sad

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opus123

Are you a doctor ?

Your post is more untrue than mine is. Unless you actually have websites to back up what you say ?

"As men age, their testosterone levels gradually decline. After 30 years of age, levels decrease by about 1.5 percent per year. Low testosterone levels can result in decreased muscle mass and bone density, insulin resistance and low sex drive, as well as less energy, more irritability and feelings of depression, the researchers noted."

http://www.medicinenet.com/script/ma...ticlekey=63459

Jonathan

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