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Originally Posted by mikepeca18
Ive been married for less than a year, once a week is the norm. Just curious how much eveyone else is getting down.
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TOCOTOX, actually, but here is the basic short answer.
I personally like quality sex rather than quantity. Sex everyday seems too much, as it seems like it would become a habit. My favorite is randomness I guess..... I like sex 5 times a month, but I like sex to take 2-3 hours or so with about 15 minutes of chatting in the middle. Ya know, sexy banter and catch up on important relationship issues and stuff and giggling. *smile*
But last summer was the best ever, I had my wife and she had two boyfriends and I had 3 girlfriends and I think sex was super awesome about 7 times a month. Sleepovers and breakfast in bed and just amazing sex and trying new things. Now I have only one girlfriend and my awesome wife and she has one last boring boyfriend that travels too much. Anyway, before marriage we also had the open relationship/polyamory going on, so I don't think the frequency of sex has changed over the ten years of marriage. My wife and I were together 6 years before marriage and the sex was so new that it blew my mind away, but now it is a little more challenging to find new things to try and sometimes we find we don't want anything new to try. *grin* Just a relaxing sex I guess.....
That said, I have a few friends that I kiss occasionally and sometimes that is so hot, that I don't really need sex after it. Other friends I have flirt heavily with me, but we are not sexual. We sit on each other's lap at monday bowling league or sleep at each other's houses, but the heavy flirting is so fulfilling that I really don't want more from them. They may or may not want more from me, but I am waiting for them to ask me I guess. LOL
One gal that flirts with me is monogamous and her husband seems fine with the flirting, but it is cool that they are secure in their relationship to handle it. I've known her for 4 years or so.
Another gal I date once every 6 months, as she is in graduate school. The orgasms are pretty damn hot after waiting that long inbetween. She has a teenager and owns a horse, so that eats into any free time she has. I've known her for 5 years or so.
I am on the verge of starting to date a couple. Going slow. Kissing and snuggling only so far. (^:
(Everyone mentioned above knows and has met my wife and knows all about our open relationships.FYI)
Jonathan