xjoejoex

Hey guys~

I need help. I’m 5’6” and weigh 170…170 of FAT, not muscle. I don’t look obese, because I’m not…I’m overweight, but people would probably assume that I have a lot of muscle and a little fat, which isn’t true. I need help losing weight and gaining muscle. However, I can’t get any motivation to do so.

I was part of my college’s cross-country (running long distance) program. I ran Mondays through Fridays, running about 15 miles weekly. I started running, thinking I would lose weight, but I haven’t….instead, I’ve gained weight. I have a feeling that its my eating habits….i eat pretty unhealthy food. But how do you guys/girls get motivated enough to actually work and work hard and fix your weight problems?

Give me sum tips on how I can be more motivated. I don’t have a girlfriend rite now (so trying to impress a girl won’t motivate me).

What do you think about when you try losing weight/gain muscle/get more fit that encourages you to push and work even harder?

- joe

xjoejoex

well...when i think about it...i kinda realize that i want to lose weight bcuz of how i look, and what girls think of me

if thinking about a girl i want to hook up with doesn't motivate me enough, what will?

the reason ^^ doesn't work is bcuz when i do sumthing hard (tough run, hard workout), i'm start feeling depressed (like.."man...why even try...i wouldn't be able to get her anyways")

sumone plz help me

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and another thing...how do you guys get the courage to ask a girl out?

the reason i'm afraid to ask a girl out is cuz i'm afraid of rejection...i know its a part of life, but how do u guys handle that?

krwlz

Well keep up the running! That weight IS muscle. Also start working out a bit..nothing huge, just some simple bench press, curls, etc...Is there a gym around? Make use of it.

The thing is, with more calories burned eventauly you will lose weight. Actually, if you take my word on the working out, the fat will turn into muscle!

But you have to keep with it man. Start limiting what you eat. If your working out, lots of protein man, but low carbs untill the fat starts to shed.

Good luck guys!

xjoejoex

it CAN'T be muscle....my stomach is flabby (but not tooo much, but it still is)

and its really hard for me to control my eating. cuz sumtimes, i eat fast and don't have that full feeling till i've eaten too much...also, sumtimes i feel hungry, but since i don't wanna eat an entire meal, i snack on sumthing, usually chips

any tips on how to control ur eating habits?

krwlz

I wish I did man, I was simply voiceing what I my friend who was fat, but got into good shape said. Im blessed with a high metabolism...or cursed...with that I can NOT gain weight, even when I work out...I need humongous amounts of protein...

Good luck thos guys...I wish I could help.

HeyAgain

5 - 6 small meals throughout the day. It is quite easy to accomplish and I have noticed that I go hungry less throughout the day as a result of the change in food consumption.

Eat breakfast, most important meal of the day.

Any chance you still have a membership to the fitness facility at your college, either as a student or an alumni?

majik_6

Like they said, that weight gain is probably muscle, since muscle weighs much more than fat. Just because you have a little excess fat doesn't mean that you're not building muscle. For example, I'm currently building lots of upper body muscle, but I'm still VERY overweight. The fat IS decreasing, however, the weight isn't coming off as fast, since I'm gaining muscle as well.

As has been mentioned, check into the college fitness facility, or if you're not comfortable there, start out by doing some training in your room (either with weights or using your body as resistance--pushups, crunches, etc) until you feel comfortable going to the gym.

Just be sure to consume less calories than you burn. Sounds obvious, but it's the truth and it's often overlooked. Just be sure to get sufficient nutrients since your body needs fuel to gain muscle and function.

My motivation won't be anything you could use, but I want to get to a point where I can easily find clothes to fit in regular stores, and I want to be able to sit in ANY seat on a roller coaster (not just the special seats for bigger people). I recommend that you find something that has meaning for you, and work towards that goal. Rewards help too (when I get to certain goals along the way, there's a certain tattoo or piercing that I'll allow myself to get, when I hit my final goal, I'm getting two large matching pieces on my ribs).

Good luck, let us know how things turn out!

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sixate

Keep up with the running, but you better start watching your diet. You said you eat pretty unhealthy. Can you give me an example of what you eat during a typical day? Then I could give you a few suggestions that can help.

You won't gain muscle just from running alone. I'm guessing that you are eating more since you're getting exercise. You won't lose weight if you're doing that.

SiN

your advise is excellent in general, krwlz.

however, fat is a completely different type of tissue than muscle, they are not interchangeable.

fat cells can shrink, and muscle cells can grow.

that's what really happens

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BBtB

Shhhhh. This is tilted health and fitness. Save that for tilted physics and biology.

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"I would like about three fiddy"

Loup

The best motivation is to do it for yourself.
If you really want to lose the weight, set a goal and take one accomplishment at a time. From the sounds of it, the diet is what's hurting you. Take the advice in this thread (4-5 better balanced meals during the day; even a bowl of cereal could suffice for a meal - NOT Count Chocolat ), and it will shed off.

Best of luck with your goals.

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fluster

1. Forget about losing weight.
2. Throw out those crappy old scales that you probably have away.
3. Get a tape measure and take some measurements.
4. Rely on these as your progress indicator, not how much you weigh.
5. You've put on weight because you used to do so much exercise and then you probably just stopped. Your body wasn't burning off all that excess energy you normally eat so it started storing it as fat.
6. Go through you cupboard and find that one item of clothing that you love but no longer fit into(everybody has at least one item).
7. Your goal is to fit into that clothing.
8. Buy some small plates/bowls and use those to serve your meals on. This will help reduce your calorie intake instantly.
9. You do NOT want to feel full. Start thinking of that full feeling as a "makes me fat" feeling. Eat 5 small meals a day and leave each meal with a "I could eat more but I'm not starving" feeling.
10. After eating a meal wait 20mins or so before deciding about how hungry you feel.
11. Keep doing the running. First thing in the morning before breakfast is the best time of day.
12. Be selfish about this lifestyle change! You are doing this for you, not for some girl or anyone else. YOU want to look in the mirror and like what YOU see.

Keep at it. It may be a long road and at times you will feel like you are going backwards rather than forwards. Just keep looking ahead and you'll get there!

Theda

porn is the only motivation i find - i can't be assed to go to the gym generally - but when i get there it is quite good - i feel good for the rest of the day coz of endorphins and whatshits but i don't wanna go, so i joust, then just trot back along

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EleqTrizi'T

I'm 100% with fluster. Scales mean nothing. Measurements are everything. I keep track of my body fat %, and my body fat falls, so do my measurements. I've maintained the same weight the past two months, but I've swapped 10 lbs of fat for 10 lbs of muscle. But I've lost 2 pants sizes, 1 shirt size.

BBtB

First off. Slow down! Why are you eating so fast? Second (and man I am starting to sound like a broken record) if you are serious then go talk to a nutrionist. Get their help in making up a diet. I would defintly concur that splitting up your meals will help. 6 seems excessive but 5 would work. Make lunch your biggest meal. But still don't go for the "full" feeling. Make dinner your lightest meal. Do not snack between meals. And keep running. I bet your losing more weight then you think. Don't weigh yourself every day. Don't expect to lose weight every day or even every week. Don't weigh yourself more then once a month. Above all decide on why you want to lose weight and use that for your insperation. No one else can do this for you.

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Meridae'n once played "death" at a game of chess that lasted for over two years. He finally beat death in a best 34 out of 67 match. At that time he could ask for any one thing and he could wish for the hope of all mankind... he looked death right in the eye and said ...

"I would like about three fiddy"