Oopsfix

this girl in one of my college classes keeps turning/looking at me and i have no idea why cause i havnt talked to her once and im not even good looking...My friends and people i know say i'm a weirdo/insane sometimes lol (i have no clue why). Do girls look at guys cause theyre interested in them or can she be wondering what a physchotic weirdo i might be?

Bill O'Rights

Could be because you have a booger hangin' outa your nose.


Or...she could find you so totally fascinating, that she wants to have your children.

Either way, the only way you're gonna find out is to ask her. Ask <b>her</b>, not your friends. You're in college now, my friend, leave the Junior High crap in the 8th grade.

Let us know what develops.

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Oopsfix

nah no booger, but if something nasty was on my face why would she look? I dunno bout you but if I see something nasty I turn away..

JStrider

exactly what bill said... if you have an oppurtunity just say hi... and there is one thing you know you have in common with her... so you can start the convo about your class... and then move it in a different direction once its started...

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vveronica

boy a tough one.... sorta depends on what you look like. but if i thought you were a psycho I get up and move away... if she give you a soft smile she is interested.... if you see terror in her eyes, it prolly the other way around

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Averett

say hi to her. Gotta start somewhere

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nirol

Just speak to her. If she is intrigued by you, great. If not, no harm done. Either way, situation resolved.
You share a class, use something from that to start the conversation.

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legolas

Bill gave you it straight. Just ask her and talk to her.

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Oopsfix

Meh, nah, if she's interested in me she can talk to me

rockzilla

It doesn't work that way, unless you plan on taking a vow of celibacy you're going to have to learn how to approach women.

rainheart

You really got to start a thread for this?!

Go say hi already what the hell is wrong with you.
And "she can talk to you"
get the fuck out... leave your nuts on that table.

spived2

LOL

But he's right, the ball is in your court mon fraire, and you want to keep it that way. Talk to her, say hi, whatever. Strike up a convo and eventually you'll find out what she's so interested in.

Didn't we all go to high school to learn how to deal with these situations?

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Oopsfix

I dont like her enough to talk to her, i was just wondering why she keeps looking at me and i posted here to find out if maybe other girls do that for soem reason? :/.

Pragma

If a girl keeps on glancing at a guy, be it overtly or sneaking glances, and she doesn't have a look of horror on her face like "oh god, he's getting closer, I hope he doesn't try to rape me", it stands to reason that she might, just might be interested in getting to know you.

It doesn't mean she instantly wants to jump your bones and have your babies, it just means that she probably wants to get to know you.

My view: you say you don't like her enough to talk to her, so grow a pair of balls, and talk to her. Even if you completely fuck up everything and make an ass of yourself, what do you have to lose? Nothing.

Worst case, she hates you, but you weren't that interested in her (from just looks) anyways, so no loss.
Best case, you get to know her better, fall for her, she falls for you, and everyone walks away a winner.

It pisses me off to see people in situations like this, as I used to be the same, and what it really took was for me to get kicked in the ass by life and go "look, dipshit, if you're not gonna talk to girls, you're never going to break this several year streak for being single."

And so I did talk to girls, and now I've got a girlfriend.

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Sleepyjack

What do you mean by like her? do you know her already (her interest and such) or is it that you're not attracted to her...

Generally, girls are so much better to talk to, than guys (and not just from a having sex standpoint).

So, even if you're not attracted to her maybe it'd be nice start a friendship or something. Or at least ask her why she is looking at you. ALthough that's not a very good approach, could be seen as quite vain.

eg
you: "hey, hows it going"
her: "good"
you: "So, i was wondering why you're always looking at me?

so summing up, girls are lots of fun (yes, even if you're not attracted to them!), so go talk to her.

Oopsfix

It's in class though and I dont wanna look like a jackass if i get rejected in front of everyone cause that would ruin any contact with any of my class mates and she might tell her friends what a loser i am and then im screwed til i graduate.

Sleepyjack

you don't hvae to ask her out, just try to talk about anything general (like studies or other class material) with her. Don't suddnely blurt out that you want to go out or even worse, question her why she looks at you. Start basic and general and work to the specifics from there. Its all about setting the comfort zones with one another before you try out anything that might be a bit riskier.


edit:
aren't you in college?
are people still this shallow in college?

oiekeooiyw

ok, so as class gets out you go find a way to be near her as you exit the room. you say 'hi, i'm X. i was trying to stay awake during class today. do you think i could borrow your notes to fill in the stuff i missed?'
her answer will tell you the answer to all your questions. if she says 'i can make a copy of them and give them to you at the next class' you know she isn't interested. if she says 'my notes aren't that good' then you really know she isn't interested. if she says 'sure, do you want to go to the library and copy them?' then she is interested.
there is no risk to you and you can find out what she is thinking.
if it's one of the not interested responses and then she keeps looking at you during future classes then you have a base so you go up to her after a future class and say something like 'hey, i was kind of drifting in class today and it seemed like you were looking at me, did i have crumbs on my face from the donuts i ate before class?' if you didn't have stuff on your face, she will giggle and say something stupid. 'you remind me of a guy i used to know' 'you look like a guy my brother used to hang out with'.

31Friction

personally I think your being paranoid. I wasnt in the "in" crowd in high school and really chose not to be. But the girl I dated the longest in my entire life and still love to this day was one of the "in" crowd that was attracted to me and saw more than that.

If you wonder why she's looking at you then approach her. start a normal conversation and see where it goes. Don't let it freak you out or you may miss out on something you wish you hadn't... just my .02...

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Pragma

As cliche as it is, the worst thing you can do in this situation is nothing. And no, walking right up to her and saying "Hey, do you want to go out to dinner and a movie some time?" is not recommended. Do, as the previous posters suggested, walk up to her and make small-talk, either from "hey, can I look over your notes?" to "Hey, you seem like a smart girl (if she makes comments in class, that is), would you liike to study together some time?" to anything else you can think of.

The important part is initiating a conversation. Once that happens, it's open season for anything - who knows what will happen?

As for "look like a jackass if you get rejected in front of everyone" -- well, I hardly think that would be the case except if you stood up in front of the lecture hall and publicly asked her out. If you stepped aside with her and talked to her in private, you should have nothing to worry about.

Furthermore, I can't think anyone (other than incredibly immature and stuck up girls) that would have an "oh my GAWD, what a loser, i need to go tell my friends to stay away from him" reaction. And even if she hates your guts, I fail to see why you would be "screwed until graduation". Surely your college has lots of people? You don't have to date someone in one of your classes, or even in your year.

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Mettler

Man, if you go up to some chick and say hi and she rejects you, just come back with something like "oh well, you're fat and scummy anyway, what was I thinking ?"
Chicks who act that way deserve that kind of retort.

ratbastid

Well then I don't understand why I just spent five minutes reading this thread.

You posted this here (in "tilted sexuality" no less).... why? So you could get a bunch of advice to ignore?

mistered

That approach will have you alone for most of your life. She's NEVER going to talk to you and initiate anything.

Try a nice smile and a wave. And say hi to her after class.

Oopsfix

well if she doesnt want to initiate a conversation or whatever then why would i even bother?

gabshu

just a thought, do you carry on conversations in class? I turn and stare for a couple of seconds at people who are talking because it's really annoying. So maybe she just wishes that you would shut up?

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Pragma

Because, due to the fucked up modern society that we live in, the burden is on the man to initiate conversation, ask the lady out, etc. Most girls are too timid or "too proper" or were just taught not to make the first move with guys they were interested in.

My girlfriend was interested in me long before I knew she was interested in me, and it took her suitemates doing things like occupying every seat in the room aside from her bed to force me to be next to her, to stealing my shoes and stopping me from leaving, to get me to realize that "oh, hey, she wants to go out with me". Granted, I'm oblivious, but you can learn some lessons from that: Women, in probably 90 of every 100 cases, will not initiate contact with a man that they are interested in.

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bender

Do you watch a car race because of the smash ups or are you interested in the race. The choice is yours and the only way to find out is to ask.

j03th3j3w

maybe because she is waiting for you to initiate a conversation... girls generally dont make the first move... you must be brave my young apprentice and talk to her... even if you dont think she is attractive.. she could be a very good friend.. who knows, she might have some cute girlfriends!

BTW: in your first conversation.. dont ask her out.. if she has any heart at all.. she will talk to you.. stop living in high school... college is different!

mb99usa

No biggie if you are not instantly attracted to her. She has friends. You become friends with her, you get to meet her friends. Maybe you'll click with one of them.

Think realistically about the future. The worste does not always happen and even if it does, Who the fuck cares? People have an extremely short attention span and a public blunder is usually forgotten about within 5 minutes.

Just grow some nuts and talk to her.

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Oopsfix

nope i hardly talk and when i do i go sit with my friends that i talk to which is on the other side of the room

anti fishstick

sounds like someone needs to grow some balls.

stop sitting around doing nothing, posting on tfp about it, then claiming you don't like her enough to talk to her. if you "don't like her enough" why are you posting about it?? sounds like she's at least got some of your attention enough to want to know more about her (and vice versa it seems, since she's always looking at you). and the best way to learn more about her is to *talk to her*. talk about the weather, the class, whatever. approaching her doesn't mean you have to ask her out.

i'm tired of people who feed into their own problems. you have two options here

1) continue wondering about her or girls in general and why they do what they do.
2) talk to her and *gasp* learn something.

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analog

Jesus, i can't believe i read all that for someone who could give a shit less one way or the other.

You MUST talk to girls. You HAVE TO. The majority of girls WILL NOT APPROACH YOU.

Go back to your high school and put your shallow thoughts back in your old locker, because that's where they should have been left when you graduated high school.

Also, unless there are under 100 people in your college, there's no fuckin way in hell she could ruin your rep IN THE WHOLE SCHOOL. Besides that, not everyone is so shallow as to believe every little gossip they hear before even meeting you.

Johnny Rotten

Indeed! So talk to her, already, for the love of GAWD!

guthmund

Is it like a casual glance or CRAZY STARE?

If it's, you know, casual, you could ask her if there's something growing out of you head that's hypnotized her into staring and you're only asking to avoid further humiliation in other classes.

If, however, it is a CRAZY STARE, you might be a little more cautious. For comparison, If her stare is similar to the CRAZY STARE Roddy Piper had in They Live when he put on the dark sunglasses and could see the aliens then I'd probably avoid her.....and then report her to authorities......

Maybe she is the local staring contest winner and is looking for some fresh competition.....

Maybe she can't blink. Or she can blink, but only very....very...slowly.

Do you wear any magnetic jewelry? Maybe you're attracting the plate in her head....

Maybe you look like a dead person she knows.

Just throwing some options out there for you because you obviously just can't go up and talk to her *GASP what will "the boys" think?!?!?!

Whatever you do don't...egads, talk to the girl. That will surely get you ostrascized from the "in" clique.

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sangokujin

dude, you're not gonna be served with a silver spoon all your life. this is probably one of those incidents in your life where it obviously ISN'T going to happen.. if you want to know why she's always lookin at you, go find out? i mean... how hard can talkin to some girl be?

also...
obviously, you DO like her enough to bring this up on this board. just grow some balls and approach her... she's not gonna shoot u or anything and plus, how do you expect to get a job with that kinda attitdude about life? if they're interested in you they'll call u... naw bro....aside from a few lucky ppl, our society doens't really work that way... u just gotta suck it up and go for it. it's not like you have to marry her after u talk to her!