Plan9

Let's say I was checking my non-professional email account for the usual crap suggesting I should buy more GI Joe-related stuff I don't need. And then let's say in the midst of all those 109% OFF WITH FREE SHIPPING dealoramas that I come across a lone email from an old fuck buddy that I keep in touch with on and off over the years. It has a little paperclip next to it. She throws out a blurb about how she's doing and includes a picture of her in a sexy-but-tasteful evening gown as well as a waist-down self-shot of her naked in a bathtub with a tiny patch of strategically placed soap foam. No relationship nor is one in the future. We're just friends. We engaged in a little body fluid transfer here and there back in the day, nothing major.

Let's dissect this thing, shall we?

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Riddle me this:

A: Why do women do this? I assume it's because they enjoy getting a rise.

"Hey, look at me. I'm awesome. And you're not getting any of this." Extreme flirting is fun.

Men are very visual (thus the popularity of porn in general) and enjoy this kind of tease.

Ladies, have you done this? If so, what were the circumstances and how did the guy react?



B: Would they like it if men did it? Something tells me that's a negative, ghost rider.

Only a creeper would send a naked picture of himself to a girl, right? Right.

Nobody wants to see me naked. I doubt my own partner would want that kind of email.

I generally believe men are incapable of being sexy, let alone sending sexy pictures.



Thoughts? Comments? Jokes?

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Craven Morehead

It almost sounds as though you're complaining. Do you have a fever?

Regarding B - see Favre, Brett.

Plan9

Hey, this is for science. It's hard work, but someone has to do it.

And I'm talking about normal plain-to-ugly humans, not celebrities.

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Willravel

If you don't own this shirt, Cobra wins.
Why? You got to see the frothy goods for the low, low price of a few mouse clicks. Just call this a great Wednesday and get back to pricing discount turduckens for the festivities tomorrow.

I've run into this maybe twice, and each time I've just seen it as a nice way to say hello. If the woman in question was looking for something more, she'd say so. I'd never dream of doing it because I'd end up on Boing Boing under the title "Why Your Wife Left You" or something.

mixedmedia

I've sent photos to men that I was romantically involved with. Not to male friends.

Basically, once you've had sex with someone, even casually, you've moved past simple friendship and on to something more intimate. It's not as if seeing her naked is a novelty.

I've been sent photos by a boyfriend, too, and I like it very much. If they were unsolicited from someone who is just a friend, that would be weird.

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haywoodu

Have you ever imagined a world with no hypothetical situations?

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Shadowex3

Ye-shit

I disagree, even as a very heterosexual man I've still found myself looking at some men (Mr's Mustafa and Clooney come to mind) and thinking "Yeah, that's pretty damn sexy".

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Jove

Plan9, are you still thinking about the girl who sent you the pictures? And you created a thread specifically because of the picture and the girl. Therefore, she wins because her entire goal was for you to think about her.

Plan9

No, they're my livelihood. But I like where you're going with this. Post something with a smidgen of discussion value and let's get it on.

Sure, I'm still thinking about this girl. I'm also thinking about the other messages in my inbox. As not stated in the OP, I got an email today and thought of a thread question because I figured others here might have thoughts on the topic of women sending suggestive pictures to partners / former partners. And if you saw what she looked like in that tight little evening gown you'd be thinking about her, too. That and I'm glad she wins.

Women should win at these kinda games.

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Alternate Smartass Answer:

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Manic_Skafe

How the hell can you send out unsolicited images of your most intimate goodies in a casual manner? The whole thing reeks of narcissistic creepy desperation which would serve as a hell of a lot more of a turn off than all the memories sparked by the image sent. That is unless I were single, in which case she'd just become an optional hookup.

Considering she'd have probably had better luck sending you a photo of her playing with duct tape or chugging Gatorade, she must not know you at all Cromp.

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Plan9

Whoa, whoa, whoa...

I don't like Gatorade.

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I'm glad the dissent has posted. It's an important perspective. But the creepy factor is significantly lower with women than men, right?

Don't know how prevalent this type of thing is in relationships these days (never had former partner "sext" me before) but it seems odd.

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mixedmedia

This is certainly true. Unless there has been an flirty exchange going on or extenuating circumstances that made it kind of light-hearted. Or maybe she was drunk.

Also if she is aware that you're currently seeing someone else, well...I hate that kind of behavior.

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Plan9

I'll be honest: I like to flirt. It's about all the action I'm going to get for this year given my schedule. But the extent of my occasional awkward screaming-man flirting definitely does not equal send-me-naked-pictures. Eh, it's basically the same type of ridiciulous non-flirting back-and-forth that I'm doing with ZombieSquirrel regarding her succulent armpits.

Yeah, this the main issue with the whole thing. Fancy dress? Okay. Mons pubis? Not okay.

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Jove

Am I the only one rude enough to demand pictures of said girl or this email didn't happen?

Manic_Skafe

Absolutely. The balance of power is hardly even and considering that we live in a wold where there are simply more dicks desperately wanting to be seen, we're hardly helping our case. We're often forced with the responsibility of driving the thing while they're in total control of all the traffic signals.

But now that I think about it, I've never really encountered a woman actually worth having who was comfortable enough to put herself out there to such an extent. Maybe she really didn't mean anything behind the picture but if she's hot and smart and all that and really did intend to kick start the mating rituals then perhaps your desperately narcissistic perv-creeper is actually the greatest girlfriend ever. Just in a trashy disguise.

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snowy

That aside...

This strikes me as weird. However, I'll admit that I enjoy the comments when I post pictures in places like "Post Your Cleavage" (yes, 9er, I know you can't see those), so I assume she is going for something similar. But sending pictures to someone you know is in a committed relationship is not my bag. There's a deliberation to what she did that I dislike.

And I like pictures of junk.

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jewels

Normal women do this because they're horny, thinking about you and/or need a booty call.

I've only done this with someone I missed and wanted to visit me.

Why not call her out? Ask her point blank.

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Plan9

I totally didn't think of that. Interesting.

You've got a PM. Try not to laugh too hard, I have feelings.

Yeah, instead of just deleting the email and ignoring the issue perhaps I should address the motivation. I don't have to take this sexual harassment!

So much of the situation is a non-issue because I am where I am, I do what I do and I'm currently balls deep in a relationship.

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cadre

This.

I have only done this as an attempt to spark a fling with a past lover. Usually when I'm somewhat drunk and horny. Haha.

But since when are naked pictures of women a bad thing? Personally, I wish more naked pictures would end up in my inbox.

Oh and plan9, how does your significant other feel about this? Does she know? Did you respond to this email yet?

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SirLance

There is no greater mystery than woman. I think jewels is probably right, but who can say?

Some have suggested you call her on it, but I think you should just send back a picture.

Of yourself.

In the bath.

With a strategically placed bit of soap suds.

And let her wonder!

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Shadowex3

Negative sir, Plan9 is a man. He must send her a picture, of himself, in the bath, with a bubble moustache and shampoo mohawk, pretending to be a Bath-Pirate.

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amonkie

I've shared pictures but never completely unsolicited and out of the blue. Generally if I'm seeking that kind of positive attention and confidence boost there are other more transparent ways to go about doing it (yay Tilted Exhib!)

Of the exchanges I've had, not all were building up to a booty call. Sometimes I was just horny as hell and it can be a release to be an exhibitionist with nothing beyond it. I love the human body and folks (both guys and ladies) that have self confidence in their sexuality. Being able to mutually enjoy this confidence and sexiness is a very enjoyable thing.

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dlish

could this be a case of unwanted junk-mail?

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Plan9

You're all over it. I owe you a beer for pulling awesome contemporary man card points.

*rimshot* Oh, you're bad enough to be a British comedian.

I haven't told my significant other because it doesn't show up on the radar. That and we're like umpty-gazillion miles apart right now. Should I make it a big deal? And, no, I did not respond to the provocation. I figured ignoring that aspect of the communication was my best course of action.

Yeah, I occasionally think I should reconsider my opt-out of Tilted Exhibition. A lot of people enjoy it for some reason. And then I remember A) I'm totally not attractive enough to warrant the vanity it would require to post a picture of my scrawny ass and ill-equipped crotch in any state of disrobe, and B) I don't really want to see any of you fucks naked. I guess I'll just miss out on than part of the community until someone can come up with a reason why it's any good for the board's health other than feeding sticky-handed creepers and allowing our resident horndogs to indulge in a little digital orgy.

I'm not trying to be negative, I just can't think of a reason to get involved. And most of you have seen what I look like in chat. Which is gross.

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SirLance

I was going for "tit-for-tat" (no pun intended, or maybe it was!), but I like your idea better.

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tasineah

she was in the tub...it was just a clean photo, yes?

all joking aside..shots like that are sent mostly to provoke something..

and I LOVE to get photos from men. Well, use to. Now just from one man. Rawrrrr...

uncle phil

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Calypso15

Women send pics like that for plenty of reasons. Myself I send them when I'm feeling amorous, and looking good enough to eat. The intention is to 1.) let him know I'm thinking of him and want him 2.) Let him know I want him to have his way with me 3.) I like playing with him during the day. If I can't have him then at least I can work up to it for later.

MrFriendly

I had something like this happen to me many many moons ago, except I didn't actually know the girl, I just used to chat to her on MSN, and it wasn't an email, it was an MMS message.

Problem was my phone couldn't display MMS messages so I had to go to a website to check out what I was being sent. You can imagine my surprise at work when a giant vagina appeared on my screen while surrounded by my colleagues.

Now here's the interesting thing, when I asked her about her intentions she still didn't want to meet me. Mind you, this lass was a whole big old bag of crazy.

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ItWasMe

plain-to-ugly?
you want opinions of the plain-to-ugly, so you're asking US??

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Plan9

Hey, let's be realistic. I've checked the Post Yourself Right Effing Now thread a few times.

I'll be the first to admit that my mediocre looks are only bested by my mediocre intellect.

My coworkers, former lovers and anybody that knows me in real life will vouch for this.

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bagatelle

Here's a thought, I didn't see posted yet: your current partner has decided to test/revive you and together with the ex they send you her pic, to see what rocks your boat.

*goes to listen to Kate Bush' Babooshka*

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Plan9

Negative. Not even a cherry Literotica author could come up with a plot so contrived.

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bagatelle

Yet another editor flunks my script... have to admit my ideas are a bit 80's...

I don't like the idea of someone sending pics like that to a person they know is in a relationship. Unless she somehow got an idea, this is accepted or even wished in your relationship!

I'm hearing another 'negative', so I suggest either she wanted to act mischievously or she has not activity enough around the area, she posted, and since it was ok with you once, she probes you now.

Or maybe she didn't think much at all... yet she took a pic... wait a minute! Can you identify, it's her?

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dlish

i'll have two E's please

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bagatelle

Going back to the initial post:

I could nod at all those lines, except the last one (also: no, I haven't done so).

Why is it like that though? We are used to admiring female body, it's more acceptable. Male parts may be more of a threat than female parts, thinking about possible rape scenarios, we don't want to pay too much attention to that. Is this fact also connected to how something is considered nicer to look at?

Men are capable of being sexy, but that sure is more likely, when they are not completely naked.

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keymaker

I appreciate the efforts you put out for the good of knowledge Plan9. This is good stuff. I used to get these pics from a girl I would see each week in business and I would send back pics of me with hers in view. We NEVER talked about it outside of email. It was GREAT!!!