Halx

More to the point, do you think about things that you already have (sex with a SO) or things that you wish you had (a new position that you haven't tried, or a girl that you don't have)? What about things that actually happened that were hot and worth remembering?

One of the questions women tend to ask their partners is, "Do you think of me when you jerk off?" I'm guessing the answer is usually "No."

I've thought about past experiences that stick with me, that I want to experience again. I've thought about girls that I want. I've thought about things that I want out of my partner, but may be not possible/allowed. I have a hard time finding the things that I have explicit access to "jerk-worthy." I mean, if you could do it, why jerk to it rather than actually get it?

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Yellow Tulip

I don't think I've ever thought about a current or previous partner while masturbating. I tend to think of someone very desirable but unobtainable. Or I imagine what it would be like to be the only woman in a communal shower full of men.

lostgirl

Until my current SO, I thought about other guys I found sexy. I would think about anyone from Trent Reznor to the hot guy I saw on the street that day.

It's weird because now I find myself thinking about my SO every time I go solo now. He just really turns me on.

braisler

Lostgirl, you (and maybe more your guy) are lucky.

I agree with Halx that most people tend to fantasize about something or someone that they cannot have. For me, I often picture scenarios with multiple female partners when I want release. The females involved aren't usually anyone in particular, maybe a composite of a number of women that I have seen or some sort of ideal. The fantasies often do involve my wife and another woman, or occasionally another man or couple. Occasionally, I do just focus on my wife, though even then it is usually something that I wish that she did more often or at all.

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Xerxys

Wasn't this thread already created?? >> LINK <<

abaya

I thought it sounded familiar... right down to the same title, even. Looks like a thread merge would be the way to go.

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james t kirk

Vivid sexual memories of my own.

Sometimes fantasies, but not usually.

Dexter Morgan

Always someone different from my SO. Typically, I'll fantasize about friends or coworkers I want but know I'll never have.

Craven Morehead

Finishing before I reach the train station.

Anormalguy

Usually something involving group sex, threesomes or foursomes mostly, with my wife having an active role. The mix of sexes varies, as do the activities.

Thinking about things we've done as a couple, only she & I, that I'd like to do more often also gets me going.

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Psycho Dad

Most often, I think about Psycho Mom. And these times I'm thinking about fantasies of things I'd like to try. Once in a will just get myself off while watching porn. And very rarely I'll think of a long past experience with someone else.

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digme

Its usually stuff I want to do, but its not possible at this time. I visit "kink.com" a lot.

Sue

Ditto on that one. About my SO that is.

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SabrinaFair

It depends on my mood....sometimes its a trip down memory lane....sometimes its a game of "what might have been"....sometimes its "what I hope happens" with someone currently not my lover...sometimes its erotic fiction time....and sometimes its my current lover (if I have one). Variety is the spice of life, eh?

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Vigilante

For me, sometimes I think about my wife, maybe something she doesn't like (anal?) and in my thoughts she's goin at it like a crazed beast with me, and maybe someone else, usually female, once in a blue moon a male. Sometimes it's my own wild fantasies, with a hot friend or two, or some super kinky lubed up slippery fuck-fest that would probably be illegal in a few states. Sometimes it's dirty, sometimes kinky, sometimes more traditional (but always with a weird twist). Sometimes it's with another couple. Whatever works at the time. I'll go as crazy as I need to in my own thoughts to make it happen

Because what you think and what you do are two different worlds...right? Heh...

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curiousbear

mostly I dont think about anything. I just watch or read erotica.

levite

I never think of my partner when I j/o. That would be entirely self-defeating. If I wanted to think of my fiancee, I'd just go have sex with her. If I'm cranking one out on my own, then I'm going to think of all the women I can't actually go and have sex with.

This would more or less fall under the category that Aristotle terms "catharsis." In other words, I am never seriously tempted to cheat on my fiancee, nor am I frustrated at monogamy, by virtue of expressing my desires for other women to orgasmic satiation via masturbation. A healthy re-channelling or sublimation of sexual impulses, if you will. And very useful.

All of this, in any case, is done while looking at porn, anyway.

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mandy

i think mostly about healer and past experiences...i'd have to say that role playing incidents that we have yet to experience comes a close second. i also think about hot porn scenes that have stuck with me and also sometimes picture healer and myself in those positions.

or i just watch porn and masturbate. i usually wait until i get really really wet before i start...it's like teasing myself.

although the other day healer and i were watching porn before during and after sex...and in the after part i felt that i wanted more so decided to rub a few out myself, while he was lying there...well, it turned out to be more than a few but in those moments i was actually thinking about how much i'd just like to come right now lol

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Plan9

And now, the perfect time to use that line from Friday the 13th: Jason Goes To Hell...

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I don't really think about anything anymore. My masturbation experience is usually just a biological release. Thanks a lot, Army. When you've got ten minutes to yourself crammed into a homemade Porta-Potty in the middle of Afghan desert with the aroma of diesel fuel and shit stacked-as-high-as-your-rucksack... you don't have time to get all Yello-style "Oh, YEAAAH!" with yourself. There is no romance involved, I do not engage in self-dating.

As Henry Rollins says, "I'm like a mercenary, I'm like a plumber. I go in and get the job done."

I wish women could experience the same level of annoying that men deal with when they're aroused and it's not a good time for it.

How many times did I have to squash a raging boner with my M4? Too many.

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Anormalguy

Pitching a tent at the wrong time is a pain (sometimes in more ways than one), but the ladies aren't completely off the hook...

http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/ladies-...-question.html

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curiousbear

this is exactly what one of my fantasy is

Cernunnos

I tend to masturbate to thoughts of my girlfriend when she's particularly horny and wet. Depending on where my mood is, I may formulate a situation in my mind, such as fucking in a public place, another woman or man joining us (or multiple people), BDSM activities, power play, using intoxicants, while scrubbing eachother in the bath, while she's oiled up after or during a massage, up against a tree in the middle of the woods, sprawled on the kitchen floor, roughly following an argument, eating her out while she's sleeping, etc.

I will occasionally masturbate to thoughts of other women as well. Some of whom I've interacted with in the past, others only seen (whether offline or online), and in rare cases, some fantasy fuck conjured up in my mind.

Generally, my girlfriend happens to be within my thoughts during masturbation. Considering her pleasure heightens my own.

mandy

It's a gooooooooooooood fantasy!

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anti fishstick

lately i've been thinking about this lesbian girl who i'm going to meet thru a women's book club... lesbian fantasies are my favorite :P

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mandy

ooh...lesbian fantasies!!! i'm still on the lookout!!!any takers?

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ItWasMe

?? think ??

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vox_rox

All I ever think about is "I hope no ne catches me in this locker in the women's change room"

So far, so good...

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FelixP

To me, masturbating is more of a chore/physical release/sedative than anything else. Of course, I'm still a virgin so maybe that will change later on. Who knows.

genuinegirly

You phrased this very well. Same for me.

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ChasingAmy

I think about you Halx! Do I win? Just joking...

I hate to say it but most of my masturbation is porn fueled. Unless I am caught off guard by a random thought of great sex I had at some point... and I am laying in bed.

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Fett56

I look at porn initially, but its usually always a past memory that actually gets me off. Usually I fantasize about old partners, but the memories are getting overused now and its been 2 years since I've been in any sort of a sexual situation. So now it is usually just attractive girls that I see on a daily basis, but that is starting to mess with my head, probably due to the lack of actual sexual contact and daily fantasy sessions. I've recently been coming to the conclusion that masturbation is hindering me from pursuing anything, and making my social interactions awkward. That and weed.

Terrell

Usually a woman that I haven't been with, but would like to be with, sometimes women from my past.

crow_daw

I want what I can't have. It never fails. When I was with my ex-ex-girlfriend, I never thought about her. I usually thought about this other girl that I knew that I was really attracted to. Well after me and the first girl broke up, I eventually ended up dating the other girl, and as soon as I did, she disappeared from my fantasies, only to be supplanted by.......you guessed it, the first girl. I just cannot get off to a girl I'm currently having sex with. It may sound fucked up, but I just can't help it. It has to be seemingly unobtainable to get me. An ex-girlfriend, some hot girl that is merely an acquaintance, etc.

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