11-16-2006, 11:39 AM | #1 (permalink) |
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Is there a way of stopping yourself from cumming too quickly? *male*
Yeah I was just wondering. For me its a mixed bag. Sometimes I might cum REALLY quick like within a few minutes but I'm still hard and I want to keep going but after that I just keep cumming constantly *I've cum a good 8 times in about a 20 min period before*
While other times, I could be going for 3-4 hours without cumming AT ALL and I get fustrated then too lol Its weird...I enjoy sex in general, I like the feeling of pleasing my woman. The first issue obviously obstructs that. At the same time I STILL want to get my "climax" out of it too, so thats more of the second issue. Any clues as to how one can ganin better control of this? I'm 21 btw if that means anything *shrug* |
11-16-2006, 01:59 PM | #2 (permalink) | |
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Well...seeing that you have rookie status here, I feel like I should tell you that I have seen your questions about "too quick" and "not quick enough" asked more than a few times on this board. If you have the time, try to read through some older threads (maybe run a search first), as there is some excellent advice from some very knowledgeable TFPers.
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11-16-2006, 02:13 PM | #3 (permalink) |
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Location: I dunno, there's white people around me saying "eh" all the time
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Sports...think sports buddy.
I've heard of pornstar actually putting elastic on their penis to prevent them from coming.
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11-16-2006, 02:29 PM | #4 (permalink) | |
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You can "breathe" through the desire to cum. Concentrate on just regular, steady breathing. If you do yoga or any form of meditation you should get what I am talking about. It's similar to the breathing techniques that they'll be teaching you and your partner if you fail to use birth control assuming your partner is female. You do have to learn to multitask since not only do you have to concentrate on breathing but you also have to be actively enjoying what you are doing. |
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11-18-2006, 03:43 PM | #8 (permalink) |
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Try thinking of something that turns you off - I used to use the fat lady across the street. I think cock rings help considerably...I don't use condoms but I seem to remember them deadening sensations - which may be why I don't use them! (Nobody ever accused me of being quick!)
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11-18-2006, 10:03 PM | #9 (permalink) |
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Durex has a good condom that stalls climax... it uses benzocain to numb the penis. Although this doesn't sound appealing on the surface, it apparently works. I don't have this problem though... my problem is the opposite. A lot of times during sex with my wife we'll be a good half hour in to the "home stretch" of our 2hr lovemaking session... and by then she's pretty tired but I still haven't come. For a while I was just having to finish things for myself, BUT... as an earlier poster has pointed out, yoga and other meditation techniques really help. Sex lends itself well to meditative techniques, as really good sex is an almost out of body experience. So when I find myself not able to come in that "final stretch," I turn to my state of mind rather than the action itself... it's hard to explain but it really helps. I'm sure it would help with your problem too.
And by the way... 20 times in 8 minutes? Wait... 8 times in 20 min... that's still pretty spectacular lol... |
11-19-2006, 10:26 AM | #10 (permalink) | |
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11-21-2006, 04:59 AM | #11 (permalink) |
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Wow....
If one knows that the average man lasts between 4 tot 7 minutes.... The average on which most experts consider 'too quick' is less then 2 minutes. So I would say... you are 'very' lucky. But okay, if this info does not satisfy you, you have the condoms, such as performa from durex, you can use oinments, or pelvis muscle excersises (Kegel) This can help in lasting longer. But reading your message, I would advice to be happy with what you already 'have'. Most men (and as such also their women) are not that 'lucky... Regards |
11-21-2006, 07:00 PM | #12 (permalink) |
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Ever hear of the squeeze method, its pretty well known having been developed by Masters and Johnson. Basically you get to the point where you are about to cum, then pull out and squeeze the head of the penis firmly (not to the point of pain) until you feel the immediacy die down. Then you go back to what you were doing.
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11-21-2006, 09:54 PM | #13 (permalink) |
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Location: Regina, sk, Canada
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yah, there are many things one can do to last longer...when you strt to feel the rumble, just freeze....do complex math equations....use a thicker condom...etc.
for increasing sensitivity, bareback....don't think, just do and enjoy, etc. uhm...yah...that's all I got right now. |
11-22-2006, 05:38 AM | #14 (permalink) |
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Location: Western New York
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I just try to breath very deeply and keep my eyes focused on some point on the wall. In my experience the more you can slow your breathing down the longer you will last.
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11-23-2006, 05:44 PM | #17 (permalink) |
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Keagals man, keagals. Lots of em. You'll get to the point where you can flex that muscle and keep it off forever. You ever have sex while having to pee pretty badly? Notice that you lasted longer (and sometimes the orgasm is more intense) That's because there is a muscle there to prevent you from peeing while you are erect. That muslcle can be strengthed by doing keagals. Once you increase the strength/endurance of this muscle you can hold it for a very long time and just let go when you want to. In my experience the quality of sex went way up for both partners when I started doing keagals.
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11-24-2006, 08:31 AM | #18 (permalink) |
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A real good wy to keep youself from cumming too quick is to practice more. when you have sex pull out and clamp down with the muscles that stop you from pissing/cumming (the action is called a kegel) until the urge passes then continue a bit and repeat as necessary. You can also do kegels while sitting at your desk, driving your car. start with a few reps of 4-5 seconds and build up. If you practice for 20 years or so you will beat the problem, I have (although i didn't practice too hard).
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12-01-2006, 07:38 AM | #19 (permalink) |
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i remember that halx did a WHOLE thread dedicated to this topic a while back. do a search for kegels in the threads. its a wealth of knowledge.
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12-02-2006, 08:41 PM | #21 (permalink) |
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lol....I suffer from my hubby not lasting long. I heard the cock ring works and the numbing sprays work but the condoms dont seem to work for us atleast.(im going to buy him the cock ring) My hubby thinks that if I ever have a baby he might last longer cause the vagina wont be as tight he's hoping lol.
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12-03-2006, 08:18 PM | #22 (permalink) |
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How the hell do you have sex for 4 hours? That's like starting to have sex at lunchtime and are still going at suppertime.
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12-13-2006, 04:24 PM | #23 (permalink) |
still, wondering.
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I also believe that kegels work. Maybe it's because it gets you more in touch with your feelings down there. I first heard of this exercise when my wife was going through the first couple pregnancies; I had an RN tell me later that guys couldn't do them, but she had to come back a few weeks later and shamefacedly tell me that she'd been wrong. Go figure!
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12-16-2006, 11:43 AM | #25 (permalink) | |
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I always find that if you stay in pretty deep for a while, and take it nice and slowly, then you should be fine! Just don't go TOO fast, unless you're ready to blow your load |
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12-16-2006, 09:35 PM | #27 (permalink) |
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you can practice prolonging your erection by getting close to climax (whichever way you prefer) and then stopping and pinching, with your forefinger and thumb, uh... how can i describe it.. the head of your penis? Mr. Mushroom ^^ ..thumb on the top-side and forefinger on the bottom-side. I hope that makes sense.
pinching there is supposed to suppress ejaculation, you're not just blocking it. After the feeling of ejaculating subsides, you start again.. and pinch, then start again and pinch.. etc. my bf claims that it works. Especially when hes had a few beers.. hrmm..
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01-21-2007, 11:57 AM | #31 (permalink) |
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As a woman, I have to say it doesn't bother me too much if a guy comes quickly, especially if he's taken the time to pleasure me beforehand - I take it as a compliment.
And if he lasts too long... well I make him pull out, and my mouth can usually solve that problem pretty quickly. |
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