Is there a way of stopping yourself from cumming too quickly? *male*
 

Yeah I was just wondering. For me its a mixed bag. Sometimes I might cum REALLY quick like within a few minutes but I'm still hard and I want to keep going but after that I just keep cumming constantly *I've cum a good 8 times in about a 20 min period before*

While other times, I could be going for 3-4 hours without cumming AT ALL and I get fustrated then too lol


Its weird...I enjoy sex in general, I like the feeling of pleasing my woman. The first issue obviously obstructs that. At the same time I STILL want to get my "climax" out of it too, so thats more of the second issue.

Any clues as to how one can ganin better control of this?

I'm 21 btw if that means anything *shrug*

Well...seeing that you have rookie status here, I feel like I should tell you that I have seen your questions about "too quick" and "not quick enough" asked more than a few times on this board. If you have the time, try to read through some older threads (maybe run a search first), as there is some excellent advice from some very knowledgeable TFPers.

This brings me to the real reason for my reply:

I just have to stand up and applaud. Me wishes I had this problem sometimes. ;)

Sports...think sports buddy.

I've heard of pornstar actually putting elastic on their penis to prevent them from coming.

That would be uncomfortable to say the least ... it would have to be really tight to stop you from cumming. Cockrings are pretty tight, but they don't stop you from cumming.

You can "breathe" through the desire to cum. Concentrate on just regular, steady breathing. If you do yoga or any form of meditation you should get what I am talking about. It's similar to the breathing techniques that they'll be teaching you and your partner if you fail to use birth control assuming your partner is female. :)

You do have to learn to multitask since not only do you have to concentrate on breathing but you also have to be actively enjoying what you are doing.

Sorry to say but you're going to come when you're gonna come.

There really isn't a secret.

pull out and do something else for awhile. or maybe move into a different position. her on top is good. it seems to keep me going longer.

Off-topic: How do you cum 8 times in 20 minutes? >.<

Try thinking of something that turns you off - I used to use the fat lady across the street. I think cock rings help considerably...I don't use condoms but I seem to remember them deadening sensations - which may be why I don't use them! (Nobody ever accused me of being quick!)

Durex has a good condom that stalls climax... it uses benzocain to numb the penis. Although this doesn't sound appealing on the surface, it apparently works. I don't have this problem though... my problem is the opposite. A lot of times during sex with my wife we'll be a good half hour in to the "home stretch" of our 2hr lovemaking session... and by then she's pretty tired but I still haven't come. For a while I was just having to finish things for myself, BUT... as an earlier poster has pointed out, yoga and other meditation techniques really help. Sex lends itself well to meditative techniques, as really good sex is an almost out of body experience. So when I find myself not able to come in that "final stretch," I turn to my state of mind rather than the action itself... it's hard to explain but it really helps. I'm sure it would help with your problem too.

And by the way... 20 times in 8 minutes? Wait... 8 times in 20 min... that's still pretty spectacular lol...

I can do that too. The trick for me is to pause and be completely still for 5 to 10 seconds after each orgasm so the initial extreme sensitivity goes away, then increase the speed and force a little bit after each orgasm. If you are uncircumcised or circumcised and still have some of your frenulum (inner foreskin, underside of penis), focus on that area, not the head.

Wow....

If one knows that the average man lasts between 4 tot 7 minutes....
The average on which most experts consider 'too quick' is less then 2 minutes.
So I would say... you are 'very' lucky.
But okay, if this info does not satisfy you, you have the condoms, such as performa from durex, you can use oinments, or pelvis muscle excersises (Kegel)

This can help in lasting longer.

But reading your message, I would advice to be happy with what you already 'have'. Most men (and as such also their women) are not that 'lucky...

Regards

Ever hear of the squeeze method, its pretty well known having been developed by Masters and Johnson. Basically you get to the point where you are about to cum, then pull out and squeeze the head of the penis firmly (not to the point of pain) until you feel the immediacy die down. Then you go back to what you were doing.

yah, there are many things one can do to last longer...when you strt to feel the rumble, just freeze....do complex math equations....use a thicker condom...etc.

for increasing sensitivity, bareback....don't think, just do and enjoy, etc.

uhm...yah...that's all I got right now.

I just try to breath very deeply and keep my eyes focused on some point on the wall. In my experience the more you can slow your breathing down the longer you will last.

Margaret Thatcher naked on a cold night.

Pulling down on your balls also works.

Keagals man, keagals. Lots of em. You'll get to the point where you can flex that muscle and keep it off forever. You ever have sex while having to pee pretty badly? Notice that you lasted longer (and sometimes the orgasm is more intense) That's because there is a muscle there to prevent you from peeing while you are erect. That muslcle can be strengthed by doing keagals. Once you increase the strength/endurance of this muscle you can hold it for a very long time and just let go when you want to. In my experience the quality of sex went way up for both partners when I started doing keagals.

A real good wy to keep youself from cumming too quick is to practice more. when you have sex pull out and clamp down with the muscles that stop you from pissing/cumming (the action is called a kegel) until the urge passes then continue a bit and repeat as necessary. You can also do kegels while sitting at your desk, driving your car. start with a few reps of 4-5 seconds and build up. If you practice for 20 years or so you will beat the problem, I have (although i didn't practice too hard).

i remember that halx did a WHOLE thread dedicated to this topic a while back. do a search for kegels in the threads. its a wealth of knowledge.

hey thanks guys for the advice =) Oh yea and I guess I should appericate how things are but I just hate stopping because I cum so much, it cuts the rythm of the sex

lol....I suffer from my hubby not lasting long. I heard the cock ring works and the numbing sprays work but the condoms dont seem to work for us atleast.(im going to buy him the cock ring) My hubby thinks that if I ever have a baby he might last longer cause the vagina wont be as tight he's hoping lol.

How the hell do you have sex for 4 hours? That's like starting to have sex at lunchtime and are still going at suppertime.

I also believe that kegels work. Maybe it's because it gets you more in touch with your feelings down there. I first heard of this exercise when my wife was going through the first couple pregnancies; I had an RN tell me later that guys couldn't do them, but she had to come back a few weeks later and shamefacedly tell me that she'd been wrong. Go figure!

think of your mom!

Agreed! Her on top is great since it provides for deep penetration, so the girl always seems to enjoy that the most.

I always find that if you stay in pretty deep for a while, and take it nice and slowly, then you should be fine! Just don't go TOO fast, unless you're ready to blow your load :lol:

Best one is probably "imagine your grandma taking a dump - up close". Works very well. (sometimes too well, though :P )
All those things are great, but most look really stupid.
- Wait a sec, hon
- What are you doing?
- Just pulling my balls, give me a moment.
Any discrete ways to do stuff like this, anyone?

you can practice prolonging your erection by getting close to climax (whichever way you prefer) and then stopping and pinching, with your forefinger and thumb, uh... how can i describe it.. the head of your penis? Mr. Mushroom ^^ ..thumb on the top-side and forefinger on the bottom-side. I hope that makes sense.

pinching there is supposed to suppress ejaculation, you're not just blocking it. After the feeling of ejaculating subsides, you start again.. and pinch, then start again and pinch.. etc.

my bf claims that it works. Especially when hes had a few beers.. hrmm..

I don't know if everyone here is using the same definition of "coming". For example, I can coming close to fully shooting my load and then stop what I'm doing, use the kegel muscle and squeeze (not too hard) with my hand until it subsides, and this might result in either not blowing my load or only shooting out some, like a small spurt. I can do this a couple times and then fully come, but I'm not sure we're talking about the same thing as completely ejaculating and then keeping it up or getting it back up to do again and again.

Well I ejaculate ALOT the first time and smaller amounts each time. The other times arent as intense as the first but the feeling is still there

Shit the one time I am above average and I get labeled a premature ejaculator

As a woman, I have to say it doesn't bother me too much if a guy comes quickly, especially if he's taken the time to pleasure me beforehand - I take it as a compliment.

And if he lasts too long... well I make him pull out, and my mouth can usually solve that problem pretty quickly. ;)