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IC3 · 04-20-2003, 01:32 PM

Hi, So I went over to my friends place today to have him install my new cd player in my car. Another friend of mine was there, And this girl that he is seeing showed up with her friend.

The girl that my friend is seeing came up to my car and said that her friend wants to meet me, So i got out of my car and introduced myself to her and shook her hand...This girl is pretty nice, And has a pretty amazing body.

Now here is the catch..I asked her how old she is....She said 17, I am 24...But from what I heard from my buddy..He told me that the girl he is seeing said that her friend likes older guys.

Everybody was shocked when they found out how old this girl was...She does not look 17...At all.

So was it wrong asking for her number? Does this make me some kind of Pervert for wanting to get to know her and maybe try to build a relationship with this girl?

I am not saying that i am gonna ask her out, Maybe just hang out with eachother and see how we are together...I know there is a bit of a gap between ages...

Any of you people in a relationship where there is a bit of a gap between ages?

I am not asking you guys to make my decision for me, I just wanna hear your opinions on it.

Thanks

Magpie0001 · 04-20-2003, 01:41 PM

If you like her & she likes you what the fuck does it matter?
Legal, schmegal, just take things slow & see what happens. If it comes to that tell her youre a little worried.
Ok, if she was 12 or something they there would be problems but if shes mature & consenting, whats the biggy?
I dont think it makes you a perv.

rogue49 · 04-20-2003, 01:59 PM

It depends on the State you are in.
I would look this up immediately.

You never know when she, her parents or other interested parties
might get a bug up their butt
and rat on you. (for ANY reason)

And there are no excuses when it comes to the law.

Remember...
"Sixteen will get you twenty"
and sometimes 17 will too.

Careful man...if anything, find out her B-day
and be the patient gentleman.

william · 04-20-2003, 02:01 PM

Legal, schmegal, my ass. If her parents catch you in the middle of the wazoo, legal won't matter (and it won't be on your side). You're so hot for each other - wait until she's 18. If you're that dedicated to each other, a few months will not matter.

merkerguitars · 04-20-2003, 04:59 PM

I would go for it (pending on if it didn't matter by law where you live). Thats not a huge age gap. All that matters is you like her right? And if you do have to wait till she's 18 it might be worth the wait

Ambition · 04-20-2003, 06:12 PM

Yea I think I agree with the whole 18 thing the other guys mentioned.... I'd try to keep it friends as long as you can, cause according to law a minor is a minor.... and hell hath no fury like a womans scorn.

Uuudar · 04-20-2003, 06:22 PM

yeah, id check out the local laws on statchitory (sp?) rape. even if she says it'll be fine, you never know what she might do if things turn sour. You don't want to have to register as a sex offender anywhere you move for the rest of your life. It's just not worth it in that respect. Oh, and parents can be assholes about it too. Just be wary.

MSD · 04-20-2003, 06:40 PM

I don't see anything wrong with it, there's a gap, but mental maturity is different than physical maturity. The law, however, does not agree with me. In the US, statuatory rape makes you a sex offender, even if you're 18 and her18th is tomorrow.

Not everyone looks at it that way, for example, in Russia, 14 is the age to doi porn. These things are more about cultural taboos than reality. If you're a good match, it shouldn't be stopped because of age.

BoCo · 04-20-2003, 07:18 PM

If she likes older guys, then she's looking for Daddy!

RUN!!!

i8one2 · 04-20-2003, 08:37 PM

ALICE COOPER! IM 18 listen, learn!... do you really need the hassle?

Atropos4 · 04-21-2003, 12:20 AM

alpha phi and i are 9 years apart....my parents freaked out until i pointed out that they are 8 years apart ..

now we've been married for almost 3 years
check the laws...wouldn't want you to get into trouble ...but otherwise i'd say go for it

hotzot · 04-21-2003, 09:31 AM

poke her 'for she's cold!

blkdmnd · 04-21-2003, 11:39 AM

My immediate take is that you probably want to get into her pants, and she wants to be able to tell her little friends that she's going out with a 24 yo.

I'm a guy so I can understand the getting in her pants thing. Just don't convince yourself that she is mature enough just so you can do her. I mean, do you really have a lot in common with a high school girl?

A seven year age difference is not a lot when you are 47 and 54. But it is a big difference at ya'lls age.

snowy · 04-21-2003, 02:43 PM

Having been 17 not too long ago, and having friends who are 17...wow. I'd have to agree with the take that she just wants to be able to say "I'm dating a 24-year-old." It totally depends on her maturity level and your maturity level. I would, however, check the laws before moving any further into this relationship. Statuatory rape can be taken very seriously by parents in particular. Remember, she's still in high school (presumably) and you're prolly out in the working world. Sometimes that can be quite a gulf. Again, it comes down to maturity on both your parts. Age difference becomes less and less of an issue as time goes on, but seven years between a 17 and 24 year old is a little different than a 25 and 32 year old.

kingal · 04-21-2003, 08:51 PM

18 is the magic number. After you reach that number, proceed with caution.

Spidey · 04-22-2003, 05:57 AM

Women are usually more mature then men anyways, so i suppose its fine for her to like older men. But then again with the legal issue here, sorry i'm not fimilar with the Laws in the US but its probably best to wait. If you really like her, then you'd be best to wait and make the relationship last. If you really want to just fuck her then by all means leave her alone. You'll get into more shit. so the rule here is to LEAVE HER ALONE

kreskin · 04-22-2003, 09:00 AM

I'm 24 and was going for a 17 year old. In my defence she will be 18 in a month, so as long as they are of age, I don't care.

paddyjoe · 04-22-2003, 01:49 PM

some people are 17 going on 25, and some are 17 going on 7. you have to decide, BUT, damn sure wait till she's legal.

MilleniumZeus · 04-22-2003, 06:06 PM

Honestly, I think it would be a good idea to move on. She is 17 and has a lot of decisions to make in her life in terms of direction. If you enter the picture, the decisions she make may not be for her sake but for your relationship's sake. Being a father myself, I would have great difficulty with my daughter dating someone that I consider to be an adult and she would still be a child in my book, regardless of the law. Don't mess with the Dad. Let her grow up a little more and make smart decisions not "I'm in love and I'll do anything for him" decisions. If you were meant to be, God will put you together again. Promise. Good luck in making wise decisions.

04-20-2003, 01:32 PM	#1 (permalink)
IC3 Poison Location: Canada	Need some Advice Hi, So I went over to my friends place today to have him install my new cd player in my car. Another friend of mine was there, And this girl that he is seeing showed up with her friend. The girl that my friend is seeing came up to my car and said that her friend wants to meet me, So i got out of my car and introduced myself to her and shook her hand...This girl is pretty nice, And has a pretty amazing body. Now here is the catch..I asked her how old she is....She said 17, I am 24...But from what I heard from my buddy..He told me that the girl he is seeing said that her friend likes older guys. Everybody was shocked when they found out how old this girl was...She does not look 17...At all. So was it wrong asking for her number? Does this make me some kind of Pervert for wanting to get to know her and maybe try to build a relationship with this girl? I am not saying that i am gonna ask her out, Maybe just hang out with eachother and see how we are together...I know there is a bit of a gap between ages... Any of you people in a relationship where there is a bit of a gap between ages? I am not asking you guys to make my decision for me, I just wanna hear your opinions on it. Thanks

04-20-2003, 01:41 PM	#2 (permalink)
Magpie0001 Nobody Loves Me Location: Irish In Madrid	If you like her & she likes you what the fuck does it matter? Legal, schmegal, just take things slow & see what happens. If it comes to that tell her youre a little worried. Ok, if she was 12 or something they there would be problems but if shes mature & consenting, whats the biggy? I dont think it makes you a perv. __________________ Music is my first love & It will be my last.

04-20-2003, 01:59 PM	#3 (permalink)
rogue49 Loser	It depends on the State you are in. I would look this up immediately. You never know when she, her parents or other interested parties might get a bug up their butt and rat on you. (for ANY reason) And there are no excuses when it comes to the law. Remember... "Sixteen will get you twenty" and sometimes 17 will too. Careful man...if anything, find out her B-day and be the patient gentleman. Last edited by rogue49; 04-20-2003 at 02:01 PM..

04-20-2003, 04:59 PM	#5 (permalink)
merkerguitars Buffering......... Location: Wisconsin...	I would go for it (pending on if it didn't matter by law where you live). Thats not a huge age gap. All that matters is you like her right? And if you do have to wait till she's 18 it might be worth the wait __________________ Donate now! Ask me How! Please use the search function it is your friend. Look at my mustang please feel free to comment! http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/showthread.php?t=26985

04-20-2003, 06:12 PM	#6 (permalink)
Ambition Insane Location: Miami, FL	Yea I think I agree with the whole 18 thing the other guys mentioned.... I'd try to keep it friends as long as you can, cause according to law a minor is a minor.... and hell hath no fury like a womans scorn. __________________ Looking for answers to questions that can't be answered.

04-20-2003, 02:01 PM	#4 (permalink)
william Psycho	Legal, schmegal, my ass. If her parents catch you in the middle of the wazoo, legal won't matter (and it won't be on your side). You're so hot for each other - wait until she's 18. If you're that dedicated to each other, a few months will not matter.

04-20-2003, 06:22 PM	#7 (permalink)
Uuudar Insane	yeah, id check out the local laws on statchitory (sp?) rape. even if she says it'll be fine, you never know what she might do if things turn sour. You don't want to have to register as a sex offender anywhere you move for the rest of your life. It's just not worth it in that respect. Oh, and parents can be assholes about it too. Just be wary.

04-20-2003, 06:40 PM	#8 (permalink)
MSD The sky calls to us ... Super Moderator Location: CT	I don't see anything wrong with it, there's a gap, but mental maturity is different than physical maturity. The law, however, does not agree with me. In the US, statuatory rape makes you a sex offender, even if you're 18 and her18th is tomorrow. Not everyone looks at it that way, for example, in Russia, 14 is the age to doi porn. These things are more about cultural taboos than reality. If you're a good match, it shouldn't be stopped because of age.

04-20-2003, 07:18 PM	#9 (permalink)
BoCo Fear the bunny Location: Hanging off the tip of the Right Wing	If she likes older guys, then she's looking for Daddy! RUN!!! __________________ Activism is a way for useless people to feel important.

04-20-2003, 08:37 PM	#10 (permalink)
i8one2 COMPLETED and A TRAINER Location: BEAN_TOWN	ALICE COOPER! IM 18 listen, learn!... do you really need the hassle? __________________ LEATHER, LATEX and LACE "SSC" "Nothing That Gives Pleasure is Bad" Quality is for those who know what they want and are at peace with what they have. "S/M is about emotion; the erotic tension between my impulse toward something and my resistance against it."-- Virginia Barker

04-21-2003, 12:20 AM	#11 (permalink)
Atropos4 Think about it Location: North Carolina	alpha phi and i are 9 years apart....my parents freaked out until i pointed out that they are 8 years apart .. now we've been married for almost 3 years check the laws...wouldn't want you to get into trouble ...but otherwise i'd say go for it __________________ Minds are like parachutes. They work better open. "If I were Hermione, I would have licked his pantleg."

04-21-2003, 09:31 AM	#12 (permalink)
hotzot We're having potato pancakes! Location: stalag 13	poke her 'for she's cold! __________________ The Bully Boys are here!

04-21-2003, 11:39 AM	#13 (permalink)
blkdmnd Addict	My immediate take is that you probably want to get into her pants, and she wants to be able to tell her little friends that she's going out with a 24 yo. I'm a guy so I can understand the getting in her pants thing. Just don't convince yourself that she is mature enough just so you can do her. I mean, do you really have a lot in common with a high school girl? A seven year age difference is not a lot when you are 47 and 54. But it is a big difference at ya'lls age. __________________ I blow my nose at you. Now go away before I taunt you a second time.

04-21-2003, 02:43 PM	#14 (permalink)
snowy Kick Ass Kunoichi Location: Oregon	Having been 17 not too long ago, and having friends who are 17...wow. I'd have to agree with the take that she just wants to be able to say "I'm dating a 24-year-old." It totally depends on her maturity level and your maturity level. I would, however, check the laws before moving any further into this relationship. Statuatory rape can be taken very seriously by parents in particular. Remember, she's still in high school (presumably) and you're prolly out in the working world. Sometimes that can be quite a gulf. Again, it comes down to maturity on both your parts. Age difference becomes less and less of an issue as time goes on, but seven years between a 17 and 24 year old is a little different than a 25 and 32 year old. __________________ If I am not better, at least I am different. --Jean-Jacques Rousseau

04-21-2003, 08:51 PM	#15 (permalink)
kingal Crazy Location: sunny so. CA	18 is the magic number. After you reach that number, proceed with caution.

04-22-2003, 05:57 AM	#16 (permalink)
Spidey Crazy Location: Wellington, New Zealand	Women are usually more mature then men anyways, so i suppose its fine for her to like older men. But then again with the legal issue here, sorry i'm not fimilar with the Laws in the US but its probably best to wait. If you really like her, then you'd be best to wait and make the relationship last. If you really want to just fuck her then by all means leave her alone. You'll get into more shit. so the rule here is to LEAVE HER ALONE

04-22-2003, 09:00 AM	#17 (permalink)
kreskin Junkie Location: Solaris III	I'm 24 and was going for a 17 year old. In my defence she will be 18 in a month, so as long as they are of age, I don't care. __________________ I believe in the inner beauty of a woman: When you’re in’er – beauty.

04-22-2003, 01:49 PM	#18 (permalink)
paddyjoe through charlatans phone Location: Northcoast	some people are 17 going on 25, and some are 17 going on 7. you have to decide, BUT, damn sure wait till she's legal.

04-22-2003, 06:06 PM	#19 (permalink)
MilleniumZeus Crazy Location: Northern Virginia	Honestly, I think it would be a good idea to move on. She is 17 and has a lot of decisions to make in her life in terms of direction. If you enter the picture, the decisions she make may not be for her sake but for your relationship's sake. Being a father myself, I would have great difficulty with my daughter dating someone that I consider to be an adult and she would still be a child in my book, regardless of the law. Don't mess with the Dad. Let her grow up a little more and make smart decisions not "I'm in love and I'll do anything for him" decisions. If you were meant to be, God will put you together again. Promise. Good luck in making wise decisions. __________________ ZEUS IS IN THE HOUSE!!!