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shadowmaster · 05-26-2005, 07:09 AM

ok, so yesterday I went to hang out with my girlfriend, we've been dating for about 2 weeks. Anyway, we're like making out and I decide to finger her, so i stick a finger in and I'm feeling around and I notice that there's like bumps along the way, I didn't see anything so i don't know for sure what they were, but it felt like there were definite bubble like stuff along the way.....like is this a normal thing (are some girls bumpier than others) or should I be concerned? like could it be any diseases or anything?

HELP!!

Sage · 05-26-2005, 08:35 AM

Without seeing it you don't know for sure what it is. I'd ask her candidly about her sexual history and has she been tested for STD's BEFORE you get into doing anything sexual with her. And get tested yourself.

shadowmaster · 05-26-2005, 10:08 AM

I haven't done anything with her yet, I fingered her and thats it....so I should talk to her and ask her what it is? how should i dop that without sounding like "hey I think you have herpes so lets sit dowwn and talk about it?".....the last thing I wnat to do is to offend her....but I guess when it comes down to it, talking to ehr is the only thing i can do right?..............argh

maleficent · 05-26-2005, 10:15 AM

If you are considering having sex with her it's definitely a conversation you should have, whether or not you felt bumps or not. This is your health you are dealing with.

You dont know that is' herpes and I wouldn't bring that up, but bringing up sexual history is a conversation that should be had.

angeltek · 05-26-2005, 10:49 AM

My Wife has some of those same bumpy things at the top of the cnal....and I have been with other wmen too....I know that if I pay attention to them with my fingers it send girls crazy...

I hope it's not a STD thing...although I would have had signs of an STD myself by now if it was the case

Sage · 05-26-2005, 12:03 PM

How many times do we have to tell people that having the "pre-sex" talk is a good thing? STD'S ARE BAD!!!! Just talk to her and make sure you're being safe- do you want your penis to be covered in huge scabby pus-filled welts in a month? Or perhaps you'd rather have it fall off?

shadowmaster · 05-26-2005, 01:04 PM

no you see the tuff question is, "is it ok to breakup with her if things are what they seem?"......it just seems kinda cold......i don't know, I've not talked to her yet, but i've never talked to a girl about something like this before, so I just don't wnat to offend her.........how can I approach her about it without offending her in some way?

Gamer90 · 05-26-2005, 01:32 PM

Was she shaved? If so it may be ingrown hairs or shaving bumps.

shadowmaster · 05-26-2005, 01:43 PM

inside of her???

maleficent · 05-26-2005, 02:03 PM

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Originally Posted by shadowmaster

, I've not talked to her yet, but i've never talked to a girl about something like this before, so I just don't wnat to offend her.........how can I approach her about it without offending her in some way?

**Slams head into monitor**

Ok - there's only one way I can say this...

If you are mature enough to be having sex, you are mature enough to have the discussion "Have you ever been tested...." Let's go get tested together....."

It's your health and her heath, you are not accusing her of anything, if she gets offended... well then she shouldn't be having sex because she's not being very mature about her sexual health.

If the results aren't an all clear -- well then you have to decide what you want to do.. and only you can make that decision... there are people on this board who have perfectly happy relationships with a partner who is infected... It's a big deal to some, it's not to others - that choice is yours.

Get tested -- it's better to know than not know

raeanna74 · 05-26-2005, 02:23 PM

I'll ditto the message you've gotten already - Talk to her. Get both of your tested. It could be any number of things, warts, herpes... Just ask if she's been tested and what the results were.

If she has been tested, or you both get tested and it all comes out clear then it's possible you ran into the G-spot. That doesn't feel like round bumps though. This is more like ridges, like cordoroy running sideways about an inch inside the vagina on the top/front side near her clit.

Good Luck.

Seeker · 05-26-2005, 04:52 PM

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Originally Posted by maleficent

If you are mature enough to be having sex, you are mature enough to have the discussion "Have you ever been tested...." Let's go get tested together....."

Exactly! If you are really serious about your partner, then this can also be seen as a considerate and thoughtful way to approach the relationship. It's something you do because you both care about yourselves and each other.

If by chance something were to show up, well... there are a lot of people who can work with or through some of these things. Ultimately if you think the relationship is worth the work or considerations it can be informative and helpful.. the only way this wouldn't turn out so well is if in fact you are not serious - but in any case you have looked out for No.1, (yourself). Much better to be safe than sorry, right?

TM875 · 05-26-2005, 06:28 PM

I think the "little bumps" are very common - not an STD thing. Every girl I've been with since I was 15 had similar slight bumps on the inside of her vaginal canal. I would have to say that I believe that it's perfectly normal.

Nonetheless, have the STD talk, anyway. It's just good sense.

ktspktsp · 05-26-2005, 06:59 PM

As far as I know, the remains of the hymen can cause some irregularities in the vagina walls.

And yes, please have a sexual history discussion!

skysooner · 05-26-2005, 08:00 PM

It is perfectly normal. The conversation is good just to protect yourself. I grew up in the pre-Aids era and had a number of experiences. The bumps are just par for the course for some women.

shadowmaster · 05-27-2005, 06:46 AM

ok sooo heres the turn up. turns out theirs nothing wrong, thats just how she is, so I ended up offending her like a maniac.....but things are cool now...anyway thanks for the help, and come on, try to be a little nicer to someone asking for advice for crying out loud!!!!

Blackthorn · 05-27-2005, 08:11 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by shadowmaster

ok sooo heres the turn up. turns out theirs nothing wrong, thats just how she is, so I ended up offending her like a maniac.....but things are cool now...anyway thanks for the help, and come on, try to be a little nicer to someone asking for advice for crying out loud!!!!

People are being nice to you by showing concern for you and your partner's health so perhaps you should be more appreciative of the contribution people have tried to give you.

My first thought upon reading your initial post was that you should google up HPV. If this doesn't scare you enough to want to have a mature discussion with your partner (although it sounds like you already have) then I suppose nothing will.

This comes from the CDC...

Quote:

Most people who have a genital HPV infection do not know they are infected. The virus lives in the skin or mucous membranes and usually causes no symptoms. Some people get visible genital warts, or have pre-cancerous changes in the cervix, vulva, anus, or penis. Very rarely, HPV infection results in anal or genital cancers.

Genital warts usually appear as soft, moist, pink, or flesh-colored swellings, usually in the genital area. They can be raised or flat, single or multiple, small or large, and sometimes cauliflower shaped. They can appear on the vulva, in or around the vagina or anus, on the cervix, and on the penis, scrotum, groin, or thigh. After sexual contact with an infected person, warts may appear within weeks or months, or not at all.

Genital warts are diagnosed by visual inspection. Visible genital warts can be removed by medications the patient applies, or by treatments performed by a health care provider. Some individuals choose to forego treatment to see if the warts will disappear on their own. No treatment regimen for genital warts is better than another, and no one treatment regimen is ideal for all cases.

Link to the full description of: HPV

maleficent · 05-27-2005, 08:32 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by shadowmaster

ok sooo heres the turn up. turns out theirs nothing wrong, thats just how she is, so I ended up offending her like a maniac.....but things are cool now...anyway thanks for the help, and come on, try to be a little nicer to someone asking for advice for crying out loud!!!!

Why is telling someone that they are about to be intimate with to have a discussion about their sexual history and sexual health not being nice? You should do that no matter what, whether or not there were bumps, herpes and other STDs are transmittable even if there are no outward symptoms.

You want to have sex... you talk about the implications - otherwise you keep your clothes on... and that's as nmice as I can possibly get.

tritium · 05-27-2005, 08:06 PM

Could be benign sebaceous prominence too. Check the second pic on that page... I've been dealing with 'em for ages.

http://www.studenthealth.co.uk/leafl...enitalSkin.htm

former newt · 05-28-2005, 10:15 PM

as an 18 year old male, how would i go about bringing up the subject of testing/sexual history/possible diseases with an 18 year old girl?

i mean, obviously saying "how many guys have you fucked? have you been tested for teh STDz0rz? do you have warts?" isn't gonna be very smooth...

i can understand being totally upfront and direct about it in a serious relationship, but what about casual, spur-of-the-moment type encounters? i don't want to risk something by not asking, but i don't want to drive the girls off...

and while we're at it, how do you go about asking a girl about this same stuff when you are in a serious relationship? i understand that in a serious relationship, it's not all about being smooth, but being honest and relying on trust, so asking directly should be pretty acceptable...or am i wrong?

Seeker · 05-29-2005, 03:51 AM

former newt:
Have you read the whole post.. it's just that maleficent had the best possible way to ask your serious partner in post #10...

If it's just a casual, spur-of-the-moment thing.. there are condoms and you take your chances.. (I can't think of anything to ensure your sexual health here, if there are measures then someone please correct me on this..)

If it's a serious relationship then asking directly (as in example post #10) should be acceptable. If it is not, then I would be questioning her unwillingness to under-go testing...

chickentribs · 05-29-2005, 04:18 AM

As Mal and Seeker said, not only is it responsible, opening up frank and honest discussion regarding sexuality is hot! You create a dialogue and openess that will also lead to discussions regarding turn-ons, fantasies, and intamacy. The more honest and open you can be with a partner, the closer you can be in the bedroom!

Blackthorn · 05-29-2005, 04:20 AM

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Originally Posted by former newt

as an 18 year old male, how would i go about bringing up the subject of testing/sexual history/possible diseases with an 18 year old girl?

A better question to ask is how can you have a sexual relationship with this 18 year old woman without asking about her sexual history? You can go right ahead without asking and roll the dice on your health and well being but do you really want to? You biggest concern isn't really one of the big one's like HIV unless you are really playing in high risk waters but considering that there are many examples of STD's out there that people don't even know they are carrying...getting tested for the benefit of both your and your partner's health is an easy topic to bring up.

Simply tell her that you have a sensitive topic that you would like to discuss that involves your history. Tell her that you have been with other women (assuming you have) and that, while you are certain that there is nothing to worry about, you feel it would be good for her sake and for yours to have yourself tested just so that you can both be sure that there are no unknown problems. Then invite her to join you if she feels the same way. * thread jack -- and for crap's sake don't ask her for a "number of". That information is useless to you and only fuels that crazy insecurity about being better than all the rest. It's a non-zero number and that's all you need to know. /thread jack end

If she reacts poorly or doesn't want to get tested then you should have more questions about this potential partner. At the age of 18 there are a lot more fish in the sea so to speak. Why risk the rest of your adult life with this one?

former newt · 05-30-2005, 07:01 PM

it was all hypothetical. trust me, i don't really take part in random acts of sex, but i've always wondered how some of my...overly active...peers go about ensuring their safety, if at all.

Disk_Pusher · 05-30-2005, 08:11 PM

My way of bringing it up was offering a copy of my lastest trip to the gyno - I always get tested on a regular basis, regardless of the fact that I've only had 2 partners. By showing that I take responsibility for myself, and for the health of my (new) partner, I find they are more than happy to reciprocate.

/been with the same guy for 2 years, no cheating
//still get tested, my insurance covers it and I'd rather be safe than sorry.

*Rhapsody* · 06-05-2005, 11:01 AM

yes dear that is normal...those are where the nerve endings are. sensitive area; so be gentle otherwise only tickle with your pickle. it is rare to find a man who can do this task well (it takes practice) so go get her tiger and only be worried if they are large cyst like bumps or something. she would know if that was going on. i hope. lol

05-26-2005, 07:09 AM	#1 (permalink)
shadowmaster Upright Location: anywhere and everywhere	is that normal or should I be cautious?! ok, so yesterday I went to hang out with my girlfriend, we've been dating for about 2 weeks. Anyway, we're like making out and I decide to finger her, so i stick a finger in and I'm feeling around and I notice that there's like bumps along the way, I didn't see anything so i don't know for sure what they were, but it felt like there were definite bubble like stuff along the way.....like is this a normal thing (are some girls bumpier than others) or should I be concerned? like could it be any diseases or anything? HELP!! __________________ I always make sure my job is done before I go

05-26-2005, 08:35 AM	#2 (permalink)
Sage hoarding all the big girl panties since 2005 Location: North side	Without seeing it you don't know for sure what it is. I'd ask her candidly about her sexual history and has she been tested for STD's BEFORE you get into doing anything sexual with her. And get tested yourself. __________________ Sage knows our mythic history, King Arthur's and Sir Caradoc's She answers hard acrostics, has a pretty taste for paradox She quotes in elegiacs all the crimes of Heliogabalus In conics she can floor peculiarities parabolous -C'hi

05-26-2005, 10:08 AM	#3 (permalink)
shadowmaster Upright Location: anywhere and everywhere	I haven't done anything with her yet, I fingered her and thats it....so I should talk to her and ask her what it is? how should i dop that without sounding like "hey I think you have herpes so lets sit dowwn and talk about it?".....the last thing I wnat to do is to offend her....but I guess when it comes down to it, talking to ehr is the only thing i can do right?..............argh __________________ I always make sure my job is done before I go

05-26-2005, 10:15 AM	#4 (permalink)
maleficent Junkie Moderator Emeritus Location: Chicago	If you are considering having sex with her it's definitely a conversation you should have, whether or not you felt bumps or not. This is your health you are dealing with. You dont know that is' herpes and I wouldn't bring that up, but bringing up sexual history is a conversation that should be had. __________________ Free your heart from hatred. Free your mind from worries. Live simply. Give more. Expect less.

05-26-2005, 12:03 PM	#6 (permalink)
Sage hoarding all the big girl panties since 2005 Location: North side	How many times do we have to tell people that having the "pre-sex" talk is a good thing? STD'S ARE BAD!!!! Just talk to her and make sure you're being safe- do you want your penis to be covered in huge scabby pus-filled welts in a month? Or perhaps you'd rather have it fall off? __________________ Sage knows our mythic history, King Arthur's and Sir Caradoc's She answers hard acrostics, has a pretty taste for paradox She quotes in elegiacs all the crimes of Heliogabalus In conics she can floor peculiarities parabolous -C'hi

05-26-2005, 10:49 AM	#5 (permalink)
angeltek Crazy Location: Regina, sk, Canada	My Wife has some of those same bumpy things at the top of the cnal....and I have been with other wmen too....I know that if I pay attention to them with my fingers it send girls crazy... I hope it's not a STD thing...although I would have had signs of an STD myself by now if it was the case

05-26-2005, 01:04 PM	#7 (permalink)
shadowmaster Upright Location: anywhere and everywhere	no you see the tuff question is, "is it ok to breakup with her if things are what they seem?"......it just seems kinda cold......i don't know, I've not talked to her yet, but i've never talked to a girl about something like this before, so I just don't wnat to offend her.........how can I approach her about it without offending her in some way? __________________ I always make sure my job is done before I go

05-26-2005, 01:32 PM	#8 (permalink)
Gamer90 Tilted	Was she shaved? If so it may be ingrown hairs or shaving bumps. __________________ *This posting is provided "as is" with no warranties, and confers no rights*

05-26-2005, 01:43 PM	#9 (permalink)
shadowmaster Upright Location: anywhere and everywhere	inside of her??? __________________ I always make sure my job is done before I go

05-26-2005, 02:23 PM	#11 (permalink)
raeanna74 I'm not a blonde! I'm knot! I'm knot! I'm knot! Location: Upper Michigan	I'll ditto the message you've gotten already - Talk to her. Get both of your tested. It could be any number of things, warts, herpes... Just ask if she's been tested and what the results were. If she has been tested, or you both get tested and it all comes out clear then it's possible you ran into the G-spot. That doesn't feel like round bumps though. This is more like ridges, like cordoroy running sideways about an inch inside the vagina on the top/front side near her clit. Good Luck. __________________ "Always learn the rules so that you can break them properly." Dalai Lama My Karma just ran over your Dogma.

05-26-2005, 06:28 PM	#13 (permalink)
TM875 Addict Location: Amish-land, PA	I think the "little bumps" are very common - not an STD thing. Every girl I've been with since I was 15 had similar slight bumps on the inside of her vaginal canal. I would have to say that I believe that it's perfectly normal. Nonetheless, have the STD talk, anyway. It's just good sense. __________________ "I've made only one mistake in my life. But I made it over and over and over. That was saying 'yes' when I meant 'no'. Forgive me."

05-26-2005, 06:59 PM	#14 (permalink)
ktspktsp Addict Location: Reykjavik, Iceland	As far as I know, the remains of the hymen can cause some irregularities in the vagina walls. And yes, please have a sexual history discussion!

05-26-2005, 08:00 PM	#15 (permalink)
skysooner Registered User Location: Oklahoma	It is perfectly normal. The conversation is good just to protect yourself. I grew up in the pre-Aids era and had a number of experiences. The bumps are just par for the course for some women.

05-27-2005, 06:46 AM	#16 (permalink)
shadowmaster Upright Location: anywhere and everywhere	ok sooo heres the turn up. turns out theirs nothing wrong, thats just how she is, so I ended up offending her like a maniac.....but things are cool now...anyway thanks for the help, and come on, try to be a little nicer to someone asking for advice for crying out loud!!!! __________________ I always make sure my job is done before I go

05-27-2005, 08:06 PM	#19 (permalink)
tritium Professor of Drinkology	Could be benign sebaceous prominence too. Check the second pic on that page... I've been dealing with 'em for ages. http://www.studenthealth.co.uk/leafl...enitalSkin.htm __________________ Blah.

05-28-2005, 10:15 PM	#20 (permalink)
former newt Crazy	as an 18 year old male, how would i go about bringing up the subject of testing/sexual history/possible diseases with an 18 year old girl? i mean, obviously saying "how many guys have you fucked? have you been tested for teh STDz0rz? do you have warts?" isn't gonna be very smooth... i can understand being totally upfront and direct about it in a serious relationship, but what about casual, spur-of-the-moment type encounters? i don't want to risk something by not asking, but i don't want to drive the girls off... and while we're at it, how do you go about asking a girl about this same stuff when you are in a serious relationship? i understand that in a serious relationship, it's not all about being smooth, but being honest and relying on trust, so asking directly should be pretty acceptable...or am i wrong?

05-29-2005, 03:51 AM	#21 (permalink)
Seeker Getting Clearer Location: with spirit	former newt: Have you read the whole post.. it's just that maleficent had the best possible way to ask your serious partner in post #10... If it's just a casual, spur-of-the-moment thing.. there are condoms and you take your chances.. (I can't think of anything to ensure your sexual health here, if there are measures then someone please correct me on this..) If it's a serious relationship then asking directly (as in example post #10) should be acceptable. If it is not, then I would be questioning her unwillingness to under-go testing... __________________ *To those who wander but who are not lost...* ~ Knowledge is not something you acquire, it is something you open yourself to.

05-29-2005, 04:18 AM	#22 (permalink)
chickentribs Addict Location: Mansion by day/Secret Lair by night	As Mal and Seeker said, not only is it responsible, opening up frank and honest discussion regarding sexuality is hot! You create a dialogue and openess that will also lead to discussions regarding turn-ons, fantasies, and intamacy. The more honest and open you can be with a partner, the closer you can be in the bedroom! __________________ Oft expectation fails... and most oft there Where most it promises - Shakespeare, W.

05-30-2005, 07:01 PM	#24 (permalink)
former newt Crazy	it was all hypothetical. trust me, i don't really take part in random acts of sex, but i've always wondered how some of my...overly active...peers go about ensuring their safety, if at all.

05-30-2005, 08:11 PM	#25 (permalink)
Disk_Pusher Tilted Location: Fresno, soon to be Sacramento!	My way of bringing it up was offering a copy of my lastest trip to the gyno - I always get tested on a regular basis, regardless of the fact that I've only had 2 partners. By showing that I take responsibility for myself, and for the health of my (new) partner, I find they are more than happy to reciprocate. /been with the same guy for 2 years, no cheating //still get tested, my insurance covers it and I'd rather be safe than sorry.

06-05-2005, 11:01 AM	#26 (permalink)
Rhapsody Upright Location: Wild Wild West	yes dear that is normal...those are where the nerve endings are. sensitive area; so be gentle otherwise only tickle with your pickle. it is rare to find a man who can do this task well (it takes practice) so go get her tiger and only be worried if they are large cyst like bumps or something. she would know if that was going on. i hope. lol