kittenpie

my "special friend" and i have been embroiled lately in a discussion involving the differences between male and female orgasms. he absolutely INSISTS that there's all the difference in the world. he likens the experience to that of driving a ferrari (for women) as opposed to riding a skateboard (for men). he says men do not have the ability to completely let go and drift into complete bliss like women can before, during, and after the orgasm. he says orgasms for men are good and all, but that men envy the power women have to enjoy theirs so much more.

what do y'all think? is this true? do women really have it that much better or is he just blowing wind up my skirt?

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Stiltzkin

I would have to agree with your special friend. I am speaking solely from a male persective, of course. I've read stories by women who speak of amazing orgasms, though never any by men who speak of blindingly amazing orgasms. I would have to venture to say that in order for man to achieve a hightened or more pleasurable orgasm, his "g-spot" would need some kind of stimulation. Hope this helps a bit.

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unoaman

Kittenpie...very good question, and a very subjective one to try to answer. First off in case you couldn't tell, I'm a man...so this will be from my side of the fence if you will.
If the ladies I have know in my lifetime are telling me accurately, mens orgasm can't hold a candle to ones that women have. Ours are very, very intense, but extremely localized, not to say that sex, and orgasm doesn't make a man feel good all over. On the other hand, the female orgasm seems for the most part to be centered below the waist if you will, but also encompasses her whole body. It's been described to me as more or less spreading out in waves, from the toes, and especially the head, and brain. Like your "special friend", I can only imagine the feeling, but I believe he is right, at least from my experience he is. But keep in mind I'm not, and I assume he isn't, complaining!

Flyguy

Well, since we all pretty much know that women can have multiple orgasms and men for the most part can't, I'd have to say that you women have it pretty damn good. Personally, I've never have any multiple orgasms and god knows I've tried both solo and with flygirl. Men's orgasms, from my perspective, are pretty much a straight shot. You build up the anticipation, eventually shoot and then recover. Simple. I think that women are pretty much all over the orgasmic spectrum. More power to you I say.

forkies

i'm male, and i've had both amazing orgasms that are absolute full-body pleasure and orgasms that are just a quick jerk-off. in fact, i had one just last week with my bf where i was SOO turned on and he asked me to shoot on his chest. I was over him and as i was cumming had to brace myself on the wall since it was soo incredible.

i've also had what i would describe as orgasms without ejaculation. most are a result of feverish bouts of tickling (i'm VERY ticklish and my bf has a fetish, so we/he can get crazy)

Dale Kemp

I once had a very nice, though not earth shaking orgasm when I was giving cunnilingus to my girlfriend. MMMmmmm. I shared her orgasm.

You have to understand that men have about 10% of the sensitivity to touch that women have, except on their genitals, where we are merely equal. So women really want to be carressed all over, but men really want their lover to be more focused on the sensitive finger of friendship.

Women have a much less centered pleasure experience. They have more variety. They have a roller coaster ride, up and down and up and so on. And they can enjoy sex over and over again, if they can find a lover who can pleasure them so long. (Ahh, to be young again!)

But which of us have the greater intensity? There is probably some testing done that tried to answer this question, but we are apples and oranges different when it comes to coming. How could one say?

I'm a little jealous of women's ability to enjoy pleasure again right away after a great orgasm, while I have a significant recycle time need. I wonder and wish I could feel the pleasure of touch all over the way they do, but often find comfort in that I don't feel hurt so much when live and work are abrasive to body. Six of one, half a dozen of the other. Viva la difference! But it is a thrill to watch a woman come.

CanadianCommie

it is somethign to envy when a woman has a handful of spots on her body that can be touched or caressed and it feels good enough that you could orgasm to it. I don't have any stimulation points outside my crotch area, which means that you kinda feel left out of the fun if no genital stimulation occurs.


but I know for a fact that I can't drift off into complete bliss for more than the couple moments the orgasm occurs. That doesn't mean I don't enjoy the stimulation, but during sex I have to concentrate to make sure I'll be good to go for a reasonable amount of time. Women don't have that type of pressure to last because they can either have multiple orgasms without stopping or just take a while to climax. That assurance probably allows a women to relax and really enjoy what they are getting.

Key

me and my ex talked about who enjoyed it more. one of the funny jokes that came up was:

well, say you have an itch in your ear. now scratch it. what feels better- your ear or your finger?

it must rule to be a woman.

Redlemon

What, no one has mentioned Tiresias?
Good enough for me!

Key

hah, that's funny. i consider myself pretty good on my greek mythology, but never heard of that one. i heard the athena tale, though.

It's funny, anytime you're consulted by gods to settle an argument, you know you're screwed. Damned if you do, damned if you don't. You're gonna piss off one or the other, and in this case I'd have say I would choose not to piss off the God of all Gods..

Dawson70

I know I have had some "mind blowers".......

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Blonddie

I don't agree with your friend. I think that can be just as intense for either sex. As for who has more...thats another topic!

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redarrow

O'course, that whole deal with the women having better orgasms might be related to all those "feelings" they have.

But I agree that women have it better what with the multiple orgasms and stuff.

Then again, women have periods and that thing with thongs..

Then again, men have to pay the bill

Then again, women have that whole emotional deal..

Then ag- Im talking in circles. Lets just say we have it equal and go to bed.

Average_Joe

I'm a bit jeolous that women can have multiple orgasms and me just one. However, what if all men could keep cumming and cumming over and over? We would never get anything done!

alicat

I just have to say as a woman that I think far too many men think that all women have multiple orgasms. While many do, I'm sure just as many don't.

My orgasms last all of two seconds and then my clit gets so ultra sensitive that I can't handle any further stimulation. Give me a half hour or so and maybe I can have another one.

The only mind-blowing two orgasms I've had in 16 yrs. with DH were G-spot orgasms without any clitoral stimulation and were completely unexpected. They were the only two times I've experienced female ejaculation and it hasn't happened again for 5 yrs. (not for lack of trying ). My average one's don't come close due to the instant sensitivity factor.

I've always been envious of men because it seems to me that theirs are so powerful (and maybe compared to mine, they are).

Ali

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davik

As a guy I've noticed that mine really don't hold a candle to my girlfriend's (or most of the girls I've been with). For me it feels good building up, there's an instant of really intense feeling, then it's over, and really it only lasts a second. At no point do I really lose control, and as soon as it's over I'm pretty much back to normal, with the exception of a few that left me with soon numbness in my legs and arms, but those were rare and took forever. The girls I've been with tended to have orgasms that stretched out for some length of time (atleast the good ones), and that tended to leave them drained/numb/or unable to walk. All in all i think it breaks down that a guy is much more assured of actually having an orgasm, but a girl has much better ones if she's with a decent guy.

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Ella

Speaking from personal experience, women are able to have three types of orgasms - anal, vaginal and clitoral. I find the clitoral one the most mindblowing, but hey, that's three.....count 'em....three!!

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akacja

this is all because of Adam

long long time ago, when Adam and Eva lived in haeven gardens God asked:
- who want to piss in standing possition?
Adam tried 2 be fast and scream:
-Me!! me!! I want!!!
God said:
- Well, so Eva will gets a multiple orgasm...



if i made mistakes try to fix it anyone who understand it to make it better... my english is not so well

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ptownsean

kittenpie: I totally agree with your friend on this matter. However, watching and feeling a woman get her's is just as much fun as getting mine... but I still think women get more out of it.

adam

The multiple orgasms thing is such an overwhelming factor that there can be no doubt that women have better potential sexual experiences... and while there is no way for me to really know, it sure looks like they can have more intense orgasms.

Life is just so damned unfair sometimes...

gar1976

Women's orgasms > Men's orgasms

Women's sexual hangups > Men's sexual hangups

Looks like you ladies get the good with the bad.

MSD

If women had ten times the sensetivity to touch that I do, then a light breeze would give them an orgasm.

He speaks the truth.

Diamond

Kind of depends on the day, the mood. I've had some great ones, I've had some "plant it and go to sleep" From what I've seen, it sure looks like the girls got the better end of the deal.

YaWhateva

he damn well does speak the truth, told the girlfriend about it and damn, these things have never been so intense at all. thanks a bunch there stiltz.

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spankpaula

to please you all I HAVE MOVED FROM ONE CAMP TO THE OTHER (so to say )
and can most honestly say the femail orgasm is the best they go on and on and on not a quick squirt like the guys

anna1985

Its proven women have much more intence orgasm also I think this being all the other shit we have to go through we get better orgasms, but thats just my opinion.

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Uuudar

Eh, I think that guys can match the female orgasm in singles, but women by far have the advantage with the multis. However, the male equivelent of a female orgasm does not happen all the time.

However, I have had those orgasms where I writhe in pleasure and cannot control myself.

itch vaccine

I heard something about the M-Spot

try scratching the bone on your ass crack.. you'll feel like you gotta pee..

the prob is there's no way to get there >.<

So.. because the female's spot is reacheable and men's are not.. the women have better fun.

No fair right?

cxnaj20

I think female orgasms are much more powerful than men's. I'm a guy. This opinion is coming only from the fact that woman (some) are so vocal and make it clear what's happening to them. Seems like it lasts longer too.
Jealous.

YaWhateva

yes it is. look at stiltz post, that is your prostate and believe me it is reachable and mucho pleasurable

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skills1

Interesting...I'm just fine with the way it occurs for men. Not sure how much of a difference it is for women.

itch vaccine

Oh? it's reacheable?

Coolio.. any idea how? haha..

YaWhateva

take a look at this.

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Redgirl

I think generally women do have more powerful, full body, orgasms which in my opinion equals better. I can't do multiples, so to those that can.

One thing I have is really strong PC muscles, so my SO can really experience my orgasms with me since I squeeze the crap out of him. I can sometimes feel his, but it doesn't really heighten my pleasure to do so, like mine do for him.

And since no one has mentioned it yet: you guys looking for some G-spot action should google "Anero". The hubbies got one and he seems to like it so far. You're supposed to be able to orgasm without touching yourself using one of these.

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Redlemon

Actually, that's Aneros, and there's a long thread here. I have one as well; my reviews are in there.

xxSquirtxx

Mmmm....yes.