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prince_albert · 10-01-2003, 06:52 AM

I met a girl in a forum, I started to think about her, not sexually, just being with her, hugging each other etc. I really needed someone so I would talk to her...I guess this sounds a bit freaky, I don’t know if I am a psycho, and to be honest, I don’t care. Anyway, I was shocked, in a positive way, when we talked to each other about our feelings, she likes me, and I really, really like her. Unfortunately she lives in another country, I want to meet her badly, and she wants to meet me too, but I have these negative thoughts, like, I think of me going there, to find out she doesn’t really like me at all...I don’t know, I am just very afraid that something bad might happen there.

I don’t know....what to do, I mean, should I tell her this? Like, that I am worried about it? I don’t know....I really don’t know what to do...She keeps me here, alive I mean....

vveronica · 10-01-2003, 07:12 AM

I guess it would have to be dependant upon WHAT country it is.
I dont think you'd end up beaten in a dungeon in Scotland. But. going to Iran, now that would be foolish. Better to use that prince albert on us home grown girls...

If your worried send her a ticket.

lurkette · 10-01-2003, 07:16 AM

Your sig speaks volumes.

You gotta cut that out! Here you've found someone you like, and who likes you back, and you're willing to let that get away because, what, it might not work? Here's a scenario for you:

A. Prince Albert goes to another country, finds girl he's been flirting with, they live happily ever after.

B. Prince Albert goes to another country, finds girl he's been flirting with, it doesn't work out.

So you're willing to give up the possibility of A because B might happen? How crazy is that?!

Man, go for it! Yeah, tell her you're nervous. She's probably nervous, too. But go anyhow! Grab life by the horns and go live it. If you get hurt, at least you tried and at least you had some experiences. The alternative is a long, slow, lingering walking death.

Thraeryn · 10-01-2003, 07:37 AM

If you can afford to go there, you can afford to get her a ticket and let her come to you. You never REALLY have to use the return portion of a round-trip ticket if you don't want to.

Averett · 10-01-2003, 08:06 AM

Go for it. Take a chance!!! I know a few couples who have met this way. Some worked out, some haven't. You'll never know if you don't try.

prince_albert · 10-01-2003, 08:06 AM

Its not that I am considering not to go, I can't wait to go, I am getting so pissed off that I am away, I hate it when I cant help her, when I can't be with her....to hold her in my arms...to support her....She is not that far away, only an hour by plane.

Its just that, I have never been with a person that shares the feeling and I think I am going to fuck it up!

Ok what I didnt say In the first posts is that I am suicidical, I have been that way since I was 13. She gave me a reson not to go...I mean, if it wasn't for her I wouldn't be here now...so she means a lot to me, so if she rejects me, or if I fuck things up...I dont know...

lurkette · 10-01-2003, 08:35 AM

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Originally posted by prince_albert
Its just that, I have never been with a person that shares the feeling and I think I am going to fuck it up!

Ok what I didnt say In the first posts is that I am suicidical, I have been that way since I was 13. She gave me a reson not to go...I mean, if it wasn't for her I wouldn't be here now...so she means a lot to me, so if she rejects me, or if I fuck things up...I dont know...

Oh....kay. Why on earth do you think you're going to fuck it up? There's no reason to think so. You don't even have past evidence to support this view, since you've never been with anyone else. It's all in your head.

Second, GET HELP. Run now to the nearest mental health professional. If you're suicidal and have been since you were 13, you have no business entering into a relationship until this is handled. If this girl is all that's keeping you alive, man, what kind of pressure is that to put on a new relationship? You need to be okay with yourself first, or it's just not fair to her. You're setting her up for a really bad situation, and if you really care for her, failure=death is not a position you want to put her in. Seriously, you really need to deal with whatever underlying issues you have before you can think about having a healthy relationship.

prince_albert · 10-01-2003, 08:56 AM

I wouldn't go upto her like "If you don't like me I am going to kill myself" thats just stupid for someone to do. I am just saying that when she told me about how she feels, knowing that there is someone who thinks about you gave me a reason to be around. And, I have biochemical depression, so in order to fix that I will have to go to meds, which will change my personality, and thats not something I want...

Averett · 10-01-2003, 09:19 AM

If medication will keep you from being suicidal TAKE THEM!!!

Fallon · 10-01-2003, 10:07 AM

Let's put this another way...if she knows that she is the reason you aren't trying to commit suicide, she has power over you. For some people, this may be a good thing. For myself personnally...I wouldn't like it.
I've known many people that have had many different chemical imbalances in their heads, and thankfully they took their medicine. With one of them, you could when he went off his medicine, and when he started to take it again. Generally it was more fun being around him when he was on his medicine because he wasn't all down, he had a postive outlook on stuff and a couple other things.
My suggestion on meeting this girl is go see her, have a good time with her. She is a friend now right? If you don't think it'd work out as a relationship, she's still a friend right? Good, friends are a support net in the times you fall down. Use us as a support net. Even though I don't know you, I'd still support you in anything. So get your butt in gear, lose the doubts and go see her!

prince_albert · 10-01-2003, 11:44 AM

Well more than a friend, at least thats how I see her...I am mostly funny, more than I should, I have learned to keep things inside me, but that was a depression support forum where we met so she knows. Generaly though I am not depressed, and there is not way I can be depressed if I am with her, its just that, I am a bit afraid! I talk to her about it, I told her that I am afraid i might fuck up, and she said she is afraid she might do the same...I guess we are both a bit anxious about this.

Anyway, thanks a lot for your replies, take care people!

Averett · 10-01-2003, 11:59 AM

Its natural to be scared. Go and have fun

World's King · 10-01-2003, 12:26 PM

Please tell me that you've seen a picture of this girl?

prince_albert · 10-01-2003, 01:08 PM

I am really looking forward to that Averett!

And yeah, we have both seen pics of eachother (including my nickname

).

bermuDa · 10-01-2003, 05:30 PM

consider yourself lucky she's willing to meet you. Just make sure she doesn't change her mind right before you leave.

skysooner · 10-01-2003, 06:44 PM

I met my wife through a personal ad. It is not how we meet someone but how you get along when you are with them. Good luck and keep us informed.

10-01-2003, 06:52 AM	#1 (permalink)
prince_albert Banned Location: Bradford, UK	I guess its just me... I met a girl in a forum, I started to think about her, not sexually, just being with her, hugging each other etc. I really needed someone so I would talk to her...I guess this sounds a bit freaky, I don’t know if I am a psycho, and to be honest, I don’t care. Anyway, I was shocked, in a positive way, when we talked to each other about our feelings, she likes me, and I really, really like her. Unfortunately she lives in another country, I want to meet her badly, and she wants to meet me too, but I have these negative thoughts, like, I think of me going there, to find out she doesn’t really like me at all...I don’t know, I am just very afraid that something bad might happen there. I don’t know....what to do, I mean, should I tell her this? Like, that I am worried about it? I don’t know....I really don’t know what to do...She keeps me here, alive I mean....

10-01-2003, 07:12 AM	#2 (permalink)
vveronica Psycho Location: northern california	I guess it would have to be dependant upon WHAT country it is. I dont think you'd end up beaten in a dungeon in Scotland. But. going to Iran, now that would be foolish. Better to use that prince albert on us home grown girls... If your worried send her a ticket. __________________ ...We find ourselves in a struggle for our very right to exsist... We will not go quietly into the night... We will not give up without a fight...

10-01-2003, 07:16 AM	#3 (permalink)
lurkette My future is coming on Moderator Emeritus Location: east of the sun and west of the moon	Your sig speaks volumes. You gotta cut that out! Here you've found someone you like, and who likes you back, and you're willing to let that get away because, what, it might not work? Here's a scenario for you: A. Prince Albert goes to another country, finds girl he's been flirting with, they live happily ever after. B. Prince Albert goes to another country, finds girl he's been flirting with, it doesn't work out. So you're willing to give up the possibility of A because B might happen? How crazy is that?! Man, go for it! Yeah, tell her you're nervous. She's probably nervous, too. But go anyhow! Grab life by the horns and go live it. If you get hurt, at least you tried and at least you had some experiences. The alternative is a long, slow, lingering walking death. __________________ "If ten million people believe a foolish thing, it is still a foolish thing." - Anatole France

10-01-2003, 08:06 AM	#5 (permalink)
Averett Is In Love Location: I'm workin' on it	Go for it. Take a chance!!! I know a few couples who have met this way. Some worked out, some haven't. You'll never know if you don't try. __________________ Absence is to love what wind is to fire. It extinguishes the small, it enkindles the great.

10-01-2003, 08:06 AM	#6 (permalink)
prince_albert Banned Location: Bradford, UK	Its not that I am considering not to go, I can't wait to go, I am getting so pissed off that I am away, I hate it when I cant help her, when I can't be with her....to hold her in my arms...to support her....She is not that far away, only an hour by plane. Its just that, I have never been with a person that shares the feeling and I think I am going to fuck it up! Ok what I didnt say In the first posts is that I am suicidical, I have been that way since I was 13. She gave me a reson not to go...I mean, if it wasn't for her I wouldn't be here now...so she means a lot to me, so if she rejects me, or if I fuck things up...I dont know... Last edited by prince_albert; 10-01-2003 at 08:09 AM..

10-01-2003, 07:37 AM	#4 (permalink)
Thraeryn Loser	If you can afford to go there, you can afford to get her a ticket and let her come to you. You never REALLY have to use the return portion of a round-trip ticket if you don't want to.

10-01-2003, 08:56 AM	#8 (permalink)
prince_albert Banned Location: Bradford, UK	I wouldn't go upto her like "If you don't like me I am going to kill myself" thats just stupid for someone to do. I am just saying that when she told me about how she feels, knowing that there is someone who thinks about you gave me a reason to be around. And, I have biochemical depression, so in order to fix that I will have to go to meds, which will change my personality, and thats not something I want...

10-01-2003, 09:19 AM	#9 (permalink)
Averett Is In Love Location: I'm workin' on it	If medication will keep you from being suicidal TAKE THEM!!! __________________ Absence is to love what wind is to fire. It extinguishes the small, it enkindles the great.

10-01-2003, 10:07 AM	#10 (permalink)
Fallon Junkie Location: RI	Let's put this another way...if she knows that she is the reason you aren't trying to commit suicide, she has power over you. For some people, this may be a good thing. For myself personnally...I wouldn't like it. I've known many people that have had many different chemical imbalances in their heads, and thankfully they took their medicine. With one of them, you could when he went off his medicine, and when he started to take it again. Generally it was more fun being around him when he was on his medicine because he wasn't all down, he had a postive outlook on stuff and a couple other things. My suggestion on meeting this girl is go see her, have a good time with her. She is a friend now right? If you don't think it'd work out as a relationship, she's still a friend right? Good, friends are a support net in the times you fall down. Use us as a support net. Even though I don't know you, I'd still support you in anything. So get your butt in gear, lose the doubts and go see her!

10-01-2003, 11:44 AM	#11 (permalink)
prince_albert Banned Location: Bradford, UK	Well more than a friend, at least thats how I see her...I am mostly funny, more than I should, I have learned to keep things inside me, but that was a depression support forum where we met so she knows. Generaly though I am not depressed, and there is not way I can be depressed if I am with her, its just that, I am a bit afraid! I talk to her about it, I told her that I am afraid i might fuck up, and she said she is afraid she might do the same...I guess we are both a bit anxious about this. Anyway, thanks a lot for your replies, take care people!

10-01-2003, 11:59 AM	#12 (permalink)
Averett Is In Love Location: I'm workin' on it	Its natural to be scared. Go and have fun __________________ Absence is to love what wind is to fire. It extinguishes the small, it enkindles the great.

10-01-2003, 12:26 PM	#13 (permalink)
World's King Here Location: Denver City Denver	Please tell me that you've seen a picture of this girl? __________________ heavy is the head that wears the crown

10-01-2003, 01:08 PM	#14 (permalink)
prince_albert Banned Location: Bradford, UK	I am really looking forward to that Averett! And yeah, we have both seen pics of eachother (including my nickname ).

10-01-2003, 05:30 PM	#15 (permalink)
bermuDa don't ignore this--> Location: CA	consider yourself lucky she's willing to meet you. Just make sure she doesn't change her mind right before you leave. __________________ I am the very model of a moderator gentleman.

10-01-2003, 06:44 PM	#16 (permalink)
skysooner Registered User Location: Oklahoma	I met my wife through a personal ad. It is not how we meet someone but how you get along when you are with them. Good luck and keep us informed.