high_jinx

I'm curious about any non-verbal meet n' greet tips, really. when you're in a social setting (party, show, etc) what are the more positively seductive ways to set the tone of someone that up to now is a friend or friend-of-friend or acquaintance....

the pat-pat, leave em wanting more?

the soft slide down the back or off the arms as you part after a hug?

i'd love to hear opinions from both guys that know what they're doing and girls that know what works on them

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Giant Hamburger

Don't go for the bear hug

unless you are sure she digs you.

World's King

Lick the side of their face.

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Plan9

Tip: Avoid checking stranger's prostates or fondling wallets.

Normal wrap-around-squeeze-let-go hug would work fine.

The awkward male "a-frame" with a soul handshake?

With girls you want to get crotch-to-crotch, no?

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Crack

hug them from behind.

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Giant Hamburger

You must continue to practice

until your are comfortable with your chosen style

Plan9

Hamburger... stop posting my first date photos!

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jewels

Hug her the way you always do. Tell her you want to take her out.

EDIT: In the social setting, you could try whispering that in her ear during the hug.

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World's King

This is how I roll...

Family: Two armed hug with a kiss on both cheeks. (We're Italian.)

Close Male Friends: Normal two armed hug.
Close Females Friends: Normal two armed hug with a kiss. (Yes, on the lips)

Male Friends: Handshake into one armed hug.
Female Friends: Two or one armed hug.

Everyone else: Handshake.

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Giant Hamburger

Do not forget about the flying chest bump.

World's King

I reserve that for sporting events and after sex.

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Seaver

I prefer the pretend-going-for-a-handshake which turns into the nut-check for the first time meeting guys.

The good ol' honk-honk for the women keeps them coming back for more.

Yep, I'm the cool guy at the party everyone wants to hang out with.








/sarcasm

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LoganSnake

A running tackle at the knees should do the trick.

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blahblah454

There is some good advice in this thread.

Seaver

Don't forget the High-5 with the cool "Psych!" with the hand going behind your head smoothing out your cool hair dew.

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StellaLuna

I'd make sure that person knows you're interested as you're hugging them.. but be clear clear clear about it. My friend thought he was being Mr. Suave by giving me a squeezing, arm and back rubbing, front to front extended hug and murmuring, "You feel so good, I could just hold you forever."
That was creepy. Do NOT do that.

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MSD

Take note of how long you usually hold a hug for, and one you introduce yourself, give her a hug and hold it a bit longer than necessary, maybe an extra half a second or a second.

When you're leaving, give a hug and say "It was nice to meet you, I'd like to see you again some time."

ratbastid

While hugging her, leave a nice wet kiss on her neck.

Also, the boob squeeze is always a winner.

genuinegirly

Mr. Self Distruct has something there.

I've never done this one before, so I have no tried and true results to share (I assume the jokers on this thread feel the same).

But I've had it done to me quite a few times. A few that stood out as meaningful:
- slight lingering on the hug, like they don't want to let go
- rest their cheek on my head (I'm 5'4")
- brushing kiss on the cheek
- guy who normally doesn't pass around hugs like party favors decided to give me one.

Though that last one was moving, it was slightly akward.

Some that were not welcome:
- scratching my back after a solid hug
- clinging to me after the hug or otherwise making a scene
- nuzzling my neck with their cheek during the hug
- resting their hand in the small of my back as I let go of the hug
- unexpected (even if quick) kiss on the lips.

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ottopilot

The one-legged dry-hump

I usually take queues from my german shepherd...
This expedites the process considerably.
Who really has time anymore?

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MEAD

There are probably less creepy ways to let someone know you are interested. The hug should change as a result of a change in a relationship, not in an attempt to be a cause.

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Logarithm

NO back pat. Ever.

Mantus

An affectionate hug would be wrapping my arm around her waist while standing beside her and pulling her in gently.

If we just met it's usually the same thing with my hand on her far hip, our hips touching but no actual hugging.

Seaver

I can't believe no one has mentioned the go for a hug and give her a wedgie.

You're a shoe in if she is wearing a thong, they love it.

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Ustwo

What, doesn't everyone just grab her ass with both hands?

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ottopilot

You could try the classic got-your-nose move... then run out of the building!
That way she'll have to see you again to get her nose back.

There's always the friendly shoulder-punch.

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MexicanOnABike

if you're taller than her, do this:
2 arm hug and as you squeeze, pick her up from the ground.
my gf loves this ... most of the time.

with regular friends, it's a simple gap in between 1sec hug.

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ItWasMe

Genuinegirly and the perfume guy have a couple of good ones.

Back patting feels hurried and extra platonic, if that exists. Kind of like you're giving an obligatory hug when you'd rather be fishing.

A pat on the head feels like you're just trying to tick me off. And that works more often than not.

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Don't forget to stimulate the clit...

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MSD

I was thinking about suggesting this, but I do it to all of my female friends. I suppose it would send a pretty strong signal if I did it to someone I just met, but I don't think I'd usually try it. At my height (see profile pic for exhibit A: me with friends,) it always gets great reactions.

Grasshopper Green

I hate a weak hug. If it were me, I'd want a strong squeeze. Even if we don't know each other that well. Not rib crushing, but not a pathetic lets-not-touch-even-though-we're-hugging hug either. But that's just me.

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pig

i'd avoid worrying about the hug too much, in terms of style. think about how a creepy guy who hides in the bushes and masturbates while watching people at picnics, and don't do that. it really depends on the particular girl. the important thing is that however you hug her, be confident about it, and be genuinely affectionate. what you want is "that guy seems like he'd be fun to be around, and might be fun to have sex with," what you don't want is "that was fucking awkward."

now, when self-confidence fails, i like to let out a little poot just as i'm coming into the hug, which i then blame on her. it's a good combo move with having your hand be wet from a sweaty beer or washing your hands, and kind of rubbing that on the back of her neck, as you bring your arms up to mock-strangle her. saying something like 'you've already got my juice on your neck, so let's do it like they do on the discovery channel' and then humming the tune of that god-awful song usually brings them in too.

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allaboutmusic

I never hug when I FIRST meet the person, it's either a handshake or a kiss on each cheek. Then, if they're attractive, I try to get THEM to want to hug ME by the time our first conversation is over.

And then of course I accuse them of hugging me inappropriately.

Kaimi

I would give a suggestion here but it seems sort of pointless. In reading this the bottom line is that everyone perceives it much differently.

Crack

with your elbow.

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robot_parade

Two things to share:

Went to an after-work drinkfest last weekend. After several drinks, a Really Cute coworker of mine gives me a hug. She was drunk, but a hug from a cute girl is a hug from a cute girl. Awww. I hold it for what feels like the right amount of time, then go for the break. She's not ready to let go yet, though. After a bit of an awkward stumble, I let her finish the hug.

Mmmm...girls.

Now, granted, I'm married, she was drunk, and there's no way anything naughty is going to go on there, but damn, that was a nice hug! :-)


Second - my preferred method, after watching Boston Legal the other night is the Denny Crane method:

Bear hug and squeeze the ass.

Denny Crane!

That show is a total guilty pleasure for me. William Shatner kicks ass.

KirStang

Around the waist.

When you hug guys it's generally around the upper back by the shoulder blades.

But for women? I hug around the waist, maybe give it a quick squeeze. =P