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cadre · 01-23-2007, 12:41 AM

I've mentioned this once before in a different forum and recieved no help but, since I know that you are all so helpful I am bringing the problem to you. My boyfriend has decided we need to do something about it and I'm not close to my usual doctor so any ideas would be much appreciated.

The problem is this: a while ago the SO and I started to experiment with g spot stimulation and at first it was really wierd but I got used to it and really enjoyed it after a bit. However, for the past three or more months it has been painful for him to stimulate my g spot, I also notice the pain when he goes really deep which I didn't notice before. At first I didn't pay much attention to it and it would end up bothering me for a couple hours after sex and it feels somewhat like a uti but it never really develops into a uti. I know that a man thrusting deep can be painful for the woman if she is not fully turned on but I do not think that is the issue. Has anyone had this problem? If so what is the problem and what can I do about it? The biggest thing I'm worried about is pelvic inflamatory disease, I don't have any other symptoms but I have been told that pain during sex is one.

Seaver · 01-23-2007, 09:03 AM

Well the G-spot really only works when you are VERY turned on. If not it's like rushing pressure on the clit, instead of feeling good it's just very sensitive. Just take it a bit slower, maybe him going down on you while stimulating your G-spot with his finger. Another thing my ex loved is us laying down in a spooning-style sex with her vibrator on her clit. This allowed me doggy-esque position (which lets face it, every guy loves), it stimulated her g-spot with the position, and the vibrator gave her the clitoral stimulation.

Another position you might want to try is missionary, just slightly altered. Have him move his hips until they're right ontop of yours. This causes the penis shaft to bend around your clit. Have him go nice and slow with deep thrusts. If he has a penis that curves up this should hit both your clit and g-spot, plus because it's still missionary you can look into each others eyes and kiss.

About the pain, I imagine he's hitting your cervix. I've had this with a couple girlfriends who were small in there. If you think this is the problem, just alter your positions. Doggy style sex makes him penetrate the deepest, while you on top allows you to control the depth. Until you are fully turned on to the point of simply wanting him to take you, shy away from doggy.

ShaniFaye · 01-23-2007, 09:14 AM

I have to argue with the point about the g-spot only working if you're "Very" turned on....least thats not how it works with me, bu I do agree with the cervix pain...thats the very reason I cant do doggy at all whatsoever, the pain is so intense it brings involuntary tears to my eyes.

I'm "short" inside so it doesnt take much to hit my cervix, thats why me on top is the best position ESPECIALLY for hitting the gspot without also hitting the cervix, doing that can cause me not to want sex for several days because it gives me that "uti" pain feeling afterwards

cadre · 01-23-2007, 09:49 AM

Thanks for the suggestions Seaver and Shani. I don't know, I have a hard time believing that the problem is that I'm just not turned on enough because it's not like it only hurts at the beginning. It can be in the middle of sex or right after I orgasm or anything when it happens. I also think that is not the case because I used to enjoy the same things that he is doing now and I wasn't always fully warmed up while he was doing it.

As far as positions go, I agree that part of it is probably him hitting my cervix but doggie style does not bother me at all. In fact it's my favorite position. The positions that are the worst are the ones that put pressure on the front wall of my vagina I guess. This includes me on top when I sit up or lean back at all as well as positions where I'm laying down and he's sitting up. When my boyfriend is erect his penis is straight up against his abdomen, not out at all so this probably exaggerates the problem.

I was always under the notion that pain from the cervix happened when he went to deep, and while this is part of the problem I guess I don't understand why the area around my g spot would hurt too.

Mantus · 01-23-2007, 02:46 PM

Does it hurt when he using his hand as well? Cuz that would eliminate the cervix as being part of the problem.

Could it be a blader/urethra infection or something similar like a blader stone?

cadre · 01-23-2007, 06:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Mantus

Does it hurt when he using his hand as well? Cuz that would eliminate the cervix as being part of the problem.

Could it be a blader/urethra infection or something similar like a blader stone?

Yes, it hurts when he uses his hand also, or a vibrator so I agree that the cervix probably isn't it.

I don't think that it's a bladder infection because I've had many urinary tract infections in the past and I know the symptoms of that type of infection. Plus it only hurts then and not all the time or anything, if it were a bladder infection I think it would hurt more often and it would be getting worse. I don't know much about how bladder stones feel, so it could be something like that.

ASU2003 · 01-23-2007, 08:48 PM

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Originally Posted by cadre

I have a hard time believing that the problem is that I'm just not turned on enough because it's not like it only hurts at the beginning. It can be in the middle of sex or right after I orgasm or anything when it happens. I also think that is not the case because I used to enjoy the same things that he is doing now and I wasn't always fully warmed up while he was doing it.

http://www.umm.edu/ency/article/001509.htm

There might be a large number of other things it could be as well. It sounds like it is time to make a doctor's appointment to let someone with experience dealing with this type of thing diagnose you.

You might think about writing down notes as to where it hurts and when, so you can tell the doctor your symptoms.

cadre · 01-23-2007, 10:16 PM

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Originally Posted by ASU2003

http://www.umm.edu/ency/article/001509.htm

There might be a large number of other things it could be as well. It sounds like it is time to make a doctor's appointment to let someone with experience dealing with this type of thing diagnose you.

Thanks for the link. It still doesn't make sense but I did make an appointment with my doctor for friday. She is my general doctor but she's helped me alot with other issues so it's a place to start. I guess I was hoping that it was something simple with an easy fix.

Mantus · 01-24-2007, 07:48 AM

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Originally Posted by cadre

Thanks for the link. It still doesn't make sense but I did make an appointment with my doctor for friday. She is my general doctor but she's helped me alot with other issues so it's a place to start. I guess I was hoping that it was something simple with an easy fix.

Wish you good health babe. A girl being denied her g spot is such an injustice.

cadre · 01-24-2007, 09:39 AM

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Originally Posted by Mantus

Wish you good health babe. A girl being denied her g spot is such an injustice.

Tell me about it, my boyfriend was crushed.

cadre · 01-26-2007, 07:00 PM

Update: I think I stumped my doctor haha. She doesn't know what the problem is but I am going to go back for some tests and more exams and I guess we will start to rule things out. She was saying tenderness in that area is sometimes associated with infections/stds but that it's totally possible that it is a wound or something that hasn't healed well. Then it also could just be my anatomy. I guess we will see in a few more weeks or so. Thanks everyone for your help!

01-23-2007, 12:41 AM	#1 (permalink)
cadre The Worst Influence Location: Arizona	Okay, I have a G Spot Problem. I've mentioned this once before in a different forum and recieved no help but, since I know that you are all so helpful I am bringing the problem to you. My boyfriend has decided we need to do something about it and I'm not close to my usual doctor so any ideas would be much appreciated. The problem is this: a while ago the SO and I started to experiment with g spot stimulation and at first it was really wierd but I got used to it and really enjoyed it after a bit. However, for the past three or more months it has been painful for him to stimulate my g spot, I also notice the pain when he goes really deep which I didn't notice before. At first I didn't pay much attention to it and it would end up bothering me for a couple hours after sex and it feels somewhat like a uti but it never really develops into a uti. I know that a man thrusting deep can be painful for the woman if she is not fully turned on but I do not think that is the issue. Has anyone had this problem? If so what is the problem and what can I do about it? The biggest thing I'm worried about is pelvic inflamatory disease, I don't have any other symptoms but I have been told that pain during sex is one. __________________ My life is one of those 'you had to be there' jokes.

01-23-2007, 09:03 AM	#2 (permalink)
Seaver Junkie Location: Fort Worth, TX	Well the G-spot really only works when you are VERY turned on. If not it's like rushing pressure on the clit, instead of feeling good it's just very sensitive. Just take it a bit slower, maybe him going down on you while stimulating your G-spot with his finger. Another thing my ex loved is us laying down in a spooning-style sex with her vibrator on her clit. This allowed me doggy-esque position (which lets face it, every guy loves), it stimulated her g-spot with the position, and the vibrator gave her the clitoral stimulation. Another position you might want to try is missionary, just slightly altered. Have him move his hips until they're right ontop of yours. This causes the penis shaft to bend around your clit. Have him go nice and slow with deep thrusts. If he has a penis that curves up this should hit both your clit and g-spot, plus because it's still missionary you can look into each others eyes and kiss. About the pain, I imagine he's hitting your cervix. I've had this with a couple girlfriends who were small in there. If you think this is the problem, just alter your positions. Doggy style sex makes him penetrate the deepest, while you on top allows you to control the depth. Until you are fully turned on to the point of simply wanting him to take you, shy away from doggy. __________________ "Smite the rocks with the rod of knowledge, and fountains of unstinted wealth will gush forth." - Ashbel Smith as he laid the first cornerstone of the University of Texas Last edited by Seaver; 01-23-2007 at 09:06 AM..

01-23-2007, 09:14 AM	#3 (permalink)
ShaniFaye Submit to me, you know you want to Location: Lilburn, Ga	I have to argue with the point about the g-spot only working if you're "Very" turned on....least thats not how it works with me, bu I do agree with the cervix pain...thats the very reason I cant do doggy at all whatsoever, the pain is so intense it brings involuntary tears to my eyes. I'm "short" inside so it doesnt take much to hit my cervix, thats why me on top is the best position ESPECIALLY for hitting the gspot without also hitting the cervix, doing that can cause me not to want sex for several days because it gives me that "uti" pain feeling afterwards __________________ *I want the diabetic plan that comes with rollover carbs. I dont like the unused one expiring at midnite!!*

01-23-2007, 09:49 AM	#4 (permalink)
cadre The Worst Influence Location: Arizona	Thanks for the suggestions Seaver and Shani. I don't know, I have a hard time believing that the problem is that I'm just not turned on enough because it's not like it only hurts at the beginning. It can be in the middle of sex or right after I orgasm or anything when it happens. I also think that is not the case because I used to enjoy the same things that he is doing now and I wasn't always fully warmed up while he was doing it. As far as positions go, I agree that part of it is probably him hitting my cervix but doggie style does not bother me at all. In fact it's my favorite position. The positions that are the worst are the ones that put pressure on the front wall of my vagina I guess. This includes me on top when I sit up or lean back at all as well as positions where I'm laying down and he's sitting up. When my boyfriend is erect his penis is straight up against his abdomen, not out at all so this probably exaggerates the problem. I was always under the notion that pain from the cervix happened when he went to deep, and while this is part of the problem I guess I don't understand why the area around my g spot would hurt too. __________________ My life is one of those 'you had to be there' jokes.

01-26-2007, 07:00 PM	#11 (permalink)
cadre The Worst Influence Location: Arizona	Update: I think I stumped my doctor haha. She doesn't know what the problem is but I am going to go back for some tests and more exams and I guess we will start to rule things out. She was saying tenderness in that area is sometimes associated with infections/stds but that it's totally possible that it is a wound or something that hasn't healed well. Then it also could just be my anatomy. I guess we will see in a few more weeks or so. Thanks everyone for your help! __________________ My life is one of those 'you had to be there' jokes.

01-23-2007, 02:46 PM	#5 (permalink)
Mantus lascivious	Does it hurt when he using his hand as well? Cuz that would eliminate the cervix as being part of the problem. Could it be a blader/urethra infection or something similar like a blader stone?