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Kurant · 12-30-2010, 08:39 AM

It's not how, it's more how to go about it.

May 20th the Red Sox and Cubs play and we're going to Boston for the weekend, probably see 2 games. She's a Red Sox junkie, I'm a Cubs fan. She always said she wanted something memorable. We've been talking about getting married, and I bought a ring about 3 months ago...

Sooo, my parents are on board to be there, her parents and brother are on board to be there...

You think they'd let me ask her on the jumbotron?

Who would I contact about it?

The_Jazz · 12-30-2010, 08:44 AM

From one of my Boston guys

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Call (617) 226-6000. Talk to the operator and tell her that you want to make a message on the Jumbotron. She'll connect you to one of the guys that handle messages. They'll ask for a donation to the Red Sox Foundation, which can be any amount that you are comfortable with. They won't let you do anything lewd.

That said, are you SURE she's going to be cool with this? What are you going to do if it's a gray, rainy day or the game somehow gets otherwise postponed/rescheduled?

amonkie · 12-30-2010, 08:45 AM

Just me personally... but this is SOOO tacky and overrated. But, she's your girl and not me so I'm just throwing that out there as a female. Memorable doesn't always mean flashy and splashy.

I would probably contact the Fenway Park and this article might help too:

http://sports.weddings.com/articles/...nway-park.aspx

The article provides a phone number (be sure to ask for Fan Services and Entertaiment Department) and states that a $250 fee (based on 2009 rates) may apply.

Jove · 12-30-2010, 10:06 AM

You might want to propose in a more personal and quiet setting. I mean seriously, what if she rejects your offer and everyone watches this rejection on the jumbotron? You will never get over that awkward experience, ever.

You can completely ignore what I just said because she may say yes, so good luck!

The_Jazz · 12-30-2010, 10:10 AM

By the way, "memorable" to me does not equate to "Jumbotron". It means something special. This seems....cheap.

Cynthetiq · 12-30-2010, 10:11 AM

aaaah fond memories of the The Infamous Yankee Pranke.

YouTube - Prank War 6: The Infamous Yankee Prankee

she's going to remember it no matter what you do.

Plan9 · 12-30-2010, 10:37 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Wayne Campbell

Garth, marriage is punishment for shoplifting in some countries.

amonkie · 12-30-2010, 10:47 AM

I am coming more from the perspective that I wouldn't want to be known as "that girl" who said no to a guy in front of thousands of people.

If put on the spot like that I'd probably say yes, and then when we were alone if I had really meant to say no, I'd give the ring back in private to save some embarrassment.

Cimarron29414 · 12-30-2010, 12:54 PM

I agree with others and I wouldn't do it at the game. Frankly, it's tacky in a "I got married at a monster truck rally" sort of way. Getting engaged is memorable, just by the nature of what you are doing. You don't need a gimmick to make it special.

Frankly, I wouldn't do it in front of an audience (her family) either. I'd go to the game, go back to the room, clean up, go to a nice dinner and ask her there. Entering into betrothal just shouldn't be a spectacle. It's a very personal contract and your girl deserves the privacy of sharing your thoughts without having to perform for the crowd. After she accepts, if you want to meet up with your folks for a celebratory gathering, knock yourself out.

genuinegirly · 12-30-2010, 12:56 PM

Has she attended every game this season with you at her side? If you said yes to this question, then please disregard what I'm about to say.

What could be a very private, intimate and preciously-remembered moment will turn into something brashly commercialized. To each their own, but I'm still advising against this one.

LordEden · 12-30-2010, 01:04 PM

IMHO... No. Tacky, cheesy, and bad.

This is how is done.

This guy did it the right way, creative and full of awesome.

Linky for the whole story.

ring · 12-30-2010, 01:16 PM

Wrap the ring in a red sock before you present it to her.

Starkizzer · 12-30-2010, 02:21 PM

While this wouldn't be my ideal way of being proposed to and it seems tacky to me, I am also not a sports fan in any way. He says she is a Red Sox junkie, how many of the women who have posted in here can say they are true "junkies"?

I have known a few girls who are sports nuts, some would be okay with the Jumbotron and others would not. The question you need to ask is, whether or not she likes a LOT of attention, like an entire stadiums worth of attention all directed at her, and at you for that matter. How are you going handle and deal with that kind of stress and pressure? Even is she doesn't view this as being tacky, if you flounder it will not be the kind of memorable she wants. I was proposed to at my favorite location in Disneyland, a small out of the way spot. Perfect right? Wrong, he had his parents come so that we had a picture of it and he was so nervous he wasn't going to get down on one knee. His parent hooped and applauded even though they couldn't tell what was going on. At this exact moment there was a strange surge of people in the area, who they promptly told that he was proposing to me, making them all applaud as well. He didn't have anything prepared to say to me and I was utterly embarrassed by his parents being there. He meant for them to come quietly take pictures and then to leave...his parents are not my favorite people and they do not get basic etiquette.

So, you need to make sure of some things. What is HER idea of memorable? Perhaps find some funny/blooper sport footage where you know that one of the clips is someone being proposed to on the Jumbotron. See how she reacts. Also, what would you do if she was up using the ladies room while it came on? Next, figure out if she wants a more intimate proposal or one with tons of people and her and your parents there. I think of proposals as being intimate and romantic, not something you have parents around for. However, if she is really big on her family, and you have an idea that she would like them there then go for it. Hell, I say ask her some of these things, be general about your questions but let her know why you are asking. Make sure you actually listen and take what she says to heart. Tell her you want it to be perfect and memorable, but that you realize a guys perception of the perfect memorable event could be drastically different from a gals.

Wish you the best of luck. If you have discussed marriage and you know she will say yes, I would hope that even if the proposal didn't go right she would still say yes. I mean she is agreeing to marry the man not the proposal. I mean, ours wasn't perfect, but the day overall was good and I knew he put a lot of thought into it plus I loved him, of course I wasn't going to tell him no. The evening was saved by a perfect, intimate dinner at our favorite steak house, complete with my favorite bottle of wine and a desert selection that he had set up with the restaurant weeks before.

Grancey · 12-30-2010, 05:23 PM

You did not ask if you should do this. You asked how to go about it. Shame on those of you who dissed his idea. I've seen two proposals occur at halftime of a college football game, one which was this year. The girl loved it. The guy loved it, and the fans applauded. Everybody loved it. There are very few sports fans on this board, so a lot of people don't understand this type of thing and have never seen it happen. I think it's great. I had a friend who got married in the football stadium in the middle of the field. You have to be a sports nut to understand. I applaud the unique. Ignore the negative comments, and go for it.

Congrats in advance, Kurant.

P.S. I could help you out down here, but in Boston I have no clue how to go about doing this.

SirLance · 12-30-2010, 06:08 PM

I think the thing you two will remember most is that you had your families with you. Doing it on the JumboTron is a cool idea, a lot have said how to go about it.

I did it at a family reunion with everyone around. All were in on it but her, then everyone gave her a "welcome to the family" gift of a scrapbook with pictures of all of us as kids and growing up. She treasures it.

As time passes, the family presence will be the best part of the memory.

The_Jazz · 12-31-2010, 01:25 PM

Grancey, you'll notice that he got an answer on "how" in the second post, including a phone number and how to get to the right folks. So "how" quickly went out the window. "Why" is a much more interesting question anyway. There may even be a good reason, like they met at a Red Sox/Cubs game.

Then again, I don't know if I trust an Auburn fan to give marriage advice. Most Auburn weddings I've seen involve a shotgun at some point in the ceremony.

hunnychile · 12-31-2010, 02:04 PM

Yes, do wrap the ring in a Red Sock!!! Hehehe! And go for it!

....Why not it's your idea of something she'd like and it'll make for fun stories for generations to come. And I have a feeling she isn't gonna be saying "No" to a guy as sweet as you are.

Meanwhile enjoy the good times building up to your engagement & nups. As I look back personally, I wish I had remained engaged for a longer time than I did, but luckily it's worked out. I think/know I was too young and naive when we got married. But hey, that's a story for another time.

Have fun . Keep us informed cuz many of us care & dig this stuff!!!! Romance is such fun and when you share it it gives good vibes elsewhere.

Oh and Happy (almost) New Year! Gonna be a banner your for you!

Grancey · 01-01-2011, 12:55 AM

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Originally Posted by The_Jazz

Most Auburn weddings I've seen involve a shotgun at some point in the ceremony.

You are correct. We know how to deal with those assholes humming Rocky Top up in the balcony.

Grancey · 01-14-2011, 06:51 PM

Auburn couple gets engaged in stands at BCS game | oanow.com

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Auburn couple gets engaged in stands at BCS game

Melisa Wallace and Matt Montgomery at the BCS National Championship game in Glendale, Ariz., Monday.

By Donathan Prater | Staff Writer
Published: January 14, 2011

Their relationship started off as small talk.

Later this year, it will culminate with them taking a walk down the wedding aisle.

Melisa Wallace, 26, and her fiance, Matt Montgomery, 29, traveled to the BCS National Championship game, where the couple of nearly five years became engaged.

Wallace said she never saw Montgomery’s marriage proposal coming.

“I had absolutely no idea he was going to propose,” Wallace said. “He (Matt) never acted different or nervous. Everything seemed normal for the preparation of an Auburn game.”

Wallace and Montgomery traveled to Las Vegas on Jan. 7 and then on to Phoenix before the national championship game on Jan. 10.

Wallace, a patient registration representative with the East Alabama Medical Center’s Heart Center Cardiology, said something about the countdown to kickoff felt different.

“During the War Eagle cry at kickoff, I was spinning my shaker and crying with the rest of the Auburn Family ‘WAAAAAAAAAAAAAR’ when I heard him say, ‘You wanted to be something more…” I turned to look at him, and he was on his knee in the stands with a ring,” Wallace recalled. “I immediately started crying. He asked me if I would marry him, and I’m pretty sure it was a solid three minutes before I said anything because I couldn’t stop crying … but of course, I said yes.”

Some nearby fans helped memorialize the moment by snapping a photo for the newly-engaged couple, who Wallace described as “huge” Auburn fans.

Since returning from the game, Wallace entered the photo in a BCS photo contest at the EAMC for employees who traveled to the game.

“He (Montgomery) is my best friend. We tell each other everything and rely on each other for help and support,” Wallace said. “I couldn’t ask for a better person to spend the rest of my life with.”

Although they have not set an exact date yet, Wallace said she and Montgomery are looking at Aug. 27 as a possible wedding date.

Wallace said she couldn’t think of a better setting for Montgomery to pop the big question.

“There was no doubt in my mind I would say yes if he ever proposed. I talked about it all the time. He could not have proposed a better way,” Wallace said. “Auburn football is us.

“If he would’ve tried to plan some romantic night, I would have suspected something. If I could have picked the way for him to propose, I would have done it the same. It really was the perfect night.”

Not quite the production you have planned, but I'm sure this will be memorable. Haven't heard back from you Kurant. What did you decide to do?

snowy · 01-14-2011, 06:59 PM

What a great story, Grancey! Aug. 27th sounds like a good date to me--1 day before my 1-year anniversary!

12-30-2010, 08:39 AM	#1 (permalink)
Kurant Junkie Location: Don't worry about it.	Help about asking someone to marry me.. It's not how, it's more how to go about it. May 20th the Red Sox and Cubs play and we're going to Boston for the weekend, probably see 2 games. She's a Red Sox junkie, I'm a Cubs fan. She always said she wanted something memorable. We've been talking about getting married, and I bought a ring about 3 months ago... Sooo, my parents are on board to be there, her parents and brother are on board to be there... You think they'd let me ask her on the jumbotron? Who would I contact about it?

12-30-2010, 08:45 AM	#3 (permalink)
amonkie Drifting Administrator Location: Windy City	Just me personally... but this is SOOO tacky and overrated. But, she's your girl and not me so I'm just throwing that out there as a female. Memorable doesn't always mean flashy and splashy. I would probably contact the Fenway Park and this article might help too: http://sports.weddings.com/articles/...nway-park.aspx The article provides a phone number (be sure to ask for Fan Services and Entertaiment Department) and states that a $250 fee (based on 2009 rates) may apply. __________________ Calling from deep in the heart, from where the eyes can't see and the ears can't hear, from where the mountain trails end and only love can go... ~~~ Three Rivers Hare Krishna

12-30-2010, 10:10 AM	#5 (permalink)
The_Jazz Asshole Administrator Location: Chicago	By the way, "memorable" to me does not equate to "Jumbotron". It means something special. This seems....cheap. __________________ "They that can give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety." - B. Franklin "There ought to be limits to freedom." - George W. Bush "We have met the enemy and he is us." - Pogo

12-30-2010, 10:47 AM	#8 (permalink)
amonkie Drifting Administrator Location: Windy City	I am coming more from the perspective that I wouldn't want to be known as "that girl" who said no to a guy in front of thousands of people. If put on the spot like that I'd probably say yes, and then when we were alone if I had really meant to say no, I'd give the ring back in private to save some embarrassment. __________________ Calling from deep in the heart, from where the eyes can't see and the ears can't hear, from where the mountain trails end and only love can go... ~~~ Three Rivers Hare Krishna

12-30-2010, 12:54 PM	#9 (permalink)
Cimarron29414 Still Free Location: comfortably perched at the top of the bell curve!	I agree with others and I wouldn't do it at the game. Frankly, it's tacky in a "I got married at a monster truck rally" sort of way. Getting engaged is memorable, just by the nature of what you are doing. You don't need a gimmick to make it special. Frankly, I wouldn't do it in front of an audience (her family) either. I'd go to the game, go back to the room, clean up, go to a nice dinner and ask her there. Entering into betrothal just shouldn't be a spectacle. It's a very personal contract and your girl deserves the privacy of sharing your thoughts without having to perform for the crowd. After she accepts, if you want to meet up with your folks for a celebratory gathering, knock yourself out. __________________ Gives a man a halo, does mead. "Here lies The_Jazz: Killed by an ambitious, sparkly, pink butterfly." Last edited by Cimarron29414; 12-30-2010 at 01:00 PM..

12-30-2010, 10:06 AM	#4 (permalink)
Jove Groovy Hipster Nerd Location: Michigan	You might want to propose in a more personal and quiet setting. I mean seriously, what if she rejects your offer and everyone watches this rejection on the jumbotron? You will never get over that awkward experience, ever. You can completely ignore what I just said because she may say yes, so good luck!

12-30-2010, 12:56 PM	#10 (permalink)
genuinegirly Eat your vegetables Super Moderator Location: Arabidopsis-ville	Has she attended every game this season with you at her side? If you said yes to this question, then please disregard what I'm about to say. What could be a very private, intimate and preciously-remembered moment will turn into something brashly commercialized. To each their own, but I'm still advising against this one. __________________ "Sometimes I have to remember that things are brought to me for a reason, either for my own lessons or for the benefit of others." Cynthetiq "violence is no more or less real than non-violence." roachboy

12-30-2010, 01:16 PM	#12 (permalink)
ring ░ Location: ❤	Wrap the ring in a red sock before you present it to her.

12-30-2010, 02:21 PM	#13 (permalink)
Starkizzer Hi floor! Make me a samwich. Location: Ontario (in the stray cat complex)	While this wouldn't be my ideal way of being proposed to and it seems tacky to me, I am also not a sports fan in any way. He says she is a Red Sox junkie, how many of the women who have posted in here can say they are true "junkies"? I have known a few girls who are sports nuts, some would be okay with the Jumbotron and others would not. The question you need to ask is, whether or not she likes a LOT of attention, like an entire stadiums worth of attention all directed at her, and at you for that matter. How are you going handle and deal with that kind of stress and pressure? Even is she doesn't view this as being tacky, if you flounder it will not be the kind of memorable she wants. I was proposed to at my favorite location in Disneyland, a small out of the way spot. Perfect right? Wrong, he had his parents come so that we had a picture of it and he was so nervous he wasn't going to get down on one knee. His parent hooped and applauded even though they couldn't tell what was going on. At this exact moment there was a strange surge of people in the area, who they promptly told that he was proposing to me, making them all applaud as well. He didn't have anything prepared to say to me and I was utterly embarrassed by his parents being there. He meant for them to come quietly take pictures and then to leave...his parents are not my favorite people and they do not get basic etiquette. So, you need to make sure of some things. What is HER idea of memorable? Perhaps find some funny/blooper sport footage where you know that one of the clips is someone being proposed to on the Jumbotron. See how she reacts. Also, what would you do if she was up using the ladies room while it came on? Next, figure out if she wants a more intimate proposal or one with tons of people and her and your parents there. I think of proposals as being intimate and romantic, not something you have parents around for. However, if she is really big on her family, and you have an idea that she would like them there then go for it. Hell, I say ask her some of these things, be general about your questions but let her know why you are asking. Make sure you actually listen and take what she says to heart. Tell her you want it to be perfect and memorable, but that you realize a guys perception of the perfect memorable event could be drastically different from a gals. Wish you the best of luck. If you have discussed marriage and you know she will say yes, I would hope that even if the proposal didn't go right she would still say yes. I mean she is agreeing to marry the man not the proposal. I mean, ours wasn't perfect, but the day overall was good and I knew he put a lot of thought into it plus I loved him, of course I wasn't going to tell him no. The evening was saved by a perfect, intimate dinner at our favorite steak house, complete with my favorite bottle of wine and a desert selection that he had set up with the restaurant weeks before. __________________ Frivolity, at the edge of a Moral Swamp, hears Hymn-Singing in the Distance and dons the Galoshes of Remorse. ~Edward Gorey

12-30-2010, 05:23 PM	#14 (permalink)
Grancey Life's short, gotta hurry... Location: land of pit vipers	You did not ask if you should do this. You asked how to go about it. Shame on those of you who dissed his idea. I've seen two proposals occur at halftime of a college football game, one which was this year. The girl loved it. The guy loved it, and the fans applauded. Everybody loved it. There are very few sports fans on this board, so a lot of people don't understand this type of thing and have never seen it happen. I think it's great. I had a friend who got married in the football stadium in the middle of the field. You have to be a sports nut to understand. I applaud the unique. Ignore the negative comments, and go for it. Congrats in advance, Kurant. P.S. I could help you out down here, but in Boston I have no clue how to go about doing this. __________________ Quiet, mild-mannered souls might just turn out to be roaring lions of two-fisted cool. Last edited by Grancey; 12-30-2010 at 05:27 PM..

12-30-2010, 06:08 PM	#15 (permalink)
SirLance Junkie Location: In the middle of the desert.	I think the thing you two will remember most is that you had your families with you. Doing it on the JumboTron is a cool idea, a lot have said how to go about it. I did it at a family reunion with everyone around. All were in on it but her, then everyone gave her a "welcome to the family" gift of a scrapbook with pictures of all of us as kids and growing up. She treasures it. As time passes, the family presence will be the best part of the memory. __________________ DEMOCRACY is where your vote counts, FEUDALISM is where your count votes.

12-31-2010, 01:25 PM	#16 (permalink)
The_Jazz Asshole Administrator Location: Chicago	Grancey, you'll notice that he got an answer on "how" in the second post, including a phone number and how to get to the right folks. So "how" quickly went out the window. "Why" is a much more interesting question anyway. There may even be a good reason, like they met at a Red Sox/Cubs game. Then again, I don't know if I trust an Auburn fan to give marriage advice. Most Auburn weddings I've seen involve a shotgun at some point in the ceremony. __________________ "They that can give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety." - B. Franklin "There ought to be limits to freedom." - George W. Bush "We have met the enemy and he is us." - Pogo

12-31-2010, 02:04 PM	#17 (permalink)
hunnychile Alien Anthropologist Location: Between Boredom and Nirvana	Yes, do wrap the ring in a Red Sock!!! Hehehe! And go for it! ....Why not it's your idea of something she'd like and it'll make for fun stories for generations to come. And I have a feeling she isn't gonna be saying "No" to a guy as sweet as you are. Meanwhile enjoy the good times building up to your engagement & nups. As I look back personally, I wish I had remained engaged for a longer time than I did, but luckily it's worked out. I think/know I was too young and naive when we got married. But hey, that's a story for another time. Have fun . Keep us informed cuz many of us care & dig this stuff!!!! Romance is such fun and when you share it it gives good vibes elsewhere. Oh and Happy (almost) New Year! Gonna be a banner your for you! __________________ "I need compassion, understanding and chocolate." - NJB Last edited by hunnychile; 12-31-2010 at 02:06 PM..

01-14-2011, 06:59 PM	#20 (permalink)
snowy Kick Ass Kunoichi Location: Oregon	What a great story, Grancey! Aug. 27th sounds like a good date to me--1 day before my 1-year anniversary! __________________ If I am not better, at least I am different. --Jean-Jacques Rousseau