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While this wouldn't be my ideal way of being proposed to and it seems tacky to me, I am also not a sports fan in any way. He says she is a Red Sox junkie, how many of the women who have posted in here can say they are true "junkies"?
I have known a few girls who are sports nuts, some would be okay with the Jumbotron and others would not. The question you need to ask is, whether or not she likes a LOT of attention, like an entire stadiums worth of attention all directed at her, and at you for that matter. How are you going handle and deal with that kind of stress and pressure? Even is she doesn't view this as being tacky, if you flounder it will not be the kind of memorable she wants. I was proposed to at my favorite location in Disneyland, a small out of the way spot. Perfect right? Wrong, he had his parents come so that we had a picture of it and he was so nervous he wasn't going to get down on one knee. His parent hooped and applauded even though they couldn't tell what was going on. At this exact moment there was a strange surge of people in the area, who they promptly told that he was proposing to me, making them all applaud as well. He didn't have anything prepared to say to me and I was utterly embarrassed by his parents being there. He meant for them to come quietly take pictures and then to leave...his parents are not my favorite people and they do not get basic etiquette.
So, you need to make sure of some things. What is HER idea of memorable? Perhaps find some funny/blooper sport footage where you know that one of the clips is someone being proposed to on the Jumbotron. See how she reacts. Also, what would you do if she was up using the ladies room while it came on? Next, figure out if she wants a more intimate proposal or one with tons of people and her and your parents there. I think of proposals as being intimate and romantic, not something you have parents around for. However, if she is really big on her family, and you have an idea that she would like them there then go for it. Hell, I say ask her some of these things, be general about your questions but let her know why you are asking. Make sure you actually listen and take what she says to heart. Tell her you want it to be perfect and memorable, but that you realize a guys perception of the perfect memorable event could be drastically different from a gals.
Wish you the best of luck. If you have discussed marriage and you know she will say yes, I would hope that even if the proposal didn't go right she would still say yes. I mean she is agreeing to marry the man not the proposal. I mean, ours wasn't perfect, but the day overall was good and I knew he put a lot of thought into it plus I loved him, of course I wasn't going to tell him no. The evening was saved by a perfect, intimate dinner at our favorite steak house, complete with my favorite bottle of wine and a desert selection that he had set up with the restaurant weeks before.
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