Help about asking someone to marry me..
 

It's not how, it's more how to go about it.

May 20th the Red Sox and Cubs play and we're going to Boston for the weekend, probably see 2 games. She's a Red Sox junkie, I'm a Cubs fan. She always said she wanted something memorable. We've been talking about getting married, and I bought a ring about 3 months ago...

Sooo, my parents are on board to be there, her parents and brother are on board to be there...

You think they'd let me ask her on the jumbotron? :)
Who would I contact about it?

From one of my Boston guys

That said, are you SURE she's going to be cool with this? What are you going to do if it's a gray, rainy day or the game somehow gets otherwise postponed/rescheduled?

Just me personally... but this is SOOO tacky and overrated. But, she's your girl and not me so I'm just throwing that out there as a female. Memorable doesn't always mean flashy and splashy.


I would probably contact the Fenway Park and this article might help too:


http://sports.weddings.com/articles/...nway-park.aspx

The article provides a phone number (be sure to ask for Fan Services and Entertaiment Department) and states that a $250 fee (based on 2009 rates) may apply.

You might want to propose in a more personal and quiet setting. I mean seriously, what if she rejects your offer and everyone watches this rejection on the jumbotron? You will never get over that awkward experience, ever.

You can completely ignore what I just said because she may say yes, so good luck!

By the way, "memorable" to me does not equate to "Jumbotron". It means something special. This seems....cheap.

aaaah fond memories of the The Infamous Yankee Pranke.


she's going to remember it no matter what you do.

I am coming more from the perspective that I wouldn't want to be known as "that girl" who said no to a guy in front of thousands of people.

If put on the spot like that I'd probably say yes, and then when we were alone if I had really meant to say no, I'd give the ring back in private to save some embarrassment.

I agree with others and I wouldn't do it at the game. Frankly, it's tacky in a "I got married at a monster truck rally" sort of way. Getting engaged is memorable, just by the nature of what you are doing. You don't need a gimmick to make it special.

Frankly, I wouldn't do it in front of an audience (her family) either. I'd go to the game, go back to the room, clean up, go to a nice dinner and ask her there. Entering into betrothal just shouldn't be a spectacle. It's a very personal contract and your girl deserves the privacy of sharing your thoughts without having to perform for the crowd. After she accepts, if you want to meet up with your folks for a celebratory gathering, knock yourself out.

Has she attended every game this season with you at her side? If you said yes to this question, then please disregard what I'm about to say.

What could be a very private, intimate and preciously-remembered moment will turn into something brashly commercialized. To each their own, but I'm still advising against this one.

IMHO... No. Tacky, cheesy, and bad.

This is how is done.



This guy did it the right way, creative and full of awesome.

Linky for the whole story.

Wrap the ring in a red sock before you present it to her.

While this wouldn't be my ideal way of being proposed to and it seems tacky to me, I am also not a sports fan in any way. He says she is a Red Sox junkie, how many of the women who have posted in here can say they are true "junkies"?

I have known a few girls who are sports nuts, some would be okay with the Jumbotron and others would not. The question you need to ask is, whether or not she likes a LOT of attention, like an entire stadiums worth of attention all directed at her, and at you for that matter. How are you going handle and deal with that kind of stress and pressure? Even is she doesn't view this as being tacky, if you flounder it will not be the kind of memorable she wants. I was proposed to at my favorite location in Disneyland, a small out of the way spot. Perfect right? Wrong, he had his parents come so that we had a picture of it and he was so nervous he wasn't going to get down on one knee. His parent hooped and applauded even though they couldn't tell what was going on. At this exact moment there was a strange surge of people in the area, who they promptly told that he was proposing to me, making them all applaud as well. He didn't have anything prepared to say to me and I was utterly embarrassed by his parents being there. He meant for them to come quietly take pictures and then to leave...his parents are not my favorite people and they do not get basic etiquette.

So, you need to make sure of some things. What is HER idea of memorable? Perhaps find some funny/blooper sport footage where you know that one of the clips is someone being proposed to on the Jumbotron. See how she reacts. Also, what would you do if she was up using the ladies room while it came on? Next, figure out if she wants a more intimate proposal or one with tons of people and her and your parents there. I think of proposals as being intimate and romantic, not something you have parents around for. However, if she is really big on her family, and you have an idea that she would like them there then go for it. Hell, I say ask her some of these things, be general about your questions but let her know why you are asking. Make sure you actually listen and take what she says to heart. Tell her you want it to be perfect and memorable, but that you realize a guys perception of the perfect memorable event could be drastically different from a gals.

Wish you the best of luck. If you have discussed marriage and you know she will say yes, I would hope that even if the proposal didn't go right she would still say yes. I mean she is agreeing to marry the man not the proposal. I mean, ours wasn't perfect, but the day overall was good and I knew he put a lot of thought into it plus I loved him, of course I wasn't going to tell him no. The evening was saved by a perfect, intimate dinner at our favorite steak house, complete with my favorite bottle of wine and a desert selection that he had set up with the restaurant weeks before.

You did not ask if you should do this. You asked how to go about it. Shame on those of you who dissed his idea. I've seen two proposals occur at halftime of a college football game, one which was this year. The girl loved it. The guy loved it, and the fans applauded. Everybody loved it. There are very few sports fans on this board, so a lot of people don't understand this type of thing and have never seen it happen. I think it's great. I had a friend who got married in the football stadium in the middle of the field. You have to be a sports nut to understand. I applaud the unique. Ignore the negative comments, and go for it.

Congrats in advance, Kurant.

P.S. I could help you out down here, but in Boston I have no clue how to go about doing this.

I think the thing you two will remember most is that you had your families with you. Doing it on the JumboTron is a cool idea, a lot have said how to go about it.

I did it at a family reunion with everyone around. All were in on it but her, then everyone gave her a "welcome to the family" gift of a scrapbook with pictures of all of us as kids and growing up. She treasures it.

As time passes, the family presence will be the best part of the memory.

Grancey, you'll notice that he got an answer on "how" in the second post, including a phone number and how to get to the right folks. So "how" quickly went out the window. "Why" is a much more interesting question anyway. There may even be a good reason, like they met at a Red Sox/Cubs game.

Then again, I don't know if I trust an Auburn fan to give marriage advice. Most Auburn weddings I've seen involve a shotgun at some point in the ceremony. ;)

Yes, do wrap the ring in a Red Sock!!! Hehehe! And go for it!

....Why not it's your idea of something she'd like and it'll make for fun stories for generations to come. And I have a feeling she isn't gonna be saying "No" to a guy as sweet as you are.

Meanwhile enjoy the good times building up to your engagement & nups. As I look back personally, I wish I had remained engaged for a longer time than I did, but luckily it's worked out. I think/know I was too young and naive when we got married. But hey, that's a story for another time.

Have fun . Keep us informed cuz many of us care & dig this stuff!!!! Romance is such fun and when you share it it gives good vibes elsewhere.

Oh and Happy (almost) New Year! Gonna be a banner your for you!

You are correct. We know how to deal with those assholes humming Rocky Top up in the balcony. :D

Auburn couple gets engaged in stands at BCS game | oanow.com

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v4...bcs-couple.jpg

Not quite the production you have planned, but I'm sure this will be memorable. Haven't heard back from you Kurant. What did you decide to do?

What a great story, Grancey! Aug. 27th sounds like a good date to me--1 day before my 1-year anniversary!