SiN

hmm..ok, this is something me and my bf would like to learn how to do, and i'm just wondering if any of you ladies have had this experience and can give me any advise.

thanks muchly!

[edit] yes, i kno i can google it, and i've already got a bit of info on it, but i still would like to get some advise from real people that i trust.[/edit]

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way2young

Hey--thanks for posting this thread!! I didn't know anything about female ejaculation, so I googled it. Apparently ejaculating is what I've been doing all this time. I guess I'm going to stop being ashamed at my 'dirty little secret' and start letting it flow.

THANK YOU.

P.S. Should I ever see the ex-boyfriend who freaked out when I did it, I'm going to kick him in the balls.

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redrose2

female ejactulation... lol I'd like to get my bf cumming first during sex and then we'll work on this advanced form of female orgasim. There are a few sites out there that tell you how and what to do. Basically as i understand it you need to stimulate the gspot enough that you spurt For some it may feel like peeing it is rare that you actually would cause just like in a guy, the bladder is closed during sex. Now if you needed to pee before starting this process... well all bets are off, so take care of that FIRST! Anyway supposidly self stimulation is possible by resting your palm on your pubic mound and inserting your index finger. then curl your finger back towards your palm as if you were trying to touch your belly button from the inside. Somewhere's in that region is the average location for the Gspot. Repeatedly make the come here signal with your finger by extending and closing your index finger. It works best if somebody else is doing it cause they can get more pentration if you have a deeper Gspot. Anyway I've yet to really try on myself, but after my bf gave me some info we decided we would try it together some time. Personally I've got that Peeing feeling going strong everytime I have tried, so that's probably why stop short. Anyway if any of you ladies have heard of different ways please post them. I'll try and find that link my bf sent me on the subject. I think www.clitical.com has something or maybe it's www.sexuality.org anyway all good stuff.

SiN

hihii..that's awesome

let it flow, girl!

(ps) i c ur from MN. i'm from there originally too.

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sierra2774

I dont know if I do this or not.

I would like to find out!

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cheerios

oh definitely. nothing worse than getting really far into it, and then just as he slips in... *pffft* Total mood killer for me. He usually just keeps rollin', though,

redrose2

Two things...

if you are just getting a wet secreation, but no sensation then it is most definitely not female ejaculation as I understand it. It is more likely that you have some pretty power glands pumping out lubrication. It's similar to the stuff in semin that isn't actually sperm. Just natural lubrication. There are times when I'm so wet I get beads of it dripping down from my opening. We usually put a pillow and a towel under my hips during oral cause it soaks stuff up and keeps my beau from craining his neck so much to access my business.

mmmmmm queefs (sp) those vaginal toots. A quick fix is to not let your beau go ALL the way out and then back in during sex. That pulls in and traps air. The next time he REALLY thrusts it will come out with some force and noise. My Beau and I just laugh it off now cause well we make all kinds of noises when we are fooling around. Everything from the slurping of his tongue to the smacking of chests or thighs and buns from behind :-D. His nuts even make a nice flapping sound sometimes. Anyway unless it's deathly quite I don't see why queefing would be so embarassing if your beau is a nice guy.

raeanna74

Yes I am somewhat familiar with female ejaculation. It hasn't happened very often with a man - though on my own or with a woman is different. RedRose2 gave a good rundown I think. I have found that the mythical G-spot for me at least feels a little different to my finger than the rest of the area surrounding it. It feels just a bit like cordoury running crosswise inside. Don't know if that'll help at all but thought I'd add that anyway. As far as the noises - I have found that a fan running or music quietly playing helps ease my fears or embarressment. When it's silent the noises just about echo it seems. Yikes. My man and I get a lot of good laughs sometimes. Once you laugh it off once the next time it happens it's not so bothersome. You can just ignore it and keep on Mooovin'. One thing I might add too is that the genital farts are partly caused by you actually expanding inside as a result of getting turned on. If your man gets embarrassed at all by it maybe mentioning that it just shows that he's got you worked up that can help.

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Minty

The female G spot defenetly does exist... for me anyhow.
i have never found it myself, but my boyfriend knows exactly where it is

Drzeaius

SiN

ahh...Dr Drew.

used to listen to Loveline all the time when i lived in the US.

that man gives the best advise ever.

and in this case, that's kind of what i was thinking/afraid of...

these websites and such make it sound like anyone can do it, with the right kind of practise or whatever...
but i kinda intutively think that Dr Drew is right...

now if i can just get my bf to believe that

..hmm, is still a good thing to try tho, the practise part is quite fun

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Peutetre

There are a couple of instructional videos on this subject. they seem to be pretty infomative. It's called Squirters and it's by Seymore Butts.. heh.. anyway.. here is a link for info on the second video.

http://www.iafd.com/title.rme/title=...uirters_2.html

I'm not sure if everyone is capable of female ejaculation.. but have fun trying!

lady

i've ejaculated a couple times now, usually only after I've orgasmed several times. I'm a little concerned though, sometimes I ejaculate before I orgasm, just while I'm being stimulated (through whatever means). It doesn't smell or look like urine at all, but is it female-ejaculate if it happens in between orgasms? Don't like the idea that I might just be peeing... It's totally clear, liquid (not like normal lubrication that builds up), has no smell that I can smell.

Angel

redrose gave a lot of key information. Another important thing to remember is that for some women it takes quite a few times before they can actually reach a g-spot orgasm.
The best way to assure stimulation, besides position, is to COMPLETELY relax the vaginal muscles. When you contract or tighten, it tends to "pull" the g-spot in and makes it difficult to stimulate it.
If you explore yourself and locate it and what feels best for you, it makes it easier to guide your partner to the right spot.
Once you get to where you can have an orgasm this way, it is fun to take yourself just to the edge of orgasm and stop, then take yourself to the edge via clitoris stimulation and stop. Continue to do this until both are so aroused, and timed right, you can have a dual orgasm that is OVER THE TOP!
Heh, what can I say, I appreciate a good orgasm or 10....

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lady

It surprises me how different my orgasms can feel depending on which areas of my body are focused on. Anyone else experience the same thing?

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sheilashine

is it weird that i've never experienced an orgasm? what can I do to fix this?

awanderingsoul

sheilashine-

Do you masturbate? I think that the best way to have an orgasm is to do it yourself, first. Once you know what feels good for you, then you can share with your SO. Acheiving the first orgasm may necessitate starting another thread, though. There's lots of techniques, and I'm sure you will get lots of suggestions.

stargrl

i remember the first few times i started touching myself, and when i got close to orgasm, i felt like i was going to seriously wet myself. of course, at the time i had no idea what was going on. it took me a few weeks, i would get myself to that point where i felt like i was going to "pee" and then i stopped. eventually i was able to get that muscle to build up, and it got to the point where i could orgasm, if i wanted the liquid to go or not. i thought it was very abnormal for this to happen until a few years ago until i learned about FE. since then, people have been dying to see. haha

the best way i can describe to get it done is to have your boyfriend help you. (no, seriously) they always seem to know exactly where right inside of you to touch (right along that upper wall), and once you get 3/4 of the way to orgasm, just gently push out. the most important thing i feel is to make sure you feel comfortable. (a lot of times i get worried about stupid stuff like "how is he going to react to this?" and "i don't really want to make a mess on the sheets") to let myself go.

hope this helps.

sheilashine

this has helped because a few times I have felt that I was going to pee. so he should keep doing what he is doing?

motdakasha

if you're having problems with FE, sometimes the problem is the simplest: relax.

there is something like 7 different ways to orgasm, i've heard. well, different muscle areas that cause orgasm. the ones that i can remember are gspot, clitoris, anal, erogenous zones (i.e. ears, neck, breasts, etc.), and i think there was at least one other muscle group within the vagina that created orgasms different from clitoral and gspot. well anyway, those are the ones i remember. maybe this will be covered in my human sexuality class that i plan to take eventually.
i've done three of the ones i listed and i agree wholeheartedly that they are all very unique.

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angela146

If you don't know if you FE, one way to find out is to have your lover (male or female) give you oral sex *and* stimulate your G-spot at the same time (mix and match as you like).

"Lubricating mucus" tastes different from FE. Lubrication doesn't have much of a taste but FE takes kind of like semen. There is only a small amount of it and it isn't as salty.

If your lover has his/her mouth down there when you ejaculate, he/she can tell you when it happens. You will then know that you can do it and will know what it feels like.

An alternative would be to bring yourself off and lick your fingers as you go. The problem is that you might not be able to do both at the same time and you might not get the full flavor by licking your fingers.

pinkie

I honestly thought it was a myth until last night!

We tried Levetra last night for the first time. It's different than Viagra, gentler. Anyway, the effect was that my husband was able to keep his erection after he came, and was able to cum multiple times. Most of you I'm sure know this...

Anyway the build-up to my orgasm was amazing because this stuff keeps him so rock hard and he could pound and pound, each time for longer and longer...

We'll, when I finally did cum, juices gushed from me, and at first I thought I might have accidentally peed, but I felt it, and it was slimy (unlike pee) but clear, so I tasted it (yes, I tasted it) and it was girl juice!! I was so excited about it I went on and on about it for a few minutes until we romped again.

Anyone had this happen here?

anti fishstick

Yes, the topic of female ejaculation has always interested me ever since I first saw it on the sexuality thread. So I began to wonder if I could do it. It wasn't long after that I figured out I can. One thing that bothers me is that a lot of people often think it is pee. But those people probably haven't experienced it themselves so what makes them experts? This isn't the most well-known, talked about topic though, so there's a lot of misinformed people, or people who haven't heard about it or even know what it is.

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Ella

Well, I've been chasing this one for a while, both with a partner and by myself. But it finally happened a couple of nights ago, when I was fucking my SO in the reverse cowboy position. I felt the most incredible sensation - different to regular orgasms - and he said he could feel fluid pulsating out of each side of my pussy! And there was this massive wet spot on the sheet under me. Ladies....I have squirted!!!

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BRAVO ELLA! It IS quite the sensation!

I have done it, and can do it, but haven't in a while for whatever reason. It leads to a very intense orgasm and I usually end up with a (very worth it) headache afterwards.

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KinkyKiwi

hmmm..i've come close a couple times i think...but it would freak me and biznatch out if i peed during sex..and since i feels EXACTLY like that....hmm...maybe i'll umm "let go" oneday..lol maybe its time to try sex inna jacuzzi!

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little_tippler

are all women able to FE or what? Curious...

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Supple Cow

I know I'm able to, but never on my own. It only ever happened during sex. On a chair. Maybe once on the bed, but mostly it happened when we did it in a chair. It was certainly always a good ride when we tried to make me ejaculate even if we didn't succeed.

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MARYDLVIT

YES I KNOW HOW TO DO IT, I WAS TOLD BY A FRIEND AND I TOLD MY HUSBAND AND IVE HAD THE BEST SEX EVER SINCE.
what you need to do is lay on your back and after you have foreplay until you are totally aroused, he needs to stick his point and middle finger in you and do the come here sign over and over soft at first til you start feeling it then harder and faster and you will have the best "O" ever. doesn't work the 1st time keep trying it will.

Sultana

You're right MARYDLVIT, that's a great technique.

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hunnychile

What I love about female ejaculation is that it's usually a fantastic surprise and only happens when the sex is beyond good and hitting nirvana!

Of course it's rare...maybe that's how we know we've found our soul mate. Or sexual equal. It's definitely worth striving for, and yet it remains elusive. I've only been there a few times in my lust filled wild sex life.


And yes, I would think all women are able to have an ejaculation. Why wouldn't we? We're all hot wired to enjoy the sexual act to the maximum, however we percieve/perform/express/unleash it. Once you totally let go, orgasms take on a life of their own! An once you have them you're never satified for less.

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JustDoll

i ejaculate most of the time...which at the beginning i was embaressed about...but soon after i realized its quite common..
sometimes its actually quite sensitive.. and feels really good
but other times..im not even aware of it....until my bf tells me..
so i guesss for a guy cumming always feels good....but for women (at least for me) it may or may not be actual cumming but just as redrose said..that maybe the glands are just pumping out excessive lubrication...for watever reason.

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Jenna

Well, it all depends on the person. Remember that some woman can't even orgasm through g-spot stimulation. However, I'd recommend using sheets that you are ready to clean quick, or putting something under you. It can get VERY messy.

And as for learning how to find your g-spot and have an orgasm, there's a great article over at scareleteen.com. It's near the bottom of the arcticle, right after "Life on the Inside," however, I suggest reading the whole thing!

http://www.scarleteen.com/article/bo...sexual_anatomy

Grasshopper Green

I have a question for ladies who have had babies.

When hubby and I first started dating and before we started having sex, we'd play around and I *think* I was probably close to squirting because I'd keep having to pee every time he fingered me. However...I've never felt the same sensation from sex, and after exploring myself...I've never found that spot again. Has having kids (and tearing scar tissue) ever changed this for anyone here? I'd love to find my "spot" again.

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