Cicero

So I got fired today, and I was immensely relieved. I shouldn’t have opened my mouth and said I didn’t really need the job so much because I’m already working somewhere else fulltime. I walked out of the place almost excited. I told everyone this lame excuse that I needed the extra money to pay for my divorce, which ultimately I do. But in all actuality my original motivation for the second job was to get out and meet new people. My relationship with my ex-wife was a horrible destructive and chaotic environment that no matter how hard I tried to make it a welcoming, stable environment she would just trample over my efforts. So the marriage counselor I was seeing encouraged me to go meet new people because I traded in all my friends to try and concentrate all my efforts around preserving my failed marriage.

So here I am, stuck home alone on a Saturday night and can’t even get any old friends to commit to an outing to have a little fun. Amazing how I turned that around completely from a happy post to sad and riddle with my hopes for pity.

maleficent

Uhh -- congrats on getting fired? if it works for you - -then great.

Why do you need to have friends to go out with? Take yourself out and celebrate your freedom - -look like you are enjoying yourself, and not moping - -and you won't be alone for long.

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lurkette

Ugh - change sucks sometimes, but maybe a new start is what you need. Getting fired is never fun, but you seem to have a good attitude about it. I hope this is a new beginning for you.

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Cicero

I probably should just get out on my own, I guess I need to figure out a way to deal with the awkward feelings I have in pursuing something by myself. Maybe I was too sheltered as a child, although I was perfectly capable of scoring a second job based on my confidence alone as a cook. Now if only I could transfer that confidence to every day life.

Phaenx

You can come hit on chicks with me.

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tritium

I was fired by AT&T Suncom a few years ago as I refused to skip my lunches and 15minutes breakes. Funny how the shits that asked me to forgo my leisure time never missed their own. I told them what I thought one afternoon after being chastised for not making my daily quota of these bullshit forms...

I was promptly shown the door and later that afternoon, I found my mantra: View Story Here

I'd thought I'd come to the end of the road...

Four weeks later, I was employed with a company that became my happy home for 2years. I never looked back.

The point is this: life is a highway with many turns that, often times, you can't see around. You probably won't know where you're going until you're already there. Also, know that things will happen to you for a reason, and everything will work out in the end, even though it may not be as you originally intended.

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ophidiann

Jobs are jobs! I personally feel that when you look at many things out there... jobs are not always the best place to make new friends. Really depends on how old you are though. I've noticed that workplaces tend to make decent aquaintences, but not the best of friends... as people are always reluctant to be completely honest at a workplace in fear of something be said to someone else. It makes friendships hard there.

Suggestion for meeting new people, find something you are interested in. I know that in my area (Northwest) hiking and mountain climbing are quite good activities to meet people. I've already met several people that eventually became friends through this.

Also, consider taking a class at a community college, although this once again depends on where you live and how old you are. I know even if it's a dumbshit class like Photography 101 or whatever interest you may have, it's lots of times a good place to meet people that may share similar interests and be potentially good friends.

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Hrothgar

Just try to keep a positive attitude at your new job and I'm sure you'll meet someone in no time. But maybe some time off from another relationship would be good in order to get yourself straightened out a bit.

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curious george

I'm guessing most of you guys on this post are from the States?
Is it true, that you can be fired; just because? No waring needed? Just pack your stuff in 20 mins, here's the door?

I know you have unions, but not universally, but what rights do you guys have?
It's almost the opposite here. You can tell the boss to go to hell, and the worst that will happen is 6 months of mediation and management 'performance reviews'.

I broke up a fight where one guy had choked another to the point of unconsciousness. In the middle of a room. It took 6 months of 'negioation' ot get him 'resettled' in another department. Suspended on full pay too.

Cicero

To put things into a better perspective, I got fired from a job where I’ve only clocked in less than 40 hours of total work (not more than 5 days worked). I was working as a low level chef for a restaurant. I have the potential and skill to be a better chef and the senior manager who hired me recognize that in me, but I lacked the desire to achieve beyond simple work because I just wanted an excuse to get out and meet people. I purposefully underachieved when given more difficult work. Why? Because I was further away from the servers and waitresses, so I underachieved, and they moved me to an easier job closer to wait-staff.

To quote the manager that fired me “We’ve hired on some people that want to put in more hours, so we’re not going to schedule you anymore, and give them your hours.” I smirked and said “ok, nice working with you.” My interpretation of that statement is: we hired some kid 10 years younger than you (I’m 26) who is willing work for half of your wages (I was making $10.00 an hour, half is around minimum wage). No sweat off my back, I already have a very respectable job in the legal department of a large corporation. But I did enjoy having the extra money. It made me feel great about myself. Like I said before, I think my greater challenge is not getting over the loss of my job, but transferring that confidence I used in trying to get the job, to my everyday life.

maleficent

Most people, when they apply for a job, sign on the job application, whether they read it or not, an Employment at Will agreement. meaning, either party can terminate the employment at any time. No notice given.
Unions cost you money to belong to, but people can still be fired even if they belong to a union, they just get fired for cause. You just need to "write a person up" three times, and they are out.

Telling the boss to go to hell, would be insubordination and you'd be out in many companies.

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