The pill and ..(da da da).. THE PERIOD!! - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

bayd · 08-26-2005, 10:15 AM

Yes, thats just a stupid title where i'm tryign to relieve some tension about this, now onto the question

Ok, somehow this never occured to me before (my girlfriend started taking the pill last month after her last period, so shes just having her first period while on the pill) , but how does sex during/around her period work? She's been a little nervous about having sex that ends with me cumming inside her, and just now mentioned it was due to her not taking pills on the 4th week... So what i'm wondering, as I've researched this way to much and still have no idea, is should we use another form of protection during the one week of taking "dummy pills" or no pills? Does the drug stay in her system and still have effects or do the effects dissapate rapidly when you stop taking it?

Thanks for your help,
-Bayd

abaya · 08-26-2005, 10:21 AM

There should be no difference between the level of protection on the off-week vs. the on-weeks, assuming she is taking them EXACTLY when she's supposed to, etc. So really, you should be able to have sex whenever you want, as long as she is being consistent with her pills!

However, ktspktsp and I are so anti-pregnancy for the time being that we take NO chances. I mean, other than abstinence, we figure the next best thing is for me to be on birth control and for him to use a condom. So we never really have anything to worry about... it certainly makes me feel better and reduces our stress about "accidents" entirely. We have sex month-round, year-round... etc.

astrahl · 08-26-2005, 10:22 AM

She should be taking those pills everyday around the same time everyday. If that is the case. Sex should be safe after the first full month cycle on the pill. If she forgets a pill here and there, you should probably use a backup method.

Redlemon · 08-26-2005, 10:35 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by bayd

(my girlfriend started taking the pill last month after her last period, so shes just having her first period while on the pill)

I'd recommend staying with condoms also for a couple more months, so that she gets a couple of cycles under her belt before you start relying on the pill for birth control. (I don't know if that statement is scientifically accurate, but that's what my wife told me when she started on them.)

onodrim · 08-26-2005, 10:39 AM

I've heard from numerous sources that the pill takes a full two months to become completely effective, so you should still be using another form of protection on top of the pill for the next few months. To answer your original question - the pill doesn't "stop" working during the week of her period, so once it's been a few months you can have sex during her period with the same amount of protection as any other time in her cycle.

Sugar&Spice · 08-26-2005, 11:52 AM

I'd wait on sex with no condom just until she gets the hang of taking the pills every single day. I usually take one or two of my 4th week pills and then stop taking them. They are just there as a reminder and I have been on the pill for 4 years so its pretty much just habit now.

ohwhatfunits · 08-31-2005, 04:12 AM

ok maybe i am naive but how do have sex when u have your period?

tecoyah · 08-31-2005, 04:14 AM

well....you see....the male slides his erect......

abaya · 08-31-2005, 08:17 AM

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Originally Posted by tecoyah

well....you see....the male slides his erect......

Nice one, Tec.

Yeah, sex on your period is no different from sex off your period, except that for some people (like me) the cervix is more sensitive. So my bf has to be a *little* more gentle at those times than others. But otherwise, we just throw down something to shield the bedsheets, and away we go.....!

Seaver · 08-31-2005, 08:19 PM

Sex during the Period isnt much different than regular sex.

Really the only difference? You need more foreplay, not quite as rough sex, you'll notice an iron-like smell, and you'll want to clean off your penis afterwards (wont be much usually, but there might be a little strip of blood). Lay the sheets down and have fun.

analog · 08-31-2005, 09:52 PM

The only difference between period and regular sex is the blood... it may cause an otherwise very well-lubricated girl to be more dry with all the friction and whatnot, but that depends on the girl. I usually found that, if you really wanted to have sex while you or your girl is on her period, it's awesome to do it in the shower. Doing it in the shower is fun as it is, and this way you don't have to worry about making a mess or whatever. Worries deplete sex drive and the feeling of the sex. Eliminate an extra worry and all is candy.

Oh and yeah... most doctors say the pill takes two full courses (months) before it's totally effective.

ohwhatfunits · 09-01-2005, 04:31 AM

thx that was an eye opener!! will have to try that someday.
cheerios.

nreece · 09-02-2005, 06:35 AM

When in doubt, be careful. You never know.

JustJess · 09-02-2005, 07:00 AM

I'm surprised to hear everyone say two months. Every gyno I've ever been to told me the first month, you use backup, and after that, you're golden as long as you take it consistently at the same time. The 4th week's pills are just placebos. The first cycle she has, don't have unprotected sex. After that, take everyone's advice from above for cycle sex. I'm a particular fan of the shower, myself!

But of course, like Abaya said... better safe than sorry!

BTW, if she has a hard time remembering to take it, perhaps she could look into using the "ring". Check the Ladies' Lounge for more info, Nikki has put a lot of good stuff out there. Good luck! Be safe and be happy!

08-26-2005, 10:15 AM	#1 (permalink)
bayd Upright Location: Oregon	The pill and ..(da da da).. THE PERIOD!! Yes, thats just a stupid title where i'm tryign to relieve some tension about this, now onto the question Ok, somehow this never occured to me before (my girlfriend started taking the pill last month after her last period, so shes just having her first period while on the pill) , but how does sex during/around her period work? She's been a little nervous about having sex that ends with me cumming inside her, and just now mentioned it was due to her not taking pills on the 4th week... So what i'm wondering, as I've researched this way to much and still have no idea, is should we use another form of protection during the one week of taking "dummy pills" or no pills? Does the drug stay in her system and still have effects or do the effects dissapate rapidly when you stop taking it? Thanks for your help, -Bayd

08-26-2005, 10:21 AM	#2 (permalink)
abaya Location: Iceland	There should be no difference between the level of protection on the off-week vs. the on-weeks, assuming she is taking them EXACTLY when she's supposed to, etc. So really, you should be able to have sex whenever you want, as long as she is being consistent with her pills! However, ktspktsp and I are so anti-pregnancy for the time being that we take NO chances. I mean, other than abstinence, we figure the next best thing is for me to be on birth control and for him to use a condom. So we never really have anything to worry about... it certainly makes me feel better and reduces our stress about "accidents" entirely. We have sex month-round, year-round... etc. __________________ And think not you can direct the course of Love; for Love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course. --Khalil Gibran

08-26-2005, 10:22 AM	#3 (permalink)
astrahl Insane Location: You don't want to live here	She should be taking those pills everyday around the same time everyday. If that is the case. Sex should be safe after the first full month cycle on the pill. If she forgets a pill here and there, you should probably use a backup method. __________________ Maybe it was over when she chucked me out the Rover at full speed. Maybe Maybe... ~a-Ha

08-26-2005, 10:39 AM	#5 (permalink)
onodrim Cosmically Curious Location: Chicago, IL	I've heard from numerous sources that the pill takes a full two months to become completely effective, so you should still be using another form of protection on top of the pill for the next few months. To answer your original question - the pill doesn't "stop" working during the week of her period, so once it's been a few months you can have sex during her period with the same amount of protection as any other time in her cycle. __________________ "The world is so exquisite with so much love and moral depth, that there is no reason to deceive ourselves with pretty stories for which there’s little good evidence. Far better it seems to me, in our vulnerability, is to look death in the eye and to be grateful every day for the brief but magnificent opportunity that life provides" -Carl Sagan

08-26-2005, 11:52 AM	#6 (permalink)
Sugar&Spice Psycho	I'd wait on sex with no condom just until she gets the hang of taking the pills every single day. I usually take one or two of my 4th week pills and then stop taking them. They are just there as a reminder and I have been on the pill for 4 years so its pretty much just habit now. __________________ -Speak your mind even if your voice shakes

08-31-2005, 04:12 AM	#7 (permalink)
ohwhatfunits Upright	ok maybe i am naive but how do have sex when u have your period?

08-31-2005, 04:14 AM	#8 (permalink)
tecoyah Illusionary	well....you see....the male slides his erect...... __________________ Holding onto anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned. - Buddha

08-31-2005, 08:19 PM	#10 (permalink)
Seaver Junkie Location: Fort Worth, TX	Sex during the Period isnt much different than regular sex. Really the only difference? You need more foreplay, not quite as rough sex, you'll notice an iron-like smell, and you'll want to clean off your penis afterwards (wont be much usually, but there might be a little strip of blood). Lay the sheets down and have fun.

08-31-2005, 09:52 PM	#11 (permalink)
analog Banned	The only difference between period and regular sex is the blood... it may cause an otherwise very well-lubricated girl to be more dry with all the friction and whatnot, but that depends on the girl. I usually found that, if you really wanted to have sex while you or your girl is on her period, it's awesome to do it in the shower. Doing it in the shower is fun as it is, and this way you don't have to worry about making a mess or whatever. Worries deplete sex drive and the feeling of the sex. Eliminate an extra worry and all is candy. Oh and yeah... most doctors say the pill takes two full courses (months) before it's totally effective.

09-01-2005, 04:31 AM	#12 (permalink)
ohwhatfunits Upright	thx that was an eye opener!! will have to try that someday. cheerios.

09-02-2005, 06:35 AM	#13 (permalink)
nreece Upright	When in doubt, be careful. You never know.

09-02-2005, 07:00 AM	#14 (permalink)
JustJess Unencapsulated Location: Kittyville	I'm surprised to hear everyone say two months. Every gyno I've ever been to told me the first month, you use backup, and after that, you're golden as long as you take it consistently at the same time. The 4th week's pills are just placebos. The first cycle she has, don't have unprotected sex. After that, take everyone's advice from above for cycle sex. I'm a particular fan of the shower, myself! But of course, like Abaya said... better safe than sorry! BTW, if she has a hard time remembering to take it, perhaps she could look into using the "ring". Check the Ladies' Lounge for more info, Nikki has put a lot of good stuff out there. Good luck! Be safe and be happy! __________________ My heart knows me better than I know myself, so I'm gonna let it do all the talkin'.