xjumper84

I haven't had sex for over 4 months (yes i know its a shame, but you got to deal with what life throws at you). I met a girl a few days ago and she wants a friends with benefits relationship but whats to only have it if I have stamina. I've been working out (upper body) lately and a thought came to mind.

What can i do in my workout plan to build stamina. I've already read the "how to go down on a woman thread" and the tongue exercises are a great idea, and i'll follow that. but what else can i do to build that "stamina" to make me last longer?

Any and all ideas are welcome.

Martian

Kegels.

Tense up like you need to take a crap and are trying to hold it in (disgusting I know, but I can't think of a better way to explain it), hold it for about five seconds and then release. Do that about 90 times/day in sessions of ten times each (it's not as hard as it sounds, you can do it at the office, in front of the computer, in the car etc) and you'll be going with the pros in no time.

Just remember too that sex is as much about quality as it is about quantity. Being able to give it to her for four hours straight can be good, but only so long as she's not counting ceiling tiles the whole time. Technique is just as important as duration and that part just comes with experience.

Good luck on that. I've never seen a 'friends with benefits' relationship that's worked out, but I suppose it can, so long as you're careful.

EDIT - another good point from Ballplayer, who I cross-posted with. Also, on that track, if you know it's going to happen, jerk the kielbasa first. You'll last longer if you orgasm beforehand.

And if the worst happens and you finish 2 minuts in, go for manual/oral stimulation 'till the one-eyed spelunker's ready to go again. You'd be amazed at how much better you can make it for her when you're not distracted by your own needs, as it were.

The Ballplayer

For some reason im having a hard time thinking about how that conversation went down.
"Yeah i want to have sex with you for sure, but.....If you cant make me cum 3 times im just not gonna fool with it"


i dont know, just sounded kinda funny. I would say try masturbating and when you feel that you are close to climax try suddenly switching it off in your mind cause thats all it takes really. Just learn when you need to take your mind off it and when its just too late and youre gonna blow.

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bubonico

Work on enjoying the act of sex. I know it sounds dumb but worrying about your poor performance really is going to be a self fullfilling prophecy. I used to have problems with cumming too quick, but once I started to relax and enjoy the sex without thinking about other things I found that I could last pretty much as long as I wanted. And like the others said if you haven't had an orgasm in a while you will definitely not last as long. Good luck to you.

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noodles

here are some threads for you to look over:
http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/showthread.php?t=33593
http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/showthread.php?t=2453
http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/showthread.php?t=84436
http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/showthread.php?t=62182
http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/showthread.php?t=36660
http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/showthread.php?t=19021
http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/showthread.php?t=30022
http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/showthread.php?t=25257

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kangaeru

jerking off a lot will give you more stamina.

I"m a huge fan of kegels as well, or as I call them 'penis push ups'. I don't do it 90 times a day, maybe 10-15, and i pull and hold hard every time. You'll notice you can pee with better force, and your dick might feel like it hangs longer. I learned this all from a taoist sex book. Whenever you ejaculate, you let off approx. 225-275 million sperm. That's enough to completely repopulate the ENTIRE united states. Your body puts a TON of biophysical energy into it. You know how you can stop peeing mid-pee by flexing that PC muscle? That's a kegel. Eventually, you want to work on being able to do that when you orgasm so you can keep the money shot in the bank. It won't give you blue balls--you will orgasm, but you won't cum. It's kind of like a 300 pound bench press though, it's pretty hard to do, and you gotta work on it for a while.

But man, I'm going to have a lucky girlfriend.

calvin88

"But man, I'm going to have a lucky girlfriend."
hahahaha funny comment

bing bing

As others have said and as has probably been mentioned several times in the threads listed by noodles, masturbate about an hour before the act and you'll last a hell of a lot longer.

Don't go in with a loaded gun.

Rinndalir

I don't see what's wrong with going more than once, I have decent stamina and can do kegels but if it's been a week since I got some 5 min is an epic feat. And 4 months, I can't even imagine...

I just don't see the point of jerking off beforehand unless you just can't get it up again for some reason. That first time goes pretty quick yeah, but after that you'll be able to last much much longer.

Bonus if you are into moneyshots, depending on how long you've gone without that first load can be HUGE.

ErcDaMerc

kangaeru is right if you cum too fast - masturbation will curve that, especially if you masturbate earlier during the day...
Personally, I've found that practice is the best way to build stamina. I used to get tired real fast but now I amaze myself once in a while after looking at the clock... and once and a while i'll take a quick sip of water that I keep by the bed anyway.
Tell her you need her to help you practice and that the more you do it the better you'll get - not only is that probably true but thats a great excuse to f* every chance you get