Koochy

Just recently, I lost my virginity to my g/f. She wasn't one before hand, so she is the more experienced one in the relationship. Anyways, after the short period of time I spent in her, I was gone. This didn't really matter to me (I had had trouble coming when it came to oral, so I was just happy I was able to come at all by other than my own hands). What did make me wonder, was.. when does sex actually end? After I had finished I was wondering if I stay in her? She obviously didn't climax within 20 seconds like me, so do I continue pumping?

I had no feeling of a refractory period, so I continued for a bit wondering if I'm doing the right thing. I eventually pulled out, as I was scared continuing after coming was the wrong thing to do (she's on the pill, so no protection).

So my question is, how long am I supposed to continue sex? Does it matter if I've just climaxed and gone slightly limp? Does this affect her (as in gives her any feeling in there or am I just wasting my time until I'm hard again). I was thinking about trying an MMO (I've gotten them a few times from self practice) but it was my first time! I just wanted to get off, heh :D.

Thanks in advance for the help!

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Carno

As long as you want, but it's kinda hard to keep going without an erection

Get get it up again and keep on going. Unless she's worn out or something, of course..

discotequi

interesting question... probably one that depends entirely on her and what she prefers... did you ask her?

noodles

depends. talk to her about it.

i can pretty easily maintain erection after the first climax (second usually gets me). but after i talked to my last SO about it after having done it a few times, she told me she wasn't into that (for different reasons) and that she liked it best if i finished after just one.

skinnymofo

i try to go on for atleast another 30 seconds or so if possible, knowing im hard for atleast that much longer.

uncle_el

you should talk to her about it.

from my personal experience, women want to climax too. in my book, i do what it takes to get her there. if i cum to early, i have to use other methods if i'm limp (cunilingus, digital stimulation, vibrator, dildo). but all of this supposes that i actually care what the woman thinks (because if i don't it's a whole different ball game).

no two women are the same, and you should just ask her. if anything, asking her will help lead to a healthier and better sexual relationship!!!

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snowy

If you are using a condom please remember to change it after cumming. Remove the first, wipe yourself up first and roll another on, carefully avoiding exposing the outside to any remaining semen. Then you're ready to go again.

Talking to her about it is your best solution. I know I don't like a guy jackhammering away at me for hours, but a while is nice. Besides...the more "used" to sex you get, the longer you'll be able to go and the more you'll be able to control yourself.

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Koochy

Ahhhhhhh man, I get kinda worried about asking this kind of stuff. I know it leads onto better things, but shes not all that open to me. I've been down on her a few times and been successful at each attempt, but with no help from her. She just doesn't seem too communicative when it comes to helping me in bed. Maybe I just need to break the ice and be straightforward. Maybe shes bursting inside to tell me different and just needs a bit of help telling me? Looks like I'll just have to ask her the next time we are together in that situation.

As for the changing of condoms snowowl, I do regret not using one. I mean, I knew she was on the pill; but I read everywhere to use condoms even if you've known the person for a long while sexually. That's another thing that I will probably have to talk to her about.

Thanks again everyone, I'll report back after tonight hopefully! :D

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absorbentishe

If she didn't cum, you can always go down on her to satisfy her! You may get an erection again while you're feasting, and go at it again.

Koochy

Ok report time! :D

She stayed over last night! Between the whole time she was here, there was a lot of sex involved; all of which I just tried to see how she reacted by how I pulled out. I started out by finishing in a matter of seconds, but then eased out to longer periods of time later into the night. I kinda got the hang of it near the end, I even brang her to orgasm a few times! I was pretty proud.. seen as I was worried I wasn't doing so good.

Once again, no protection was used. I made sure to make her come (oral sex) before sex occured, so as I wouldn't have to go down on her with a semen filled vagina (heh heh.. ew). Each time I finished, I stayed in her just going out then right in slowly and massaging her hips with mine. I pulled out each time I had finished (slowly) and usually just rolled over into some kissing. All was sorted by not even having to ask her! Her body language spoke to me enough that she was happy for me to pull out then.

As for condoms, I did talk her to about that. I explained that it's a lot cleaner for me when wanting to go down on her. But later in the night, I didn't really see the point seen as sex was the preffered meal of the night.

Thanks for help on the topic! Questions answered and now looking forward to some good times :D

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loonatic8her

hell dude... once you are done roll over and go to sleep... you aint doing her much good for that brief 20 seconds and she'll be thinking about that other dude she left at the bar when she chose you instead... get some more experience and this problem will solve itself...

Munku

^ Wow, asshole? From my absolute zero sex experience, all I can say is, go down on her til your little soldier is back up, then resume. It'll last longer that second time too...

TM875

Are you 13? Or have you just lived such a sheltered life?

Anyway, the best method to enhance your girlfriend's pleasure is to...well...NOT orgasm in 20 seconds. If you still can't control yourself, at least practice your oral techniques, both on her clit and on her breasts.

Perhaps you're a candidate for those "special" condoms that make you last longer...

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IowaEric

Hey, if your woman is good to you, its no wonder you're cummming in 20 seconds. It takes time to build the sexual-savior relationship, trust me on that, despite what these assholes have to say. ( OK, not all are assholes ) I';ve been dating my girlfriend of 9 months and I can still cum in 20 seconds if I want to. I can also go for 2 hours if I find the right situation.

The bottom line is, don't feel bad about it. Be open about it. I've two-pump-chumped my woman on several occassions, but as long as you're willing to admit you did it, and promise to make it up, and ACTUALLY DO IT, you're A-OK. If you
've been sleeping with the same person for awhile, and you find you CAN'T actually do it, thats a whole different story.

uncle_el

ah, you remind me of my younger days, lol.

i prefer a semen filled vagina to a post-condom vagina, with the conditions that the semen is mine!!!!! but seriously, the taste of latex and spermicide is hideous, while my fluids in her is more tolerable (notice i didn't say great). but that's a barrier that's hard to cross... i.e. not many chicks i would do that with, but the chicks you do decide to do it with may be much much more inclined to do what you ask in bed.

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An individual who breaks a law that conscience tells him is unjust, and who willingly accepts the penalty of inprisonment in order to arouse the conscience of the community over its injustice, is in reality expressing the highest respect for the law. - Martin Luther King, Jr.

The media's the most powerful entity on earth. They have the power to make the innocent guilty and to make the guilty innocent, and that's power. Because they control the minds of the masses. - Malcolm X

Gamer90

*cough*The pill doesn't mean 100% no pregnancy, my friend thought so and his G/F ended up with twins at 17*cough*

Willravel

I usually count to 500 (about eight and a half minutes) after I finish. If she hasen't finished by then, you might be doing something wrong. Sometimes I change positions, trying to get the g-spot orrub the clit more. After you finish, it's okay to speed up a bit (as long as she doesn't mind)! It might help you maintain rigidness.

vvveronica

wow I just read all those responses.. Some people do have an agenda.

When i first did it with a bfriend, if i can remember that far back it was ackward and he came very quickly. he kept his rythm and stayed hard. I came after a lil while and he soon was ready again himself. Too many guys think sex is over as soon as THEY cum. Those type make great ex boy friends.

Rinndalir

Ummm yeah. I've had my share of girlfriends, but after a baby and 3+ years my wife still makes me splooge in less than a minute sometimes, she is awesome.

Something I learned back in the day was, get the girl off first, that way it's not as big a deal if you blow early. With the disclaimer that, every woman is different, all the ones I've been with had trouble cumming through sex alone. The wife is a little easier but I still have to pound her pretty hard to get her to orgasm during sex. Obviously some women are going to be the reverse, and some able to get off just as easily from either one. She prefers I keep going after I cum for as long as I can, so I do. Sometimes I get hard again, sometimes not, I make sure she's satisfied though.

uniuniunium

this one speaks the truth!

bad jane

agree with others that it is all about her preference. but i'd just like to mention that not only is the pill NOT foolproof in preventing pregnancy--condoms protect you from more than just being a daddy. the reason you should use condoms despite how well you think you may know a person is that you'd prefer not to wake up one day and find your penis covered in bumps that are oozing some strange-colored and foul smelling puss. and do i really need to mention that pesky little disease known as aids?

Gamer90

^^The force is strong with this one...