omid

hey all. im 18 and my gf is 7 months older than me. she's super shy and hasn't done anything with a guy (its cause she has major brains). what's amazing, though, is that she's easily one of the hottest girls in the senior class + the school. anyways, the point. how long should i wait before i kiss her? or should i wait until she makes the first move? i'm having trouble reading her. i feel like i haven't given any info but i'm hoping some shy girls on the forums'll lead me in the right direction.

thanks!

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Y2KDREAD

I would just take it as it goes along, don't try to rush anything, I doubt you would want to do something to wreck things. Though this is coming from a super shy guy with next to no experence in the girl department, so take it for what it's worth.

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skier

Omid, look for her physical cues. When talking to her in an intamite(read- somewhere she feels safe but isolated) setting and she's ready to be kissed she'll do some of the following
1. breathe harder
2. turn more/all of her body towards you
3. move closer
4. touch
5. either lock eyes or completely shy away from all eye contact (can't stand the latter, what are they ashamed of?!)

Then just come up with some excuse to kiss her
"There is nothing in this world I want to do more right now than... kiss.. y(by this time you should have kissed her)"
If you both like each other, almost anything will do.

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TheBrit

Heh, my girlfriend does both. A few seconds before she kisses me she looks straight into my eyes, then at the last moment she'll look somewhere over my right shoulder...

Rlyss

Wow, she's your girlfriend before you've kissed? I don't think it's because she's got "major brains" that she hasn't done much with a guy. Smartness has nothing to do with it! The hottest women aren't chatted up as much as you think they are, because guys think 'She's outta my league' and go for someone else, leaving the super good-looking women alone.

Anyway, if you want to kiss your girlfriend, just do it! If she's happy to be your girlfriend then I'd say she's just waiting for you to make the first move here. Once you get that first kiss out of the way (which can be truly memorable) you'll have no trouble kissing her after this. Being boyfriend and girlfriend gives you a ticket to kiss whenever you want!

Next time you're just chilling out together, during a movie, after a nice conversation or when you drop her off after a date, or when she says something cute or nice, or when you've just pulled up at a red light and she's looking at you from the other car seat, or when the commercial comes on the television, or when she's in the kitchen making a coffee, or when she's looking at something in a store window... mate, there are a zillion 'right' times for a great kiss, I could go on and on here. I think there are very few 'wrong' times to do it, and those times you'll probably know instinctively.

omid

hahaha thanks all. yeah i know the situation is weird but i'll hop right on it. (no pun intended)

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rukkyg

As far as I'm concerned, you're not bf/gf until you've at least kissed, at least as a senior in high school. Get real now!
Of course, some older people would say that you're not bf/gf until you're had sex 3 times and stop having sex with other people later that night.

guardian

My Wife was the same way. She was the smartest in her school and one of the most wanted. I still have no idea how I was able to catch her, but I broke the ice by just kissing her softly at first and judging her reaction. After awhile she began iniciating the kisses. Good Luck.

pimpjuice

One of those times when you are both sitting there hand in hand, or hugging or whatever, and you are receiving one of those puppy-dog stares from her, say (in a soft voice) "how would you feel if I kissed you right now?" ...read her reaction and go with it. DO NOT, I repeat DO NOT make it seemed staged. It must be "spur of the moment."

Just a WAG, but chances are she'll be both surprised and excited. Take it easy and don't Gretzky her tonsils, just a nice innocent kiss. She will be dying for more.

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MageB420666

just kiss her, the worst thing that can happen is she'll slap you, kick you in the nuts, and file assault charges against you. But most likely she'd just look away or something. You've got nothing to lose by trying, if your nice and don't try to make her swallow your tongue on the first kiss. It took me four dates to work up the guts to kiss my girlfriend for the first time, and I can still remember what that kiss felt like, it was over two years ago.

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mechanicman

I would say to kiss her when you are alone and you fell the situation is right. My g/f kissed me first and she asks why I didn't kiss her first (I was kinda scared she didn't want to) but she says if I had and she didn't want to she would have just told me. So go for it!!