im just a girl

what are giveaway signs that an incredibly shy person has interest in you? eye contact? nervousness? as someone who's not shy at all but likes someone who is, i'm having trouble deciding what he's thinking, and what to do about the whole thing in general. suggestions, please.

Giltwist

As a shy person I can tell you some. Licking his lips, drying his palms, staring, sitting near you, inching closer to you, etc

Leafs_Fan

Just go for it and talk to him. You never know what you might find out.

I remember I had the hugest crush on a guy a year and a half ago, and I got so shy and nervous around him that he got the idea I hated him, and I he jus kinda stopped talking to me. I thought it was because he didnt like me, but it turned out he just thought I hated him.

So my best advice is dont even worry about what could happen if he isnt interested. You will get over it. But you will always regret it if you dont.

teseniarkc

Being shy I know that if someone is to make the first approach it makes things easier for me. You should make the first move and see were it goes.

Halx

This only applies when I am in public solo. As a shy person, I can tell you that in my worst, hermited state, I will just sit and stare, then look away real quick when they look in my direction. In less restricted states, I've been known to say quick little things that don't make sense, or end conversations quickly.

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i8one2

I have shy-dar, Having that internal struggle of wanting to speak for show interest in people, and yet the voice from the inside says "what ifs this and that" I can almost instantly tell if someone is shy.

Its kinda of ironic that I work retail and am in contact with so many people that think they know me for me.

A smile and a first word from someone seems to help me get things rolling...as far as overcoming my inherent shyness..

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iamnormal

I'm have social phobia and if he is like that you should just go talk to him. If he starts talking oddly then runs screeming its a good sign. Talk to him again.

Steenoob

I'm one of those shy guys in the world. Come, please! Talk to me!

It's true, even though we don't really project that much of what we want, we're still guys, but we don't know how to express it.

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SecretMethod70

I'd say just talk to him. the more you talk to him, the more he'll feel comfortable talking to you and opening up to you.

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Qazwsxedc

make the first move.. i think this is the best way to see if he really likes you. The fact that he's shy will prolly mean he will never tell you how he feels unless he KNOWS you like him.

kurty[B]

Nailed the hammer on the head with that one.

Caranthir

I'm so shy I dodge remarks or sexual actions toward me and think of them as too harmful. Only a few people have gotten past my defense, but even then they tread carefully. It's like I'm destined to be alone and I hate every single minute of it. I tell myself to ask someone out, my mind replies "No point." "Why not? There's sex involved." "The relationship won't last long. You're only in High School." and so on. But anyway, do what's good and start talking to him, maybe not your feelings at first but maybe some random event or something.

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I'm shy and introverted, but go out with a couple of friends that are just the opposite of me in every single way.

They'll ask me why I'm sitting in a corner alone and I can't even explain to them how I feel. To make matters worst, I usually just end up thinking about my ex and wondering what went wrong.

I wish a girl would approach me, sit down next to me, and just start talking. If a girl did that to me, she would not only get my attention, but she would have a new friend.... and maybe more, depending on what the conversation was about.

2kids1headache

So everyone says go talk to him. That's good advice, but I bet you've done that anyway and that's why you're interested in him.

How do you tell if he's interested back? Pay attention to him. Does he try to spend lots of time hanging around you, even if he doesn't speak much? Do you often find him looking at you when he thinks you won't notice? It's strange to think of, but that's probably him "making his move".

So! Now you've noticed that he's doing all the right things and giving you a lot more attention than he does anyone else. How do you get him out of his shell? Start holding his hand in the middle of a conversation. (Touch him in any affectionate way, really.) If he can keep from running scared, give it a few minutes, then kiss him. A friendly peck on the cheek, perhaps, or an even friendlier peck behind his ear or on his neck.

Keep your eyes peeled, and good luck.

illesturban

I'm the exact same way. And what sucks is that I'm one of these people who don't come off as shy to girls so they expect me to be all courageous and come up to them when I just find it so difficult for whatever reason sometimes.

It would totally turn me and get my intention if a girl who I was in to came up to me and started talking to me out of nowhere. It would take so much stress off of my shoulders. It's hard being a guy sometimes man! LoL we always gotta be the ones to make the first move; ladies it's 2004 hahaha, make the first move sometimes! hehe. And like someone else said, we're still guys, we just sometimes can't express how we feel.

My problem is also that once I do get "in" with a girl I'm interested in, I don't know how to not make it end up as a "just friends" thing. It seems to happen more and more often; I think I just need to looks this flying V between my legs and let my balls drop. hah. But yeah on the real, confidence really does get girls because I mean I've seen some ugly dudes get FINE girls just because they have tons of confidence.

But anyways, back on topic, yeah if you like the guy I say go for it! Don't wait on him because he probably is really attracted to you but thinks that you'd never go for him. That's what us shy guys do; we try to convince ourselves that we can't get certain girls... it sucks. So yeah, GO FOR IT!

jondotg

A lot of shy guys stare and play with you as a sort of sign that they want YOU to make the first move. I do it all the time, I really hate asking a girl out and then either she says no in public (SOOOOOOO embarasing) or she will feel forced into saying yes and then calll it off over the phone. WHat I'm saying is, guys LOVE for a girl to make the first move, we are always worried about whether a girl likes us or not, but if you ask first, he knows and all that anxiousness and shyness will dissappear. If you make the first move, there is no loss on your part, only a gain in his self-esteem, and a lot less beating-around-the-bush for you.

fuzyfuzer

i agree with everyone go for it and make the first move

as a shy person i can tell you that i don't like to open up to other people unless they show an intrest in me i hate talking about myself because i think it is imbaracing to do that and when you are going to go talk to someone what else do you talk about but yourself to an extent

i think that you will find shy people are the best people because they tend to be very modest

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phunktastic

Talk to him. The more you talk to him the more comfortable he'll become with you. At least with me it seems I can only open up when around people I'm comfortable with (which makes it pretty hard to make new friends when dropped in the middle of a bunch of people I've never met). Try to find things that make him happy and invite him to go do those things. Eventually if he doesn't grow to hate you he'll equate you with happiness, and you'll have yourself an introverted boyfriend.. or at least a good friend.

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Being a very shy person around people I can tell you that unless you talk to him or make the first move, nothing will happen and if you wait the moment will be wasted. I speak from bitter experience.

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Ace_of_Lobster

For the love of god, go and talk to him.
And if he looks like he wants to run away, dont let him!
If hes a shy person, he will probably be very grateful.

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skysooner

My wife and I would have never met if we had run into each other in public. We were both pretty shy. Since we both were, I would have probably interpreted her silence as she not liking me. We actually met through a newspaper ad, so the ice was kind of broken early. You just have to make the first move and even then you might not know if they like you or not. Just continue to talk, and it should become obvious.

im just a girl

well good news, folks. apparently he likes me. now theres just the question of what to do... but i think i'll be okay

wraithhibn

go get 'em

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Jam

well im a shy person and i dont really have an answer... i would like to state that large quantities of alchohol solved my shyness temporarily, however i had to be told this, i do not remeber the incident of non shyness

teresar79

What if the shy guy acts like he is interested some times and other times acts like he's not. Also what does it mean when you are trying to talk to him and he won't keep eye contact for very long. I like a guy who is shy and quite a bit younger then I am. When it's just the two of us he talks fine, but if there is a third person around he won't look me in the eyes. It's very irratating.