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How many guys have been asked out by women?

Do you/would you like being asked out?

If a woman you found unattractive asked you out, would you accept?

My answers?

1-

I have been asked out(not often,but it has happened), and if I could accept, I did or I rescheduled if I was already doing something.

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I love being asked out. Guys like to feel desired by the opposite sex ten times more than women do IMO, since many women get asked out much more often than men do, giving them an ego boost and knowing someone finds them attractive. In general I think men don't get treated like attractive, desirable ppl as much as women.

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I would never turn down any female who asked me out. I don't care if she had fibroids hanging from her face, was 600 lbs or had "I FUCKED 600 GUYS WITHOUT PROTECTION" stamped on her forehead. Why? As men we need to encourage women to ask men out, to shift the paradigm of dating. I might meet a very interesting person under the not so attractive exterior, and stranger things have happened. I may end up with one of these ppl. I like larger women, but I'm really not attracted to women over 350lbs, nor do I like fibroids hanging from the face. I'm not very judgmental of amount of past sexual partners, just I'd like to know if she had any STDs.

Even if I don't like the person after the date, or the chemistry wasn't there, I would still give her the chance of a date. She found me attractive enough to take a big risk asking me out, which is a great compliment. Knowing rejection myself, I just like doing the opposite what I really hate happening to me to someone else.

So would you?

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moonstrucksoul

i would be a fool not to. if i wasn't married.

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WarWagon

I've never been asked out on a date, and I've always been the one to initiate everything. I would absolutely love for a girl to ask me out on a date, it would be a total confidence booster.

HFrankenstein

This is gonna be a little off-topic. I know you're question was if she's unattractive. If that's the case, I would say no. Anyway...

Guys love it when the girl does the work for them. However, it does create a dilemma (assuming you're interested in her, of course):

I've always believed that the best way to get a girl to be interested in you, and to maintain that interest, is to make her chase you, to see to it that, while she knows you're into her, she doesn't know just how much.

That said, when a girl asks you out, you have to think quick and strike a balance between keeping the chase going, and totally shooting her down. Chances are, she's going to ask you out for a Friday/Saturday date. Say you have other plans for that night, but make a counter-offer for a night during the week. The big benefit of this is, she'll think she's competing with someone who has access to your big date nights, so now she'll really start going out of her way to make you want her.

Women almost never make the first move when it comes to dating. But when it does happen, and it will happen at least once, you gotta make it count.

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arch13

Your youth is showing my freind. The attitude of the "making her chase me" has all the maturity of a 19yr old frat boy (whatever your real age may be). In a real relatonship there is equality and both partners are not equal if one thinks the other should be chasing them.
A good strong relationship doesn't have a power struggle or any idea of the "chase" in it's cliched sense. It's just two people becoming close freinds and getting closer everyday.
My fiance asked me out to our second date after canceling that which would have been our fist. It was a year between the two.

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HFrankenstein

I know it sounds immature. That's why I try not to mention the theory too often, but I see it all the time (I'm 23, by the way, not 19). All people want something more when there's a chance that they might not be able to have it, and this goes for persons to whom they're attracted more than anything else. Women play hard to get all the time. I'm mere suggesting a way for guys to be able to play the same game.

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Plan9Senior

How many guys have been asked out by women?

I have been asked out by women quite often.

Do you/would you like being asked out?

I like it for ego booster sake but on the otherhand I like to be the dominant one and in control for the most part, therefore, I much rather them let me ask them.

If a woman you found unattractive asked you out, would you accept?

Ummm no. I would politely tell them I have plans. The good thing is, women are smarter then men in this category. They pretty much know who is in their league as well as know if we are interested in them when we feel we aren't being obvious, so you won't have to worry about this one too much.

Holo

I guess I care more about the feelings of someone taking a big risk of being rejected than if they aren't hot enough for me.

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Plan9Senior

I think leading a person on is a greater disservice than rejecting them...but that is just my opinion.

skysooner

I was asked out one time. There was this girl who was Islamic. Her parents wouldn't let her date. I had found this out when I tried to ask her out early in our senior year. Around March, I asked out one of my old high school girlfriends to the prom. It was more that I didn't have anyone in particular that I wanted to ask out rather than any overwhelming desire to go with her. About 2 weeks after this, I was asked out by the Islamic girl. She had gone to her parents and asked for a one night exemption so that she could go out with me. They had agreed. Unfortunately I turned her down since I already had a date. To this day, I still regret not breaking my other date and going with her, but I always try and keep my word even when it costs me.

Jesus Pimp

I wish women would ask me out. I'm tired of being the initiator for dating and relationships.

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Holo

But I use physical attributes as a small indicator of the person. I would at least give them a chance even if they weren't within my standards, which are at my most shallow are more broad than most men. I believe that things can happen (like love) regardless of what we think we want. I might find the most incredible person wrapped in a 400lb package, or I might find a fun person to ahng with but no chemistry exists. Chemistry and attraction are different; I'm attracted to Veronica Zemanova, but since I haven't met her I have no idea if we have chemistry. I may want to fuck her body, but she may be a total bitch that I personally can't stand. And in this situation the opposite is true.

I just disagree with "leagues" and "looks snobbery". Am I attractive? Not the best not the worst. If I was gorgeous to women I would probably be more ignorant of these things since I almost never would be in the situation of being turned down. I'm glad to be average and I don't think it to be leading someone on, but an oppotunity to cast aside my more shallow aspects (yes I have them too) and give someone a chance who took a chance and opened her self up to being rejected. If they were a good person I would take it from there.

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Order_of_Monkey

That really would make my life easyer, but i dont like the odds

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HockeyGuy

My current gf asked me out, well asked for my number as I was working! (i'm a manager in a pub) Things are great now (even though atm long distance) so i'd say go for it. I gave her my number and she txted me the next day, it's been 3 mo's now and so far so good...but only time will tell.
Yes it is a major ego booster whenever it happens! (even though i talk with women all the time in my line of work!) And is definitly a great thing to happen.
As for the looks department my gf is beautiful(!!! =D ) but if someone who were larger or perhaps had things hangin off of their face (two examples that were given) or whatever i'd still think that it could be worth the chance of a friendly drink, whether it be to raise their confidence and/or to make a new freind or to see what could happen. No harm done there!

numist

Physical attributes arent the only thing you see at first glance. You can also tell a lot about a person by looking at how they carry themselves, treat their friends, their conversation skills, etc. Theres a lot more to first impressions than just looks, and hence:

How many guys have been asked out by women?
I have been a few times.

Do you/would you like being asked out?
I do like it, it is an ego boost, and its good to see women taking the initiative in their relationships and lives, because more often than not Im a fucking chicken.

If a woman you found unattractive asked you out, would you accept?
As I mentioned above, I would not. Not based on looks, but based on attitude and personality. If attitude and personality were not readily visible from the first meeting, Id give it a shot, and see what happened.

stingc

Yes, I've been asked out by a woman. I wished it happened a lot more often. I'd accept unless I was in a relationship already. She'd have to look hideous for me to say no otherwise, and there are hardly any girls who I'd class that way. Personality means a lot more than looks to me (an annoying voice might turn me off though...).

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Reese

Come on.. If she was 600 pounds, and fucked 600 guys, It wouldn't be much of an ego buster.. more like "dude she picked 600 other dudes before me!?" We all know the rule of 3... so damn...

oh yah, I've been asked out once.. There was another time I was asked if I'd like to come stay a weekend at a girls house while her dad was out of town.. I wonder what would have happened if I accepted.... Damnit I shoulda went!

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Holo

No it was one or the other, not both. Anyway those are extreme examles. I've never really met a 600 lb woman or anyone with that stamped to their forehead. It's just an example that I would go out with any women who asked me due to the fact I've been on the business end of rejection many times myself, and I don't want to do that to someone who's trying. Anotehr is the unknown factor...I may meet the "One" who happens to be not my first choice sexually. You can't be sympathetic to the undesirable unless you've been there, so I treat them as ppl and would give them a chance.

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I happen to like the words "fuck", "cock", "pussy", "tits", "cunt", "twat", "shit" and even "bitch". As long as I am not using them to describe you, don't go telling me whether or not I can/should use them...that is, if you want me to continue refraining from using them to describe you. ~Prince

arch13

Numist brings about an interesting point.
Men are often accused of being willing to screw anything with a pussy, but perhaps statments like this show that in fact we're more open to giving those people outside our comfort zone a chance, and have earned this reputation unjustfully.
The often qouted idea that men are the sex which respondes to visual stimuli was a freudian theory that was proven wrong in the early 50's (before the kinsley report even!) and comments like numists make me ponder if males are in fact less likly to judge based on initial visual perception than females. After all, we always hear about how girls tear each other up verbally in adolescent years.
Now i'm not saying that men don't judge visualy, or that women judge more than they aknowledge, but rather saying that the answer is in the middle, and that perhaps no gender does it more than the other.
Just mind food to chew on.

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Enzomat

Ive been asked out a few times but i didnt accept or say anything. When it happened I had confidence issues(abused as a kid) so i didnt think they were serious and I thought they were just fucking with me as a joke. I never knew how to deal with women coming on to me it always seemed to surreal .

And depending on how unnattracive a woman is would affect if i said yes or no. there are many different levels of ugly. amd a irl can have a so so face but have a very sweet frame and dress well which if thats the case id say yes. or if shes got an ok face and frame but funny and interesting id say yes. as much as folks say it i really do think prsonality effects beauty (positively and neatively ). many hott women i have found to be ugly as sin just because they are stuck up or as shallow as a thimble of water.Id fuck em but i wouldnt be around the next morning to talk listen to how amazed they are that yellow and blue make green or how thankful I must be she allowed me to have a piece. I like chicks with quirky senses of humor and an interest in the world and beyond.

phlox

"I just disagree with "leagues" and "looks snobbery". Am I attractive? Not the best not the worst. If I was gorgeous to women I would probably be more ignorant of these things since I almost never would be in the situation of being turned down. I'm glad to be average and I don't think it to be leading someone on, but an oppotunity to cast aside my more shallow aspects (yes I have them too) and give someone a chance who took a chance and opened her self up to being rejected. If they were a good person I would take it from there."

For these reasons, I will accept almost any first date I am offered, provided it's far enough in advance and I'm not already booked. The person I've been most crazy about is someone I initially found unnattractive and extremely annoying, so I feel it would be stupid to pass up another chance at that.

Slims

I have been asked out by women, and I have no problem taking them up on a date provided I am interested in them.

If an ugly girl asked me out, and I wasn't somehow very attracted to them, I would turn them down. I don't do pity very well.

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Dilbert1234567

hell why not, ive been asked out once, it was fun but we never realy got together again. i dont see what the problem with it is.

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herostar

1 - I've been asked out probably 3-4 times... it's awesome!

2 - I love being asked out, makes me feel like king of the world.

3 - I would more than likely accept, but that doesn't necessarily mean future dates too...

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