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Jesus Pimp · 12-18-2003, 07:37 AM

This will be my first christmas in 3 years I will be spending it single. I am already dreading it. Sure I'll be with family and friends but it's just not the same. I feel like a significant part of my life has left me forever. I try not to think about her but do anyway on a daily basis. It's going to be a hard christmas for me. How is everyone who had a recent long term breakup going to deal this holiday?

Zorvox · 12-18-2003, 08:11 AM

I am going to put everything aside, go to my mother's with my younger brother's eat an absolute shitload then perhaps drink or something...

I know it's not easy hey.. all the little things you use to do together, you don't do anymore

It's Christmas man, it's about strength and the power of love, ya family is there for that

Have a good one

vveronica · 12-18-2003, 08:22 AM

I have been there in the past. Bets if you cant to over do for your family... get extra presents spend more time get in and close. Go as overboard as you can. Then as everyone settles at the end of the night take that special moment to reflex on just how luccky you are and put is all behind.. It really does work..

tikki · 12-18-2003, 09:03 AM

Get liquored up. You won't remember a thing.

oberon · 12-18-2003, 09:10 AM

Relax, get drunk, go ski/snowmobile/sled/etc. Watch lots of movies. Have fun! What the hell else would people do on holiday vacation?!?

EDIT:
Sorry, I don't have a recent long-term breakup. But that's my advice to you.
Also, don't necessarily do these things in this order...

tikki · 12-18-2003, 09:16 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by oberon
Relax, get drunk

Apparently people at Purdue think alike

ninety09 · 12-18-2003, 09:26 AM

I'm in a similar situation as you JesusPimp. I'll keep myself busy by doing other things.. I'll go see my family and some friends; therefore I won't be spending the whole time about her.

Also, since I won't have to buy her a gift, that will give me a few hundred of dollars that I can waste =D

Giltwist · 12-18-2003, 09:28 AM

My gf is home for xmas break, so I don't get to see her either.

tenchi069 · 12-18-2003, 12:12 PM

Long distance relationship here, and no we won't be together for xmas. Advice to how to spend the holidays...Don't regret, don't do the should've, would've, could've game. Find friends and or family, enjoy yourself. Christmas is about those you love and those that love you and it is a rare person that doesn't have at least 1 of each.

skysooner · 12-18-2003, 12:40 PM

Keep busy. Don't give yourself time to reflect. It is going to take awhile to get over this. Holidays are probably the worst you are going to face. Once January hits, it is a new year and at least for me, mentally it is a new start.

present_future · 12-18-2003, 12:56 PM

I'm in the same boat as you. I just plan on keeping myself busy enough so that I won't have time to think about it. A little alcohol never hurt anybody either.

HockeyGuy · 12-18-2003, 06:39 PM

Keep busy, go to the pub with friends, spend time with the family. And get outside doing some physical activities (snowboarding/skiiing/hiking) if you get the chance. I've found the outdoors when doign somethign is great. Don't look back, know that it'll all be for the best.

imperfect_anya · 12-18-2003, 10:28 PM

I say go out with friends, make bonds stronger, and make memories that won't be tainted by breakups. But also spend time doing what you like to do and dig into all those holiday traditions.

Gelfling · 12-20-2003, 07:11 AM

This is my first holiday being single in at leat 5 years, its not easy at all. I was doing ok being single until it got closer. The guy i've been seeing lately, I kinda asked to be a bf the other day, but gave me a weird answer, so I've just dropped it. I'm the one that said I didn't want a relatioship, and I needed to just sit back and see that i am only asking for more cause of the holiday and it being depressing. Spend more time with your family and keep yourself busy the best you can.

Tophat665 · 12-20-2003, 07:14 AM

Well, you can have mine, as long as you take the kids too.

Seriously though, I am from nowhere near Purdue, but beer is your friend here.

analog · 12-21-2003, 02:03 AM

We're in the same boat. The last christmas i spent without a girlfriend was '98 (had one in '99)... four years I had it... and now i'm facing it alone for the first time since i've started having girlfriends. I don't know quite how to handle it, although I still talk with her almost every day. I just don't know what I want.

Holidays in general, but christmas even more so, have always been very special to me, and very close to my heart. For me, being with my girl at christmas time has been very meaningful, even when we were long-distance... I still knew she was there. It's starting to weigh heavy on me, but I think if we just sit back and realize that we should be thankful we're alive and for the basic things we have, we'll all be just fine.

jay-g · 12-21-2003, 02:55 AM

Dont feel bad....I have never had a SO during any holiday. I could never find the "right" girl. I kind of got use to being independent and alone. Now that i have finally have a girl that i can call my own, i cant spend christmas with her. We are doing the ever impossible long distance thing. Ohhhh, how i wish i could be with her.....

sub zero · 12-23-2003, 04:54 PM

I recently broke up with my GF about three weeks ago. In my family we are so many usually we do like a secret santa so we don't go broke from buying everyone presents. I bought everyone presents and bought some extra stuff for myself.
I've also been making sure to catch up on stuff that had been ignored recently...mostly my games and such.
Remember it hurts a shit load...but if you can't trust in your family...there aren't many others you can trust in

SVT01Cobra · 12-23-2003, 06:21 PM

Booze booze and more booze.

Now New Year's, that's a completely different story.

(BTW, is it ok to talk about booze if you're not 21?)

Averett · 12-23-2003, 06:25 PM

Yeah fuckin New Years. I've never had a kiss on New Years. Even last year when I was with a guy.... We were hanging out in a hotel room with his friends, and well.... since he had a girlfriend I guess he figured kissing me would be messed up. So he kissed his friend Nathan! Then about a half an hour he passed out. Damn, so close!

SVT01Cobra · 12-23-2003, 06:28 PM

Aww, I'm sorry Averett, you can kiss me.

I've had some good times on New Years... Good times.

im just a girl · 12-24-2003, 11:19 AM

i have had a semi-serious relationship for the past 3 years. each one terminated right before christmas. i decided that this is why christmas cookies are so popular. nothing says 'merry effing christmas' like half a roll of cookie dough

juanvaldes · 12-24-2003, 12:01 PM

Booze and Porn!

SAM821 · 12-24-2003, 03:52 PM

Averett - I dont understand why you have such bad luck with men... an enigma that should be answered... Im really sorry to hear that, I hope that you get kissed this year! Your a good looking girl (from what Ive seen on TFP) so i really dont see why this is? Hope this year is different for you!

Jesus Pimp - Honestly, your friends and family will keep you company.... I guess I am used to it (not spending the holidays with SO)... I've had many girlfriends, but for some reason it just doesnt work out and ironically they are all over with before the holidays...(pretty ironic) the last holiday I was with SO (during holidays) was... '99 - '00.... thats crazy!... I get used to it... i just broke things off with my ex that i was with for just about a year (we began dating january 5th and broke up in november); see what i mean?

I must be cursed....

Just try to keep your mind occupied as much as possible... I really hope things work out (it helps to go out of town too... ive done that 3 or 4 times out of the last 5 holidays... )

12-18-2003, 07:37 AM	#1 (permalink)
Jesus Pimp The Original JizzSmacka	How to deal spending this holiday season without a SO This will be my first christmas in 3 years I will be spending it single. I am already dreading it. Sure I'll be with family and friends but it's just not the same. I feel like a significant part of my life has left me forever. I try not to think about her but do anyway on a daily basis. It's going to be a hard christmas for me. How is everyone who had a recent long term breakup going to deal this holiday? __________________ Never date anyone who doesn't make your dick hard. Last edited by Jesus Pimp; 12-18-2003 at 07:39 AM..

12-18-2003, 08:22 AM	#3 (permalink)
vveronica Psycho Location: northern california	I have been there in the past. Bets if you cant to over do for your family... get extra presents spend more time get in and close. Go as overboard as you can. Then as everyone settles at the end of the night take that special moment to reflex on just how luccky you are and put is all behind.. It really does work.. __________________ ...We find ourselves in a struggle for our very right to exsist... We will not go quietly into the night... We will not give up without a fight...

12-18-2003, 09:03 AM	#4 (permalink)
tikki Justified Location: West Lafayette, IN	Get liquored up. You won't remember a thing. __________________ Take notice. Take interest. Take me with you.

12-18-2003, 09:10 AM	#5 (permalink)
oberon Quadrature Amplitude Modulator Location: Denver	Relax, get drunk, go ski/snowmobile/sled/etc. Watch lots of movies. Have fun! What the hell else would people do on holiday vacation?!? EDIT: Sorry, I don't have a recent long-term breakup. But that's my advice to you. Also, don't necessarily do these things in this order... __________________ "There are finer fish in the sea than have ever been caught." -- Irish proverb

12-18-2003, 12:12 PM	#9 (permalink)
tenchi069 Lost Location: One step closer to the padded cell...	Long distance relationship here, and no we won't be together for xmas. Advice to how to spend the holidays...Don't regret, don't do the should've, would've, could've game. Find friends and or family, enjoy yourself. Christmas is about those you love and those that love you and it is a rare person that doesn't have at least 1 of each. __________________ ERROR- PLBSAK Problem Lies Between Seat and Keyboard.

12-18-2003, 08:11 AM	#2 (permalink)
Zorvox Crazy Location: Sydney, Australia	I am going to put everything aside, go to my mother's with my younger brother's eat an absolute shitload then perhaps drink or something... I know it's not easy hey.. all the little things you use to do together, you don't do anymore It's Christmas man, it's about strength and the power of love, ya family is there for that Have a good one

12-18-2003, 09:26 AM	#7 (permalink)
ninety09 Flavour of the Weak Location: Canada	I'm in a similar situation as you JesusPimp. I'll keep myself busy by doing other things.. I'll go see my family and some friends; therefore I won't be spending the whole time about her. Also, since I won't have to buy her a gift, that will give me a few hundred of dollars that I can waste =D

12-18-2003, 09:28 AM	#8 (permalink)
Giltwist Insane Location: Pennsylvania	My gf is home for xmas break, so I don't get to see her either.

12-18-2003, 12:40 PM	#10 (permalink)
skysooner Registered User Location: Oklahoma	Keep busy. Don't give yourself time to reflect. It is going to take awhile to get over this. Holidays are probably the worst you are going to face. Once January hits, it is a new year and at least for me, mentally it is a new start.

12-18-2003, 12:56 PM	#11 (permalink)
present_future Take my hand Location: Everywhere, but nowhere	I'm in the same boat as you. I just plan on keeping myself busy enough so that I won't have time to think about it. A little alcohol never hurt anybody either. __________________ The only thing I'll ever ask of you... you gotta promise not to stop when I say when.

12-18-2003, 06:39 PM	#12 (permalink)
HockeyGuy Psycho Location: London, England	Keep busy, go to the pub with friends, spend time with the family. And get outside doing some physical activities (snowboarding/skiiing/hiking) if you get the chance. I've found the outdoors when doign somethign is great. Don't look back, know that it'll all be for the best.

12-18-2003, 10:28 PM	#13 (permalink)
imperfect_anya Upright Location: nowherespecial, ca	I say go out with friends, make bonds stronger, and make memories that won't be tainted by breakups. But also spend time doing what you like to do and dig into all those holiday traditions. __________________ Do you want me to tell you the truth or do you want me to tell you what you want to hear?

12-20-2003, 07:11 AM	#14 (permalink)
Gelfling Upright Location: Florida	This is my first holiday being single in at leat 5 years, its not easy at all. I was doing ok being single until it got closer. The guy i've been seeing lately, I kinda asked to be a bf the other day, but gave me a weird answer, so I've just dropped it. I'm the one that said I didn't want a relatioship, and I needed to just sit back and see that i am only asking for more cause of the holiday and it being depressing. Spend more time with your family and keep yourself busy the best you can.

12-20-2003, 07:14 AM	#15 (permalink)
Tophat665 Minion of the scaléd ones Location: Northeast Jesusland	Well, you can have mine, as long as you take the kids too. Seriously though, I am from nowhere near Purdue, but beer is your friend here. __________________ Light a man a fire, and he will be warm while it burns. Set a man on fire, and he will be warm for the rest of his life.

12-21-2003, 02:03 AM	#16 (permalink)
analog Banned	We're in the same boat. The last christmas i spent without a girlfriend was '98 (had one in '99)... four years I had it... and now i'm facing it alone for the first time since i've started having girlfriends. I don't know quite how to handle it, although I still talk with her almost every day. I just don't know what I want. Holidays in general, but christmas even more so, have always been very special to me, and very close to my heart. For me, being with my girl at christmas time has been very meaningful, even when we were long-distance... I still knew she was there. It's starting to weigh heavy on me, but I think if we just sit back and realize that we should be thankful we're alive and for the basic things we have, we'll all be just fine.

12-21-2003, 02:55 AM	#17 (permalink)
jay-g Addict	Dont feel bad....I have never had a SO during any holiday. I could never find the "right" girl. I kind of got use to being independent and alone. Now that i have finally have a girl that i can call my own, i cant spend christmas with her. We are doing the ever impossible long distance thing. Ohhhh, how i wish i could be with her.....

12-23-2003, 04:54 PM	#18 (permalink)
sub zero Addict Location: The one state that doesn't have black outs: TEXAS BABY!!!	I recently broke up with my GF about three weeks ago. In my family we are so many usually we do like a secret santa so we don't go broke from buying everyone presents. I bought everyone presents and bought some extra stuff for myself. I've also been making sure to catch up on stuff that had been ignored recently...mostly my games and such. Remember it hurts a shit load...but if you can't trust in your family...there aren't many others you can trust in __________________ Did you Google it yet? Join the TFP Typing team!!

12-23-2003, 06:21 PM	#19 (permalink)
SVT01Cobra Psycho Location: Somewhere, Missouri	Booze booze and more booze. Now New Year's, that's a completely different story. (BTW, is it ok to talk about booze if you're not 21?) Last edited by SVT01Cobra; 12-23-2003 at 06:23 PM..

12-23-2003, 06:25 PM	#20 (permalink)
Averett Is In Love Location: I'm workin' on it	Yeah fuckin New Years. I've never had a kiss on New Years. Even last year when I was with a guy.... We were hanging out in a hotel room with his friends, and well.... since he had a girlfriend I guess he figured kissing me would be messed up. So he kissed his friend Nathan! Then about a half an hour he passed out. Damn, so close! __________________ Absence is to love what wind is to fire. It extinguishes the small, it enkindles the great.

12-23-2003, 06:28 PM	#21 (permalink)
SVT01Cobra Psycho Location: Somewhere, Missouri	Aww, I'm sorry Averett, you can kiss me. I've had some good times on New Years... Good times.

12-24-2003, 11:19 AM	#22 (permalink)
im just a girl Upright	i have had a semi-serious relationship for the past 3 years. each one terminated right before christmas. i decided that this is why christmas cookies are so popular. nothing says 'merry effing christmas' like half a roll of cookie dough

12-24-2003, 12:01 PM	#23 (permalink)
juanvaldes Banned Location: shittown, CA	Booze and Porn!

12-24-2003, 03:52 PM	#24 (permalink)
SAM821 Surviving Hurricanes Location: Miami, Florida	Averett - I dont understand why you have such bad luck with men... an enigma that should be answered... Im really sorry to hear that, I hope that you get kissed this year! Your a good looking girl (from what Ive seen on TFP) so i really dont see why this is? Hope this year is different for you! Jesus Pimp - Honestly, your friends and family will keep you company.... I guess I am used to it (not spending the holidays with SO)... I've had many girlfriends, but for some reason it just doesnt work out and ironically they are all over with before the holidays...(pretty ironic) the last holiday I was with SO (during holidays) was... '99 - '00.... thats crazy!... I get used to it... i just broke things off with my ex that i was with for just about a year (we began dating january 5th and broke up in november); see what i mean? I must be cursed.... Just try to keep your mind occupied as much as possible... I really hope things work out (it helps to go out of town too... ive done that 3 or 4 times out of the last 5 holidays... )