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PlayazzClubb · 12-21-2003, 06:14 PM

I care for my ex deeply and I just recently let her know I did. However, due to her being forced to move on b/c I would not give her the time of day when she wanted to get back together. So yeah, I dropped the ball.

So now I have to move on. Ok no problem...what I want to know is...is there like a 12 step program or something for heart broken people? =/ heh. I have a few people I wouldn't mind dating, cept I don't want to do it while on the rebound. I have done it before and I regretted it.

Anyhow, anyone know the steps to tell when its ok to date after you've been pretty much dumped and trying to get over that person? I'd like to know where I am at. =/

Ya, I sound like a moron....but....ah well. Just a broken heart brada trying to do the right thing.

SVT01Cobra · 12-21-2003, 06:33 PM

You sure you wanna date again?

I think you should take a break and be a player for a while.

That way you wont get hurt again.

Getting Girls 101

tikki · 12-21-2003, 06:38 PM

When another girl can put a smile on your face and make you forget about your ex...that's when its time to start dating again.

SAM821 · 12-21-2003, 06:41 PM

It depends what you want to do... if you dont want anything serious, then go out and meet girls and be up front with them and have fun....

If you are looking for something serious, then just go for it... its not necessarily "rebounding" unless you are looking for sex/pleasure only and you dont care about the other persons feeling... but if you are looking for someone special, then start dating again (plus it will get your mind off the ex!)

I am in the same boat right now... i am just deciding which path to take, (plus i still talk to the ex... kinda makes it harder)

PlayazzClubb · 12-21-2003, 06:51 PM

Ya, thats my problem too....she's my babies mama. So I have to talk to her as well.

A few other things too, cept I tried to keep my post short. heh

Zorvox · 12-21-2003, 11:05 PM

I know how ya feel man, alot of us are in the same boat

I'm just gliding around atm, meeting a fair few new people - always good to spend time with ya friends, go out have fun, drink or what not..

Just give it a bit of time, relax and take it easy and just go with the flow, being on rebound is hard cos you always have those constant thoughts about ya ex and usually have them on your mind.. You don't go looking, you'll just one day run into someone or meet someone and hooray!!!! things will change, well thats how things are for me anyway... but, just do nothing. let things happen to you, don't try to make things happen for yaself

analog · 12-23-2003, 11:52 PM

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Originally posted by tikki
When another girl can put a smile on your face and make you forget about your ex...that's when its time to start dating again.

tikki is the man. ditto for me.

sub zero · 12-24-2003, 12:51 AM

tikki speaks great truths...but at least depending on the seriousness..I wanna say about three weeks

dumbnutofak · 12-24-2003, 12:56 AM

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Originally posted by analog
tikki is the man. ditto for me.

I had a girl like that...for about a month, then she got all wierded out on me and decided to go somewhere for school to be with her best friend....sucked for me, still does.

tikki · 12-24-2003, 06:39 PM

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Originally posted by sub zero
tikki speaks great truths...I wanna say about three weeks

Well, if you wanna put time stamps on it, I dated a girl seriously for three years and it took seven months before I dated again.

I had a six month no-dating rule in effect for myself because I didn't wanna be out of the rebound and do something I'd regret. I highly recommend that for anyone that is coming out of a serious relationship. It gives you time to get over the other person, and let's face it, it really isn't fair to start dating someone when you're still hung up on your ex.

grouchie · 12-24-2003, 10:24 PM

you'll know when it's time.

Just get to know the ladies you want to date better, hang out a little and go on some informal dates.

if you go a whole evening with someone and don't think about, or compare this new girl to your ex in anyway, that's a good sign.

It's all mental. once your mind is willing to accept someone new things can start to happen.

Until that poitn you're just using everyone for sex heh

12-21-2003, 06:14 PM	#1 (permalink)
PlayazzClubb Upright Location: Houston	When do you know when it's ok to date again =/ I care for my ex deeply and I just recently let her know I did. However, due to her being forced to move on b/c I would not give her the time of day when she wanted to get back together. So yeah, I dropped the ball. So now I have to move on. Ok no problem...what I want to know is...is there like a 12 step program or something for heart broken people? =/ heh. I have a few people I wouldn't mind dating, cept I don't want to do it while on the rebound. I have done it before and I regretted it. Anyhow, anyone know the steps to tell when its ok to date after you've been pretty much dumped and trying to get over that person? I'd like to know where I am at. =/ Ya, I sound like a moron....but....ah well. Just a broken heart brada trying to do the right thing.

12-21-2003, 06:38 PM	#3 (permalink)
tikki Justified Location: West Lafayette, IN	When another girl can put a smile on your face and make you forget about your ex...that's when its time to start dating again. __________________ Take notice. Take interest. Take me with you.

12-24-2003, 12:51 AM	#8 (permalink)
sub zero Addict Location: The one state that doesn't have black outs: TEXAS BABY!!!	tikki speaks great truths...but at least depending on the seriousness..I wanna say about three weeks __________________ Did you Google it yet? Join the TFP Typing team!!

12-21-2003, 06:33 PM	#2 (permalink)
SVT01Cobra Psycho Location: Somewhere, Missouri	You sure you wanna date again? I think you should take a break and be a player for a while. That way you wont get hurt again. Getting Girls 101

12-21-2003, 06:41 PM	#4 (permalink)
SAM821 Surviving Hurricanes Location: Miami, Florida	It depends what you want to do... if you dont want anything serious, then go out and meet girls and be up front with them and have fun.... If you are looking for something serious, then just go for it... its not necessarily "rebounding" unless you are looking for sex/pleasure only and you dont care about the other persons feeling... but if you are looking for someone special, then start dating again (plus it will get your mind off the ex!) I am in the same boat right now... i am just deciding which path to take, (plus i still talk to the ex... kinda makes it harder)

12-21-2003, 06:51 PM	#5 (permalink)
PlayazzClubb Upright Location: Houston	Ya, thats my problem too....she's my babies mama. So I have to talk to her as well. A few other things too, cept I tried to keep my post short. heh

12-21-2003, 11:05 PM	#6 (permalink)
Zorvox Crazy Location: Sydney, Australia	I know how ya feel man, alot of us are in the same boat I'm just gliding around atm, meeting a fair few new people - always good to spend time with ya friends, go out have fun, drink or what not.. Just give it a bit of time, relax and take it easy and just go with the flow, being on rebound is hard cos you always have those constant thoughts about ya ex and usually have them on your mind.. You don't go looking, you'll just one day run into someone or meet someone and hooray!!!! things will change, well thats how things are for me anyway... but, just do nothing. let things happen to you, don't try to make things happen for yaself

12-24-2003, 10:24 PM	#11 (permalink)
grouchie Upright	you'll know when it's time. Just get to know the ladies you want to date better, hang out a little and go on some informal dates. if you go a whole evening with someone and don't think about, or compare this new girl to your ex in anyway, that's a good sign. It's all mental. once your mind is willing to accept someone new things can start to happen. Until that poitn you're just using everyone for sex heh