mrquackers

Does anyone know much about or has anyone ever used this service? Yoshi and I keep discussing the idea of a threesome or another woman for her, but don't really know anyone in this area we'd even consider approaching about it.

On the surface, adultfriendfinder.com seems like a decent way to find someone with the same interests, but since they don't let you see anything beyond the general listings, it's hard to get a good feel.

Are the people on there legit? Is it a front for prostitutes? Is it worth investing the money for a few months? And, lastly, has anyone ever met up with someone they met on that service?

Thanks!

Kadath

A friend of mine used it to find a BDSM club in the area, which grew into an ongoing D/s relationship that he is very happy with. I should point out that my friend and the owner of the club very quickly began communicating outside the lines of AFF. The owner of the club was just using the service like a sieve and contacting people who seemed interesting and a good fit.

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Devilchild

i think they probably was set up to make money and there will be SOME good people on there, but a lot of prostitues and evil blokes pretending to be little girls, id be very very cautious if i was you.

vveronica

hmmm threesomessss hehehehhe
Gee I'd think you'd have bettter luck on here finding a third. if you weren't 3000 miles away, I'd be interested... I LOVE multiples.

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Dano069

We were on it until recently. If you're looking for a male third, you'll get plenty of responses. Female thirds are a little harder to come by. There's a VERY wide selection of folks on there. Good luck.

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Nazggul

I was on it for a while. But alas, I am the evil single straight guy. The only interest I ever got was from prostitutes. They are fairly easy to spot though. I am sure your experience as a couple will be much better. I would suggest using the Chat room function, it seems like people have had better luck there than just using the adverts.

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Dano069

Don't count on the experience being any better as a couple. We put in our ad that we were looking for couples only. We had numerous responses from single guys and CHEATING, married males. It got so bad that we finally had to put in the ad that we were NOT looking for singles. It was very frustrating. However, again, if you're looking for a male third, you will get a lot of responses.

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motdakasha

Yeah they're legit. The main issue you'd want to be concerned with is the experience and maturity of the people with whom you speak. No, it's not a front for prostitutes. Several of my friends used to be NOC monkeys for AFF (they call it Fuck Finder). I met one guy from AFF. He was the one who took me to the Vaginal Fisting Seminar. It was interesting and fun. More importantly, he was not a psycho killer or anything whacky. It's basically like any other dating or friend finding site, but with a concentration in kinks and sex.

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Sparhawk

I'm obviously not hip to the lingo, daddy-o...

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trwasmer

I tried it and all I got was solicitations for websites.

It is a nice site but very hit and miss.

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Viking1064

AFF was a good site a few years ago. Now it is a lot of escorts and websites. It is difficult to weed through the crap. www.swingerads.com might better suit your needs. Good luck and have fun!!

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That's got to be the best definition I've seen

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mrquackers

Thanks for the input everyone. Sounds like it's a case of "subscriber beware" and using common sense.

Dano, yeah, we're looking for a female third and realize that'll be a little harder to find. Hell, the odds of anything happening via a board like this are probably pretty slim, but it's always worth investigating.

motdakasha, I friggin' laughed so hard at your description of NOC that I literally did a spit take. Know that I plan to steal that description and spring it on the NOC at my office!

Thanks again!

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toxic515

Aff is easier to deal with if you visit the chat rooms a good bit, and start to get to know some people. It doesn't take long to spot the jerks and the Bots in there... for the most part. After you've chatted in the room a bit, (don't just lurk) then you'll probably get invited to the party for that room / area. There are at least 2 per month in Texas, one in Austin or Houston, and one in the Dallas area. The people there have been an absolute hoot, and a good time is normally had by all.. That helps root the real people from the slime balls in there.

Yeah, there are a bunch of people (men mostly) who are just looking for a lay, and many of them are cheating spouses.. And God knows a single bi woman is the holy grail in there, so it's not likely to be easy. I personally think we've made as many good connections just in meeting people and becoming friends elsewhere, but we've met some gems online as well. Sign on as a female first, you can look at profiles (but not pics) and then as a couple, so you have an account you can look at stuff for free.

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back101

I don't know what area you are from but try www.lavalife.com.

It allows you to get on the site and view other people. You pay to contact those people.

Yes, there are alot of guys who harass the women. I think if you strongely word your profile to indicate that you are only looking for a women that will help reduce the crap.

There are real people on the site. As well as professionals. You can tell the professionals right away.

JadziaDax

lavalife has an area if you are looking for strictly women who are bi or bi-curious. www.womanline.com

Make sure it's Yoshi leaving the profile and making the contacts. And in the profile, make sure your intentions are completely known.

ZillahGorilla

Got a couple of friends who've used it.

Nothing real impressive - but then again, we all live out the boonies of Illinois, miles from any real civilization.

Had better luck going to stripclubs, college bars, and freaky goth events, myself.

Onion Personals are nice - met a few chicks.

http://personals.theonion.com

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joesmith

I've had some really crazy fun just with matchdoctor.com alone - and thats Free

powder

Hmmm

Korelin123

Most of my friends say AdultFriendFinder.com is the best place to pick up women. They have had a lot of success doing it.

However when I tried to signed up, for their premium membership, I didn't get far. I noticed that they don't offer any private anonymous payment system which a company like that should offer. I've fallen for that trick before, giving my personal information and receiving spam snail mail.

I signed up for Sports Interaction last month and now my mailbox has nothing but junk in it. I also found this Rip off Report online, when I did a Google search on the company, which didn't ease my confidence.

AquaFox

craigslist.org seems to be a go to place as it's always free.... you'll likely have to do some extra emailing with people to help filter people out due to lack of real profiles.

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