HurleyBoy

there is this girl i know that i had unprotected sex with (i know stupid me) anyways she said she is on birth control but not the pill kind she said she is using the patch that you put on your body and i know thats true cause i felt it with my hands...now after we had sex she took a pill called "Plan B" "Click here for more info on Plan B" i guess it suppose to kill the sperm within 72 hours...anyways like i said before she took one and then took half of another...well she went the hospital today to see if she is or isn't. she's scared though cause she miss her period and it was suppose to happen 2-3 days ago and she said her ovaleries (sp?) hurt. my question is should i be scared that she is pregnant or not worry about it? cause right now im soo scared and i dunno who to talk to i actually have no one to talk to cause everyone will either get mad at me for doing this or like disown me so i dunno what to do...i can't even talk to my mom about this with her getting mad at me.

Edit: both guys and girls can reply to this and say their opinions on the matter. The reason why i said girls is cause they could probably answer more of these questions for me other than a guy could since guys don't go through with this shit thank god.

Redlemon

[edit - I'm a guy, nevermind]]

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Averett

Well... there isn't much you can do at this point. Try not to worry too much.

I've never been in that situation. If she's on the patch she should be okay. Missing your period by a few days isnt a big deal. The reason for that a lot of times is because of stress.

Have her go to her doctor to get a pregnancy test.

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Elegant Holmes

It happens that most women I have known miss periods by a few days. I believe sexual arrousal does play a part. Please do not overmedicate, especially on prescription drugs.

Woody182

Not to sound preachy by any means (I've had unprotected sex) but when you cannot even spell the word ovaries, you may want to rethink your sexual activity or educate yourself to some extent.
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Jim Kata

OVALERIES!!!! hahahahah that was golden.
Man you gotta strap on that jimmy protector. Anyhow, if you aren't mature enough to deal with the consequences, then you shouldn't be mature enough to have sex, let alone unprotected sex. But that is me just being a hypocrite.
Hopefully she is just late this month. I have had to worry the same way. If she is on birth control, I don't think you have much to worry about, but who knows, some people still get pregnant while on the pill.
Good Luck and let us know.

Cecil Beeber

I don't know about your girl, but my cycle can range anywhere between 25-35 days. I wouldn't think that 2-3 days are worth worrying about. Now 2-3 weeks on the other hand... But like others have said, never hurts to go to the doctor to check.

WarWagon

Not a girl myself, but my girlfriend got so worried once that stress delayed her period nearly a week after the date thats usually the latest she has it.

gabshu

If its any confort, I'm on the pill and my period never comes at a regular date of the week it needs to come in. Please let us know how the story ends, but it seems kinda unlikely that she will be pregnant being on the patch and having taken the morning after pill.

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SiNai

Same thing that happened to me and my girlfriend, we stressed so much over it because at the time she was on the patch too and had missed/forgot on her change days and I went once inside w/o protection.. After a couple days that she should have started, we had already planned our escape to Montana..

The day she started was Thursday, March 6th. That was a good day.

Moral: Don't be too worried, it will only make you wait longer.

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OFKU0

If you don't like that spacey feeling,rot gut and insomnia due to the circumstances,next time wrap it up no matter if she is on the pill or not. It takes a bigger man to say no to sex than to pay for it through unwanted pregnancy for the rest of your life. Now go get some condoms before you forget.

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JStrider

with my first girlfriend i had just left for the whole summer... and she was a few days late... and we started freaking out... and we waited a week... and it never came... then i was trying to get her to go get tested and she just wouldnt... didnt have a way to get to a clinic... and finally it came... a whole month late...

one of the most terrifying months of my life!

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anti fishstick

i didn't know my ovaleries can hurt.

i'm late all the time by a few days or weeks or whatnot. there really isn't any regular cycle for most girls unless they're on birth control which makes it like clockwork.

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Aladdin Sane

I'm amazed at the number of people here who feel they've got to get digs in on you. That's wrong.

Sounds like to me you and your girl have been responsible-- with the patch and "plan b." We were both 14 the first time I had sex. Unprotected. She was late. She and I both were scared to death. She wasn't pregnate.

She's probably just stressed out over it. Try not to worry to much. But please come back here and let us know how it turns out.

Good luck.

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Jedbeck

Don't stress so much. She may or may not be pregnant. More than likely she is not, however there is no reason to get bent out of shape by it.

What is done is done and no matter what you do you can not change the outcome. You will just have accept and be responsible for your actions. If she is not pregnant, Congrats. If she is then you both need to discuss how you are going to take care of the baby, if you are going to put the baby up for adoption or any other option you may think of.

That is a conversation that can wait till you know for sure. 2-3 days late is not a big deal though.

Good Luck.

skysooner

There are certain physical signs of pregnancy that might manifest over the next few days if she is truly pregnant. The main one that seems to be common to all women I have talked to about pregnancy (including my wife) is that their breasts feel very tender and somewhat hard. I don't know if ovaries hurting is a sign, but I don't remember my wife having that. Like someone said, if she isn't on the pill, her cycle can vary widely.

vveronica

baby there is no way for you to do anything but worry....
probably have nothing to worry about provided she actually was being truthfull.... let me know what happens okay...

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Darth_Kettch

It sounds to me like plan B was the morning after pill? (sounds like it, at any rate, didn't ckeck out your link )

I used those on two (!) occasions with my previous GF, and they're basically hormone bombs, according to my doctor - i.e. a slight change in the menstrual cycle is hardly out of the question (also, the fluids were different than usual the period after using the pill), and it could also explain the pain...

Zorvox

My girlfriend has been 1 1/2 weeks late before, on several occasions..

Just emotional and moral support is all you and her are after, confide in one another..

shannon

i was three months late once before i was on the pill (why i went on it-to regulate).
i'm with most people here, i know you're going to worry but try not to because it's not going to get anyone anywhere. get her to a doctor or at least get a take home test. i had to take one before, i took it in a dairy queen bathroom, so you can't tell me that there's any reason that she can't take it cause you can totally pull it off without anyone knowing (and in a public washroom she can throw it out without having evidence around the house). and be there for her in a big way because she's probably as scared as you, if not more. then when you know what's going on come here and let us know so i can stop wondering about how you're doing. good luck. xoxo

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oh, and i'm impressed she's know that it was her ovaries hurting. i don't even think i'd know where it was. but i actually was talking to a friend today who knew a girl who's ovaries got twisted somehow, and she was in some discomfort for a while. completely un-sex related, let alone pregnancy. so that's something it could be. also if she's on hormone stuff i could see that giving you abdominal pain and cramps and stuff, although if this girl is sure it's her actual ovaries hurting.....

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cruisergirl

A woman's cycle is a tricky thing, and I've never known many to be like clockwork unless there's some sort of birth control. Though if she did have the patch, I wonder why she was so quick to get the pills. Sounds a little odd. I've gone 4 months without a period and without getting pregnant, so like everyone has said, a few days is no big deal. And as far as the jabs for not knowing much, don't feel bad. But you should use condoms even if she is on birth control, because there is no pill that protects you against STD's. Good luck!!

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analog

Had she not had sex for a while before you, because if you were her first sex for a while, that can make her body delay.

Taking the Plan B pill can do it too. What most people don't realize is that the "morning-after pill" is nothing more than the same hormones used in birth control, just in very high doses. So, it's very possible for her period to get fucked all to hell because of it.

Not to rag on you, but hopefully from now on you'll use a condom like a responsible person, or live with the consequences.

Best of luck.

Jonsgirl

Ok, I work in the medical field so I've heard many of your concerns before. Here's the deal, the new patch (Ortho Evra ) is over 99% effective. *As long as she uses it correctly.*
http://www.orthoevra.com/index.html
And how old is your gf? Alot of times, especially in younger girls, their menstration cycle can be off. Sometimes by a lot. And like analog said, if she took the pill and then missed her period, it's likely that the overdose of hormones is what's knocking her out of whack.
The morning after test -or your "plan B"- should really only be taking after getting a serum pregnancy test to determine whether or not she is pregnant. Otherwise it's just alot of miserableness for her that's not really necessary. A serum test can detect the hormones in a pregnant female MUCH sooner than a over the counter test. The "morning after" does not necessarialy refer to IMMEDIATELY after.
Also, the pills she took do not kill the sperm. It's too late for that. It actually causes her to have a miscarrige; which would also explain the cramping pain that she's having. It's her body trying to expell the now dead tissue (if she was pregnant). More than likely, it's just her body accomidating to the influx of hormones.
My next thing is: If you're still worried about what your mommie thinks, why the fuck are you having unprotected sex?????
Just because you're horny does not excuse you from thinking!!!
I'm sorry. I'm all for you having sex, that's cool, but be responsible next time.

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motdakasha

morning after pills are typically the equivalent of 3+ birth control pills. the hormones probably threw off her cycle. it happens.

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HurleyBoy

thanks for all the advice everyone...i think im just worried over nothing but i did learn a lesson after this..."don't be a fool wrap your tool" now comes to my mind everytime i think about sex lol anyways i haven't talked to her yet since i been gone on a business trip but she has emailed me and said nothing about being pregnant and i know she went to the doctor on wednesday and it's now sunday so i think she would said something to me about it...anyways ill let you all know on what happens and if she is or isn't and i wanna thank all of you for your support here at TFP i feel a little more better that i got this off my chest and that i could talk to someone about it. thanks all

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HurleyBoy

well everyone here's the info on my situation...she in fact was pregnant but it was due to the plan b pills...she actually took 2 boxes of them which is 4 pills and that made her have the egg stuck in her fallopian tube so they had to suck and scrap it out of her but as they were doing taking it out they asked her if she wanted to have it put in the right place so it can grow right and she said no so to make this story short and sweet..never let your gf take more than 1 pill of any kind of "morning after pill" cause more than that can cause tubelaer pregnancy and which they told her if she kept it there she could as she told me "blow up" so yeah anyways im not a dad so all is good and i learn a lesson from all of this lol