EventHorizon

she didn't confess though, she was caught. had she cheated and then said something about it, that would've been one situation, but only feeling guilt after being caught means that her remorse is with her punishment, not her actions

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Does Marcellus Wallace have the appearance of a female canine? Then for what reason did you attempt to copulate with him as if he were a female canine?

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Originally Posted by canuckguy Pretty simple really, do your own thing as long as it does not fuck with anyone's enjoyment of life.

mathew856

GIf you really love her, give her a chance! All women deserve it!

EventHorizon

laws of the universe:
cats have 9 lives
cheaters deserve 2nd chances

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Does Marcellus Wallace have the appearance of a female canine? Then for what reason did you attempt to copulate with him as if he were a female canine?

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Originally Posted by canuckguy Pretty simple really, do your own thing as long as it does not fuck with anyone's enjoyment of life.

OmnicronPercei8

There are some decent replies back to this thread which made me think I am in the right place. I am coming from not knowing with my most recent ex. A month ago she was confirming that I was the best thing that had ever happened to her and how she couldn't wait to spend the rest of our lives together. Two weeks after she had broken up with me and conveniently met someone that following weekend. The next weekend they were hanging out at some bluegrass rock festival for the entire weekend. She keeps claiming to me that she hasn't done anything with this guy because after we broke up she claimed she wanted a celibate relationship until marriage. I'm sure she's saying that to not hurt me any further than she has by ending it, but at the same time she's also indicated that she doesn't ever want to try to make it work with me so I don't see her point in lying.

In any case because she lives between the closest store that I go to (several times a week long before she moved there) I have noticed on three occasions another car parked there. It's every other weekend when she has her kid and wouldn't travel to see this guy (who lives about 2 hours away). I'm not trying to be a stalker here but that same vehicle was in her driveway when we were still together. I never accused her about it but when I texted her when I saw it parked the first time she claimed that she didn't respond for a while because her gay friend was visiting. On the second time I saw it there (the following weekend after we broke up) I had texted her a couple of times and she never responded until the next day. I said she must have been having a good time with someone to ignore me which she had never done and she told me to calm down that it wasn't romantic (again I didn't say anything about the vehicle I don't recognize). It was there again this weekend.

I guess I just need perspective. If it's over it's over and I can get by with that but if she cheated on me I want to know damn it. It could end this emotional suffering I have been put through and I can just write her off. If I never know then she could come back into my life and I would always wonder. What the hell do I do?

-Edit - I'm saying if I didn't know 100% sure that she was indeed cheating on me because it could be her gay friend then I would never try to accuse her about it if there was a chance we could work out. If I knew for certain then hell no I wouldn't take back that cheating slut.

Mathilda

There's things you know, things you don't know.
Here's what you know:
The rest is irrelevant.
Hear what she's saying and move on.

chinese crested

I remember telling a white lie once. Young lass, my babysitter, came from poor family, mum was abusive lush - you know the sort of thing I am sure. Alison had bought two blouses over to try on, she was going out. One looked nice, the other horrid. Did I like it she asked? Not bad, I replied, but that other one, that one looks ever so nice on you - very attractive and flattering - which it was. To me, not being brutal and hurting a 15yr old kid - thats a wee white lie. Using a little tact and not being brutal.
I have been in a relationship where the chap was unfaithfull and told me I was being awfull for accusing him of it. Then a few hours later - what I had known and not wanted to know was confirmed when the gal involved told me. (It only happened the once, but I kew it was happening) I went home and had fun with his clothes and a carving knife. Its very good therapy. Cheating he would have got dumped for - he knew that and thats why he lied after he let his dick go for a wander - but lying to me. Very dumb move. Getting me to vocalise how silly I was for not trusting him. Dumber move. Its like telling me there is 'dumb bitch' writted on my head and only I cant see it.
He got off light I guess
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OmnicronPercei8

I understand what you're saying Mathilda and moving on is inevitable at this point but should she eventually want to call me up and say, "hey I'm sorry let's give it another go". What of our feelings that we once shared, should that happen? Still irrelevant?

EDIT - As it turns out the vehicle did belong to another guy who she supposedly met "after" we broke up. So she had been cheating on me for two weeks prior and stringing me along until we got into a fight over something trivial which prior we would have worked out w/ no problem. So while I am upset that I've been lied to, and cheated on, I guess if it were to happen at all, it's better it happened before I committed my life to her. I guess that is what makes anything that happened during our relationship irrelevant.

KarmaGirl

I've been cheated on recently--few months ago. I called her up to ask her to get an HPV test at her next pap test. She claimed she was clean and was offended. I didn't ask her to screw my boyfriend. They didn't use protection. Now I get to wait to see if I'm going to end up with cervical cancer. We've (my boyfriend and I) have been trying to work things out. Its been very difficult and trust is completely shot. If this was a one time thing I can be very forgiving if there is real regret, remorse and willingness to work, and work hard at fixing things. I'm not talking about feeling sorry he got caught here. You are still very young. I'm not telling you to break up with her but some serious work needs to be done--counselling? Take a lot of time before going through with a marriage. The always wondering if it will happen again, if there are other lies will kill a relationship and damage a person for other relationships.[COLOR="DarkSlateGray"]

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"Coming clean" has undermined the relationship to the point of probable failure.

*if* it is something that happens once, will never happen again, if you know for sure you still love the guy... why would you throw it all away simply to allow yourself the luxery of clean conscience? I call that the most pure self centredness.

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Some people would want to know that they have been potentially exposed to a disease without their permission. (Sorry, I didn't know how to put the above in one of those quote boxes)