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KarmaGirl · 06-17-2011, 07:15 AM

I've been cheated on recently--few months ago. I called her up to ask her to get an HPV test at her next pap test. She claimed she was clean and was offended. I didn't ask her to screw my boyfriend. They didn't use protection. Now I get to wait to see if I'm going to end up with cervical cancer. We've (my boyfriend and I) have been trying to work things out. Its been very difficult and trust is completely shot. If this was a one time thing I can be very forgiving if there is real regret, remorse and willingness to work, and work hard at fixing things. I'm not talking about feeling sorry he got caught here. You are still very young. I'm not telling you to break up with her but some serious work needs to be done--counselling? Take a lot of time before going through with a marriage. The always wondering if it will happen again, if there are other lies will kill a relationship and damage a person for other relationships.[COLOR="DarkSlateGray"]

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"Coming clean" has undermined the relationship to the point of probable failure.

*if* it is something that happens once, will never happen again, if you know for sure you still love the guy... why would you throw it all away simply to allow yourself the luxery of clean conscience? I call that the most pure self centredness.

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Some people would want to know that they have been potentially exposed to a disease without their permission. (Sorry, I didn't know how to put the above in one of those quote boxes)

06-17-2011, 07:15 AM	#48 (permalink)
KarmaGirl Upright	I've been cheated on recently--few months ago. I called her up to ask her to get an HPV test at her next pap test. She claimed she was clean and was offended. I didn't ask her to screw my boyfriend. They didn't use protection. Now I get to wait to see if I'm going to end up with cervical cancer. We've (my boyfriend and I) have been trying to work things out. Its been very difficult and trust is completely shot. If this was a one time thing I can be very forgiving if there is real regret, remorse and willingness to work, and work hard at fixing things. I'm not talking about feeling sorry he got caught here. You are still very young. I'm not telling you to break up with her but some serious work needs to be done--counselling? Take a lot of time before going through with a marriage. The always wondering if it will happen again, if there are other lies will kill a relationship and damage a person for other relationships.[COLOR="DarkSlateGray"] ---------- Post added at 07:15 AM ---------- Previous post was at 07:08 AM ---------- "Coming clean" has undermined the relationship to the point of probable failure. if it is something that happens once, will never happen again, if you know for sure you still love the guy... why would you throw it all away simply to allow yourself the luxery of clean conscience? I call that the most pure self centredness. _ Some people would want to know that they have been potentially exposed to a disease without their permission. (Sorry, I didn't know how to put the above in one of those quote boxes) Last edited by KarmaGirl; 06-17-2011 at 07:19 AM..