essendoubleop

Do you prefer guys who have smooth, unblemished, soft hands? Or guys with calloused, weathered, rough hands? We were discussing which ladies prefer the other day and I ended up on either side of the fence at various times.



My belief is that ladies will generally SAY they prefer rough hands, but in actuality, prefer soft hands. Granted, either EXTREME will likely be a put-off.

Eweser

I grew up in a family of farmers, so I associate rough hands with hard workers. Now, I know that there are all kinds of hard work (I, myself, sit at a desk all day and it can be hard work), but it's one of those things that's buried in my subconscious. My husband has rough hands. He says they're ugly; I think they are beautiful.

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wooÐs

Rough.

I dated a guy once with softer hands than mine. It was creepy.

mixedmedia

I like soft hands. With plenty of hair on them.

Feel free to post werewolf pictures and whatnot. I like a man with body hair.

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LordEden

Even being in a kitchen for years, I still have soft hands.

Oh if only I wish I could find more women with your mind frame. Being a Gen Xer, I have to deal with the generation of women bombarded with Pretty Boys with shaved chests. I will not shave my chest, but I do trim.

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mixedmedia

Good works.

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snowy

I like callused, large hands, but not overly rough. My SO's hands are perfect--big and a little rough from outside work. Rawr.

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Vigilante

Same. I have hair, but I keep it reasonable. Wife likes it, so I'm good to go

She likes a man that looks like a man (strong, scars, hair), and I like a woman that looks like a woman (curvy, smooth).

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genuinegirly

I chose "soft".
I'm a fan of taking care of your skin. Even if you work every day, and your hands are calloused, you don't need to have skin that is abrasive to the touch. A proper lotion regime goes a long way.

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Vigilante

I put lotion on my tattoo when I first got it. I used lotion to jerk off. That's about where lotion ends for me LOL

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genuinegirly

Your SO doesn't massage your hands with lotion or tend to your cuticles?
My husband's hands have become softer since I joined his life.

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Plan9

Turns out men don't use lotion or allow lotion to be used on their hands unless they're bleeding... in which case Vaseline is the salve of choice.

I've got something that I'd like a S/O to rub lotion on and it can't turn the throttle on a motorcycle.

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My hands are weird. I've got thin fingers and a longish palm. Useful for gunsmithing projects and climbing, I suppose.

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LordEden

Yeah and I bet all of his really holey underwear went window too (the REALLY comfortable ones). STOP DESTROYING OUR MAN CAVES!

/sarcasm

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I use lotion if I need to because of dry skin. I clip my nails when I can see them over my fingertips.

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Xerxys

Shit! I mean really this is where being pretty works wonders against me. I have pretty hands with soft fingers. I pretty much do nothing physical outside of gym and running so there you have it.

Women hate me!!

YOU! ME! TONIGHT! I'll show you not to talk about fight club puta madre!!

jewels

It's not that black and white for me so I didn't choose a preference.

I don't believe that calloused, weathered hands are necessarily rough. Tough guys can be groomed, too. Nice hands whether they're hardworking hands or primped hands. That is all.

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little_tippler

I like manly hands but with soft skin. It's more the shape of the hand and the nails that gets me, not the overall roughness or softness. A little hair is sexy.

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Our hearts are incommunicable still.
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allaboutmusic

How do ladies feel about rough hands handling their, ermmm, delicate bits?

cellophanedeity

I'm not particular, but little guitar callouses are almost a must.

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noodle

There isn't a "both" option. I love hands that are weathered and soft.
Rough in just the right places, but softish fingertips.
I find callouses fascinating and those little rough spots on the palms
are magical during a massage or just drifting over skin and can feel amazing.
I don't like soft, not-strong hands. They can be soft, but there's got to be strength there.
I hate when I hold or shake hands with a man (or woman for that matter) who has soft, wimpy hands.
I work with people who are dying... it reminds me of that and TOTALLY creeps me out.
I'd use an exclamation point there, but Halx would shake his head at me.

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Bear Cub

I'm not sure that my paws can actually absorb lotion.

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LoganSnake

Never really thought about how women might interpret my hands until now. Thanks. A lot.

I think I'd be lying if I said that I have ever done any work that would have a lasting effect on my hands. They have been smooth and soft all my life.

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Willravel

Or Boraxo. Boraxo is my favorite hand lotion.

snowy

For me, the sensation of a callous sliding across my nipple is incredibly hot. Same goes for elsewhere.

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Vigilante

Never. Once she tried to work on my hands and I demanded that she leave my cuticles alone. I like them continuing down my nails a millimeter or 2. They are there for a reason and I require them, because when I work on things they get ripped up to the point of bleeding if they are separated from the nail to begin with. No cuticle pushing! LOL

She massages nothing, not even my shoulders actually. Hmm...I massage her's all the time.

I think I'm going to have to bring that up. Thanks!

No I'm just kidding. I'm off to have dinner with her now, and maybe watch a movie. Maybe I can get her to work on my back if I talk real sweet

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Sue

My bf's hands are perfect for me. I also voted rough. They feel good and manly to me

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settie

I don't really care. I'd rather not have them be so rough that shaking his hand makes me bleed, but that's about it.

I've only ever dated musicians, and they have the general music calluses from whichever instrument they play, as do I. I have fairly rough hands for a girl, so its no biggie whatsoever.

*raises hands in the air* Thems WORKIN' HANDS! :P

OP should edit poll to include a "Don't care either way" option. :P Then I can vote too.

Redjake

im just going to drop in here to say my hands are similar to cinderblocks and can crush 200 lbs. my wife says my hands are extremely rough but so goes the journey to becoming a certified Captain of Crush.

wooÐs

I've posted the 'hairy back and butt man' before. But I don't want to make the thread NSFW .

The most recent bf, or whatever he is / was, is a mechanic for Coke. His hands are perfect. Big. Rough. Calloused. But not splintered or crackly. This is where I draw the line. If I need to worry about cuts down below, then no. Not interested lol.
See, now smooth-hands-guy I mentioned above played guitar. I think he was just born with some extra estrogen or something lol.

Xerxys

If that doesn't work try the opposite ...

purplelirpa

hmm..my guy has soft fingers but calloused palms from weight lifting. The smooth fingers work well for caressing. Generally, the only hand issue that is a turn off for me is a hang-nail. Worst. Fingerfuck. Ever.

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Sharon

Rough hands for me if I had to choose. As long as there are no sharp corners on nails, I'm not particularly bothered either way as long as they are strong, firm, confident and gentle. There's nothing quite like holding a hand that feels like it could crush you, but instead treats your fingers like a delicate flower.

neflyte

My ex was a born-and-bred country girl. Despite her liking rough hands (for the usual country reasons), when she met me her opinion changed. My hands are incredibly soft (apparently) on their own. Plus I personally like to get touchy-feely a lot, so I have a doubt that would go over well with rough hands.

Yes, I work in the tech industry.

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PonyPotato

I have rough hands myself (physical labor, wheee) and I get tired of applying lotion. I don't like it when a guy's hands are softer/smoother than mine. I prefer men's hands large, gnarly, and rough-but-not-extremely-scratchy.

Hands are interesting. Scars, calluses, bumps, knots.. they all tell me a story about their owner's life and behaviors, and the more interesting the hands the better for me.

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essendoubleop

Ugh. This is going nowhere. Deadlocked at 8 and 8 and I am more confused than ever.

Strange Famous

Who knows?

Never in my life have I applied "hand lotion" or any such item

I have a broken finger on one hand (which is mostly healed, by quite crooked), an inch long scar from this one time I wrapped a sweater round my hand, formed a fist around half a brick and then punched through a double glazed window on my right hand, callus' below each of my fingers, usually have hangnails, a scar that runs across two of the knuckles on my left hand, hair on the back of my hands (but none on the palms!), a small scar on the right palm of my hand from a balsa knife...

So I would place myself in the rough category.

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mixedmedia

I guess your answer is: it depends on who you're asking.

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PESSIMISM, n. A philosophy forced upon the convictions of the observer by the disheartening prevalence of the optimist with his scarecrow hope and his unsightly smile. - Ambrose Bierce

thesaurosie

Rough hands look sexier, but soft hands are actually sexier (i.e. not painful!) in practice.