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Hey guys (predominantly) and girls,
I know there's stuff about this already but I've never seen much description or detail.

Little bit of back story: After the ex-girlfriend "fiasco" you may remember from this detail who I am, I have now managed to find the girl of my dreams, who cares about me and loves me as much as I do her. So I'm very happy.

Now, she started the pill a while ago and we now don't use condoms, which we both love, despite the mess (not very well publicised, it must be said - I never realised 'love juice' just flowed back out pretty quickly.. not sure where I thought it would go though, when I think back, I guess I didn't really consider it).

Now, when we used condoms I struggled to start with (new at it, I'm at the end of my teenage years so can still claim the mental hormones running rampage through my body defence) with stamina, not badly, but say 1-2 mins (2mins was my nickname for a little while ) Then I began to get into the swing of things and could last for say 10mins. Which I liked. This was fine for both of us.

However, without the condom being a massively thick non-feeling-conductive glove stopping all sensations to my penis, I am now back to say 1min before going down on her, and then going back and finishing a minute later.

I've become quite good at going down on her as I've got to know what works and what doesn't and I think this is my saving grace. Now when she says she really enjoys our sex, I believe her. However, while I love it too, because it feels REALLY REALLY REALLY good so I would quite like it to feel REALLY REALLY REALLY good for longer so we can try different positions etc (doggy is a no go as that feels INSANELY REALLY REALLY REALLY good). I mean, whoever the fuck said that condoms feel the same as no condoms was so far wide of the mark, the couldn't see it and just decided another mark was the mark. I don't know if she has some super special vagina, but I can't believe how amazing the sensations are, and never knew I could feel so many of the inner contours and textures inside her, and that it would feel so good.

So, while I want to last longer for her, as I'm sure it wouldn't hurt, it's also for me.

The other thing is that she gets sore if I last say 15-20mins, so round two is a no-go, since I take much longer than that usually, so have to stop.


Now I've heard about kegels, and was wondering if someone in the know could elaborate. I tried something when jacking off which I believe was it, and it had all of the build-up of an orgasm so I kinda clenched what I thought was that muscle, then the start of the orgasm feeling but not as prolonged, no cum, and then the kind of "bleh" feeling once you're done, and a kind of sense of ruining an orgasm. Not really what I wanted.

So, after all of this, is a proper kegel thingy a sort of "reset" button for an orgasm build up, which just sets you back to the beginning, or is it as I described; an orgasm with no cum? Thanks

If the former, when do you do it, and do you ahve to stop to do it?

Cheers, and any extra info is useful. All I could find on the net was how to do the exercises.

Xerxys

You don't do kegels during sex. Kegels are done during any other activities such as cooking, lusting after your co-worker as she chews you out for screwing reports, driving etc etc

Also, you must not hold back an orgasm. It doesn't feel right when it comes again. I'm not sure if this is true but masturbation has been said to make men last longer. For pills, consult this thread.

dlish

theres been plenty said on this topic previously, but i will try and dig some up for you.

i just wanted to say, that theres no such thing as a 'super special vagina' unless its a horizontal one


edit: heres Halxs' thread...you wont get much better than this bud.

http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/tilted-...-research.html

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Punk.of.Ages

Give it time, man. You just got off the condom. After a while you'll get used to it and last a bit longer.

I always thought kegels were only vaginal exercises....

You're putting the pussy on a pedestal... =p

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Xerxys

Kegels are for both males and females. They make the men last longer and they make the girl have the ability to squeeze your dick into mush!!

Glory's Sun

it's better to just have fun and enjoy the moment instead of worrying about time, orgasms and how to make it better.. those things tend to take care of themselves if you just enjoy the ride.

Punk.of.Ages

Hmm, I didn't know that.

I learned something new today!

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snowy

Amen.

Did you know the average round of sex (penile-vaginal penetration only) lasts 7.5 minutes?

There's absolutely no need to worry about lasting a long time. It's just not fun when it takes that long. There comes a point when a girl starts tuning out, staring at the ceiling, and wishing you'd just come already. Don't be the guy who thinks he has to be Superman.

This is generally one of those things that you'll get better at with practice--so practice, and as gucci suggested, enjoy the ride.

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telekinetic

1) Take a bullet out of the magazine by the method of your choice before you begin the p-in-v action.

OR

2) Get back in the ring for round two!

The second time around for almost all guys is quite a bit longer than the first...whether you fire one off and dive back in for more immediately or whether you 'take things into your own hands' 10 or 15 minutes before happy humpy time all depends on how quickly you can recharge your batteries.

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Halanna

No, kegel exercises are for what I would consider sexual organ health. For women it's about the pelvic floor? That's a term we hear when we are pregnant. I'm not exactly sure what it does for men or how it's performed.

But I do know that kegels give me the ability to grip or pulsate my husband with my vagina that sends him over the edge and afterwards, makes him giggle a little.

15-20mins of actual penetration and thrusting will be a little much for most women.

It's individual, you're going to have to find the medium between what she can handle and what you want.

ASU2003

This.

It's either psychological or physical, and I'm sure that over time you will last longer.

Now, they are researching an SSRI (anti-depressant) style premature ejaculation drug. I will say that this would double the time you would last, but you would want sex half as often.

As for physical things, have you tried adding more lube? Using desensitizing creams (underside of the glans)? Pulling out when you feel close, using ice cubes to cool it down, and then going at it again for a little longer (use your finger or vibrator on her in between)? Or does this show that I have never done this before...?

Have you ever practiced pleasuring yourself for a little while, taking a break for a minute or two, and repeat for an hour or so? You don't want to reach orgasm or go past the point of no return, but try to get as close as you can before stopping.

The other thing to try is to apply pressure to right behind the testicles (with your finger) when you are really close to an orgasm and have pulled out. It might take some practice to get it right.

The information here is what I was going to write next. But, this is the 200/300 level class. You need to work on the basics before you try too much.
Male Multiple Orgasms | Alternative Medicine Guide
The other part about the "Awareness of Your Sexual Arousal Process" is really important to work on. Have your girl give you a handjob some time and just focus on the number. If 10 is orgasm, you want to stay at 6-8, sometimes 9.

Next month you can learn how to have a second, third and fourth orgasm right after your first.

(Your post was pretty funny to read , I didn't mean that in a bad way. Your writing style and descriptions are great.)

Shaindra

Gawd I miss young, hormonally-addled love.

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ASU2003

I forgot to ask you what your blood pressure is and how much exercise do you get? It's not directly related to how quick you finish necessarily, but it may impact how it works somewhat.

Are you uncircumcised? If so, you may want to use medical tape to pull back the skin for a while (each day over a few days, eventually while wearing clothes) to dry the glans out. But I would do that last, since it will impact what you feel.

Anonymous Member

Cheers people Stuff to take on board.

Yeah I have a decent BP (or did a while ago when it was checked). I also go to the gym about 3-4 times a week and play other sports. I'm uncircumsised.

I think I'll just try not consider it and see what happens for now, and maybe try these kegel exercises.


Thanks a lot!

snowy

Men have a pelvic floor too.

For a man to do a Kegel, it's pretty easy, and it's the same as it is for women when you're first starting; try stopping the flow of urine while you're peeing. This action helps you identify the PC muscle that you need to contract to do Kegels.

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If you have an erection lasting four or more hours, please consult your physician.

Anonymous Member

Not sure if that's a joke or in the wrong thread?

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Plan9

+1. It's worked really well for me. I've got a Kegel sixpack down there... under the smooth spot.

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I know the benefit for women, how does it benefit men?

Xerxys