Halx

I want to kick you in the balls so hard.

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abaya

I don't think anyone here has talked about "wanting to be a teacher" in a relationship, other than Willravel. So I still don't see what we're supposed to be disagreeing about, frankly. I mean, this right here is a type of "communication" about kissing that I'm talking about...
It's not "teaching," it's talking about what works and doesn't work for each person, just as ratbastid explained. Isn't that kind of basic communication, just like talking about what you do/don't like in bed is basic communication? One more time--as long as all parties involved are open and willing to talk about what they like/dislike about physical actions, then really, what is the problem? No two people are going to be magically compatible (with kissing, sex, or anything else for that matter) 100% of the time. We are all different creatures, and I don't know that any of us are mind-readers, as Shani said.

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PonyPotato

I've been in a relationship where I've literally had to TEACH the guy how to kiss - not tell him what I want or what I prefer, but teach him how to use his mouth and the various parts of it. It drove me batshit crazy after he reverted back to "muh" every.single.time. That relationship did NOT last long.

That is what I'm referring to. Not having to tell someone I prefer for them to keep their tongue away from my tonsils, but teaching them how to physically do it each time because they can't figure out how to do that.

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abaya

Yeah, well that would drive me batshit crazy, too!!! Which is why I don't see what anyone is disagreeing about, here. Teaching in a relationship sucks. Communication and helping each other to learn what each person needs, is good.

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ItWasMe

NO, that's a huge ticklish spot. I do sometimes sneeze if he encounters a tangle while brushing my hair, though.

I didn't know people could be so picky about kissing style. As long as he isn't impeding my breathing or hurting my mouth, I just go with the flow. If it's too hard or aggressive, use your hand to apply a little pressure on his face to back him off a tad. Just enough to make it more comfortable/enjoyable.

I thought this was kind of funny, a how-to-french-kiss with diagram. I had to laugh when I saw the pictures. How to French Kiss

And...a kissing survey
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Maybe we can compare some of our answers (that are relative to the OP question) later?

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ratbastid

I completely get that. What I'm saying is, the problem REALLY was he was disinterested what you wanted and learning to have your mouths (and presumably other parts) mesh well. Being a chronically and untrainably bad kisser was just a side-effect.

Draigan

What about when your both really into the moment, near climax, and your just sucking eachothers faces off. Your practically drinking eachothers saliva. Come on now... thats fun!!

This girl I am seeing now was sloppy at first. I told her after like the third time kissing that I wasn't really into that. She had no complaints. Was a little blown back my audacity though.

PlanG

Girls with long tongues practically touching the back of your mouth and not letting you reciprocate

Cernunnos

In order beginning from the worst turn-off.

1. Bad breath.
2. Plaque.
3. Depositing saliva in my mouth.
4. Swallowing my face.
5. Touching the tonsils.
6. Tongue blocking.

byte1919

one girl kept scratching my lips with her teeth during the whole time we were making out. didnt have the heart to tell her, so i just suffered the pain and didnt ask for her number at the end of the night.

Yellow Tulip

To most hot blooded people, you're right, it's not the art of the samurai, but then there are the other brigade, the ones who think all there is to French kissing is to put your tongue in someone's mouth and twirl it round. Some people have no imagination and no passion. An ideal kiss, to me, would start gently, lots of licking and lip sucking, a lot of tongues, become more and more passionate, and involve a meaningful embrace and touching. It may not lead to sex, but a proper kiss should be a sexual experience in itself.

little_tippler

Agreed...it should at least be sensual!

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Zeraph

My number one annoyance is my date wanting to kiss mouth to mouth for too long and not not changing it up enough. If we're making out for longer than a few minutes then kiss my neck, nibble my ear, etc...guys like that stuff too!

And similarly along that vein, eventually it gets boring. Don't try to make out with me the entire night. Quality not quantity.

Not sure if anyone asked this yet, but what do yall think of exchanging breath during a passionate kiss? Sometimes that will happen to me on accident. If it's the right moment and the right girl its very...intimate. If its bad technique and a soso girl its gross.

SabrinaFair

I've dated two guys recently that were excessive tongue suckers....to the point where my tongue actually felt SORE the next day. NOT GOOD, dude, NOT GOOD.

As far as the "to teach or not to teach" discussion, I've never had emotional compatibility with someone I don't have physical compatibility with....so any opinion I have would be completely uninformed. I've have physical compatibility without emotional compatibility...I've had great kissing/sex/etc. with people I can't stand IRL....but never the opposite.

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Xerxys

Or you could refer them to this

gh0ti

Gosh, I dated this girl a few weeks back that was a Pecker. What a total turn off. I mean, your trying to get your groove on and all all you get peck peck peck peck.. She was really hot, but its really hard to develop an emotional attachment to someone when the kissing compatability isn't there...

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The Smotherer: She seems to enjoy hanging her hair in your face and breathing all over you...

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cmc

I fell out laughing at this comment -- thanx RetroGunslinger -
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Hell, even I can kiss really well, and I spend months without any form of kissing.
It's not like they're mastering the art of the samurai or some bullshit.
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Which comes first - the mindful/emotional/spiritual connection -
or physical pleasure morphing into mind connections ?

or is there more to consider ?

PearlSonja9

I hate guys who slobber all over you. I dated this guy once who literally cleaned my face with his tongue.

The worst kiss I ever experienced was when I met this guy from a online dating site. The date didn't go very well, so I just wanted to give a good-bye peck kiss. But he shoved his tongue down my throat! I felt sick for days after that.

anti fishstick

my most recent ex didn't really like to french kiss. it sucked cos i love to make out but he wasn't good at it :P i hate the excessive sucking.. it actually hurts! and the rhythm of the kisses was just all off. felt weird.. sometimes he would try to french kiss me in the middle of the night while i was sleeping. i would wake up and take me a while to respond and actually kiss back. was i being violated? it felt very strange.. i didnt know if i should enjoy it bcos i never get to kiss him or repulsed because it was so awkward. bah.

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bagmirror

-If he goes in too fast and your teeth collide.
-If your not paying attention and he goes in for a kiss. I've caught glimpses of some pretty repulsive pre-kiss faces. -shudder-
-If a guy kisses too hard. I'm into rough, but kissing has a limit to what is sexy and what is scary.
-When you can't break it off. Some guys just won't quit.

elgeebar

This whole thread intrigues me... I'm 37 and still don't know if I'm a good kisser or not! I know what I like but just don't know if I'm any good

To be honest, it's not something I've ever thought about much or ever had much feedback on so I'm guessing I do an OK job

I shall have to solicit some feedback well it will be fun trying.