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Originally Posted by abaya
I don't think anyone here has talked about "wanting to be a teacher" in a relationship, other than Willravel. So I still don't see what we're supposed to be disagreeing about, frankly.  I mean, this right here is a type of "communication" about kissing that I'm talking about...
It's not "teaching," it's talking about what works and doesn't work for each person, just as ratbastid explained. Isn't that kind of basic communication, just like talking about what you do/don't like in bed is basic communication? One more time--as long as all parties involved are open and willing to talk about what they like/dislike about physical actions, then really, what is the problem? No two people are going to be magically compatible (with kissing, sex, or anything else for that matter) 100% of the time. We are all different creatures, and I don't know that any of us are mind-readers, as Shani said. |
I've been in a relationship where I've literally had to TEACH the guy how to kiss - not tell him what I want or what I prefer, but teach him how to use his mouth and the various parts of it. It drove me batshit crazy after he reverted back to "muh" every.single.time. That relationship did NOT last long.
That is what I'm referring to. Not having to tell someone I prefer for them to keep their tongue away from my tonsils, but teaching them how to physically do it each time because they can't figure out how to do that.