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Old 08-31-2007, 03:07 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Something to spice it up a bit?

I've been together with my girlfriend for about a year and of that year we've been having sex for about 5 to 6 months. Before she met me she'd never really seriously dated a guy, and had never had sex. I'd had a couple of serious relationships before, only one that was sexually active and it wasn't good sex... pretty shabby really. So the sex life with my current g/f is great. We probably average 8-10 times per week for sex, depending on how much has been going on.

The issue at hand, or rather concern is that we've somewhat slipped into a routine, which don't get me wrong does great things for us. She gets around 20 orgasms from the routine with a select number of positions. My question is would it be good for us to be less stuck to our routine or is it good to have a "go-to" routine for getting your jolly's?

I know that spice is the variety of life, and we've been working on that since we've both noticed that we've gotten a little too "serious" and aren't having enough fun. Which is shown by the fact that last night she gave me a blowjob, which she used to be totally against, and she admitted she actually really enjoyed giving it (though I think the saltiness of the cum was somewhat bothersome to her; I'll need to eat more pineapple).

So really I'm just wondering if anyone has suggestions for spicing it up without getting to far into the wayside. Neither of us is interested toys other partners or BDSM though food could be interesting. Suggestions anyone?
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Old 08-31-2007, 04:42 AM   #2 (permalink)
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maybe try some new postitions or sex at unexpected times.
i wouldnt say that you need to change anything drasticaly, if you are both still orgasming that amount.
if you are getting a little bored discuss both of your fantasies and maybe act upon them.
Or try going a week with out sex and see who jumps who first, it might be the same "routine" but the frustration makes it more passionate.
i dont really have any other suggestions, sorry this isn't very helpful.
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Old 08-31-2007, 06:49 AM   #3 (permalink)
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Don't totally rule out toys. Maybe something mild like vibrating panties, or even better vibrating panties with a remote control, could provide some fun games/scenarios for you and her.

Also, don't forget role playing. Ring the bell with a box in hand and pretend to be the UPS guy. Have her get a french maid costume and you come home to her dusting. Things like that are pretty fun if you both get into it.
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Old 08-31-2007, 07:01 AM   #4 (permalink)
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I know that spice is the variety of life,
I always thought it was "Variety is the spice of life".

Any ways, that's not important.

So, many moons ago when I was sexually active and in a serious relationship, we decided to do something which yielded interesting results.

It started off as a quip about who could last the longest without initiating sex. Problem was, we were both stubborn. And, well, we didn't play nicely in this game either. We did what ever we could to turn the other person on as much as possible, because we were convinced that they'd crack first.

By the time we both couldn't handle it anymore, we just snapped and tore each other to shreds.

BEST. SEX. EVER!!

Seriously, there was a lot of pent up sexual tension and aggression there...... Some of the words that came out of her mouth while she had me pinned down would make a pirate blush.
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Old 08-31-2007, 05:42 PM   #5 (permalink)
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I always thought it was "Variety is the spice of life".
No no no, "Spice is the plural of spouse". Just as Ratbastid.
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Old 08-31-2007, 06:43 PM   #6 (permalink)
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K I have a couple of ideas ....

1) Initiate the sex differently or try a different location. Go have a bath together and wash eachother first or something. Though I will warn you showers can be dangerous if the heights between the two parties are too different. Massages can also work.

2) Flavoured sauces, honey, whipped cream etc are great fun if a bit messy - don't attempt when you have the nice sheets on the bed or if applicable kids at home as you really don't want to put clothing on over the top. No matter how hard you try to clean it all up with a tongue bath you still feel sticky afterwards.

3) Get her to lie down and see how close you can come to touching her without actually doing so. Just skim your hands a fraction above her body - great fun watching all the hair rise on end and goosebumps appear if she's sensitive.


I know you said you weren't into bdsm but you might try some very very lax bdsm, just silk scarves to hold her hands (not even necessary if she has good self discipline) and a blindfold then alot of fun with ice cubes and hot drinks (same as you can use the both for a blowjob not suggesting you put hot liquid on her skin) or a few different things like some leather gloves (or a belt) and some feathers - different textures to tease her with and see if she can identify them.
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Old 09-01-2007, 02:10 AM   #7 (permalink)
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Risque opportunities? Sex in the car, or an elevator, or a stairwell... hell, even sex outside the bedroom can be fun, on the couch, in the kitchen, on the bathroom sink. If you are outdoorsy people even in the least, camping can afford great sex opportunities (or so I've heard), the two of you in a tent in the middle of nowhere with nobody around to hear your moans and screams.

Also, as others mentioned, toys and BDSM come in many levels and flavors. Does she use any toys on herself when you are not around? If not, that might be a good place to start. Self-exploration is twice as fun when your partner is there to watch or guide you. "Toys" can also involve cock rings (something that's well worth a shot), vibrating cock rings (TotalMILF isn't a fan, but a lot of girls apparently are), et cetera. Sometimes just going to the "toy store" to look around can give you great ideas.

What about the full romantic approach? Candlelight, champagne, strawberries and chocolate?

When it comes to sex, the only limit is what you let it be... there's certainly a lot of things to try.
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Old 09-03-2007, 12:48 PM   #8 (permalink)
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Thanks a lot. I'll be looking into the suggestions and let you know later how it all goes and what worked for us
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Old 09-03-2007, 01:11 PM   #9 (permalink)
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Old 09-07-2007, 02:31 PM   #10 (permalink)
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Figure out what time the automatic sprinklers at the nearest poorly-guarded golf course go on at night, park a short distance away with some cover in between the car and the course, change into bathing suits, get onto the golf course and out of sight from the road, and dance around in the sprinkler rain until you get bored and start fucking.

After that, expand into other types of public sex.
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Don't totally rule out toys. Maybe something mild like vibrating panties, or even better vibrating panties with a remote control, could provide some fun games/scenarios for you and her.
Especially if she wears them in public and you surprise her while she tries to act normally.
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