grinding

[merlin]

I was at a dance the other night and grinding with some girl, when I wondered whether guys are supposed to get an erection while grinding. I found the girl attractive, but when I start dancing (aka fairly strenuous physical activity), my body um, allocates the blood elsewhere.

What are your experiences? Male & female input appreciated

[Wunderbar]

In my opinion I think it's to be expected. After all, the girl is grinding you to get your attention, right? I think if you're getting hard while she's grinding you, then essentially you're giving her a compliment, and every girl likes a compliment here and there.

Someone let me know if I'm way off base here.

[Seaver]

We've had a thread on this before, I can't find it.. might have gotten pushed off.

The general consensus is that many girls like it. It should be expected, and the only time I've heard a girl getting turned off or grossed out by it is when a random guy just starts dancing with them. Usually the gross-out is if the guy has a hard-on before they even start dancing.

[merlin]

You have good points. I'll be sure to be well-rested and ready next time =P

How about the views from the ladies of the forum? Anyone think otherwise?

[AquaFox]

as a guy... i really don't see what's so cool about it. rather dance face to face. some things shouldn't rub in public!

[Willravel]

Wear jeans, dude. Also, when you're half mongrel and you figure out what's going on, calm yourself down by concentrating elsewhere.

Whether it's a problem really depends on the woman. As a rule, I keep things calm unless The Enterprise is actually needed, if you get my meaning.

[World's King]

Just drink enough that your dick no longer works.

[mirevolver]

I think some girls just enjoy doing it because they want to feel that reaction, even knowing that she won't be going home with that guy.

There was one time when I was studying abroad in Germany, when after sharing a couple of beers with a girl (approx 2 liters of beer to be more precise) during a summer Bavarian style festival, I went to get another beer and when I returned she was dancing on a table. She saw me returning with another half liter of beer and beckoned me up on the table with her. I don't remember what song the cover band was playing but we were both dancing on the table when she just backs up and starts grinding away. Yes, I had the reaction she intended down there, and yes, we also both knew that she was just having some fun. How did I know she was just doing it because she liked doing it? First, her boyfriend was standing 5 feet away and second, she was my German culture teacher for the study abroad trip.

By the way, I got an A+ in her class.

[Vincentt]

I've had girls put their hands down there and grab... so, I am gonna say that some of them really like it.

In fact, most cases I think the girl enjoys the 'power trip.'

However, girls don't want to feel it unless they intended to bring it up.

Most girls say the creepiest thing about going to a club is feeling some strange guys cock rub up against them.

[Rinndalir]

Agreed, as long as the girl initiates it there shouldn't be a problem...

[match000]

Originally Posted by mirevolver

How did I know she was just doing it because she liked doing it? First, her boyfriend was standing 5 feet away and second, she was my German culture teacher for the study abroad trip.

By the way, I got an A+ in her class.

that's gotta be some lenient boyfriend

[SiN]

i was going to walk away from this thread ...
dancer, yes (as in, i like to dance) ... grinder, no thx (and i think it's pretty tacky, usually).

buuuut... to offer a general female opinion/response to the topic...

Originally Posted by Rinndalir

Agreed, as long as the girl initiates it there shouldn't be a problem...

define 'initiate' ?
i'd be inclined to suggest a guideline of 'handgrab = initiate' ... anything else, don't necessarily assume ...

Originally Posted by Vincentt

I've had girls put their hands down there and grab... so, I am gonna say that some of them really like it.

In fact, most cases I think the girl enjoys the 'power trip.'

However, girls don't want to feel it unless they intended to bring it up.

Most girls say the creepiest thing about going to a club is feeling some strange guys cock rub up against them.

1. see 'initiate'.

2. power trip? hmm. seems a bit uncreative of a one, imho.

3. yes, thank you.

4. /nod
... in extreme cases, that can come to 'creepy enough to get your ass kicked'.. or close to it.

Originally Posted by willravel

Whether it's a problem really depends on the woman. As a rule, I keep things calm unless The Enterprise is actually needed, if you get my meaning.

winner.

[mirevolver]

Originally Posted by match000

that's gotta be some lenient boyfriend

He was probably the most laid back guy I've ever met.

[Carno]

The women on this forum are typically not the kind of women you will find dancing with men in a club on a Friday night, so asking this question here will result in a skewed answer.

Better to go ask chicks who actually frequent clubs.

[healer]

Originally Posted by willravel

Also, when you're half mongrel...

That is probably the funniest description of a semi I've ever come across!

As for the OP, as long as you're not walking up to a girl looking like someone just pitched a tent in your pants, you'll be OK. Women know exactly what they're doing when they're grinding their butt-crack into your groin. I suspect that more than a few women would be disappointed if you didn't show signs of interest.

Just go with the flow.

[Willravel]

Originally Posted by healer

That is probably the funniest description of a semi I've ever come across!

I can't remember where I heard it, but it always stuck with me. Use it to your enjoyment.

[World's King]

Originally Posted by Carno

The women on this forum are typically not the kind of women you will find dancing with men in a club on a Friday night, so asking this question here will result in a skewed answer.

Better to go ask chicks who actually frequent clubs.

And who elected you as the voice of the women here?

[The_Jazz]

WK, I think he means "ain't no club rats in here"

[opus123]

Originally Posted by merlin

I was at a dance the other night and grinding with some girl, when I wondered whether guys are supposed to get an erection while grinding. What are your experiences?

It depends on the dance club. Some dance clubs seem to be less grinding than others. One I went to had mostly easy aka normal dancing where no one touches much and most people do their dance in their area near their friends. Another one was gay friendly and I saw men grinding men and women grinding women and 3 somes and 4 somes grinding. Sometimes you can tell it is friendship grinding and sometimes it is foreplay for sex later. You never know until later I guess. Enjoy the moment and try not to have your hard on rub against your metal zipper. Yowch ! Anyway, since I am 39, I love it when people grind on me and I then often grind on them to keep things equal. *smile* When I was younger, my erection was easy to show up while grinding, but now, I don't often get as hard since I have seen and felt grinding so many times. I try to go dancing 14 times a year for no real reason but exercise, and then once you are there, the music and the skin showing begin to make the night have a whole different meaning. (^:

Jonathan

[Carno]

Originally Posted by World's King

And who elected you as the voice of the women here?

What the fuck are you talking about? I wasn't acting as the "voice of the women here," I was stating my opinion. Chill out.

[ASU2003]

I think the more important question is how do you keep your balls from hurting after they have been smashed between the two of you repeatedly?

[nfuehgo23]

Haha, this is my first post. I've wondered a lot about this. I dont often get an erection on the dancefloor especially when she backs into me. When face to face its a little different though, so what im trying to say is youre not alone!

[opus123]

Originally Posted by ASU2003

I think the more important question is how do you keep your balls from hurting after they have been smashed between the two of you repeatedly?

Hmmmm... I think grinding is nice and erotic and smashing balls means the woman hates you. (^:

Jonathan

[ItWasMe]

Originally Posted by Seaver

We've had a thread on this before, I can't find it.. might have gotten pushed off.

The thread is here: http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/showthread.php?t=107295

An interesting read. I have seen a bit of 'grinding' even in our small town hangout sometimes. Things don't seem to go over well if a guy initiates it, even if I've seen them dance together before. But guys don't seem to mind women initiating it. I say this because they put their hands in the air and smile.

I can't tell you my experience, because I don't dance in public anymore. To say that I'm not a good dancer would be like saying Rhudolph's nose has a little bit of a glow. Definite understatement. I suck. Last time I danced in public, it wasn't pretty. I tried warning my would-be dance partner that I can't dance, but he talked me into it. He told me after the song that I don't dance too badly..."just don't drink so much first next time..." I was too embarassed to admit that I'd only been drinking diet soda. (I was the designated driver.) Maybe someday I'll learn to dance.

[MSD]

It's a biological response to friction. If she has a problem with it, she probably shouldn't be rubbing her ass against your crotch.

[longbough]

If you don't get an erection - is when you should worry.

It's an erection. Big deal. Someone's going to want to check out the package if you're in a club anyways. You might as well have an erection. It's not like someone's going to ask you to give a speech in front of the class.