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grinding
I was at a dance the other night and grinding with some girl, when I wondered whether guys are supposed to get an erection while grinding. I found the girl attractive, but when I start dancing (aka fairly strenuous physical activity), my body um, allocates the blood elsewhere.
What are your experiences? Male & female input appreciated |
In my opinion I think it's to be expected. After all, the girl is grinding you to get your attention, right? I think if you're getting hard while she's grinding you, then essentially you're giving her a compliment, and every girl likes a compliment here and there. ;)
Someone let me know if I'm way off base here. |
We've had a thread on this before, I can't find it.. might have gotten pushed off.
The general consensus is that many girls like it. It should be expected, and the only time I've heard a girl getting turned off or grossed out by it is when a random guy just starts dancing with them. Usually the gross-out is if the guy has a hard-on before they even start dancing. |
You have good points. I'll be sure to be well-rested and ready next time =P
How about the views from the ladies of the forum? Anyone think otherwise? |
as a guy... i really don't see what's so cool about it. rather dance face to face. some things shouldn't rub in public!
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Wear jeans, dude. Also, when you're half mongrel and you figure out what's going on, calm yourself down by concentrating elsewhere.
Whether it's a problem really depends on the woman. As a rule, I keep things calm unless The Enterprise is actually needed, if you get my meaning. |
Just drink enough that your dick no longer works.
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I think some girls just enjoy doing it because they want to feel that reaction, even knowing that she won't be going home with that guy.
There was one time when I was studying abroad in Germany, when after sharing a couple of beers with a girl (approx 2 liters of beer to be more precise) during a summer Bavarian style festival, I went to get another beer and when I returned she was dancing on a table. She saw me returning with another half liter of beer and beckoned me up on the table with her. I don't remember what song the cover band was playing but we were both dancing on the table when she just backs up and starts grinding away. Yes, I had the reaction she intended down there, and yes, we also both knew that she was just having some fun. How did I know she was just doing it because she liked doing it? First, her boyfriend was standing 5 feet away and second, she was my German culture teacher for the study abroad trip. By the way, I got an A+ in her class. |
I've had girls put their hands down there and grab... so, I am gonna say that some of them really like it.
In fact, most cases I think the girl enjoys the 'power trip.' However, girls don't want to feel it unless they intended to bring it up. Most girls say the creepiest thing about going to a club is feeling some strange guys cock rub up against them. |
Agreed, as long as the girl initiates it there shouldn't be a problem...
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that's gotta be some lenient boyfriend |
i was going to walk away from this thread ...
dancer, yes (as in, i like to dance) ... grinder, no thx (and i think it's pretty tacky, usually). buuuut... to offer a general female opinion/response to the topic... Quote:
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2. power trip? hmm. seems a bit uncreative of a one, imho. 3. yes, thank you. 4. /nod ... in extreme cases, that can come to 'creepy enough to get your ass kicked'.. or close to it. Quote:
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The women on this forum are typically not the kind of women you will find dancing with men in a club on a Friday night, so asking this question here will result in a skewed answer.
Better to go ask chicks who actually frequent clubs. |
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As for the OP, as long as you're not walking up to a girl looking like someone just pitched a tent in your pants, you'll be OK. Women know exactly what they're doing when they're grinding their butt-crack into your groin. I suspect that more than a few women would be disappointed if you didn't show signs of interest. Just go with the flow. |
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And who elected you as the voice of the women here? |
WK, I think he means "ain't no club rats in here"
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I think the more important question is how do you keep your balls from hurting after they have been smashed between the two of you repeatedly?
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Haha, this is my first post. I've wondered a lot about this. I dont often get an erection on the dancefloor especially when she backs into me. When face to face its a little different though, so what im trying to say is youre not alone!
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An interesting read. I have seen a bit of 'grinding' even in our small town hangout sometimes. Things don't seem to go over well if a guy initiates it, even if I've seen them dance together before. But guys don't seem to mind women initiating it. I say this because they put their hands in the air and smile. I can't tell you my experience, because I don't dance in public anymore. To say that I'm not a good dancer would be like saying Rhudolph's nose has a little bit of a glow. Definite understatement. I suck. Last time I danced in public, it wasn't pretty. I tried warning my would-be dance partner that I can't dance, but he talked me into it. He told me after the song that I don't dance too badly..."just don't drink so much first next time..." I was too embarassed to admit that I'd only been drinking diet soda. (I was the designated driver.) Maybe someday I'll learn to dance. |
It's a biological response to friction. If she has a problem with it, she probably shouldn't be rubbing her ass against your crotch.
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If you don't get an erection - is when you should worry.
It's an erection. Big deal. Someone's going to want to check out the package if you're in a club anyways. You might as well have an erection. It's not like someone's going to ask you to give a speech in front of the class. |
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