abaya

What's that all about? Never heard of that one. Honestly, all I've heard about snowballing is that the girl "gives back" the guy's cum, in his mouth, after a BJ. No passing back and forth, no proving anything... I guess I'm confused.

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Borla

I have never experienced this.......and have no desire to. But when I think about it, after I've been going down on her, if she freaks out about kissing me later, I don't like it. So I suppose, given the right circumstances, and assuming it was a big deal to her, I wouldn't throw a fit about it.

I'm in no hurry to try it, but if she REALLY, REALLY got turned on by almost anything, I'd be willing to give it a go for her sake. *shrug*

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BlueStar

The notion some women express is that if the guy wants his partner to be willing to taste or swallow his cum, he should prove his willingness to do the same himself, by accepting the snowball--turnabout is fair play, etc. I feel this turns sex into some kind of trial or examination, which I don't think is in the right spirit.

Also, I think the idea of tasting cum is more attractive (at least for guys) when they're highly aroused, than 3 seconds after they've had an orgasm. So I'd guess dealing with the cum may be easier for the bj giver than the receiver. Although (when I've tried it) the actual taste of cum isn't bad, going through with tasting one's own after a j/o takes considerable determination and is not at all exciting. It's easy to lose interest and change your mind just after you've cum--I did that several times before managing it and other guys have described the same thing when the subject of self-tasting has come up before.

abaya

Ah, but what if the man initiates it?

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BlueStar

Well then it's cool, of course. There was a famous movie scene discussing a guy who had asked for it.

Daniel_

I vote with those that say if she's prepared to have it in her mouth, I guess I ought to allow it in mune.

Can't say I want it especially though.

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m0rpheus

Doesnt really interest me at all, but if the GF really wanted to try it I would. Whats the worst thats going to happen really? I dont like it, tell her I dont like it and we dont do it again. Wouldn't be the first time.

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Sharon

I love it, it's dirty and nasty and that alone is enough to do it for me. It reminds me of the days when I was a virginal teenager, and passing ice cream and spit back and forth with a cute guy was about as dirty as I got. Sounds gross now that I think of it, but still mildly arousing.

itch vaccine

gag, not possible for me, sorry

I don't know why, but it seems a bit selfish now doesn't it? :\

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Infinite_Loser

Doesn't appeal to me =$

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Wyodiver33

I once ate my cum from my wife's pussy. She wanted me to do it. It wasn't that big of a deal. But I'm pretty kinky. She sat on my face and I lapped our doing up. When in a comfortable relationship I can be quite accommodating. Unfortunately she and I are done. Life is too short to worry about silly things.

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n0nsensical

maybe this belongs in the fantasy thread, but I also want to do that... and then snowball it.

Sharon

Wyo, that's hot hot hot! Only cum from ass could be kinkier.

kutulu

That sounds unhealthy

Daniel_

Not as unhealthy as you might imagine. Most fecal bacteria are short-lived, and killed by digestive enzymes etc.

Of course, if you don't wash the ass first, and if the owner of the ass has any sort of illness then you are asking for trouble.

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Jezzabelle

I'm a swallower but I must say 'snowballing' just doesn't sound too appealing!

Valentina

My answer isn't up there either: I'm a girl and I've got no desire to spit my man's cum back into his mouth...HOWEVER, snowballing a guy's cum with another girl during threesomes is HOTT.

kitesailor

I have wanted my wife to do this for years. She is a swallower (used to be a spitter b-4 me). I can not talk her into holding it in her mouth and giving it back to be. It has been 20 years since she was a spitter, so she has not held it in her mouth for a long time. Any suggested course of action?

abaya

Hmm.. kitesailor, depends what position you're in when you come in her mouth. Are you usually on your back (or standing up) with her below you? In that case, it would require her to hold on and make a quick scramble up to your mouth... which she doesn't seem willing to do.

But what about her lying on her back under you, while you kneel (straddling her) above her and masturbate, coming into her mouth and then coming down quickly to her level immediately afterwards? That way she can spit it out quickly without having to hold on to it for too long.

Then again, if she's like me and gags when cum slides down her throat (without swallowing), it might not work...

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kitesailor

Position is not the issue, texture is the issue. Whan I come in her mouth, she prefers my cock towards the back of her mouth, I believe so she will not taste it as much. One time I was allowed to come on her tongue and then suck it into my mouth. It was a rare day, I hope some day to be repeated. For the 13 years of her previous marriage, she managed to hold it in her mouth on the way to the bathroom to spit it out, but a repeat of that seems to be out of the question for some reason.

abaya

Yeah, I hear her on the texture issue. There are days when I have to make that run for the bathroom, because I just can't get it down. For me, semen has quite possibly the worst texture of any liquid I've voluntarily held in my mouth... especially when it is thick/slimy. That just about does it for me sometimes, triggering the gag reflex, but one can train the mind to not reject it outright.

What about you coming on her face (around her lips, while she keeps them closed so she doesn't have to taste it), and then licking/tasting it yourself? It's almost the same thing, and that way she doesn't even have to swallow it. Or if she doesn't like facials, maybe if you came on another part of her body and licked it from there... it's possible.

Have you explained to her how hot you think it would be to try this? If you approach it from the "I think you're sexy" stance rather than the "here's more pressure to do something you don't like" stance, there's a better chance of success. Is she generally open to other new sexual things? Let us know how it goes.

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Sharon

abaya as always has some great ideas put eloquently. The biggest obstacle is the mind... if the right guy uses the right words in the right voice to tell me exactly what he wants to do to me, I swear I'm dying to do things I would not normally even entertain the thought of doing. It's almost dangerous.

Slightly different and maybe a bit kinky - what about coming inside her during regular sex and then eating her out? She might quite like that, I know I do.

kitesailor

Texture is an interesting thing. I started out with my precum and then graduated to the whole package.

Like Bluestar said: "I think the idea of tasting cum is more attractive (at least for guys) when they're highly aroused, than 3 seconds after they've had an orgasm".

This is probably an issue with most all men (that have a taste for their own cum). My wife is fine with sitting on my face after we have sex, and sometimes asks me to suck it out of her pussy. When she is freshly shaved I almost always suck it out of her, but there are times as Bluestar mentions that after coming I am just not so interested.

As for a facial, she finds facials degrading, go figure. She has let me come on her lips a few times over our 20 year marriage.

Sometimes I come on her nipples and have her then in turn give me a facial while I lick what I can off her nipples before she smears it all over my face. At that point I want a big wet kiss, but NO WAY, unfortunately. She will not kiss me with cum on my face.

She knnows full well how "hot" and sexy I think this is and how sexy it would be in "my opinion" to do this.

I have felt for years that her lack of willingness to experiment sexually has an adverse effect on our relationship. What she thinks of as gross and or slightly sick and perverted I see as spice. After all, repeating minor variations the same sexual scenario for 20 years does nothing to spice up life.

abaya

This may be the underlying issue that needs to be discussed between you two. Have you ever been in counseling together to discuss sexual differences? Also, does she have a religious background, and/or sexual abuse issues from her past? Those things are extremely difficult to overcome, even in the best relationship... but it may help for her to get those out in the open, in a counseling environment. What about sexual books for her own education? And toys? Does she masturbate? Getting a greater understanding about her own sexual attitudes may help the situation, if for nothing else than to help you understand her hang-ups better. 20 years is a helluva long time to be unsatisfied, if that's how you feel. (and maybe her too?)

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kitesailor

No sexual counseling to date, no history of abuse from the past marriage that she has shared with me. It could be that there are things she has not shared or has forgotten. Religon is not a factor. I think sexual counseling would be a great idea. It has only been the last couple of years that I have been suggesting cum play. A year or so ago said she was not looking forward to sex since she does not care for my interest in cum play. It was pretty devastating. I find it hard to understand her seeming lack of need for variety. She seems most happy with oral and then her on top.

She enjoys masturbation, though not as much as when she was younger and toys I think she has lost interest in pretty much.

I am not sure whe would go for sexual counseling, even though it is covered by our insurance.

abaya

Here, start with this... just try Googling "sex therapy" and see what comes up.

http://sexuality.about.com/od/sexual...etherapist.htm

You should be able to contact your insurance provider and ask for sex therapy, or if you are a bit shy about it, make an appointment with a marriage therapist and then ask that person for a recommendation for a sex therapist. I hate to say it, but it sounds like your marriage (or at least some portion of your long-term satisfaction) is on the line... don't waste time.

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kitesailor

I think with time this might be possible. Mostly my wife has always thought I am over sexxed (whatever that means). I think if I brought up sex counceling she would flip. It is a touchy subject to breach.

Anxst

I used to lap my cum out of an old girlfriend and pass it to her, because it made her so incredibly hot. I certainly didn't mind it, and making her so excited was well worth it. It's just semen, after all. She always wanted to do an oral snowball, and I was willing, but I was young and uptight, and couldn't bring myself to cum in her mouth.

Don't have to worry about it with the current girls, since neither of them like giving oral sex at all. I wish it were otherwise, but so it goes.

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Blackthorn

Sorry but after voting in the poll I have to ask this question.... which one of you ladies is looking for a volunteer?

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abaya

Sorry Blackthorn, but my husband is a full-time volunteer. And yes, he's very willing... thinks it's very hot.

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Ourcrazymodern?

...I like the dessert after having put it elsewhere.

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Blackthorn

Gosh darn the bad luck! The good ones are always taken...

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troit

I have never done it just because I am not a big fan of semen.

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Lady Sage

Been there done that.

I have one rule and one rule only for giving a man a blow job. He is to let me know before he blows his load or face the consequenses. I do not like the taste of ejaculate. If a man blows his load in my mouth, I will smile sweetly and give them a kiss thus transferring said nastiness into his mouth so he can share in the vomitous mass.

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StellaLuna

Nononono. In fact, thinking too much about it is making me ill. I'm going to go stare at cuteoverload for a while. Eeesh.

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Mister Coaster

I voted for #2. Doesn't sound good, but I'd be up for it if my wife really wanted to try it. I have tasted my own semen, and I don't think its as bad as Mrs. Coaster makes it out to be. I can think of other things I'd rather do...

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Push-Pull

Did it once in the heat of the moment. It was hot, but wasn't so much for that particular fact than for we were really, really into each other at that moment.

Won't go looking for it, but if it were to come up again, I'd probably do it.

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medlar

Jesus. Isn't spit good enough? I haven't even mastered the standard missionary yet let alone swap splooge.

SecretMethod70

Can't say I've had the desire to participate in snowballing...but I guess I'm not against it. Snowballing between two women can be pretty hot though.

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