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jt6879 · 11-25-2006, 06:14 AM

I'm curious as too how many of you on these forums, have pics of your wives, gf's, SO's.. Ive always wanted to take some of my wife and poked and prodded her, she finally took some with me, but didnt seem really into it.

Is it a woman thing they just love to show off? Or is it something that I'm doing/not doing? I would really appreciate it if any women with experience in this area could comment..

I guess I want to have my cake and eat it too, in a way. I want her to be excited about taking pics for me..

Charlatan · 11-25-2006, 06:53 AM

Many women have serious body image issues. To them the thought of someone taking a picture of their naked body is anathema.

hagatha · 11-25-2006, 07:15 AM

It sounds to me like you need to make her feel comfortable with the idea. Maybe you could start with sexy clothes or underwear first with really nice lighting rather than jumping into nude shots right away. Then perhaps she could begin to peel away some of the clothing if she's feeling into it.
Take it slow and let her relax into the idea. Maybe make a night of it? Like foreplay....
Its just a thought.

TexanAvenger · 11-25-2006, 10:28 AM

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Originally Posted by Charlatan

Many women have serious body image issues. To them the thought of someone taking a picture of their naked body is anathema.

This is a most of the reason Babes isn't really into the idea of pictures, and why I have none (of the variety you're speaking about) of her... in spite of wanting to myself.

However, while you're interested in it, maybe she simply isn't. If she decides that she'd like to, it's wonderful for the both of you... but your job isn't to wheedle an urge to pose naked in front of a camera for you. It's possible she simply isn't excited about being naked on camera.

SugahBritches · 11-25-2006, 04:47 PM

I wouldn't know about other women here. However, I have posted many pics of myself. I'm not sure if it's just wanting to have attention to the fact or if I am an honestly wanting the opinion here. I would gather the latter really.

I honestly don't think it's YOU JT. I think they either wanna or they don't. My opinion though.........for what it's worth.

World's King · 11-25-2006, 06:22 PM

Small bit of advice... BOOOOOZE...

Anyway. How does she feel about porn? See, my girlfriend hates it. More than anything. But she lets me take naked pics of her. For my use. Not for posting on the internet. See, in her mind as soon as other people see it, it becomes smut. I don't get it either.

jt6879 · 11-25-2006, 09:35 PM

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Originally Posted by hagatha

It sounds to me like you need to make her feel comfortable with the idea. Maybe you could start with sexy clothes or underwear first with really nice lighting rather than jumping into nude shots right away. Then perhaps she could begin to peel away some of the clothing if she's feeling into it.
Take it slow and let her relax into the idea. Maybe make a night of it? Like foreplay....
Its just a thought.

Well thats pretty much what ended up happening.. I figured before hand if I approached it with the "Bitch get naked and spread your legs" attitude, then I would never have a chance, and like I said she took plenty of pics for me, but just didnt seem interested in them at all

dcloues · 11-26-2006, 12:38 AM

My girlfriend hates porn, and she's pretty shy about her sexuality in general. But she really enjoyed it when we took pictures (under the assurance that they would remain between us, which wasn't really necessary because I would never think of sharing them - but I digress...). It was a lot of fun. It wasn't about just capturing images of her; the camera became just another way of appreciating her, and enhanced the whole act, really. Fun (but blurry) pictures, great sex... good times indeed.

She was skeptical at first (largely because she wanted to make sure that the pictures remained between us only). I only asked twice because she sounded like she was interested. If she hadn't, I would have dropped it. For me it's impossible to enjoy something that she isn't comfortable doing, so it would have been beyond bad to push her into something she didn't want to do. It's nice to have your cake and eat it too, but when that isn't what the cake wants (to put it one way), it really doesn't seem so nice after all.

fightnight · 11-27-2006, 10:04 AM

We used to do this a lot more than we do now, I think it was something we did more when we were in our sex 3 times a day phase, but it used to be really really fun. She'd get extra dirty when the camera came out, and as WK said, booze also helps that a bit.

jerseyboy · 11-27-2006, 04:06 PM

I definitely think no means no when it comes to this area. If you are in a secure loving relationship and your SO isnt into it, telling her she is beautiful and that she should trust you probably isnt going to do much.

james t kirk · 11-27-2006, 07:35 PM

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Originally Posted by jerseyboy

I definitely think no means no when it comes to this area. If you are in a secure loving relationship and your SO isnt into it, telling her she is beautiful and that she should trust you probably isnt going to do much.

Women are funny that way eh.

Men will suggest / prod / do just about ANYTHING sexually.

Women, well, not quite.

cadre · 11-27-2006, 08:17 PM

Well, I am a woman but I have had this experience so I will contribute my thoughts. I am a photographer and one of my favorite subjects is the human body. Thus far I have not had many oppurtunities to shoot nudes but the ones I had were fun.
My boyfriend used to hate cameras but after quite some time of having a lens in his face he is getting used to it. I have gotten him to shoot nude with me, as in we share the camera. However most of these pictures got deleted rather quickly because they were taken with a family camera. I personally have no hangups about shooting nude with my boyfriend because I am very comfortable with him and he has a few though not big ones.

As far as other women and shooting nude goes, it changes from woman to woman. I know some women who have no problems with nude pictures and love to have their boyfriends shoot with them. At the same time there are some women that are just not comfortable doing that whether it be because they don't feel good enough about their bodies or they don't trust their partner. The only thing you can really do is make sure that you express how beautiful you think she is and that you will not distribute the photos. Maybe she will get more used to the idea, maybe she won't. You'll have to wait and see.

zed wolf · 11-28-2006, 02:34 AM

Some women just aren't comfortable with there bodies to do this. For others its more of a 'what if' thing. Even with the best of current intentions there is still the what if factor to consider. Like what if we break up, what will he do with them then? or what if a friend /relative/whoever happens to find them for whatever reason? It could also be a combination.
My thoughts are if she does not want you taking pictures don't even try to convince her to let you. Even doing that is in my opinion a huge breach of trust. People in a relationship should never ask there partner more then once to do something they are uncomfortable doing. The first time is ok, how else will you know how they feel about it but after they have said no leave it at that.

shesus · 11-28-2006, 04:32 AM

I agree that you should not prod her into doing something she doesn't want to do. It will cause more problems than it's worth and do you really want to do that over photos?

Alcohol is a good thing to help get her comfortable if she agrees that she wants pictures taken. It also takes time to get used to the camera. JJ took many sets of me before I was happy enough with the outcomes. Give it time if there is an interest there. However, maybe she just isn't into that and you will have to find something else to do for fun. I know that even after having many pictures taken there are times when I'm just not up for it. Sometimes we take pictures multiple times a month and other times we go months without taking pictures. You both definitely have to be in the mood or it isn't fun.

jt6879 · 11-28-2006, 05:31 AM

Wow, thanks for all the feedback guys.. Its nice to be on a forum where people actually respond for once.. Next question is this then, if you have taken pics, what kind were you open to taking initially? Did it take a few times to work your way up to more engaging pics?

absorbentishe · 11-28-2006, 11:28 AM

My wife is soooo against porn it's not funny. She busted my son looking on the net, and almost killed him! For years I tried to get her to pose for me, for private viewing only, and to no avail. Then, with a lot of liquid courage, I got her to take some, and that led to more and more. I have to ask, and she usually says no, but when she says yes, good times, good times! I'd like to work up to a movie, and almost talked her into it, almost. And I'd like someone else to take the photos, but that might be pushing it!

11-25-2006, 06:14 AM	#1 (permalink)
jt6879 Crazy	Pictures I'm curious as too how many of you on these forums, have pics of your wives, gf's, SO's.. Ive always wanted to take some of my wife and poked and prodded her, she finally took some with me, but didnt seem really into it. Is it a woman thing they just love to show off? Or is it something that I'm doing/not doing? I would really appreciate it if any women with experience in this area could comment.. I guess I want to have my cake and eat it too, in a way. I want her to be excited about taking pics for me.. __________________ Just remember this my friend, when you look up at the sky, you can see the stars and still not see the light..

11-25-2006, 06:53 AM	#2 (permalink)
Charlatan Getting it. Super Moderator Location: Lion City	Many women have serious body image issues. To them the thought of someone taking a picture of their naked body is anathema. __________________ "My hands are on fire. Hands are on fire. Ain't got no more time for all you charlatans and liars." - Old Man Luedecke

11-25-2006, 07:15 AM	#3 (permalink)
hagatha Addict	It sounds to me like you need to make her feel comfortable with the idea. Maybe you could start with sexy clothes or underwear first with really nice lighting rather than jumping into nude shots right away. Then perhaps she could begin to peel away some of the clothing if she's feeling into it. Take it slow and let her relax into the idea. Maybe make a night of it? Like foreplay.... Its just a thought. __________________ Thats the last time I trust the strangest people I ever met....H. Simpson

11-25-2006, 06:22 PM	#6 (permalink)
World's King Here Location: Denver City Denver	Small bit of advice... BOOOOOZE... Anyway. How does she feel about porn? See, my girlfriend hates it. More than anything. But she lets me take naked pics of her. For my use. Not for posting on the internet. See, in her mind as soon as other people see it, it becomes smut. I don't get it either. __________________ heavy is the head that wears the crown

11-27-2006, 08:17 PM	#12 (permalink)
cadre The Worst Influence Location: Arizona	Well, I am a woman but I have had this experience so I will contribute my thoughts. I am a photographer and one of my favorite subjects is the human body. Thus far I have not had many oppurtunities to shoot nudes but the ones I had were fun. My boyfriend used to hate cameras but after quite some time of having a lens in his face he is getting used to it. I have gotten him to shoot nude with me, as in we share the camera. However most of these pictures got deleted rather quickly because they were taken with a family camera. I personally have no hangups about shooting nude with my boyfriend because I am very comfortable with him and he has a few though not big ones. As far as other women and shooting nude goes, it changes from woman to woman. I know some women who have no problems with nude pictures and love to have their boyfriends shoot with them. At the same time there are some women that are just not comfortable doing that whether it be because they don't feel good enough about their bodies or they don't trust their partner. The only thing you can really do is make sure that you express how beautiful you think she is and that you will not distribute the photos. Maybe she will get more used to the idea, maybe she won't. You'll have to wait and see. __________________ My life is one of those 'you had to be there' jokes.

11-25-2006, 04:47 PM	#5 (permalink)
SugahBritches Insane	I wouldn't know about other women here. However, I have posted many pics of myself. I'm not sure if it's just wanting to have attention to the fact or if I am an honestly wanting the opinion here. I would gather the latter really. I honestly don't think it's YOU JT. I think they either wanna or they don't. My opinion though.........for what it's worth.

11-26-2006, 12:38 AM	#8 (permalink)
dcloues Upright Location: Amherst, MA (Hampshire College)	My girlfriend hates porn, and she's pretty shy about her sexuality in general. But she really enjoyed it when we took pictures (under the assurance that they would remain between us, which wasn't really necessary because I would never think of sharing them - but I digress...). It was a lot of fun. It wasn't about just capturing images of her; the camera became just another way of appreciating her, and enhanced the whole act, really. Fun (but blurry) pictures, great sex... good times indeed. She was skeptical at first (largely because she wanted to make sure that the pictures remained between us only). I only asked twice because she sounded like she was interested. If she hadn't, I would have dropped it. For me it's impossible to enjoy something that she isn't comfortable doing, so it would have been beyond bad to push her into something she didn't want to do. It's nice to have your cake and eat it too, but when that isn't what the cake wants (to put it one way), it really doesn't seem so nice after all.

11-27-2006, 10:04 AM	#9 (permalink)
fightnight Insane Location: The lovely Northeast	We used to do this a lot more than we do now, I think it was something we did more when we were in our sex 3 times a day phase, but it used to be really really fun. She'd get extra dirty when the camera came out, and as WK said, booze also helps that a bit.

11-27-2006, 04:06 PM	#10 (permalink)
jerseyboy Insane	I definitely think no means no when it comes to this area. If you are in a secure loving relationship and your SO isnt into it, telling her she is beautiful and that she should trust you probably isnt going to do much.

11-28-2006, 02:34 AM	#13 (permalink)
zed wolf Crazy Location: The Darkest Parts Of Places Unknown	Some women just aren't comfortable with there bodies to do this. For others its more of a 'what if' thing. Even with the best of current intentions there is still the what if factor to consider. Like what if we break up, what will he do with them then? or what if a friend /relative/whoever happens to find them for whatever reason? It could also be a combination. My thoughts are if she does not want you taking pictures don't even try to convince her to let you. Even doing that is in my opinion a huge breach of trust. People in a relationship should never ask there partner more then once to do something they are uncomfortable doing. The first time is ok, how else will you know how they feel about it but after they have said no leave it at that.

11-28-2006, 04:32 AM	#14 (permalink)
shesus Fancy Location: Chicago	I agree that you should not prod her into doing something she doesn't want to do. It will cause more problems than it's worth and do you really want to do that over photos? Alcohol is a good thing to help get her comfortable if she agrees that she wants pictures taken. It also takes time to get used to the camera. JJ took many sets of me before I was happy enough with the outcomes. Give it time if there is an interest there. However, maybe she just isn't into that and you will have to find something else to do for fun. I know that even after having many pictures taken there are times when I'm just not up for it. Sometimes we take pictures multiple times a month and other times we go months without taking pictures. You both definitely have to be in the mood or it isn't fun. __________________ Whatever did happen to your soul? I heard you sold it Choose Heaven for the weather and Hell for the company

11-28-2006, 05:31 AM	#15 (permalink)
jt6879 Crazy	Wow, thanks for all the feedback guys.. Its nice to be on a forum where people actually respond for once.. Next question is this then, if you have taken pics, what kind were you open to taking initially? Did it take a few times to work your way up to more engaging pics? __________________ Just remember this my friend, when you look up at the sky, you can see the stars and still not see the light..

11-28-2006, 11:28 AM	#16 (permalink)
absorbentishe Boy am I horny today Location: T O L E D O, Toledo!!	My wife is soooo against porn it's not funny. She busted my son looking on the net, and almost killed him! For years I tried to get her to pose for me, for private viewing only, and to no avail. Then, with a lot of liquid courage, I got her to take some, and that led to more and more. I have to ask, and she usually says no, but when she says yes, good times, good times! I'd like to work up to a movie, and almost talked her into it, almost. And I'd like someone else to take the photos, but that might be pushing it!