bigTex

Howdy All, I'm new around here and thought this was the right place to ask for some advice, since I have found this to be a mature forum.

I am a nice guy the stereotypical don't party, no drugs, no sex, hardworking, church... ect. ect. ect. But, I have always found Piercing and tattoos intriguing. For some reason I just have always like them.
But, these things are usually associated with those things that I do not do. And the possibility of having them could drive those who are close to me away and possibly hinder the nice girl aspect. These are very conflicting views that battle it out inside my brain.

Just wanted some others thoughts.

thanks

Seaver

I know very few girls who won't see a guy because he has tatoos.

The entire chest/back/arms thing sure, but a tattoo or two should not be a problem. Besides... who wants a girl who is that judgemental?

Martian

Like Seaver said. My tat never caused any issues. In fact, I'm planning on getting at least two more when finances allow.

If you're really worried about it, get it done somewhere that you can hide it easily, such as your shoulderblade or your upper arm. Those are generally considered the more tactful places to have them, for exactly that reason. Aside from that, if it's on your back a girl isn't likely to encounter it until she knows you fairly well, at which point it's not really an issue. Unless you're in the habit of walking around shirtless, but that doesn't seem like your style to me.

As long as you're not walking around with sleeves and Thug Life across your abdomen, I don't really see that there'd be much of an issue.

As far as piercings go, it's pretty acceptable for guys to pierce one or both ears these days. Any other location you may want to be a bit wary of, though.

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ShaniFaye

dont know if this will help but our youth minister at church is tatted and pierced (piercings in very visible places) doesnt seem to make a difference there.

I like to think Im a "good" girl, though Im not sure what your definition of that is, I dont do drugs, I usually only drink (1 or 2 glasses) at dinner occasionally, a mixed drink here and there at a party and I LOVE piercings and tats on a guy.

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ngdawg

I'm pretty mellow, look like your basic middleclass soccer mom and have a pretty prominant tattoo on my leg that I had done in 2004. I like tats when they're done well, and there's something really cool looking about a guy with a couple of piercings. They don't necessarily reflect anything negative-it's the more outlandish that garner unwanted opinions and attention.
I have a friend who is an airline pilot for a major carrier-captain, actually, with over 20 years in. He has pierced ears, tattoos down his back, on his ankles and wrists and a pierced navel. He doesn't wear his earrings on duty and the only time his tats can be seen is if he extends his arms-he greets first class passengers and on occasion his wrist tat 'pops' from his suit sleeve-but he's only gotten maybe one reaction to it from a passenger.
Do what's a reflection of you. If a tat would mean something, get it. Pierce an ear or two-they can always heal over if you don't like it. Getting them to look bad-ass is a rotten excuse. Getting them because it feels right or has meaning is perfectly fine and if some girl is 'turned off', two others won't be at all.

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bigTex

Thanks everyone that is some really good advice . Truthfully I wasn't too worried about the girl aspect. lol. Just for myself it wouldn't be anything to look "badass." the attraction has always been there, and I don't know why.
I have conflicting values. While I like BM, my own values that I hold myself to make it hard for me to accept it as something for me. Though I would never judge someone else for having them.

But after reading it all I will think it over more.

The_Jazz

One of the nicest guys that I know (long term marriage, young kid, church-goer, volunteer with several groups, etc.) has 3 big tattoos that I know of and possibly more (I've never seen him with his shirt off). I knew him for 3 or 4 years before I ever saw the tattoos. IMO, having a couple of tattoos isn't necessarily going to say anything bad about you to the outside world, especially since tattoos are a pretty established and accepted form of artwork. A lot of the peircing options are the same way.

As long as your body modifications are tasteful and not too confrontational (i.e. a portratit of Chuck D with "F*** the Police" underneath) or you don't share the more private ones freely (asking the deacon if he'd like to see your Prince Albert), have at it!

Toaster126

Howdy Tex.

I'd say if someone is going to judge you because of some body modifications, that is pretty solid proof you shouldn't give a shit what they think.

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Sage

I was on the same floor in college with a gal who was totally the nice girl church going wanna get married and have little babies for Jesus type- she had a HUGE (like, 10" tall at least) cross tattoed on her lower back. I think that what the tattoo symbolizes is also a huge part of how people will react to it. No one is going to think you're a Hells' Angel if you have a tat of Jesus on your back.

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The_Jazz

That sort makes me rethink the line in "Wedding Crashers" about a tattoo on the lower back being bullseyes marking easy girls....