IC3

After about 20 years of living under my moms roof, Then the past 6 years living mainly under my stepfathers roof..I'm finally out on my own, Freedom feels good, Not that i didn't have any freedom before..It's just being on your own gives you that extra little bit of freedom that comes with being on your own.

So here's what i'm facing right now, I have moved about 3 times in the past 4 or 5 months and where i'm at right now, I'm not sure i can afford it. I can afford it, But i'm gonna be living a very restricted lifestyle..And that's just not me. The way i look at it is, If i gotta scrounge up change to grab something to eat..Then what's the point.

My mother asked me if i'd be interested in getting a place with her, I love my mother and i know that if i did live with her, I would eat good..That's one of the big pro's for me right now if i were to move in with her, Cause right now..I don't eat much and i don't eat good.
Another upside to moving in with her would be that my rent would drop drastically, Putting more money into my pocket.

Downside..I'm 27 years old and really think that i'm too old to be living with my mother, And i really have to stop depending on her for things..Cause she aint gonna be around my whole life, So i need to take more responsibility of my shit.

If i want to have friends over, Or bring a girl home...My mother would be there, Not that it's a problem..It's just...I don't know, I'm sure you get what i'm saying.

The way i feel right now i think i might do it, I'm really stresssed out over money issues.

My car needs work done on it badly..But i just don't have the 500 dollars it's gonna cost me for parts to get it done.

I owe the government money, As if you and I don't give our government enough money..They have the balls to tell us we owe them more at the end of the year.

How can people say that money isn't everything? Money IS everything!!!
I have tried to live with the mindstate that money isn't everything, But it couldn't be any further from the truth.

Money is an evil thing.

I guess i'm just kinda letting some shit off my chest, I just really don't know what to do.

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Blonddie

Sounds like you are in a tough spot. Figure out your money situation-- live with your mom only long enough to get stable. 6 mos etc.then get your own place. let your mom know its just temp, and anyone else you meet in the meantime....

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maleficent

There is nothing wrong with living with your mother if it's purely to get yourself on sound financial footing and it's not a forever situation. Put a time frame on it and do your best to stick with it.

Now... (Forum Mother hat on) You are not a child, you are a grown man, living with your mother doesnt mean that she does your laundry and picks up after you. She might want to, because some moms do that (I wish I had one of those moms) but it's not her responsibility to do so.

Setup some ground rules ahead of time before moving in, like is she OK with you bringing women home, and will mom be making breakfast or stay out of the way. You're an adult, even though she's your mom, make this a roommate situation like you would with a random stranger. What if mom meets some guy and brings him home... you ok with that?

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IC3

That's what worries me, My mom still calls me her baby and she would do anything for me. I don't need her to pick up after me, I don't want her to pick up after me..But say i go out one night, She'll go into my room and clean it. It pisses me off. I know she's like this because she used to do it, And i know she'll do it again.

No..I wouldn't be ok with my mom bringing guys home, In fact..We work at the same place (Different departments) and i see guys flirting with her, When it comes to my mother..I will speak my mind. I have spoken my mind to a couple of those guys..Just because i know my mom can do a hell of alot better.

The ground rules thing would be the first thing set in place for sure.

It's still couple months away, So i still got time to think about it.

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rival

Wow, is there a third option? Maybe a friend you can move in with?

A few years ago I was facing the same issue. I could either go broke and dig a financial hole to China, or move back home. I moved back home, got back on my feet and haven't had a problem since. However, I was 19/20 at the time and just starting the job that was going to get me up and running.

In your situation, it seems like if you move in with your mom then you'll have more cash on hand. You may even be able to build up some money in the bank, which is good. From what you've posted, though, it seems like after you spent your savings in a few months or years, you would be back at square one with mom. If you're going to stay with your current job/income level then you might as well learn to live within your means now. The longer you use your mom as a crutch, the harder it will be to break away.

Sage

I dunno, like...

perhaps you could sit down with your mom and tell her how you feel. I mean, she's your mom, she loves you. Say "Mom, I'd love to live with you, but I want it to be a temporary thing while I get myself organized, and here are some other things I want to talk about..." You both need to start acting like adults BEFORE you move in together- that makes it easier to act like adults after. If she slips up after you move in, then talk to her again. Sometimes parents have a hard time letting their kids grow up, and it sounds like your mom might have this problem when you live together.

Anyway, a little communication, a little understanding, and a lot of love will see you out of debt and eating good really soon!

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