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kalashnikov · 08-13-2003, 08:40 PM

So my girlfriend is turning 20. We will have been going out for a year, and have been together for basically all of freshman year at college. I love her a lot, and want the gift to show that. I want it to be special, somewhere between "I want to stay with you because I love you" and "I want to get married" (that can wait a few years). Also, we both have a good sense of humor, so I don't want it to be too serious or traditional/boring.
Ideas?

Tex · 08-13-2003, 08:58 PM

The main thing is to remember that the best gifts come from the heart and don't always have to be the really expensive, lavish monstrocities some people give. If you are a decent writer, maybe write her a poem explaining your feelings for her. Take her out to a nice dinner and have a deep conversation with her. Look into her eyes, grab her hands, and sincerely tell her you love her and wish her the best birthday ever....

....Or you could always buy her a diamond ring.

kalashnikov · 08-13-2003, 09:09 PM

Part of the plan is a surprise party. Last year, school started on September 3rd, her birthday was on the 9th, and I had only first met her August 31st. She was friends with a couple sophomores who had been her mentors or whatnot, and they decided to throw a surprise party for her, and they wanted me to get her into the lounge at 10:00pm. I was already sort of dating her; I had never asked her out but we met the first day, totally hit it off, and became very close quite quickly. Anyway, I took her to dinner at a fun but not too expensive restaurant, then we went back to campus, and I knew it was still a little early, so I took her to the library. I didn't have a watch, so I had to find ways to sneak peaks at hers. Anyway, I got her to walk into the lounge with the waiting partyers at exactly 10, and she was completely surprised! (and happy - I got a kiss right there!)
She still blushes when I bring the night up, but vows to never fall for it again. I however, take that as a challenge, but I know she will never be surprised if it is on campus, so I am thinking of taking her to an art gallery or museum or something then to dinner - and have all our friends there.
I will still give her a nice present, but I also want some sort of surprise like that too. Something clever.
Uh...no male strippers.

skysooner · 08-13-2003, 09:32 PM

This is a bit trite, but my wife is a sucker for purple. I have slowly given her a complete set of amethyst jewelry over the years. I got her a big ring (that didn't cost all that much) and hiding it in the pouch of a little stuffed bear I got her. She opened the present and found the bear and gave me a hug and kiss. I had to prompt her to look in the pouch for the "real" present. You can never go wrong with jewelry, but like I said, it is trite. Something sentimental that reminds her of one of your first dates is always good.

Markaz · 08-13-2003, 09:39 PM

Go out and get a box for some retarded thing, like a rock polisher. Inside put one awsome jewelry piece. Say, "I found something that you might not have asked for, but I KNOW you'll love it~!" When she unwraps it take a picture of her face with a poloroid, and then say "Cmon try it out! YOU"LL LOVE IT!" She opens it, googles at a months worth of pay, and then show her back the poloroid. Life time of laughs. Actually this would be better for asking her to marry you... hmm

angela146 · 08-13-2003, 09:45 PM

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Originally posted by Markaz
Actually this would be better for asking her to marry you... hmm

Yup, that's the problem. He needs something that is less than that. If he gives her a small box in front of a large group of people, it had better have a ring in it.

My suggestion would be necklace or bracelet. Make sure it is a colored stone and won't be mistaken for a diamond. Also, if you give it to her in front of people, make sure the box is big and not shaped like a ring box.

Rodney · 08-13-2003, 10:35 PM

As for the gift, I haven't a clue. For the surprise, however, you need to surprise her in a way, or in a place, she won't expect. Like, say, lure her onto a bus at a certain stop, but arrange for all her friends to have gotten on at a previous stop. So they're all hiding under hats and behind newspapers and you two get on and, voila, party time -- within limits. And I assume the bus will take you all someplace where you want to go for extended merriment.

And if that isn't suitable, something similar. Spring the surprise in some public place, preferably away from campus, where her guard is completely down, and from there travel to the nearby place where you all actually plan to party.

RemyLebeau97 · 08-15-2003, 08:07 PM

I think a promise ring would be a good start. Nothen too flashy or expensive, just something she can glance down at and think about you. Also, dinner, maybe a movie, and flowers for sure. Girls love flowers for any occasion. Just don't take her out and get her drunk, I've made that mistake before. Good Luck !

cj2112 · 08-15-2003, 08:17 PM

If you want something out of the ordinary but something she'll never forget, A hot air balloon ride would be an inredible gift (provided she is not deathly afraid of heights)

HeAtHeN · 08-15-2003, 08:23 PM

You can download the Bud Light greeting cards, she'd like that .......

... but seriously ask her. I'm married and ALWAYS ask what she wants... that way you don't fuck it up... well not as bad anyways.

wry1 · 08-15-2003, 08:26 PM

Personally, I agree with Angela146. A bracelet, necklace or other piece of larger jewelry is a good gift for what you're thinking of. I would probably say go with a necklace because then you get the "up-close and personal" touch of reaching around her to clasp it at the back of her neck - pretty much guaranteeing that follow-up kiss!

As for your surprise party? It seems you have things pretty well in hand. I'd suggest someplace where all the friends involved will feel comfortable enough to let their hair down - and an art gallery might not be the right place for that. Here's what I did for a girl I used to date.....

I arranged with a (fairly) fancy restaurant for a private room for a small (40-50 people) get together. I then spoke to the hostess who was to be working that night and arranged for her to remember me (we used an asterisk next to my reservation name) so that my girlfriend and I would be automatically seated in that room. The other guests were supposed to arrive about 15 minutes before our reservation, and you should have seen her face when we were led into a dimly lit room, seated at a table toward the middle, and then the lights all came up as everyone yelled, "SURPRISE!!!"

But it's just a thought.

kalashnikov · 08-15-2003, 09:42 PM

That hot air ballon ride sounded cool, so I did some quick internet research, and damn those are expensive. I am not going to put a price on the love I have for my girlfriend, but it is certainly not 300 dollars!if anyone knows of, maybe, a 50 dollar balloon ride in the Twin Cities area....actually, now that I think about it, if you are a few thousand feet in the air being held up by a big balloon, I don't think I'd want a really cheap one...

Buzz · 08-15-2003, 10:39 PM

One thing I do is I get a beanie baby.. And put earings on it. Or a necklace... Its "cute" but with class....

08-13-2003, 08:40 PM	#1 (permalink)
kalashnikov Insane Location: St. Paul	Girlfriend's birthday So my girlfriend is turning 20. We will have been going out for a year, and have been together for basically all of freshman year at college. I love her a lot, and want the gift to show that. I want it to be special, somewhere between "I want to stay with you because I love you" and "I want to get married" (that can wait a few years). Also, we both have a good sense of humor, so I don't want it to be too serious or traditional/boring. Ideas? __________________ 'Charmant, respektlos, und immer betrunken.'

08-13-2003, 08:58 PM	#2 (permalink)
Tex Crazy Location: Orange County, CA	The main thing is to remember that the best gifts come from the heart and don't always have to be the really expensive, lavish monstrocities some people give. If you are a decent writer, maybe write her a poem explaining your feelings for her. Take her out to a nice dinner and have a deep conversation with her. Look into her eyes, grab her hands, and sincerely tell her you love her and wish her the best birthday ever.... ....Or you could always buy her a diamond ring. __________________ "All I know is that I know nothing..."

08-13-2003, 09:09 PM	#3 (permalink)
kalashnikov Insane Location: St. Paul	Part of the plan is a surprise party. Last year, school started on September 3rd, her birthday was on the 9th, and I had only first met her August 31st. She was friends with a couple sophomores who had been her mentors or whatnot, and they decided to throw a surprise party for her, and they wanted me to get her into the lounge at 10:00pm. I was already sort of dating her; I had never asked her out but we met the first day, totally hit it off, and became very close quite quickly. Anyway, I took her to dinner at a fun but not too expensive restaurant, then we went back to campus, and I knew it was still a little early, so I took her to the library. I didn't have a watch, so I had to find ways to sneak peaks at hers. Anyway, I got her to walk into the lounge with the waiting partyers at exactly 10, and she was completely surprised! (and happy - I got a kiss right there!) She still blushes when I bring the night up, but vows to never fall for it again. I however, take that as a challenge, but I know she will never be surprised if it is on campus, so I am thinking of taking her to an art gallery or museum or something then to dinner - and have all our friends there. I will still give her a nice present, but I also want some sort of surprise like that too. Something clever. Uh...no male strippers. __________________ 'Charmant, respektlos, und immer betrunken.'

08-13-2003, 09:39 PM	#5 (permalink)
Markaz Tilted	Go out and get a box for some retarded thing, like a rock polisher. Inside put one awsome jewelry piece. Say, "I found something that you might not have asked for, but I KNOW you'll love it~!" When she unwraps it take a picture of her face with a poloroid, and then say "Cmon try it out! YOU"LL LOVE IT!" She opens it, googles at a months worth of pay, and then show her back the poloroid. Life time of laughs. Actually this would be better for asking her to marry you... hmm __________________ Tu madre está muy sabrosa

08-15-2003, 09:42 PM	#12 (permalink)
kalashnikov Insane Location: St. Paul	That hot air ballon ride sounded cool, so I did some quick internet research, and damn those are expensive. I am not going to put a price on the love I have for my girlfriend, but it is certainly not 300 dollars!if anyone knows of, maybe, a 50 dollar balloon ride in the Twin Cities area....actually, now that I think about it, if you are a few thousand feet in the air being held up by a big balloon, I don't think I'd want a really cheap one... __________________ 'Charmant, respektlos, und immer betrunken.'

08-13-2003, 09:32 PM	#4 (permalink)
skysooner Registered User Location: Oklahoma	This is a bit trite, but my wife is a sucker for purple. I have slowly given her a complete set of amethyst jewelry over the years. I got her a big ring (that didn't cost all that much) and hiding it in the pouch of a little stuffed bear I got her. She opened the present and found the bear and gave me a hug and kiss. I had to prompt her to look in the pouch for the "real" present. You can never go wrong with jewelry, but like I said, it is trite. Something sentimental that reminds her of one of your first dates is always good.

08-13-2003, 10:35 PM	#7 (permalink)
Rodney Observant Ruminant Location: Rich Wannabe Hippie Town	As for the gift, I haven't a clue. For the surprise, however, you need to surprise her in a way, or in a place, she won't expect. Like, say, lure her onto a bus at a certain stop, but arrange for all her friends to have gotten on at a previous stop. So they're all hiding under hats and behind newspapers and you two get on and, voila, party time -- within limits. And I assume the bus will take you all someplace where you want to go for extended merriment. And if that isn't suitable, something similar. Spring the surprise in some public place, preferably away from campus, where her guard is completely down, and from there travel to the nearby place where you all actually plan to party.

08-15-2003, 08:07 PM	#8 (permalink)
RemyLebeau97 I stole my boyfriends TFP, hehe !! Location: Galveston, TX	I think a promise ring would be a good start. Nothen too flashy or expensive, just something she can glance down at and think about you. Also, dinner, maybe a movie, and flowers for sure. Girls love flowers for any occasion. Just don't take her out and get her drunk, I've made that mistake before. Good Luck !

08-15-2003, 08:17 PM	#9 (permalink)
cj2112 Unbelievable Location: Grants Pass OR	If you want something out of the ordinary but something she'll never forget, A hot air balloon ride would be an inredible gift (provided she is not deathly afraid of heights)

08-15-2003, 08:26 PM	#11 (permalink)
wry1 Loser Location: Far too far from my Angel....	Personally, I agree with Angela146. A bracelet, necklace or other piece of larger jewelry is a good gift for what you're thinking of. I would probably say go with a necklace because then you get the "up-close and personal" touch of reaching around her to clasp it at the back of her neck - pretty much guaranteeing that follow-up kiss! As for your surprise party? It seems you have things pretty well in hand. I'd suggest someplace where all the friends involved will feel comfortable enough to let their hair down - and an art gallery might not be the right place for that. Here's what I did for a girl I used to date..... I arranged with a (fairly) fancy restaurant for a private room for a small (40-50 people) get together. I then spoke to the hostess who was to be working that night and arranged for her to remember me (we used an asterisk next to my reservation name) so that my girlfriend and I would be automatically seated in that room. The other guests were supposed to arrive about 15 minutes before our reservation, and you should have seen her face when we were led into a dimly lit room, seated at a table toward the middle, and then the lights all came up as everyone yelled, "SURPRISE!!!" But it's just a thought.

08-15-2003, 10:39 PM	#13 (permalink)
Buzz Addict Location: Earth	One thing I do is I get a beanie baby.. And put earings on it. Or a necklace... Its "cute" but with class.... __________________ The Only BEER is a Cold BEER. And a Single Malt will get ya every time.